The otherworldly family in space

The Master said: "Words must be believed, deeds must be resolute, and you are a villain. It can be second."

"Zi said that what you say must be credible, and you must keep your word and do it. Zhu Zi noted that a villain can also do what he says, do what he says, and don't harm others or himself. Therefore, the sage There is still something to take."

Cao Fuzi explained the connotation in the long explanatory sentence above, and the tiger cub repeated the passage and asked Zi Gong: "How can you be called a scholar?" People can be scholars, and they are divided into grades for scholar-bureaucrats. What Confucius originally intended to say is that people who keep their promises and deeds are the next-best people. How come after Zhu Xi’s interpretation, they become praise villains What about?

Did he get it wrong?

Or did Zhu Zi explain it wrong?

The tiger cub was full of questions but didn't dare to ask.Last time I asked about the fact that women and villains are difficult to raise. How can a sage put women and villains together? How can a woman be compared to a villain when she has children and manages the family business and contributes so much to the family? , and was reprimanded by the master for disrespecting the sages, and punished for copying the Analects five times.

He was wrong last time. If the villain refers to ordinary people instead of those who flatter, fight openly and secretly, tell tales, sow dissension, watch fire from the other side, and throw stones into trouble, then putting villains and women together is not demeaning. mean.What Confucius wanted to say was that villains are difficult to raise compared with officials, and women are difficult to raise with men. By analogy, later generations despise women from this, which may be a misinterpretation of the meaning of the Master.

I finally figured out one, and now I have a new problem.

Which is right and which is wrong, and how to explain it?

He didn't dare to ask Mr. Cao, and he couldn't tell Ajie Miaomiao about his thoughts. If he didn't understand correctly, it would be bad to teach his younger brothers badly.

Unable to say anything, the depression in the tiger cub's heart can be imagined.

After thinking about it, the only person he can confide in seems to be his old father Song Ergou.The tiger cub believed inexplicably that he might be able to talk about his troubles with his father, and his father would definitely not punish him without saying anything like the teacher in the school.

After listening to the tiger cub's question, Song Ci thought for a while and asked, "Cub, do you think it is the way of a gentleman that words must be followed by deeds?"

"Well, I think a gentleman should be as good as he is, and be consistent with his words and deeds." The tiger cub nodded.

"Then what would you do if those promises were made against your heart? For example, I forced you not to take the imperial examination, but you had to agree to it out of filial piety, and then out of a gentleman's promise, it was true." If you don’t take the imperial examination, will you be happy in your heart, and will there be no trace of resentment? Another example, what if an assassin threatens you with a knife to assassinate the monarch.”

"I, I don't know." The tiger cub kept looking at Song Ci, not to mention the bad guys, don't parents all want their children to be good, how could they specifically hinder their children's future.

"It's better to say that you don't know than that you don't know. You have experienced few things. You must know that not all parents and elders will hope that the younger generations will be good. There are all kinds of life, and the good and evil you can think of may all be in a certain place. It happened in this place, your father and I are not famous people who care about the world, so let’s not talk about it for now. Babies, you can relax a bit, we just communicate and discuss casually, we don’t need to be so formal, and we don’t need to be so nervous.”

"it is good."

"I personally think that the sentence you have doubts means that a gentleman is not suitable for being an official. If you are too polite, you will lose flexibility and flexibility. When encountering complicated situations, you may not be able to handle them well. Then look at it the other way around. , Who are the people who are suitable to be officials, hypocrite."

"Ah, Daddy said that a hypocrite is suitable to be an official?" Tiger Cub felt that his father's words had too much impact on him, and he was a little confused for a while.

"Father said that, do you feel uncomfortable?"

"A little bit." The tiger cub said honestly.

"Actually, the words of the sage are talking about his own life and his perception, but there are tens of thousands of people in the world, and they all have their own different lives. It is definitely not advisable to copy a survival model mechanically. Right. You may be regarded as a lunatic if you tell a beggar that you are doing good for yourself and benefiting the world. Politicians have their own standpoint. If you pay attention to etiquette, you will be slaughtered in the face of a state of tigers and wolves. This is righteousness, understandable, When they have selfish desires, they can only cover up again and again for the sake of reputation. The words of the saints were said hundreds of thousands of years ago. After such a long time, they have been passed down. Yes, if you want to separate the fake from the real, you still have to distinguish yourself. Of course, if you want to distinguish, you have to learn from him and master him first. Take Dad himself to give you an example. In the Analects of Confucius, it is said that weddings and funerals should be held in a grand manner. Parents die and children keep filial piety for three years. Don't eat meat, make fun of yourself, and express your grief for your parents. Dad doesn't agree with it in his heart. The mourning is broken and the clothes are getting wider. They are all for others to see. Whether you are hurt or not is your own business, why do you want to show it to others.”

"Take weddings and funerals as an example. Ordinary people work hard all their lives, and the money they earn is only enough to spend on marrying a wife and funerals, but they can't enjoy a day. Can I really go to the Paradise of Bliss? I don't believe it." Song Ci said.

"But Daddy, parents have to repay their deep kindness. Money and filial piety are two things that cannot be repaid. Husband and wife are good friends in Qin and Jin Dynasties. It is a marriage of two families. The more solemn the better." Tiger Cub said.

"This is the difference between our views. What Dad said is a bit deviant and cannot be accepted by most people. You can just listen to it. This kind of thing, if you think it is right and worthwhile, then stick to your own, Even if you find out that you made a mistake in the future and correct it, don’t be an answering person. If you believe what the teacher says, you will be in a dilemma if your father has another idea. Form your own set."

"Oh fine."

"Then let's talk about how hypocrites are produced. I think it's because the rules are too strict. Most people behave one way on the outside and the other on the back. Of course, there are also honest people who really keep the integrity of the outside and the inside, but this kind of person is really They are rare, and they are hard to come by, and it may not be a good thing if you do meet them."

"Then Daddy, what should I do." The tiger cub was still full of doubts.

"You write down your questions first, and when you have enough knowledge in the future, go back and think about it. Maybe you can write a book and write a biography. Baby, do you know where the river ends up?"

"The master said it was rivers, lakes and seas."

"That's right, it's because countless rivers run through the river that the waves of the river hit the shore, and the sea is tolerant and profound. You are now at the stage of learning knowledge. Learn more about different theories, and when you look back, you will be able to answer the questions you once had. We have the answer. Don’t just limit yourself to Confucianism in the imperial examinations, Taoism, Legalism, Military Strategies, Mohism, Han Fu, Tang Poetry, Song Ci, Legends, etc. can all be dabbled in.”

"Daddy, I understand, thank you." Tiger Cub said, his daddy didn't immediately tell him what was right and what was wrong, but just let him dabble and think more, to find the answer to the question by himself.Only what you find out is your own, whether it is right or wrong, or there is no right or wrong in these things, it is just that the experience is different due to the different positions and experiences.

"Then you may have to work hard, come on, cub."

"Daddy, why do you know so much?" Tiger Cub looked at Song Ci curiously. His father was kicked out after only two years of private school, but he seemed to be very knowledgeable just now, and he could almost say what his master said. A bunch of opposite reasons come.One or two sentences is normal, so many are not normal.

"Boy, the saints didn't have books before, so they knew how to write down the principles in the books. They all came from meditation, observation, and understanding. The world's insight is knowledge. Your father and I understand these things. What's so strange? , I will give you another lesson. You should pay attention to observation and thinking on weekdays. The real things like birds, beasts, insects and fish, and the nihilistic things like the universe, you can think about them when you are free, but stop here. If you are crazy, daddy It's time to find a place to cry." Song Ci said.

"Then Dad, do you often think about these things?"

Song Ci was silent for a while and said, "No."

Tiger Cub: ....

These great principles and criticisms of traditional culture In the previous life, Song Ci heard people say too much and he could open his mouth, but son, you are still young, and we are hundreds of years behind in time and space, and have different concepts, so you think your father and I are amazing .

I won't tell you this.

Confucian culture has a good side and a bad side. It can teach people to be saints, and it can also make people into idiots.It's good for the tiger cub to have doubts now. As for what he wants to be in the future, let him choose.

In fact, compared to a gentleman, Song Ci would rather his child be a hypocrite who can protect himself.

However, again, everything is in the tiger cub.

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