between men and women

One hundred and seventeenth post

Now that we have talked about the topic of friends, we have to mention Liang Mingchuan.

In [-], Liang Mingchuan finally got married in Japan. His wife is Japanese and her name is Masako.

Over the years, Peng Zhiran and I have been to Japan three times.I have to say that Tokyo is worthy of being the fashion capital of Asia and a shopping paradise. At least for a skinny person like me, the Japanese version of clothes is very suitable.

When I went to Japan for the first time, Peng Zhiran and I bought two large boxes of clothes.At that time, self-guided tours were not available in Japan, and you had to join a tour group.It turned out that that year, a group of girls happened to form a group to go to Japan to watch the idol group’s New Year’s Eve concert. The travel agency was only responsible for booking hotels and air tickets, which was almost self-service, so the travel agency stuffed four more people into this group, including I went with Peng Zhiran.

Liang Mingchuan lived in Ikebukuro at the time.I still remember his apartment, with a monthly rent of 1.5 yen. When you enter the door, there is a so-called kitchen, which is so small that you can only fit a single side table. There is only an aisle with a width of about [-] meters.In such a small space, he even put a computer desk on one side of the single bed, and a shelf above the computer monitor to put a printer.

This is Tokyo, where every inch of land is expensive, and it is smaller than the hotel we stayed in Hong Kong.

Liang Mingchuan was very happy with our arrival.Counting it, he had been working alone for five or six years at that time, and during these five or six years, he had also tasted the cruelty of the world.

Liang Mingchuan was instigated by his college classmates to go to Japan. Originally, he thought that the two could support each other for a while after arriving there, but the fact is that after finishing the language school and being admitted to the local university, the two parted ways.

The reason is very simple. Liang Mingchuan wanted to study hard and then go to graduate school. After graduation, he wanted to find a job in the local area and go on steadily. However, his college classmates only wanted to work part-time. They wanted to finish their studies during the few years in Japan. The language gets a civil servant and a part-time job and saves hundreds of thousands before leaving.

Although there is no right or wrong in these two paths, it's just that everyone has different ideas, but Liang Mingchuan was still hit. I understand the hesitation of being suddenly helpless and having to work hard alone.

So he was very happy to have friends from China come.China and South Korea have Lunar New Year, but Japan does not. The Gregorian New Year’s Day is their New Year’s Day. We went to Tokyo before the New Year’s Day, which happened to be the New Year’s Day holiday in Japan, so Liang Mingchuan provided a full escort service.

He accompanied us to buy clothes and grab lucky bags, went shopping with us, took us to ramen shops that sell tickets with vending machines, took us to drink in izakaya at night, and told us what he had seen and heard in Japan while drinking, saying that he just When I arrived in Japan, I ate at McDonald's, and the two Chinese girls sitting at the next table spoke in the dialect of our city about what they had gained from helping them communicate.We all sighed and sighed.

On the night of December 31, Peng Zhiran and I were exhausted.Peng Zhiran, a shopaholic, was like a mouse that fell into a rice bowl when he arrived in Tokyo. He rushed into the first store and bought clothes worth 8000 yen (about RMB [-] at the time, and the exchange rate was slightly higher at that time). The clerk bowed and helped him carry the bag and sent him to the door.I warned him to save some money and don't use up all the bullets in one shuttle. He is more rational. Of course, the cards of both of them were blown in the end.

On the night of the 31st, Peng Zhiran and I were really tired, but when Liang Mingchuan enthusiastically dragged us to the temple to pay homage to the New Year's Eve, we still couldn't bear to refuse.He came here alone for so many New Year's Eve. This time, no matter how tired we are, we should accompany him.This is what Peng Zhiran told me.

During the New Year’s Eve in Japan, the subway runs all night, and many people go to the temple to worship. There are men and women in kimonos everywhere along the way. There are as many people as the Chinese New Year.We went there with great interest, and when the crowd was crowded there, and after hearing the one hundred and eighth ringing of the bell, we returned to the hotel, as tired as a dog.As a result, there were too many people on the subway on the way back, and we failed to get on the subway twice, so we decided to walk back in a fit of anger.It was really a tough decision. I walked for more than an hour, chatting while walking, and finally couldn't hold on anymore and took the subway.Fortunately, the hotel was not far from Liang Mingchuan's apartment, so everyone went the same way.After arriving at the hotel, the two of us fell asleep and didn't wake up until the next afternoon. It was really a memorable New Year's Day.

When I went to Japan for the second time, I already had independent travel.For the visa issued by the travel agency, a certain deposit is paid, and the hotel and air tickets can be booked by yourself.The second time we went, we were familiar with the road, and it was not the end of the year, so we only got together with Liang Mingchuan for a few days.

The third time I went was to attend his wedding in [-].

Liang Mingchuan took his fiancée back to China to take wedding photos before the wedding, and we were the ones who picked him up on the plane.

Although Masako is Japanese, her father was a newspaper reporter sent to the United States, so she grew up in the United States. After finishing college, she returned to Japan for work reasons, while her parents and younger sister are still in LA.

She knew Liang Mingchuan because she was taken by a friend to a gathering of Chinese students studying abroad.She seems to like Chinese culture very much, and she has been to China twice on business trips before. At that party, she met Liang Mingchuan. The two souls who were away from their parents and worked hard outside collided together, so they fell in love.

Due to the language barrier, when Liang Mingchuan took Masako back to China, we didn't know much about the story between them until we went to Japan to attend their wedding.

The wedding date was set in [-], so I booked the air ticket three months in advance, the price was very cheap, but a few days before my departure, there was news of an earthquake in Japan.At that time more than a year ago, the earthquake of magnitude [-] in Japan occurred. I remember that the first reaction when I heard the news was to contact Liang Mingchuan. Fortunately, he said that although Tokyo felt a strong earthquake and his house’s cupboards collapsed, everything was still intact. It's OK.The shadow is still there, and there is news of an earthquake again. We are a little hesitant about whether to go as scheduled, but finally decided to go as planned.

Japanese weddings are not like domestic ones, there is no caravan parade, and it seems that there are no such wedding companies in China, but there are hotels that specialize in wedding banquets.Generally, a hotel can host four or five weddings at the same time. There is also a chapel on the top floor of the hotel. Before the wedding banquet, the couple can go to the chapel to hold the ceremony.

Peng Zhiran and I missed the Western-style ceremony in the small auditorium at three o'clock in the afternoon because we received a temporary task from Liang Mingchuan to buy a white handkerchief for the bride. By the time we arrived, the pre-wedding reception had already begun.The two of us greeted Liang Mingchuan's parents and went to the bride and groom's lounge to find them.Liang Mingchuan, who was wearing the groom's suit, was extremely handsome, shining with happiness all over his body. Even Peng Zhiran and I were ashamed of ourselves.The happy couple felt a little regretful that we spent so much time buying a handkerchief and missed their Western-style ceremony. Peng Zhiran smiled and beat Liang Mingchuan: "Brother, it is not easy for me to buy a handkerchief. You know, the word for handkerchief is Japanese You haven’t taught me how to say it, so it’s not easy for me to buy it by hand.” Then several people laughed.

Just like what you see on TV, Japanese weddings are simple yet dignified.There are a small round table for four people, a total of more than a dozen tables, and the guests are all dressed in dresses and waiting for the wedding to start with blessed smiles on their faces.The table with us is a pair of Chinese friends of Liang Mingchuan in Japan, who are from Hong Kong.There is no difficulty in communication, and they will act as translators for us, translating the words of the master of ceremonies to us.We appreciate this thoughtful arrangement.

In addition to the large screen in front of the auditorium, there are also projections on the walls on both sides. After the MC, a middle-aged woman standing in the corner of the auditorium, announced the opening, the VCR of the bride and groom began to play on the screen.In the camera, Liang Mingchuan and Masako were born, grew up, and met each other, in Japan, in China, and even took a group photo with me and Peng Zhiran.

At the end of the VCR, the audience applauded to welcome the bride and groom, invited the two to the rostrum, sat on the rostrum like a press conference, and then the wedding officially began.

The Japanese-style wedding is very simple, there is no performance by the bride and groom, and the master of ceremonies who stands in the corner and does not overwhelm the guests slowly proceeds with an appropriate rhythm, interspersed with the speeches of the officiant and the questions and answers of the bride and groom.The bride will also change two sets of dresses halfway, and then come to toast and take photos with the guests, or take some time for dinner.

The hotel's service is very, very good. As long as Masako stands up, a waiter will immediately kneel behind her and straighten her skirt. No matter where the bride and groom go, there will be a waiter in front of her to guide her.The photographers and videographers equipped by the hotel have been shooting with a very low sense of presence without disturbing the guests and the bride and groom.

Unexpectedly, at the wedding without performances, the groom Liang Mingchuan offered to give a gift to the bride. Everyone was surprised and guessed what it was, but Liang Mingchuan's incomplete and slightly jerky singing voice came from the auditorium Come.It turned out that he secretly recorded it and gave it to Masako.

Although we couldn't understand, we also deeply felt the love for Masako in his singing.Halfway through the song, I saw Masako wiping tears secretly, while Liang Mingchuan held her hand thoughtfully.

This is really a warm, solemn and beautiful wedding. In the part of thanking his parents, Liang Mingchuan read a speech thanking his parents in Chinese, saying that he was working hard outside alone, and his parents were old in China but could not be filial. He cried. , his parents cried, and all the domestic friends present and his classmates who were overseas students also cried.I have participated in so many weddings, this wedding is the one full of deep friendship.

Fortunately, Liang Mingchuan was a little funny at the end. He went to the dessert session himself, put on a chef's uniform and a chef's hat, and distributed desserts to everyone, and the atmosphere turned into joy again.

In the end, the photographer actually edited the live scene of the wedding that day in a short period of time. When the little faces with sincere blessings flashed in the camera, and when the song "Love を 込 め て Bouquet を" sounded, all the Everyone sincerely wished the exotic couple a happy marriage.

However, these are not the most touching me.

On the second day after the wedding, Liang Mingchuan and Masako invited me, Peng Zhiran, Liang's father and Liang's mother to go to Mount Fuji to soak in the hot springs.

Liang Mingchuan's parents should actually know about me and Peng Zhiran, but they never asked about it, nor did they express their disgust. They were also very happy to have two such good friends in China after Liang Mingchuan went abroad for so long.

The hot spring hotel in Mt. Fuji has a tatami room. In the evening, we played cards with Liang Mingchuan’s parents. We winked and invited Liang Mingchuan to move his futon to our room to reminisce about the years when we were in Nanjing Xingshui Tongpu.He came scratching his head, and Peng Zhiran and I told him about his love history with Masako at night.

Liang Ming said that Masako was alone in China when the magnitude [-] earthquake occurred in Japan. At that time, the two had just started dating, but they both had a good impression of each other, but Masako's parents in the United States called her every day to urge her to return to the United States.

He said: "It was a painful time. I liked her so much, but her parents insisted that she go back, and this was a reasonable request. I didn't want her to go back, but the situation in Japan was so bad at the time. You can't object because of her safety considerations, you have to know whether it's true to stay or not to stay, both of them are in pain, it's really heart-breaking." He looked at Peng Zhiran and said: "I can finally understand your back then. It's painful, what a dilemma! But fortunately, she stayed for me in the end, so I must protect her well!" After speaking, he nodded heavily towards the ceiling.

I was lying on Peng Zhiran's right, looking at Liang Mingchuan who was lying on his left with firm eyes, and Peng Zhiran's silly nodding thoughtfully, I was suddenly filled with emotion.

You see, love in the world is the same, no matter whether it is a man or a man, we have to work hard.

Only after hard work can we see the rainbow after the storm!