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It's just that the idea of ​​resigning is just passing by, Ming Zhen is not a person who gives up easily.

When he became an adult, he experienced two intense delayed gratifications. Both times were in college, one was when he successfully changed his major, and the other was when he lost weight.

Gaining a sense of accomplishment from self-growth and overcoming difficulties has given him great encouragement.

Mingzhen admitted that all his motivation to lose weight in college came from Mak Wenche.

When people talk about enjoying happiness, they often use two words, instant gratification and delayed gratification.

Putting this theory into Ming Zhen's weight loss matter, eating and drinking well every day is instant gratification; and if you can restrain your appetite, keep your mouth shut and open your legs, and complete the great cause of weight loss, it is a proper delay satisfy.

In fact, everyone understands the truth.

Ming Zhen also knows that losing weight does not happen overnight, but he is always a little... lack of motivation.

Their family has no genetic genes for obesity. Both parents are middle-aged people with normal body shape. He was not a fat boy when he was a child.

I really gained weight in junior high school.

The Ming family's parents are not very tall, so they have high hopes for their child, hoping that he will be the best.Junior high school was in the period of puberty, and Ming's parents ate bran and swallowed vegetables by themselves, and all kinds of growing bodies were stuffed into Ming Zhen.

Ming Zhen's height has indeed grown to 170 centimeters in their family, but his weight has also rushed to 170 catties.

After entering high school, Ming's parents saw that the methods of junior high school had worked, and they dared not stop nutrition. In the three years of high school, Ming Zhen grew to 181 cm vigorously, but his weight unceremoniously soared to 190 catties.

After the college entrance examination, out of longing for a better life in college, Ming Zhen raised the need to lose weight.At that time, his parents also agreed, and specially allocated funds to let him go to the gym to sign up for private education lessons.

The coaches in the private training class are very strict in weight loss, with oatmeal for breakfast, chicken breast for lunch, vegetable salad for dinner, and high-intensity exercise.

Ming Zhen went to private training for a week, and quickly lost a few pounds, but her hands and feet were shaking from hunger, and her eyes were full of stars.

The first to give up was Ming Mu.

She really couldn't bear it, and felt that this was abusing the child, which was even worse for her health, so she directly "drew capital".

So Ming Zhen's plan to lose weight came to nothing.

After Mingzhen went to university, she devoted herself to studying and went to the library and study room every day, but she was not active in sports. In addition, the food in their school was really good, and she gained more than ten catties in less than half a semester.

He met Mai Wenche in the first semester of his sophomore year, and became friends inexplicably. He successfully changed his major in the first semester of his sophomore year, and then decided to lose weight in the second semester of his sophomore year.

Ming Zhen often feels that he is not an explosive player, he does not have that kind of quick wit, and he is better at long-distance running with patience.The success of changing majors gave him a little confidence.

That was the first time he felt the delayed gratification of long-term investment in exchange for success.

After spending so long in the library and alone for so long, he finally had the satisfaction of positive feedback, which made him realize that his willpower is stronger than he imagined.

Ming Zhen didn't have many friends in college, no, to be precise, he had no friends.After he went to college, he didn't have much contact with his high school classmates because he didn't like his high school classmates.Because of his burly body, he had many nicknames in high school, such as "Fatty" and "Fat Hazel", as well as "King Kong" and "Big Bear".

In fact, many people in high school called these nicknames not necessarily maliciously, and some even expressed intimacy, but Ming Zhen didn't like it.In his opinion, it is very disrespectful to call out other people's shortcomings as a joke and call them by nicknames.

It's a pity that Ming Zhen is not a person with a strong personality, and he never expressed his dissatisfaction, which led everyone to think that he would not be hurt.He has a quiet and reticent personality, and is somewhat influenced by his family.The Ming family is an ordinary Chinese-style family. The father is reticent and authoritative, and the mother is virtuous and simple. Their childhood was considered happy and happy, and they didn't have any troubles with their original family. They probably inherited their father's bad-spoken personality.

After going to university, Ming Zhen determined to make a clean break with his past self. After the college entrance examination, he heard that someone in his class went to the same university as him, but he never contacted that person.

And the new class... In his freshman year, he was busy changing majors, and he had very little friendship with everyone. In his sophomore year, he just successfully changed his major, and he didn't know his classmates well, which made Ming Zhen a complete loner.

Therefore, when Mai Wenche appeared bound to Mingzhen for a long time, he was actually very uncomfortable but cheered.

After failing to lose weight in the college entrance examination, Ming Zhen has not shown any desire to lose weight for a long time.The idea of ​​losing weight came up again when he realized that standing next to Mai Wenche and seeing other people's probing eyes always involuntarily filled with inferiority complex, he wanted to become more "appropriate" when standing with Mai Wenche idea.

However, Mai Wenche didn't take it seriously, and said: "Fat and fat are also cute, and it's not good to be too thin."

Mai Wenche always said "cute" at every turn, so that Ming Zhen almost didn't know the word cute.He pulled the suspicious layer of fat on his face and questioned, am I cute?

What is puzzling is that after Ming Zhen finally accepted the point of view that "chubby is cute", one day, Mai Wenche suddenly changed his style of painting and secretly proclaimed the dangers of obesity .

First, he suddenly said that his roommate Wen Xian snored too loudly while sleeping, which made him unable to fall asleep in the middle of the night.

Wen Xian can be regarded as the one with the largest sense of volume in their dormitory, he is tall and powerful.Mai Wenche came to the conclusion that "I heard that being fat is also an inducement for snoring. After getting fat, the upper airway will be squeezed, and a lot of oxygen is needed to snore when sleeping." I have to urge him to eat less." Then he said, "Doudou, why don't you lose weight too."

The speaker has no intention of listening and the listener does, Ming Zhen is calm on the surface, but trembling inside.

Mingzhen knew that she was snoring.I didn't know that I didn't live on campus in high school before, but I knew I would snore after I started living in the dormitory as a freshman.Fortunately, at that time, the four boys in his dormitory were snoring at night, but the voice was loud and soft.

The bed and table structure of the school is very unfriendly to a fat man like him. He is too lazy to climb up and down. Usually, he waits silently for everyone to clean up and go to bed before going to bed. After getting into bed, he avoids turning over—creak creak creak The iron frame bed couldn't bear his tossing, so he practiced the ability to fall asleep in seconds.

But after Mai Wenche mentioned it like this, it made him care about this matter.I searched for information on the Internet to verify the credibility of "I won't snore after losing weight", and then I thought I should consider losing weight.

Occasionally, after several times of part-time shooting with Mak Wenche, he would not dare to fall asleep until Mak Wenche fell asleep or even entered deep sleep and his breathing slowed down.

Another time, Mak Wenche told him that a relative of his died suddenly because he was too fat.

When eating in the dining hall one day, Mai Wenche told Ming Zhen that he had a cousin of his third aunt’s aunt—in short, a distant relative who couldn’t be reached because he was too fat, had high uric acid and high blood fat, One day, a hypertensive cerebral hemorrhage suddenly disappeared.After finishing speaking, he patted Ming Zhen's shoulder thoughtfully and said with emotion, he is still thinner and healthier.

Ming Zhen looked at the four taels of white rice that he had just eaten in front of him, and couldn't help but reflect, maybe, maybe, maybe it would be better to be a little thinner?

What really made Ming Zhen feel that it is necessary to lose weight is when Mai Wenche told him that fat people have poor sexual ability.

One night, Mai Wenche took Ming Zhen to supper with his brother who was playing basketball. A buddy at the dinner table shared a piece of gossip. It was rumored that there was a female classmate in a certain school who lived in a different place with her boyfriend. The boyfriend went out to find the lady and contracted AIDS. , the female classmate had sex with her boyfriend without knowing it and then got sick. Most likely out of the mentality of retaliating against the society, the female classmate went back to their school and had sex with many male classmates.

Boys, especially a group of boys in their 20s who have nowhere to volatilize their hormones, are also at the age of curiosity about sex, and after listening to the stories, they started various discussions.

As we chatted, we began to argue whether the boys who were innocent and affected were pitiful or self-inflicted: those who felt that they were to blame were naturally condemning sex without condoms, and those who felt that they were pitiful were simply acknowledging that "it’s not a man who doesn’t eat what’s delivered to your door". Then it's just bad luck.

A boy made a microphone with his fist and handed it in front of a buddy: "Then let me interview, if there is a woman, 36D, with long legs and a wasp waist, you don't like her, she seduces you and insists on sleeping with you , then do you sleep or not?"

The boy interviewed said shrewdly, "Am I a fool if I don't sleep? What right do I have to not like 36D beauties?"

It caused a roar of laughter.

The boy moved the "microphone" in front of Mai Wenche: "Then are you going to sleep?"

Mai Wenche smiled, and said slowly: "I don't like posting upside down, I like chasing after myself."

This answer caused a lot of condemnation: "Wen Che's class is different, ask someone else!" "There are a lot of people chasing after Brother Che, I don't care about it!"

Chatting and chatting, someone reprimanded the man who went to find the lady to catch the disease in the first place.

The topic turned to the direction of looking for a lady, and then everyone talked about the small cards in the school, who was looking for a lady and encountered a fairy dance, which uncle and brother were arrested for whoring and so on.

As they talked, they condemned prostitutes with righteous indignation. After all, if they were not sold, no one would buy them; some people suggested that prostitution should be legalized, and that legal compliance would make it easier to manage. Regular physical examinations are given to girls so that they will not be afraid of spreading the disease to others. man. ①

At that time, Mingzhen was very busy, wearing gloves and gnawing on the pig's trotters earnestly, she could only open her round eyes and listen to their nonsense, and then lost her mind and felt that the braised pig's trotters in this store were so delicious, it was completely delicious. Unable to speak to participate in the discussion.

Mai Wenche next to him has also been drinking beer in silence.

Mai Wenche didn't stay for too long that day, and he said he had to go back to the dormitory before he ate.Although Ming Zhen got along well with the team members at that time, after all, he brought them here, so he naturally left early with him.

There is a cool breeze, and the night is deep and quiet.When the two walked towards the dormitory side by side, Ming Zhen suddenly asked her doubts just now: "Is it really common for college students to find young ladies?"

Mai Wenche lost his eyes dangerously: "Why, are you going to find Miss?"

"No, no! Just... I'm just curious." Ming Zhen waved her hands in fright, "Didn't they just say that men can sleep with people they don't like, after all, their biological needs still need to be resolved, otherwise they will There are not so many men looking for Miss."

Ming Zhen explained to the end, and the more she spoke, the lower her voice was.

Mai Wenche smiled: "You are also a man yourself, you can also consider this issue from a male perspective. Men can have sex without love, isn't it normal?"

Ming Zhen talked to himself in his mind, can he do it?He can't.Although humans also have animal instincts, the reason why humans are advanced animals is precisely because they have morality and legal constraints.

But he can also understand why some men go whoring, not every man has the same strong sense of morality, and those men even have very high-sounding reasons-I have physical needs, but I have no desire to fall in love, I spend money to find girls , It does not require emotional costs, but also reduces the possibility of raping women and harming society. This is a move that serves multiple purposes.

But he subconsciously felt that this was a wrong idea, and he couldn't figure out what was wrong.

His brain was a little confused, and he could only say "Oh" dully.

"Doudou, stop associating with these people." Mai Wenche said suddenly.

Ming Zhen was about to ask what's wrong, but the other party changed the subject: "Let's leave early, are you full yet?"

"It's okay..." Ming Zhen was actually not full, but she didn't want to tell the truth, so she could only answer vaguely.

"Forget it, I won't take you for supper in the future."

"what?"

"If you keep getting fatter, it will affect your sexual ability! In the future, even Miss Miss will despise you."

"You—" Ming Zhen blushed instantly when she heard this, and looked at Mai Wenche who was joking, feeling an unprecedented sense of shame, and said angrily, "Why do you have a personal attack after eating late at night?" ?”

Mai Wenche stopped in his tracks, looked at Ming Zhen and said seriously: "Didn't you hear that obesity can affect sexual performance. First, if the stomach is too big, it will make the bird smaller visually; second, the fat layer is too thick, but The length of use becomes shorter; again, fat people are generally weak, and if they are not physically strong, they will not last long; finally!" Mai Wenche stretched out his hand and patted the thick fat on Ming Zhen's stomach, "You can't play with such a bulky body. No tricks, and naturally no skills—vision, stamina, and skills are all bad, do you think being fat will affect sexual performance?!"///

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①Because the article describes the rhetoric of boys, it is inevitable that the point of view is one-sided.

I don't want to deliberately say something that will cause antagonism between men and women, and I am worried that younger girls will see it, so I will talk more after thinking about it.

Many men have the same opinion. As a woman, I hope to provide some female views.

There are indeed some people who are willing to degenerate among the ladies, but generally speaking, the ladies are the weak in prostitution and prostitution, because the essence of buying and selling is "there is demand", and there is no market without demand, so there is no existence without "buying" "Sell".

These discussions in the article are for the purpose of leading to the following, so they have the meaning of existence.