you are so tender

After getting into the car, Xu Man didn't cry.She leaned against the back of the chair, as if she was leaning closer than ever, her body was motionless, her eyes didn't look at anything, and she didn't blink for a long time. Tears fell silently, drawing two parallel lines on her narrow and pretty cheeks. tear stains.Tian Xiaohui took out a few tissues and handed them to Xu Man sideways. Seeing that Xu Man didn't respond, she waited quietly with the tissues in her hand, and didn't raise her hand to help her wipe.

"Xu Man, cry for a while." Tian Xiaohui said.Maybe she felt that such tears should be shed, and she was afraid of wiping away the tears instead of stopping them.After a while, seeing Xu Man raised his arm, Tian Xiaohui handed the tissue to Xu Man's hand.Xu Man wiped his face lightly, Tian Xiaohui stretched out one hand to wrap around Xu Man's neck, and stroked Xu Man's ears and hair with his fingers. "What should I do? Xiao Hui." Xu Man asked softly.

Tian Xiaohui couldn't see Xu Man's eyes, she could hear helplessness, but she didn't feel hopeless.

"Listen to me, Xu Man." Tian Xiaohui used the power of her fingers to signal Xu Man to turn her face, so that she could see hope in her eyes. "Now that you are back with your daughter, we must solve this problem." Tian Xiaohui said affirmatively.Xu Man knew what this question meant, but she didn't know how to solve it.There was indeed hope in Tian Xiaohui's eyes, but Xu Man's vision was blurred by excessive worry, and she did not see hope.On the contrary, Tian Xiaohui saw Xu Man's expectations for herself from Xu Man's eyes.

"We have to find a way to let you restore your mother's identity in front of Jiaojiao. You were her mother and you had to leave her. It's not that you don't love your daughter. On the contrary, you want to do it to love her better. Go back to mother." Tian Xiaohui said.

"The difficulty lies in how to be a mother again! Xiaohui." Xu Man's words clearly contained only difficulties.

"You must not be in a hurry, Xu Man." Tian Xiaohui said, "Although I didn't mention the difficulty, the few words I just said are more important than the difficulty itself. Is identity difficult for me?"

Tian Xiaohui's question suddenly woke up Xu Man.She realized that as a professional lawyer, she only considered the future and forgot the future when appealing.No matter how difficult the appeal may seem, there is only one difficulty in all appeals, which is the legitimacy of the appeal itself, that is, can you really ask for it?And that Tian Xiaohui, who seemed to grow out of love, had already told her that it was okay.Since it is possible, there is no difficulty that is too great to be overcome.

Xu Man felt that he had regained his courage from Tian Xiaohui.Said: "Let's go, Xiao Hui."

"Let's go directly to the cafe, ask for a private room, light meal and coffee, okay?" Tian Xiaohui suggested.

Xu Man immediately agreed.At this moment, Tian Xiaohui opened the car door and stood outside the car, "Xu Man, you can drive when you get back. I want to take a break." Then the two switched positions. Along the way, Xu Man focused on driving, while Tian Xiaohui focused on Xu Man.Xu Man stared ahead, and at the same time noticed that Tian Xiaohui's eyes were browsing her body.

"I'm driving! Xiao Hui." Xu Man said.

"I know. It's driving very well. Continue." Tian Xiaohui replied.

"How can I drive you like this?" Xu Man said.

"How am I?" Tian Xiaohui asked back.

"Don't keep looking at me, can you show me the way?" Xu Man begged.

"People like to see you, don't they?" Tian Xiaohui replied.

"All right, all right, my..."

Xu Man suddenly found that the two had reenacted the scene when they set off in the morning, but they had exchanged roles.When he couldn't see Tian Xiaohui's eyes, Xu Man saw hope in his deep affection.When they arrived at the cafe, the two of them had dinner, the waiter cleaned up the dining table and brought a pot of Blue Mountain coffee, Tian Xiaohui found that Xu Man, who was sitting opposite her, had turned back into that elegant and concise exquisite beauty.Although they discussed the same topic again, they didn't have the sadness that they thought they would inevitably carry.

"Although there is no norm for a standard husband, in the sense of marriage, Yang Guangzhi is a qualified husband." Xu Man resumed the topic with such opening remarks.

"You're right." Tian Xiaohui said, "Yang Guangzhi is at least a hundred times stronger than Ding Jianjun. In comparison, Ding Jianjun is a hooligan at all. If it is a misunderstanding that you married Yang Guangzhi, then my marriage with Ding Jianjun is nothing short of A complete mistake."

"However, Xiaohui," Xu Man said, "you hate Lao Ding so much because of his coquettish style and betrayal of marriage. As I said, from a legal point of view, marriage is also a kind of contract. However , the contract of marriage is different from ordinary commercial contracts, and it is also different from any non-commercial agreement. The main difference is that the two parties to the marriage, that is, they are the parties to the contract, and they are also the subject of the contract. Commercial contracts of course involve people, but People are materialized by the terms of the contract. Marriage also involves things, such as the bride price in the old days and the notarization of property in modern times, but no matter who gets married, it is a union with another person, not a contract with property. Therefore, marriage is precisely the object of the contract Personalization is the person itself. I don’t know if this comparison and distinction is accurate. Maybe what I said is a bit convoluted. To put it bluntly, marriage requires husband and wife to be loyal to each other. A person's honesty, frankness, fidelity and trustworthiness. And because all these require moral fashion and human meaning, marriage is regarded as sacred."

"I think what you said makes sense. But please forgive my confession, I don't know what you want to express? Xu Man." Tian Xiaohui said.

"Can I have a sip of coffee first?" Xu Man asked Tian Xiaohui, and matched his request with his eyes.Tian Xiaohui got a joyful surprise from Xu Man's eyes. She never thought that Xu Man, who was about to analyze everything, would maintain such a passionate gaze.Xu Man continued: "So according to the standard of marriage, Yang Guangzhi is a good husband and Ding Jianjun is a bad man. But, Xiaohui, what about 'love'? Tell me where is the love? The standard of marriage or those requirements are based on marriage In itself or based on what? If it is based on the marriage itself, that is, those requirements constitute the terms of the contract or are regarded as self-evident commitments, then, regardless of whether there is affection between the husband and wife, as long as the marriage contract survives, the parties must be honest and reliable, right?"

"Yes." Tian Xiaohui said, and at the same time she had a premonition of the upcoming big fork.

"That is to say, whether you love or not, you should be chaste and loyal, right?" Xu Man asked again.

"Yes." Tian Xiaohui replied, and thought it was the only way to answer.

"Xiao Hui, what about 'love'? Isn't it because of love that people enter into marriage hand in hand?" Xu Man asked again.

"Yes. Love should be both the cause and the result." Tian Xiaohui replied.

"Then, I have two questions." Xu Man said, "First, if marriage is based on love, what standards or requirements does it need marriage as a contract? Xiaohui, you said that love is concrete. I I feel more and more that your one word speaks to the truth, one sentence is better than all love hymns, although love is worthy of all praises. Since love is specific, if you really love someone, no one will ask you, you will naturally and inevitably love you The one you love, is loyal, honest, and loyal, because love is inherently higher than morality. And morality, in a sense, is just to restrain people. Even if you don't love, you can't hurt others. You agree with me Say it?"

"I can't disagree." Tian Xiaohui said.

"Then let me talk about the second question." Xu Man said: "Since love comes with a high degree of matching and does not require commitment, why must there be standards and requirements for marriage? Because it is a contract, a legal procedure, and a social system. Part of it. Is it true? In fact, it’s just an excuse. No wonder Marquez used Dr. Urbino’s mouth to say that marriage can only exist by God’s infinite mercy [Note 1], because human nature is not reliable at all, if there is no Constraints, marriage and the family built on it will be fragile and unsustainable. The problem with marriage is that ideally it should be based on love, but the ideal is full and the reality is helpless. It often breaks away from love. Some have been with Love is irrelevant, some fall by the wayside, some are misunderstood, some deceive themselves, some are in a bad mood. What does this mean? It means that marriage is not based on love at all. This is my conclusion.”

"Is this too pessimistic? Xu Man." Tian Xiaohui asked.

"No. Not at all. Recognizing this will be of great benefit." Xu Man replied.

"I would like to hear the details." Tian Xiaohui was really curious.

"Please allow me to state one or two things." Xu Man said: "First of all, people will be more in awe of marriage, at least they will treat marriage and family with a serious contract spirit. Xiao Hui, think about it, how many people get married in the name of love, but It is just greed for power and glory, and how many people use not love as an excuse to indulge their betrayal and shamelessness. Secondly, people know the moral bottom line of marriage, so they have the opportunity to integrate love into it. Marriage can be without love, but it does not Reject love, on the contrary, love is what it desires. If people can enter marriage because of love, it is the icing on the cake, even if it is lost in the morning. Finally, people can start an open-minded life by seeing the essence of marriage. For example Homosexuality is not accepted by the existing forms of marriage, it’s okay, we hope it can be accepted, because lesbian love needs social recognition and institutional protection, but if it is not possible for the time being, we just don’t want it, it’s nothing special, it was originally It's not love, we just want to give it love."

"I like it. I want to give you a thumbs up." Tian Xiaohui said excitedly, "This analysis is really hearty! Xu Man, if it wasn't in public, if it wasn't as you said, the secular system still cannot accept homosexuality, I am now I just want to kiss you, I really want to feel the exquisiteness on your lips. Tell me, can I just love your lips?" Tian Xiaohui curled her lips, "Actually, I want to say that just your lips are worthy of my love Your life."

"Xiaohui, I'm so moved. Your grotesqueness really breaks through the sky." Xu Man used similar expressions from Tian Xiaohui in the morning.

"But, Xu Man, we didn't want to discuss this issue, did we?" Tian Xiaohui thought of Xu Man and Jiaojiao.

"The conclusion of the discussion is a big premise, but it's a bit big." Xu Man said.

"Then should we proceed from the main premise and continue to solve the problems we want to solve?" Tian Xiaohui said.

"Of course. However, with this major premise, I seem to be less anxious, and I begin to think that we will find a solution to the problem." Xu Man replied.

"I believe in you, Xu Man. Besides, don't you still have me? When you charge into battle, I will go." Tian Xiaohui seemed to express her position at the swearing-in meeting.

"I'm so tired of talking! I want to rest for a while. I'm very excited again, how about another pot of coffee? I'll go to the bathroom first." After Xu Man finished speaking, she stood up.

"I think the coffee is free, let's order a fruit plate." Tian Xiaohui said.

"Okay. Listen to you." Xu Man walked out of the private room.

When Xu Man came back and sat down, he heard Tian Xiaohui say: "You have left Yang Guangzhi and Ding Jianjun with such a long story. But there are two of them, one is our daughter's father, and the other is our son's father." Father, I can't lose it, I'm afraid I have to pick it up."

It was the first time Xu Man heard that Tian Xiaohui used "we" in the personality of the two children instead of distinguishing between you and me. He felt warm in his heart and felt a sense of responsibility for sharing weal and woe.And she suddenly realized that our two children are more than just a question of Jiaojiao admitting their mother?After all, Yang Guangzhi angrily severed her mother-daughter relationship with Jiaojiao because he filed for divorce for no reason.She knew it was not for no reason, but because she did not confess her sexual orientation to her husband at the time. What if she did?Will it bring disaster to Chi Yu, so that Tian Xiaohui and we lose our son?Thinking of this level, Xu Man's heart tightened, and the worry that was driven away seemed to come back again.

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[Note 1] Marquez "Love in the Time of Cholera", translated by Yang Ling, Nanhai Publishing Company, first edition in 2012, 239 pages.