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"Mao Eleven."

"Ah."

"Mao Eleven?"

"what's up?"

Bie Ming's eyes kept paying attention to Mao Shiyi's hidden hands in his pockets and his wrist exposed to the cold air, and he followed Mao Shiyi who was walking in front step by step.Bie Ming was very nervous, firmly grasping the scarf Mao Shiyi threw behind his back: "Will you leave me in a while?"

"No." Mao Shiyi replied.

"Then you will put me down and go to the supermarket by yourself? Let me receive treatment alone?"

Mao Shixi took a slow step, and when Bie Ming was shoulder-to-shoulder with him, he put his arms around his shoulders: "Don't worry, I will follow you into the treatment room, watch you from behind you, and then go shopping in the supermarket together , go home together again. Never leave your sight, huh? Got it?"

Bie Ming looked at Mao Shishi, then lowered his head, looked at the toes of his shoes walking forward alternately: "Yes, I see."

Because Bie Ming no longer refused psychotherapy, and with the encouragement of Mao Shiyi, he chatted with Lin Lu intermittently on WeChat for a few days.Finally decided to go to Lin Lu's treatment room today to receive face-to-face conversation and formal Hakoniwa treatment.

Many people think that Hakoniwa therapy is a childish game created by psychotherapists to fool people at will.

But they were wrong.

Hakoba therapy is an excellent way to reveal the patient's subconscious and inner world, which can help psychotherapists better understand the patient's inner world and true thoughts.It seems to be irregular, like a house-playing game, but in fact, the more gentle and soothing the technique, the more it can alleviate the pain of destroying people's minds.

"Don't beep."

Lin Lu has been waiting for them in her consultation room. She wears light makeup and light pink lipstick. First of all, she greets Bie Ming who is hiding behind Mao Shiyi, with a very comfortable smile on her face.She turned up the temperature of the air conditioner, and after Bie Ming nodded slightly, she said a few words to Mao Shishi.

Lin Lu poured hot tea for them, and chatted with them like good friends, about what they had this morning, about today's weather.

"Why is it so hot here? I'm about to sweat." Not long after Mao Shiyi entered the door, he took off his scarf and put it on the back of the sofa. At this time, he was so hot that he took off his down jacket.

Mao Shishi saw that Bie Ming was still tightly wrapped, so he turned his head and asked in his ear.

Bie Ming also took off his bloated coat and put it on Mao Shiyi's.

"Take off your coat if you feel hot. It's okay. In winter, who doesn't like to be warm." Lin Lu always smiled, his eyes were slightly bent, like a bridge, very beautiful.When she was talking, she looked at Bie Ming's folded hands, and occasionally glanced at Bie Ming's downcast eyes.

Bie Ming raised his eyes and met Lin Lu's gaze, so he looked at each other cautiously, not daring to move away easily.

Lin Lu said: "Then shall we start now?"

Bie Ming froze, and turned to look at Mao Shishi.

Mao Shiyi crossed his arms, leaned on the back of the sofa in a relaxed posture and looked at him, raising his eyebrows in Lin Lu's direction.

Bie Ming nodded shyly at Lin Lu, then stood up, and sat on the single sofa that Lin Lu indicated with his left hand. He was sitting upright like a primary school student, with a pair of black and white eyes revealing an extreme sense of insecurity. From time to time, he cast a glance at Mao Shiyi.

Lin Lu was sitting opposite him, and he had prepared a pen and paper. There was an appropriate safe distance between the two of them: "It's okay, don't be so nervous, you can sit however you want."

Sit however you want...

I want to sit next to Mao Shiyi.Don't think about it, but he didn't say it.

The conversation between Lin Lu and Bie Ming was mainly in the form of a question and an answer. Regarding Bie Ming's parents' childhood and his emotional experience, Bie Ming answered them one by one. Some understatement narration, as if he relieved his temper after a long, long time , and then write your own pain into a story to tell others.

Bie Ming may not have felt anything, but as an observer, Mao Shiyi gradually admired this thin and short psychotherapist.

Because Bie Ming was in the hospital for a few days, he came to talk to her, Lin Lu told Mao Shiyi several possibilities, and she thought the most likely one was Bie Ming's baby who was a little older. When I was young, I didn't satisfy my dependence on my parents.

Listening to Bie Ming talk about his past now, Lin Lu really hit the mark.

The two chatted for more than an hour, and Lin Lu ended the conversation when he understood almost everything. Bie Ming left the single sofa with a sigh of relief, and sat next to Mao Shiyi.

Mao Shishi didn't say anything, but put his palm on the back of Bie Ming's hand and shook it firmly.

This small gesture was enough to reassure Bie Ming.

Lin Lu brought out two exquisite cakes from another room, and refilled them with hot tea.

"Eat, replenish your energy." Lin Lu said to Bie Ming with a smile, "Thank you for your hard work. I will tidy up the Hakoniwa treatment room. After you have rested, we will start the next task."

Bie Ming put the small dish containing the cake on the palm of his hand, his eyes wandered for a while, and finally met Lin Lu's eyes: "Thank you."

Lin Lu smiled sincerely.

After Lin Lu left, Mao Shishi rubbed the back of Bie Ming's head and asked with concern, "Are you tired?"

"Just talking."

"Can you still do the next treatment? If you can't, just tell me, I'll go to the doctor, and it's okay to come back tomorrow. You don't have to force yourself. Let's take it step by step."

"I didn't force myself." Bie Ming finished eating the last half of the strawberry, and after a long pause, he said in a very low voice, "I didn't force myself, I can do it, you can trust me, I've said it." If you cooperate with the treatment, you will definitely cooperate with the treatment.”

Mao Shishi patted the top of Bie Ming's head to express his understanding.

The protagonist of Hakoniwa therapy is Hakoniwa, and Hakoniwa is centered on a sandbox with a length, width, and height of 57 cm x 72 cm x 7 cm. It is a free but bounded place created with treatment boxes and fine sand. protected space.The sandbox is a protected external idle space, while the sand constitutes an internal release and protection space to some extent.

Hakoba therapy organically combines peripheral restriction and inner release, and can play a role in reconciling and maintaining psychotherapy.

The Hakoniwa treatment room is a quiet and quiet environment free from external disturbances, with soft light and simple decoration, which can make patients, more precisely visitors, feel comfortable and at ease.

Not only people with mental illness can receive Hakoniwa therapy, many students and adults who are overstressed also find and return to their true selves in this way when they are confused.

The color of the inside and edge of the sandbox is usually sea blue, which will make the person who faces it feel that he is facing a sea.

Because blue represents rivers, lakes and seas, which can relieve the restlessness of sister patients.

Spread a layer of soft sand inside the treatment box.The soft touch of sand can bring patients a sense of security and childlike emotions, which is conducive to the communication between the patient's inner world and the outer world.

There are also many miniature molds in the treatment room, all kinds of characters, animals, plants, vehicles, buildings and so on.

After Lin Lu invited the two into the Hakoniwa treatment room, he briefly introduced to them the things and functions needed for Hakoniwa treatment, but he would not tell them the meaning of each item.

"Bie Ming, during your treatment, I will observe you as carefully as before and make some records about it, do you agree?"

"I agree."

Lin Lu took a few steps back, leaving enough space for Bie Ming to move. At the same time, she also gestured to Mao Shiyi to keep him a little further away from Bie Ming.

Mao Shishi understood, turned around and walked towards Lin Lu.

Bie Ming watched Mao Shiyi go out, thinking he was going to leave, the hand hanging by his side immediately clenched into a fist: "Wait...wait!"

"What's wrong?" Lin Lu stepped forward and asked.

Bie Ming kept looking at Mao Shishi, and Mao Shiyi kept looking at Bie Ming.

"Can you not let Mao Shixi leave this room?" Bie Ming's fists gradually stretched, and his hands were raised in front of his body to loosely intertwine his fingers, trembling slightly, "If he is not by my side, I...I am worried about me can not do well."

Mao Shishi said: "I said that I will not leave you, but I will stay a little far away from you, so as not to cause unnecessary influence on you. Don't Ming, you look at me, I am standing here."

As a psychotherapy room, the most important prerequisite for Hakoniwa therapy is to provide patients with a free and protected atmosphere, so that patients can feel that the psychologist is by their side at all times, giving them a sense of authenticity. sense of security and dependability.Only in this way can patients put down their self-defense mechanism and communicate with their unconscious world, so as to reintegrate their minds.

The sense of security and dependence that Bie Ming needs can be obtained from Mao Shiyi, so Lin Lu has no reason to drive Mao Shiyi out of the room.

Bie Ming looked at Xiaoniwa in front of him, licked his lips, and said, "I can start now."

"Okay." Lin Lu said, "Then, please use the toys in the cabinet next to you to make something casually in the sandbox. The sand in the box can also be moved freely. Make any kind of world you like. What kind of world is it? Don't Ming, there is no time limit for this process, we have been waiting for you here."

After finishing speaking, Lin Lu made a silent gesture to Mao Shishi, who nodded.

Bie Ming stared at the sandbox for a while before starting to do it.

He first divided the sand covered with the treatment box into an isolated island.Fine sand wraps around the treatment box, and inside is a closed circle, and in the middle is an isolated island completely isolated by the "ocean", which is clearly separated.

After finishing this, Bie Ming stood up straight, took a quick look at Mao Shishi, and then fixed his eyes on Lin Lu for a long time.

Neither Lin Lu nor Mao Shishi looked at him, they just quietly looked at Bie Ming's work, the sandbox, and the isolated island in the sea.

When the patient is creating, the psychologist and the people around should avoid communicating with the patient, so as not to have an impact on the patient, as long as they maintain a quiet and onlooker attitude, watch with concerned eyes, and silently accompany them.

Bie Ming went to the cabinet to choose the models one by one that fit his heart. Among the three castle models, Bie Ming chose the smaller castle with an outer color that was more in favor of the ocean.I also picked two identical models of green trees and placed them on the isolated island in the middle.Two trees stood in front of the castle, one on the left and the other on the right, like guards.

Bie Ming said, "I'm done."

Lin Lu approached Bie Ming and observed the whole work with him again.With Bie Ming's consent, Lin Lu photographed this work from different angles.

Bie Ming approached Mao Shiyi a little bit, carefully tugged Mao Shiyi's sweater, and looked up at him with his lips pursed.

Mao Shishi lightly kissed Bie Ming on the forehead.

"Can you tell me why you made such a work?"

Bie Ming thought for a while and said: "I don't know, it's just because I have this idea in my mind, maybe I think I want to live here."

"How is it?" Mao Shiyi asked.

Lin Lu looked at the treatment record he had written, and then at the castle and the guard-like tree on the isolated island.

"Actually, Bie Ming's situation is a little serious. First, he divided the sandbox into three parts. The outermost sand represents the world we live in together. The ocean in the middle can be seen as Bie Ming's sandbox. A barrier between himself and the world. The island in the middle is what he thinks is a safe place. Why is there a castle in a safe place? Based on what you told me before, I think this island represents This is your home, which is the house you live in now, this castle, which represents his room and himself..."

Bie Ming has been kneading his fingers nervously by the side. When Lin Lu mentioned the castle, he was taken aback for a moment, shook his head alone, stepped forward and pointed at the castle and said, "No. This castle is not me. The one on the right The tree is me."

The author has something to say: The description of Hakoba Therapy also borrows the words from the previously mentioned book.