my joann

Chapter 39

"How was the chat today?" After Lu Yihang received Qiao An, his joy could be reflected in his driving skills.

"Great," Joan said.

"Do you meet on this day every week?" Lu Yihang asked.

"Ah."

"Oh..." Lu Yihang nodded. He glanced at Qiao An quietly from the corner of his eye, then pretended not to care, and asked, "What do you guys talk about every week? Just for an hour or two."

Joan's eyes turned out of the window unnaturally, "Just talk about work, and report on the progress of the week..."

Lu Yihang pointed at the steering wheel and parked the car behind the crosswalk, "It's still early, why don't we go out for a stroll today? We'll have lunch outside too, how about it?"

"Ah?" Qiao An was about to refuse reflexively, but before he could say it, Ren Youning's words suddenly appeared in his mind.

"We can go buy some clothes. The weather is going to turn cold. I heard that there is a Japanese restaurant over there that tastes good. We can try it."

Joan looked at the car window, it was very clean, there was a group of children playing outside the window, and he could hear their laughter while sitting in the car.

"Okay." Joan said.

When the green light came on, Lu Yihang turned left.The speed of the car increased, and the group of children disappeared in a few blinks. Qiao An looked at the other road, which was the way home, and now it was getting farther and farther away from him.

The deal was done, Qiao An thought, in this case, let's take advantage of remembering the "content in class" and seriously do homework.

Let's first review the two main points that Ren Youning said.The first is to divert attention, and the second is to relax your muscles, as you do when doing guided imagery.

Let's recall the method of relaxation in the car first, Qiao An thought, he leaned on the seat, and followed the method Ren Youning taught him, starting from the feet and gradually going up, slowly relaxing the muscles of the whole body.

Well done, Joann cheers himself up and does it again, this time trying to go faster.

In this way, Joan kept repeating the process of relaxing himself on the road. When he arrived at the underground garage, he felt extremely comfortable, even a little light.

"Let's go, Qiao An." Lu Yihang locked the car.

Joan nodded and followed behind him.

Now think about how to divert attention, how to turn it?By talking to Lu Yihang?

There weren't many people in the garage, and the empty environment made the sound of their footsteps particularly noticeable.There was no one in the elevator, Qiao An and Lu Yihang stood inside one on the left and one on the right, waiting quietly.

The moment the elevator door opened, they seemed to have entered another world. With the loud voices and clear background music, the whole shopping mall was very lively.

At this second, Qiao An forgot to relax his muscles, forgot to divert his attention, and forgot all the things Ren Youning taught him during this time.There were only three words that echoed infinitely in his mind.

Ruined!

Joan himself may not have noticed that much, but his face became very ugly, and he froze in the elevator and dared not move.

"An'an?" Seeing that Qiao An was not moving, Lu Yihang gently tugged on his sleeve.

Joan slammed the door close button, and quietly returned to them, Joan's mind was in chaos.

"An'an, what's the matter, are you uncomfortable?" Lu Yihang touched Qiao An's forehead.

Qiao An suddenly regained his senses, he slapped Lu Yihang's hand off, took two deep breaths and said, "I'm fine, I'm fine."

"Are you okay? You look very bad." Lu Yihang frowned, "Is it because you have been too busy recently and didn't have a good rest?"

"I'm really fine, let's go out." Fortunately, no one was using the elevator, and they were still parked on the first floor. Joan reached out to press the button to open the door, and the noise poured in again crazily.

Joan was still very nervous. He stood inside and watched the people coming and going outside the elevator, but he couldn't hear anything clearly.

"An'an, let's go up." Lu Yihang naturally held Qiao An's hand, interlocking his fingers tightly.

Joan lowered his head and looked at the heat source.Their palms didn't fit together completely, but that inch of space was not cold, on the contrary, Joan felt a little hot.

Like, plop plop.

Lu Yihang's palm is very big, while Qiao An's is very slender, they hold each other just right.Joan carefully looked at their overlapping hands, looking at the gap between the palms.

If there is really a heart there, then I must protect it, Joan thought.

So he quickened his pace, and walked to Lu Yihang's side, carefully fitting the heels of his palms together.

This is all right, nothing escapes.

Lu Yihang was a little surprised. He turned his head to look at Qiao An, and found that he was smiling slightly at the corner of his mouth, like a cat stealing fish, "An An, what are you laughing at, so happy."

Joan shook his head in a panic, and then buried his face in a silly laugh.

Although I still don't know what Qiao An is laughing at, but seeing him so happy, Lu Yihang is also in a very good mood.

After laughing for a while, Joan realized that they had been walking around the mall for so long.

Unknowingly, he completed what Ren Youning said to relax and divert his attention!Qiao An looked at their clenched hands again, and remembered that when he and Lu Yihang went shopping for the first time, he also devoted his attention to it.

But something bad happened after that, so many people were still there... Joan couldn't help but recall the last time when he was surrounded by a group of people in the shopping mall.

Muscles began to ache, and his hands and feet became unnaturally stiff. At this moment, Joan thanked himself for taking the medicine before going out, otherwise he would not be able to restrain himself now.

Sure enough, it was still useless, nothing to divert attention, nothing to relax muscles!

……

Ren Youning looked at the notebook in front of him, frowning.Qiao An suffers from social phobia, and the reason is temporarily unknown. Ren Youning originally wanted to find out the reason at first, but he found that Qiao An seemed to trust him, but in fact he was always on guard.

Today, he gave Joan an image guide, and learned from it that things are far from being as simple as he thought at first.

In guided imagery, one of the most commonly used methods is to guide the client to imagine the house.This house usually represents the atrium of the person concerned. The state of the house is the same as the state of the person.

And all the activities they do in this activity will improve his heart to a certain extent.Imagery is also a kind of behavior, inner behavior, everything they do in their hearts will subtly change Joan's outer behavior.

Simply put, it's like having a subconscious conversation with Joan directly.

At the beginning, Joan could not enter the room, which showed that he was resisting from the bottom of his heart, and was avoiding facing his psychological problems. He was very defensive. Of course, this also meant that Joan had strong self-protection ability.

After entering, what he saw was a dimly lit classroom. To be honest, this was the first time Ren Youning encountered a classroom since he had been a psychological counselor for so long.

But it's not surprising, he has encountered even weirder ones.What made him even more concerned was that Joan said that it was a house similar to a container, which proved that it was a closed space.Plus the room was very dark, the lights didn't work and the windows were dusty.

This shows that Joan's mental state is very bad. To a certain extent, he may even have mild to moderate depression.Joan also said that he had met a counselor before who told him that he was suffering from depression and gave him medicine.

Ren Youning can't be sure of this, but he can do some corresponding tests later to find out the results.

When patients with phobias do image guidance, they have an obvious characteristic, that is, they will directly reflect the object of their fear in the form of images.

After he asked Joan to clean the window, a large group of people suddenly appeared outside, including the people at the door, as well as their endless noises and discussions against Joan, all represented what he was afraid of.

And his classroom became the only place that could protect him, which is why his windows were immediately covered with dust again.In an evasive way, to escape from everything he fears.

Ren Youning actually didn't know if there was a cat's eye hole in the door, but he preconceived told Qiao An that there was a hole in the door, and asked Qiao An to look through it, in order to let him face his fear directly.

For patients with social phobia, they must not avoid the scary images, and of course there is no need for violent resistance, and they don’t need to do anything, just look at them and face them.

Facing fear, accepting fear, eliminating their fear of images, combined with real life desensitization training, tireless exercise, and facing everything with an attitude of no cowardice.

Until you overcome him and win.

In Joan's image, after the group of people came in, they couldn't see him, and could even penetrate his body. Joan thought the group of shadows were ghosts.

Ghosts represent many things in the image. According to Joan's situation, this group may represent his shadow, representing the repressed and unrevealed psychological problems deep in his heart.

After that, Joan said, "It's as if I don't exist."

Ren Youning was very concerned about this sentence, which represented a very serious attitude.

Joan has been ignored by people or things that he cares about very much in the past or until now, which may be the reason why he may suffer from depression.

Ren Youning will not easily make a conclusion for Qiao An, everything must be more cautious.

Today he boldly gave Joan a task that should not have been given to him now, which was to let him face his fear and go out for a walk every day.

In fact, it is best not to have this behavioral therapy before Joann's cognition of fear has not been fully improved, including even the distraction and relaxation exercises, before he is ready.

But Ren Youning was still handed over to Qiao An.

It's not that he is so conceited that he can solve the problem so quickly, nor is he trusting Joan so much that he can do those things so quickly without pressure.

The reason he chose to do this was because Joan was not alone.

……

Or because of the National Day, the shopping mall is full of joy and excitement.Lu Yihang took Qiao An's hand and said, "An An, mom's birthday is coming, let's go and choose a birthday gift for her first. Why are you so tense and silent, come on, relax!"

Lu Yihang let go of Qiao An's hand, turned to put it on his face, and rubbed it quickly, then down to his neck, to his arms, and finally he knelt down and patted Qiao An between his legs vigorously.

"Is it better?" Lu Yihang stood up and took Qiao An's hand again, "Little fool, let's go."

The author has something to say:

Lu Yihang: Wife, is it comfortable to kill a chicken?

Joan: Except for the wrong location, everything else is fine.

Lu Yihang: I only have eyes for you, so was there anyone around just now?

Joan: >////

Notes of Lu's Beloved Wife 39

I am your little medicine chest.

I'm sorry, some very bad things have happened in my life recently, and I feel very unhappy. This is a sweet article, and it is the positive energy I want to announce, so I paused the codeword.

Up to two days, wait for me to come back.