Inspirational life of rebirth

Tang Qinghong noticed that his father was looking behind him, so he smiled and said to him, "Dad, why don't you invite Uncle Jiang and Aunt Zhao to go out for dinner?"

Tang Minyi squinted at his son's joyful expression, and replied with a paralyzed face, "Didn't you already make arrangements? Why don't you ask for my opinion?"

That's what he said, but he took out his mobile phone to call Jiang Wei, and quickly contacted the time and place for dinner, and returned to the previous silence after dealing with the matter.

Tang Qinghong naturally knew that his father seemed a little angry, but he didn't know why he was angry.Just because he arranged dinner first and then later?It was too emotional and not at all like Dad.

So after returning home, while Ding Yu was talking to Qian Xiaotian and Tang Xinyan, Tang Qinghong sent his father out of the door and asked him in a low voice, "Dad, what's wrong with you today? Did I do anything wrong?"

Tang Minyi saw his son's eyes wide open with an innocent expression, and the anger and worry in his heart amplified instead, "Tang Qinghong, let me remind you not to get too close to Xiaotian and Mr. Ding. What's wrong with you recently? ...You know it yourself."

Tang Qinghong's body froze, half ecstasy and half panic in his mind.Dad actually cared about his entanglement, but he just pretended not to care, but in his father's eyes, was he really the kind of teenager who pestered him regardless of who he was?Or is Dad jealous?If so that would be great.

He aggrievedly denied his father's misunderstanding of him, "Dad, I'm not like that..."

Tang Minyi raised his hand to stop his son from continuing, saying, "Anyway, Dad reminded you, you must listen to it. I am your dad, and I will try my best to tolerate you and guide you. Others don't have to. You are still so young. Nothing is definitive, don't do things that you will regret. Life is your own, no matter how much dad helps you manage you, there will always be something that you can't control."

He watched his father turn around and was about to go downstairs, he grabbed his father's arm in desperation, and his voice became louder, "Dad, you have to listen to me, I'm not like that! I, I don't discriminate, anyone Anyone can! I am..."

Tang Minyi frowned slightly and turned his head, his tone became more severe, "Stop talking, this is outside the house, you have to learn to pay attention to the occasion. How old are you this year? Are you qualified to define yourself? What are you and what are you not? You can't figure it out at all!"

He shook his shoulders under his father's cold eyes, arguing for himself with all his might, "I, I know very well!"

Tang Minyi pushed his son's slender fingers away one by one from his arm. They turned white from too much force, so stubborn and childish.

"You..." He paused, as if hesitating for a moment, but then he continued resolutely, "You can say this when you are full."

Tang Qinghong stared blankly at his father mercilessly throwing him away from his back downstairs, while feeling sad for his father's ruthlessness, he couldn't help deliberating on his father's true intentions.Did dad just mean to give him hope?Or does it just mean not letting him fall in love before?

After entering the room, he kept wandering, and when talking to a few people, he always said the first sentence and forgot the last sentence. Ding Yu seemed to see something wrong, and asked him privately, "Qing Hong, what's wrong with you? Don't you have a girl you like? That's right, you should be enlightened, I was about the same age as you at that time, and I already had girls in relationships..."

He was bored in his heart, but his face turned red, and he looked left and right not wanting to admit it, "No...my dad won't allow it either."

Ding Yu smiled and thumped him, "What's wrong? The education in country A is so conservative. I have been your teacher, so I can teach you more about it. In fact, you can fall in love when you are old. Enjoy Youth. But we still need to pay attention to defensive measures, and the frequency should be controlled.”

Tang Qinghong felt a little awkward hearing it, and after thinking for a long time, he asked in a low voice: "Then will you marry her? That girlfriend of yours."

Ding Yu leisurely recalled his first love, "My first girlfriend, we broke up a long time ago."

Tang Qinghong stared at Ding Yu in disbelief, "Break up? Didn't you fall in love with her only because you wanted to marry her? Why do you want to be with her? Then you cheated her!"

Ding Yu was surprised by the seriousness of this half-grown boy, "It's just a relationship, and it doesn't mean that you will get married. I was only thirteen or fourteen years old at that time, and I didn't understand anything. Everyone liked each other and stayed together. Later, because I was not in the same school for further studies, we separated after a long time. She married someone else a long time ago, and I have made several girlfriends."

Tang Qinghong still didn't understand, "I didn't plan to get married, why did I want to be together? Can this be regarded as mutual liking?"

Ding Yu was taught embarrassingly by this kid, and his face became a little embarrassed, "Your view of feelings is quite conservative, as expected of your father. In fact, I really liked her at that time, but everyone is still young. Little, I didn't think so long-term, as long as we were happy and happy with each other, that's fine."

Tang Qinghong shook his head stubbornly, "This is not good. If I like someone, then I only want him for the rest of my life. No matter how good other people are, I don't like them either."

Ding Yu was shocked by the persistent light in Tang Qinghong's eyes. It seemed that this kid really had a goal, "Then are you sure she likes you? If she doesn't like you, what will you do? If she likes you now, she won't like you in the future What are you going to do? Qinghong, feelings are not that simple. One plus one equals two. There are many variables and obstacles, and there are many different fates. If you are too attached to a certain person, you will suffer Frustrated and failed."

Tang Qinghong is not so easily persuaded. He firmly believes that if he lives again and receives a gift from heaven, he will definitely get the person he wants.

"If he doesn't like me, I will try my best to become what he likes, so that he will like me one day; it doesn't matter if he doesn't like me in the future, I just like him all the time, if I don't do well, he will hate me I'm going to change it all up..."

Ding Yu felt that this child had a lot of problems, and seemed to be a bit paranoid, "It's not something you can do by trying to change yourself to make the person you like like you. You are too young to understand that feelings cannot be forced Sometimes you can only rely on luck when it comes to emotional matters. Some people you don’t like her, but she just wants to like you, and you can’t drive them away; Hate you. You have to learn to let go, if the other person is really not interested in you, you have to let her go and let her find her own happiness."

Tang Qinghong couldn't accept Ding Yu's advice at all, "He is the luck that God gave me! Since I like him, he can only like me! If he doesn't like me no matter what I do...then I still like him, I'll drive away other people who like him, but he's mine no matter what! If he leaves me and lives happily with someone else, I'll have no reason to exist, and my life will be in vain, you know ?!"

Ding Yu really doesn't understand why this good boy with a high IQ deviates from the track in terms of feelings, and is so outrageous, "Qing Hong...you are very irrational now, the person you like will be scared by you." Yes, you will only have the opposite effect."

Tang Qinghong's eyes were red, "I know... I hate it, I will try my best to control myself."

Ding Yu couldn't help having a headache for him, and began to enlighten him very seriously, "You can't calm down like this, and you can't control it at all. What kind of girl do you like? From your performance, she doesn't seem to like you very much. Logically speaking, Your qualifications are very good among boys of the same age. If you want me to help you, then you have to tell me about her character and how you get along. Teacher Ding has a lot of experience in love, and I will definitely help you you."

With a slight thought, he walked to the door and glanced at Qian Xiaotian and Tang Xinyan who were watching TV and playing games in the living room, and locked the door before returning to Ding Yu, "Okay...he is older than me A lot, he is already an adult, he is very traditional, very responsible, and he also cares about me. But...he doesn't allow me to confess to him, I don't know if he knows that I like him, he seems to be Thinking that I only have physical desires for him, but also caring about how I get along with other people, and warned me not to provoke others."

Ding Yu's face wrinkled when he heard that, "How much older than you? If the other party is really a traditional-minded person, first of all, your age is a taboo, and you are not yet an adult. If she responds to you, she will commit a crime. You say that she cares about you very much and has a sense of responsibility towards you, but she may only regard you as a junior or a younger brother. How could you fall in love with such an object? This kind of empathy phenomenon occurs because of the lack of maternal love since childhood, and I like women who are much older than myself."

Tang Qinghong rolled his eyes and immediately denied Ding Yu's speculation, "It's definitely not because of lack of maternal love, you can stop it. I just want to ask you, is it because he is jealous that he doesn't let me get close to other people?"

"This...it doesn't necessarily depend on your original relationship with her." Ding Yu became more and more worried as he thought about it, and asked him tentatively, "Qing Hong, don't you have a crush on a female teacher? Or the teacher next door?" The big sister from the neighbor's house?"

"It's not a female teacher! It's not a neighbor... Ding Yu, don't talk to me!" Tang Qinghong was normal in other respects except that his father would lose his mind.

Ding Yu rubbed his nose, and seeing Tang Qinghong's reaction to the "female teacher", he felt that he was inseparable, "Qing Hong, many people will have this complex. For example, for my old... For example, for myself A doctor or a close elder who has been together for a long time and admires and trusts each other. When they reach puberty, they will regard this person as an object of fantasy and admiration, but this is a temporary infatuation, not too much. For a long time, when you really grow up and mature, you no longer need to rely on this person psychologically, and the physical dependence will heal itself."

Tang Qinghong had to admit that Ding Yu's words sounded reasonable, if he was really just a boy lost in adolescence and impulsiveness.But he knew that it wasn't like that at all.The person he likes is the first love in his two lifetimes. It was the first time he experienced the torment and passion that cannot be found in love, and only then did he realize that all the time he had experienced before was wasted.

Really falling in love with someone turned out to be such a painful and sweet feeling, but he couldn't tell his father and Ding Yulai all the ins and outs.The secret he has lived for two lifetimes cannot be shared with anyone, so his seemingly empathetic obsession cannot be explained, and it is all the more difficult to control himself because of this repression.

He had no way to refute Ding Yu, so he could only look at him dumbly, with endless grievances and painful longing in his eyes.When Ding Yu looked at him like this, he felt goosebumps on his back. The child's eyes were so black that they couldn't see the bottom, as if he was pregnant with some shocking waves.

"I... the person I like is not a woman."

When Ding Yu heard Tang Qinghong say this sentence very clearly, he couldn't help but backed up a bit, and then he opened his mouth wide and his whole body petrified.

After several seconds of petrification, Ding Yu blamed himself for reacting too much, which would hurt this sensitive student and friend.

But Tang Qinghong didn't feel hurt. He just stared at Ding Yu resolutely, expressing that he was very serious about this matter without any flinching or hesitation.

Ding Yu quickly adjusted his facial expression, his mind was like a galloping horse, but he tried his best to speak gently, "You...you are not yet an adult, you can't be so sure."

Tang Qinghong smiled mockingly, "I'm sure, you don't need to remind me of this."

Ding Yu thought tremblingly for a long time before pointing his finger at himself, "The person you're talking about...isn't me?"

Tang Qinghong's whole body of courage was turned into a joke by this guy, and he really thought that anyone would like him, "Of course not! Don't worry, it's definitely not you!"

Ding Yu breathed a sigh of relief, scratched his head and sat up straight, "That's okay... I can't bear such a big responsibility. If it's really me, your mother will definitely make me disappear!"

Tang Qinghong tilted his head and curled his lips, "I'll only tell you about this, and don't let others know."

Ding Yu stroked his chest and continued to pant, "Of course!"

Tang Qinghong squinted at the other party's hopeless look, and went straight to the topic without hesitation, "Do you have this type of friend? A better relationship?"

Ding Yu looked at him with embarrassment, "Yes, yes...but I can't introduce it to you. You are only so old. Isn't this a crime?"

Tang Qinghong felt that Ding Yu was really good at making up his mind. Could it be that he looked so hungry, "Stop talking nonsense, I don't want other people. I just want to ask you, how do your friends deal with that aspect of emotional problems? ? Is there any difference between men and women?"

Only then did Ding Yu understand his purpose, and after thinking for a while, he persuaded him gently, "There is no difference, as long as it is emotional needs and communication, the method is the same. But you are still young, even if you have someone you like, you can Not sure yet..."

Tang Qinghong didn't want to hear the latter, but only listened to the former in his heart, "That's fine, I'm very serious, and I think very clearly, and I won't regret it."

Ding Yu looked at his eager expression, showing a somewhat helpless tolerance on his face, "If you really think clearly, you should not only think about your own needs. When you like someone, you have to think about him, do you understand? ?You keep saying that you like him, have you ever thought about his feelings? You are not yet an adult, he is so much older than you, if he really accepts you, no matter who takes the initiative, he will bear all the responsibilities, yours Parents know about this, they will definitely hold him accountable, even I...would think he was committing a crime. "

Tang Qinghong really didn't think about it carefully. He had a taste of falling in love with someone for the first time. The passion overwhelmed everything. He felt that love was just a matter between two people. I like you, you like me, or I want you , You want me to be so simple, unwilling and unwilling to suppress myself because of unnecessary concerns.But his father is not him...Ding Yu is actually quite right.

In the eyes of others and even his father, he is just a half-grown child who can turn around and correct anything he does wrong, but his father is a mature man and the father of two children. Enough to ruin all of Dad's hard work.If Dad really accepts him, he will bear double moral responsibilities, not to mention as his father, but just as an adult man who is courted by a minor of the same sex, it is inconceivable to let him be entangled and still accept it.

His short silence made Ding Yu feel that the persuasion had an effect, and he continued to remind him gently but persistently, "If you really like him, you must learn to deal with your feelings in an adult way. We are educated in a civilized way." Humans are not wild beasts. Even herds of beasts have their own civilization and rules, and they cannot live alone without being separated from the herd. Honghong, can you control your impulse and really think about the people you like?"

He bit his lower lip in pain, but still nodded slightly, and then looked at Ding Yu very frankly, "I can... you can teach me. You have so much experience, I hope to hear more from you .”

Ding Yu's mood is not getting better, it seems that this student is very deep in this first love.The normal situation should be to retreat in the face of difficulties, and give up the idea after crying in confusion. Tang Qinghong is so different from other children, and his stubbornness may not fade away no matter how much he advises.

They talked a lot, until Tang Xinyan knocked on the door to call for his brother, Tang Qinghong let Ding Yu go for a while, and put on a doting expression to play with his sister.