An Alternative Perspective on University Military Training

No.19 session, rest for 10 minutes

"Take a break for 10 minutes and give everyone a suggestion. Listen to me here, don't you bother?"

"Don't worry, we can learn a lot from what the instructor said."

"Instructor, you know a lot."

"Instructor, do you have a girlfriend?"

"Instructor..."

No, why do you have these weird questions?

"What I want to say is that I want to give you a suggestion." I quickly replied.

We haven't been together for a long time, but we basically have a simple understanding of each other.

And in just a little time, I basically got to know everyone's personalities.

It is also very important to grasp the various distances.

I just met, and I keep a little social distance from everyone, which is a kind of respect for everyone.

Compared with being a little familiar, I will take the initiative to get closer to everyone, so as not to create distance with everyone.

But this distance should be well controlled, after all, not everyone is the same.

And everyone's position can basically see everyone's character.

Those who always stand at a distance and are out of gregariousness can basically be judged to be lonely people with withdrawn personality and withdrawn interpersonal relationships.

People who are gregarious also need to be careful, there are always a few in twos and threes, either girlfriends or good friends.

Moreover, everyone's tone of voice and work habits can also reflect the status of each person in their respective groups.

Who has higher prestige, whose relationship is more harmonious, and whose ability is stronger, all of these are reflected.

Here, having a certain understanding of this point is of great help for newcomers to integrate into this group.

And getting along will also produce a butterfly effect.

Getting along well with one is a good one. This is a very easy way to guide the management of more than 50 people.

At the same time, for those who are withdrawn, you only need to pay special attention, and there is no need to emphasize it. After all, everyone is an adult and sensible.

But what people didn't expect was that just because of some words, the relationship between them was determined.

It feels like a big brother with a little brother.

"The suggestion to everyone is that you can organize various entertainment activities during the break, such as organizing everyone to sing during the break, or everyone actively singing a song to enliven the atmosphere and relieve the pressure of everyone's training. "

"Instructor, come one."

"Me? What's the point of me having one? Let's all think about what you want to perform."

Looking at everyone's smiles, Xinghe felt that it was necessary to remind them together.

"Everyone, don't underestimate this. This is a once-in-a-lifetime training moment. This is very helpful for improving your expressive ability and courage. In fact, many times, it's not that we don't have this ability, but that we don't know how. To express, obviously this is an opportunity."

"Forget it this time. From the next break, everyone will perform their unique skills. Everyone can think about who will be the first."

"Do you have any suggestions? Monitor, do you have any suggestions?"

"Forehead?"

"I've been here for a short time, and I don't know everyone very well, and I don't know what specialties you have. You can come here. Or you can come first. Anyway, I will leave it to you to arrange the next rest time."

"Let the cultural and entertainment committee members come first." Lin Ying, the squad leader, said.

"That's a good suggestion. Who is the cultural and entertainment committee member? Prepare it yourself. You can perform whatever you want, singing and dancing, or talking about cross talk. It doesn't matter even if you just tell jokes and giggle in front of everyone."

Xinghe was also worried that they could not find a suitable program to perform, so they gave some suggestions.

Everyone focused their attention on Chen Yezi.

This is a play.

It can be seen that this cultural and entertainment committee member is very sunny and cheerful.

And it is very popular.

And to activate the training atmosphere, it is much better for them to find their own candidates for the first performance and the first show, rather than letting Xinghe randomly find someone to come over.

Just pull one over and say, it's you, you come first.

If others are not ready, wouldn't it delay others and leave others with a psychological shadow.

But everyone recommends it, and it’s different to take the initiative to perform on stage.

They took the initiative to come on stage, thinking more about how to leave a good impression.

As for the problems that may be encountered, how to correct them.

For this, they have the courage to accept reality and improve themselves.

And those who have no interest and no courage, when they behave badly, they will always think, it's shameful, it's too shameful.I won't be there next time!

People who are already withdrawn will become more withdrawn in this way.

Unless others applaud cooperatively, encourage him, and say he is very good.

But this will also have a bad effect, that is, the next time he is on stage, he dare not perform easily on stage, because many times they are afraid of failure, afraid of performing poorly, and ruining their previous glorious image.

But courageous people and sunny people are not like this.

Because they can accept themselves and can continue to learn and improve themselves.

Failure is just a stepping stone to success for them.

This kind of people often feel that it is not enough after one experience. They are not afraid of failure, but they are afraid of too few opportunities.

beep~!

The whistle sounded and the training continued.

Seeing that everyone is still very passionate, but there are always a few who are lacking in spirit, not lacking in spirit, to be precise, it should be a lack of passion.

People who may be withdrawn will always feel uncomfortable in such an environment.

How to do?

Now it's time to cheer them up.

So that everyone on the team can play an active role.

"We just talked about the good qualities of outstanding people. As us, we should learn from them. As your instructor, I am a soldier. Everyone knows that soldiers are emotional , let’s talk about the word love next.”

"Personal cognition, emotion, can form such a few words, emotions, emotions, and sentiments."

In fact, these are also what I learned from other places, and I can use them flexibly.

Didn't expect to use it here.

"As for family affection, friendship, and love that everyone knows, they are all part of emotion."

"We have a bigger structure, let's not talk about the love between those sons and daughters."

"Just say emotions, emotions, sentiments."

"Separately speaking, everyone understands what they mean, but when they are connected together, I don't know how everyone will understand. I will talk about my own cognition. It may not be correct. It is just for your reference."

"When we were young, emotions, sorrows, joys, crying and laughing were only in the blink of an eye. When we were happy, we would laugh, and if we didn't like it, we would mourn or even cry when we were unhappy. At that time, we never considered whether we were Late at night, or in the busy city, if you feel uncomfortable, you will have a temper. This is emotion. It can be understood in this way."

"Later we grew up a little bit, developed a little relationship, and felt differently about the people around us. Those who have a better relationship will have a little conflict, are in a good mood, will be tolerant, and even smile, and will treat the people we like. If you have a tolerant heart, you will not have a good face when you don't like people and things. You will be angry and flatten him. Right. "

"It's human nature. I like you, it's okay, you can make bigger mistakes, I don't like you, no, I want to clean up you. There is no reason, just because you are unhappy. The people and things you like are bullied and destroyed by others , I will protect him by myself, for people and things that I don’t like, it’s a gift to him to take a look.”

"So understanding, there is nothing to deny."

"But why does the word sentiment appear?"

"Because sentiment is a bit more profound than emotion. Everyone is a person with feelings, but there are not many people with sentiment."

"How did sentiment come about? Cultivate it? Feel it?"

"Anyway, when a person has sentiment, his own state will be different. His vision will be higher, his heart will be broader, his behavior will be more stable, his emotions will not be shown, and he will become more open-minded and sentimental. People are also more able to deal with various situations with equanimity.”

"Another point is that a person with sentiment has a higher status. Smart can no longer describe him. They are called wisdom. Smart and wisdom seem to mean the same thing, but do they really mean the same thing? They all say it is the wisdom of the ancients. There is no such thing as the wisdom of the ancients, right?"

"Think about it, everyone. These three words are connected together, like the growth process of a person. Everyone has emotions, and because of emotions, emotions will change. Similarly, with sentiment, people's emotions will also change. There will be changes, you don’t have to think about what you like, you don’t have to express your likes and dislikes, and your natural emotions are even more under control.”

"So, we are all adults, and we must learn to cultivate our own sentiments."

"As for how sentiment can be cultivated, it depends on everyone's wisdom and wisdom root. I can't do anything about it. It all depends on everyone's own understanding."

"However, what is certain is that controlling one's emotions is the first step. There should be no problem, there is nothing wrong with the old iron 666."

No matter what I say, I always maintain this relaxed speech, confident and friendly tone.

Watching everyone get more serious and take training seriously, I know I can relax for a while.

Sure enough, there is a way to be lazy.

For your own teaching, first of all, don't make the other party feel disgusted, otherwise it will only backfire.

At the same time, you must have your own logic for what you want to express, and proceed step by step.

Haste makes waste, this is the wisdom of the ancient Chinese.

Looking at the few people who had no passion at the beginning, they also recovered their expressions at this moment.

Those who subdue the soldiers without fighting are the good ones.

Management, let the people go to the track they planned, why use force?