you are not cannon fodder

Xie Peiwei failed to get home smoothly, so he diverted to the hospital halfway.

The farce between the two fathers and sons in the family is quite non-stop. It is said that Yihe was bitten on the face with a [-]mm wound. If he does not go to the hospital for plastic surgery, he will definitely leave scars. Nianze lost three white teeth like small glutinous rice, and his gums are delicate. The sudden bleeding frightened the aunts even more.

Yihe regretted it very much.

He wanted to take his son to the hospital, but Nian Ze refused to take him at all, so he grabbed Aunt Fang tightly.

——Auntie Fang is the most soft-tempered auntie, she won't run away no matter how much Nian Ze beats her. Nian Ze is the closest to her.

His son's gums were still bleeding crazily, how could Yihe dare to be stubborn with his ruthless son?In the end, Aunt Fang got into the car with Nian Ze in her arms.

An Hua found sterile cotton for Yihe to cover the wound on his cheek, and the father and son rushed to the hospital in two cars.

After getting in the car, Yihe first found the business card, called the hospital in person, and briefly explained the situation of the visit, so that the hospital could arrange for a doctor to come to see him.Afterwards, Yihe called Xie Peiwei again. It was impossible to hide such a big incident.

When Yihe looked for Xie Peiwei's phone number with his mobile phone, his hands trembled a little.

Now he is not only worried about his son's teeth, but also worried that Xie Peiwei will blame him.

Xie Peiwei attaches great importance to his son, and usually just pampers and pampers him. Even if he has an extra mosquito bag on his body, the aunts will be scolded three times, and he blames the life assistant for not doing a good job of hygiene.Originally, Xie Peiwei disapproved of his socialization training for his son so early. He insisted on going his own way, and even shook out three of his son's teeth...

After the call was connected, Yihe's tone was calm: "Sir, Nianze and I had an accident, we are going to the hospital now." After speaking, he found that the sentence was ambiguous, and quickly patched it up, "Don't worry, isn't it? event……"

"Understood." Xie Peiwei hung up the phone without listening to him.

He didn't hang up the phone, because he was afraid that he would lose control of his anger, so he complained to Yihe while sitting in the car.

——His complaints, to Yihe's ears, probably sounded like reprimands.

He hung up the phone, and Yihe didn't dare to call again.

Seeing Yihe's slightly panicked expression from the rearview mirror, Anhua sighed in his heart.Ordinary people, the father lost his temper with his son, and accidentally knocked out three of his son's teeth, but he wouldn't be so nervous—it wasn't intentional.Yihe was worried that Xie Peiwei would blame him.

After all, their small family is not in a state where the two fathers have equal rights, and Xie Peiwei is completely in the position of the head of the family.

Once Xie Peiwei is upset, Yihe is no different from a child who has made a mistake and is waiting for his parents to reprimand him.

"The boss already knows the situation and is on his way home." Anhua read the message from Qi Xuanjing, "Now we are also diverted to the hospital."

It turns out that "knowing" is really knowing.Yihe was not comforted either, he covered the sterile cotton cloth on his face with one hand, patted his knee unconsciously with the other hand, and said in a low voice, "I just pulled him...so... "

If he didn't get angry and wanted to "tear" Nian Ze away who was biting him, Nian Ze's teeth would not fall out.

It will never fall.

Then there is the child's deciduous tooth, a small one, which grows firmly on the gum.

In the chaos, he was in pain and anger, and pulled Nian Ze away, as if he refused to let go because Nian Ze had bitten him to death, he even pulled Nian Ze left and right!

That's my little friend!Why would you drag him?He is so small, he is not sensible at all.

What's wrong with a bite!

Yihe felt very regretful.Since giving birth, his tendency to cry has disappeared, and now he can't help but breathe again.

After arriving at the hospital, because it was daytime, the dean was on duty, and he brought dental and plastic surgery experts to wait at the door. Yihe didn't care about his own face, so he followed Nian Ze to the dentistry first, and fortunately pressed to stop the bleeding on the way. The blood is no longer crazy, however, it is basically impossible to let a child who is less than two years old obediently lie on the treatment bed and open his mouth——

Yihe approached and tried to coax his son, but Nian Ze roared angrily when he saw him, his little face flushed red with anger.

This child is quite childish, the key point is that he still holds grudges!

The doctor had no choice but to ask Yihe to treat his wound first.Aunt Fang stayed with Nian Ze the whole time, coaxing the child.

Xie Peiwei was still stuck on the road for half an hour. When he arrived at the hospital, his son's wound had been checked. He was tired from the fuss and had already fallen asleep surrounded by his aunts. Yihe's face had been stitched up. A master hand sews the knife himself, and the stitches are extremely beautiful. He is bragging to Yihe: "Aren't you still young now? You are in your early twenties, with a fast metabolism, and there is a high probability that you will not leave scars..."

"You can prescribe a diet." Xie Peiwei interjected as he entered the door.

Yi He just sat up, trying to speak with his wound on his face, but when Xie Peiwei glanced at him, he honestly remained silent.

"Are there any taboos? What to eat so that the wound heals quickly?" Xie Peiwei was very polite to the doctor.

The doctor also winked, got up and said, "I'll write you a copy, and I'll ask the nurse to bring it to you later."

After the doctor left, Qi Xuanjing naturally closed the door of the ward.Xie Peiwei passed by his son's ward and had already glanced at it. Now he walked up to Yihe with a sullen face. Yihe had gauze on his face, and he couldn't see why.Ask Anhua directly: "How is it?"

Anhua immediately handed over the phone.

Yihe has a toothache.When I arrived at the consultation room just now, the doctors and nurses gathered around to look at it, but An Hua also came around and held his mobile phone for a while. He thought what An Hua wanted to do, but it turned out to be to provide Xie Peiwei with first-hand information!

An Hua took pictures of the whole process of debridement and suture, and Xie Peiwei watched it quickly and probably knew it well.

Not too serious.

However, it is definitely not serious.That little piece of meat was almost bitten off!

I don't know who Nian Ze's ruthlessness followed.Unlike himself and Xiaohe, could it be that he followed Da Mo and Er Mo?Xie Peiwei felt very bad, and decided to discard the name "Sama".Lest my son really become a dog's mouth!

"You go out first." Xie Peiwei ordered.

An Hua took the phone and stepped back, Qi Xuanjing also went out quietly, locked the door behind her and stood guard at the door.

The atmosphere became serious.

Yihe was originally sitting on the sofa chatting with the doctor and listening to the doctor's orders, but now he felt that the atmosphere was not right. He always felt that Xie Peiwei was going to scold him, so he stood up spontaneously with a guilty conscience, lowered his head, and waited for the punishment.

He wanted to apologize sincerely.

However, the strength of the local anesthesia has not yet passed, his face is not obedient, and he has no energy to speak.

"You are very promising." Xie Peiwei said suddenly, "If you fight with your son, you will lose both."

This sentence vetoed Yihe's right to raise Nian Ze.

In fact, from a legal perspective, Xie Peiwei and Yihe have equal guardianship over Nian Ze.

Xie Peiwei cannot deprive Yihe of his rights, and Yihe cannot deprive Xie Peiwei of his rights.Execution is not the case.

In every small family there is a character who really counts the words, it may be the father or the mother, and it is rare for parents to have absolute equal rights.The same is true for the upbringing of children.A role with a greater right to speak can gain the power to judge the future of the child.

Xie Peiwei said that Yihe and his son were both hurt in the fight, implying that how do you raise your son with such tricks?Stop cooking.

Yihe also knew that he had screwed up, so he bowed his head in silence, acquiescing to his failure.

Xie Pewei wanted to deprive him of his right to raise his son, but he didn't have much reaction.In fact, from the moment he promised to be pregnant, he acquiesced that he would not get any rights related to his son. It was a surprise to be able to raise his son by his side and interfere in his son's daily life.

——His marriage is different from ordinary marriage.Wanting to marry Xie Peiwei, he acquiesced to give up many rights from the beginning.

Even if Xie Peiwei confessed to him and said that he liked him, he didn't think he could make an inch and overthrow everything that had been agreed before.

Like it, just like it.

Likes are not the basis for being used or used for profit.

He just stood there with his head bowed, without a word of rebuttal, he looked like a good student who was called to the office by the teacher for the first time to reprimand him.

Seeing his pitiful appearance, Xie Peiwei had to stop his anger.Turning around, he made a pot of tea himself, dragged Yihe to sit down on the sofa again, shared a cup with each of them, and said, "Shall we divide the work? You worked so hard to give birth to the child, and the difficult and trivial work of raising the child give it to me?"

Yihe nodded.

"Not in a good mood." Xie Peiwei sat next to him, hugged him and kissed him, "Have you been hit?"

"I pulled him." Yihe bowed his head to admit his mistake, "If I don't pull him, his baby teeth won't fall out..."

It can be heard that Yihe is very regretful and guilty.

"It's instinct. He attacked you." Xie Peiwei comforted him.

"But I am his father. He is my child." This is the most difficult thing for Yihe to accept.

Doesn't it mean that after giving birth to a child, there is an instinct to protect him?Why is my nature not working?When others attack me, of course I will subconsciously fight back. "That's my little friend! I actually pulled him away, and I pulled him, and I pulled his teeth out."

"Before you were his father, you were a normal person who would be hurt, frightened and lost. Xiaohe, don't treat yourself as a saint."

Xie Peiwei softly comforted him, and even brought Yihe a cup of tea to distract him.

The local anesthesia during the stitching had not yet faded, and Yihe spilled water from the corner of his mouth while drinking, and Xie Peiwei wiped the corner of his mouth gently with a tissue.

"Don't worry, it's the deciduous teeth that fall out, and the permanent teeth will grow back in a few years," Xie Peiwei said.

"I heard that tooth loss will affect the development of the upper and lower jaws, and the gums will also be deformed..." Yihe was worried that his son was cheating on his father yesterday, but today he has become a cheating father to his son, and it is emotionally difficult to accept, "I'm sorry, Sir, you have always raised Nianze very well, and I have only raised Nianze for a day..."

"You don't have to worry about the baby's teeth. Leave it to the professionals to deal with the aftermath. Xiaohe, let's look forward to dealing with the problem. It has already happened, and it is useless to blame yourself and regret it. What happened today was an accident." Xie Peiwei only thought It's time to comfort Yihe.

Yihe leaned against him and was quiet for a while, listening to his steady breathing, he finally calmed down slowly.

"You wanted to reason with me just now." Yihe said.

"There's nothing to say. From now on, I will leave the raising of the child to me, and you don't have to take care of it anymore." Xie Peiwei never thought that Yihe would hand over the custody so quickly, so he hinted that Xu Yihe should not take care of the child. Yihe bowed his head and acquiesced.So what else is there to say?

"I know I can't manage well. But I want to know why I can't manage well. What's wrong with me?" Yihe looked up at him.

This is not a question, nor is it a rhetorical question.Yihe has no intention of offending Xie Peiwei, he admires Xie Peiwei, and he wants to get the answer of failure from Xie Peiwei.I don't care about the child, you have to explain the truth to me.

Xie Peiwei looked at his cheek for a long time, and asked, "Your wound doesn't bleed, does it?"

Yi He shook his head hesitantly: "No." At first, there was a little blood, but most of it was the blood from Nian Ze's teeth falling off.No important blood vessels were injured on the small piece of flesh he was bitten by, and the sterile cotton scabs over after a while.

Xie Pewei took the cup from his hand.

The next second, Yihe was suddenly pinned down on the coffee table by Xie Peiwei, his arms were twisted behind him, and he didn't know which tendon was pulled, and his whole body lost all strength, and he was pressed on the coffee table like a dead dog On the ground, there is no resistance.

There was a trace of panic in his heart, as if something extremely terrifying brushed against his spine, his whole body was cold.

Of course, after this moment of panic, he regained his sanity.

At this time, there were cold sweat on the forehead, big and small, rushing out, Xie Peiwei was still pressing him, and he couldn't move.

Why are you pressing me so hard?Because I hurt Nian Ze today?Want to hit me?Two years ago, Yihe could accept this "guess" calmly, but now thinking about it, he feels aggrieved.You haven't touched a finger of mine for so many years, are you going to be angry with me because of Nian Ze?

——Yes, Xie Peiwei said, I like him.

However, Yi He never thought that his status could be compared with Nian Ze.Xie Peiwei valued this son too much.

"Get up." Xie Peiwei ordered.

Yihe was tightly locked up by him professionally, how could he get up?He whispered, "I can't move."

"Get up." Xie Peiwei just ordered.

Yihe didn't quite understand his intentions, so he could only follow the literal instructions and tried hard to stand up.

However, Yihe tried his best to get up, but Xie Peiwei held him tightly with one hand and one knee, and was forcibly suppressed after a little struggle.He was also stubborn, Xie Peiwei told him to "get up", he didn't have the slightest idea of ​​stealing and playing tricks, he struggled desperately, even the wound on his face almost burst open.

Xie Peiwei saw that he was about to use all his strength to breastfeed, and the wound on his face was not good, so he quickly controlled him to loosen it slowly.

Yihe was sweating profusely, his face was blushing, and he was even more exhausted lying on the coffee table.

"How does it feel?" Xie Peiwei asked.

Yihe thought about it for a while: "Weakness."

"You and I are both grown men. I press you, and you feel this way. You pressed Nian Ze this afternoon, how does Nian Ze feel?" Xie Peiwei asked.

Yihe was stunned.

"Since Nian Ze was born, I have cultivated his sense of security."

"In the world I created for him, he is carefree, he has nothing to worry about, no hunger, no danger, no anxiety. He is a very gentle baby, because all he wants Everything he wants is met, he doesn't need to rush—"

"He beat his aunt and howled 'wow', which was the agreed pattern when he got along with his aunts."

"Aunt Yuan will not pay attention to his howling, so he will not howl at Aunt Yuan. Aunt Yuan will not stand still and let him beat him, and he will not beat Aunt Yuan either. He will only look for people who eat his tricks Aunt Fang, get everything you want."

"You only saw him throwing a tantrum, like a devil incarnate, a little devil star, a brat...that's all the tacit understanding formed by Aunt Fang and him."

"You pressed him on your lap," Xie Peiwei recalled his son's appearance like a little turtle, unable to pedal his limbs, and his heart ached. "You made him lose his sense of security for the first time. Everything he was used to was broken. This is the first time he has experienced the horror of being controlled by violence, so he will be so abnormal-biting, hating, and unwilling to get close to you. This is also his instinct. "

"I know what you're thinking. You think children should be obedient and follow the rules, and when they see their elders, they should call out sweetly, and share their favorite toys with relatives and friends they don't know at all..." Xie Peiwei gently Caressing his sweaty hair roots, comforting his trembling soul, "Sensitive, thoughtful, observant, value other people's evaluation, trying to upgrade in some kind of price increase system..."

"Our kids don't have to be like this."

"He has been a judge since he was born, to let others see his face. He must have a sense of security in order to live a fruitful, enthusiastic and compassionate life."

"I know you think he's not good. Xiaohe, Nian Ze is only less than 16 months old, less than one and a half years old."

"You don't have to worry about him going to beat the kindergarten children and crying in front of people. When he grows up for another 16 months, I will teach him and reason with him. Do you know? My biggest regret today is , you have lost authority in front of him."

Xie Peiwei gently stroked Yihe's scalp: "He never lied in front of you and me."

"You broke his sense of security, you lost him." It wasn't that Xie Peiwei wanted to deprive Yihe of his parenting rights, but when he pressed Nian Ze on his knee like a little turtle, he Lost Nian Ze's trust and admiration.

If Xie Peiwei was willing to raise his son like a dog or a monkey and tame an animal, there would be no problem with what Yihe did today.

But Xie Pewei does not intend to make his son lose his sense of security.

He put so much thought into building a baby room, and spent so much money hiring confinement nanny, just to let his son grow up in an environment without fear and worry, without prying into the mind and behavior of adults (violent), and without guessing about his own future. Whether an action will be reprimanded or punished.

——No matter how pampered other children are, they will be reprimanded by adults (violent) when they poke the power hole with their fingers or climb up the window.Nian Ze has no worries about this at all.Xie Peiwei made him a baby room to eliminate most of the dangers, and arranged for several groups of confinement nanny to keep an eye on him 24 hours a day. Before he could understand any reason, he didn’t have to be whipped to know how to be afraid monkey.

A child who grows up like this, even if he has no memory of before the age of three, will have a stable and peaceful personality.

He will not subconsciously try to please people, nor will he have any viciousness, meanness, or pettiness.

Yihe didn't know whether Xie Peiwei's judgment on Nian Ze was correct.

All he knew was that every word Xie Peiwei had hit on himself.

Sensitive, thoughtful, always on the lookout, caring about what others think of him.sense of security?Such a thing does not exist.

Because if you want to be loved by others... no, it's not love, just want to get other people's eyes, let others look up to you, you must be a well-behaved and excellent person.He doesn't want other people's eyes and admiration, he just wants Xie Peiwei's attention.This desire made whips in all directions, whipping him desperately, making him do everything...

When I was with Xie Peiwei, I had to get up early every day to serve breakfast and take care of myself. Wasn't it tiring?

When you are pregnant, your belly gets bigger and your calves become swollen, so you have to go to the toilet all the time, isn’t it hard work?

I got such a knife on my belly and seven layers of stitches. Doesn't it really hurt?

...But, it must be done.Only by doing it can you get love and attention.

I wanted to eat that candy, how many whips did I have to suffer? !

My little friend has the conditions to live carefree, free and happy through the first three years, without being reprimanded, without worrying about when the taming stick will fall, without jumping through hoops like monkeys, and bowing like dogs... ...Why should I rush to train him?

Wait another sixteen months, and when he becomes sensible and understandable, his father Xie will tell him the truth.

When he grows up, he will be a reasonable bully.

"Why didn't you tell me yesterday?" Yihe turned around and hugged Xie Peiwei, probably because he realized the weakness of his character, which largely came from being cautious after being beaten with a stick when he was young. I am glad that my son can be raised in front of Xie Peiwei, "You told me yesterday that the baby's teeth will not fall out..."

Xie Peiwei comforted him for a moment, then suddenly recalled: "Is it my fault for co-authoring? Did I tell you that you don't need to teach so early?"

"Then you didn't explain it to me. If you tell me like this today, I won't hold him on my lap like a little turtle." Yihe regretted it even more now.Not only for his son's three small white teeth, but also because he destroyed his son's "sense of security".

"Blame me?"

"...Blame me." Yihe was still a little timid.

Xie Peiwei was amused by his cowardly appearance: "You can't change your habit of looking for bad debts. That's enough, we've settled the matter with my son, and you don't have to worry about it from now on." He put Yihe in the On the lap, looking at the piece of sterile gauze attached, "Xiaohe, you are still young. It is too hard for you to take on the responsibility of raising children so early."

At first, Yihe felt that he was beating himself, blaming himself for being ignorant, but when he looked into Xie Peiwei's eyes from such a close distance, he knew he was wrong.Xie Peiwei is really really really... All along, he has been very considerate of him having a child at a young age.

Xie Peiwei has reached the age when he must have children to inherit, and Yihe is not yet 23 years old.

At a normal age, he had just graduated from university at this time, he was a newcomer in the workplace, and he had not yet fully become a social person.

"I don't know how to raise children anyway." Yihe made up his mind, "Then I won't be a house husband. Work hard!"

Xie Peiwei let out a muffled laugh and said, "I was going to meet Principal Chen of Haishi Conservatory of Music this afternoon..."

Come on, work?You will be an auditor to me honestly.