love letter to summer

Some photos of artists came to Ye Ji's mind, and he suddenly understood a little bit. At the time when his parents were children, male artists and female artists had completely different appearances. Sexual characteristics, but in their generation, the boundaries of gender began to blur. Long hair and eye shadow are no longer exclusive items for women, and short hair and muscles are no longer exclusive to men. Their generation has been exposed to this "neutral beauty" since childhood. ", so it is more acceptable, but the parents' aesthetics have been deeply ingrained, and it is really difficult for them to accept "neutral beauty" suddenly.

Ye Ma: "The so-called generation gap should be like this. After all, the social environment is always changing. People of different generations grow up in different environments, and the information they receive from the outside world is also very different. Everyone's 'values' will naturally be different. It is normal to have a generation gap, the question is how to deal with it.”

"I know that many children and their parents often have conceptual conflicts." Ye Ma said, "This is not a bad thing. In fact, it is a good opportunity for the two generations to communicate with each other and understand each other's generation. It's a pity , Many parents stubbornly believe that they must be right, and refuse to communicate with their children at all.”

Ye Ji couldn't help complaining, "Auntie Xia likes to say 'I'm for your own good'."

Ye Ma: "Haha, I want to tell Sister Mei this sentence, you are finished, and you don't want to enter her house again in your life."

Ye Ji: "=="

Ye Ma: "But having said that, you now despise your parents for being unreasonable. When you become parents, you will have the same virtue. At that time, you will start to think that your children are ungrateful. History is always surprisingly similar."

Ye Ji: "Mom, I think this phenomenon is very strange—since I was taught the 'unreasonableness' of my parents when I was a child, why didn't I reflect on whether I made the same mistake after becoming a parent, and instead blamed the problem on the children?"

Ye Ma: "I'll give you an example and you'll understand. But before that, let me ask you a question: If you were to send books to others, would you choose e-books or paper books?"

Ye Ji: "Paper book."

"why?"

"with honesty."

"Why e-books have no sincerity."

"E-books can be easily obtained online, but paper books need to be bought specially."

"The paper book cost you more trouble, so it is more sincere. The more sincere the gift, the better?"

"Yes."

"So if you have a kid who loves to read and you're going to give him a book for his birthday, are you going to give him a paper copy?"

"Ah."

"Do you think he'd be happier with a paper book than an e-book?"

"Yes."

"Why are you so sure?"

"Uh..." Ye Ji was speechless.

Ye Ma said: "Because you are happier when you receive a paper book than an e-book, and most of your friends are also like this, so you apply this logic to your child. But have you ever thought that maybe it's time for you The children’s generation, they were educated to tell them that they need to cut down wood to make paper, and paper books are not environmentally friendly. In fact, their generation has resisted paper books. What you think is precious, in their eyes, is ugly. As a result, when you gave the book to your child, instead of thanking you, he even lost his temper, and then you felt that he didn’t know what to do, so you were also very angry, and finally you had a big fight and had a good birthday There was a lot of trouble and they broke up."

Ye Ma smiled and said: "Do you understand now? Everyone lives in a narrow world. We look at others and the world according to our usual thinking, but most of the time, we are in Like the blind man feeling the elephant, we think we know a lot, but we don't know anything."

Ye Ji felt so enlightened that the top of his head was about to light up.

Ye Ma: "By the way, I just mentioned Xia Tang, I have some things I want to ask first."

Ye Ji nodded, indicating that he could ask.

Ye Ma: "Xia Tang likes you too?"

Ye Ji nodded, but immediately realized that just a nod is not enough to explain the whole situation, he added: "I think he likes me, but he didn't admit it himself."

Mama Ye raised her eyebrows. She seemed to have sensed a lot of information from this sentence. She asked, "Isn't Xia Tang gay?"

Ye Ji was a little surprised, he didn't know how his mother deduced it.

Ye Ji: "Probably not."

Ye Ma was silent for a long time, and Ye Ji seemed to be able to see many thoughts rushing through her mind like a storm, and those storms were still fighting each other, ebbing and flowing.

I don't know what she will say at the end?

Before Ye Ji could finish guessing, the storm in Ye's mother's mind was over, and she finally chose to be realistic and said: "Xia Tang may not choose you, he dare not."

A sap hit Ye Ji on the head suddenly, blinding him.Although Ye Ji already knew this point in his heart, Ye Ma suddenly said it with such certainty as if announcing an established fact, which made him feel like he was sentenced to death without even a reprieve.

"I know his parents will object." Ye Ji did not give up, and said, "But they are always family, and they will understand one day."

Ye Ma shook her head: "It's not just his parents' problem. Although Xia Tang looks carefree, he is actually very sensitive. He can easily feel other people's mood swings. You see, sometimes you frown and he will immediately Know whether you are angry, bored or sad; other people's words can easily affect his emotions. Sometimes we say a word unintentionally, and we may forget it after we say it, but he will not be able to do it for a long time because of this sentence. Forgive me."

"Xia Tang is different from you, do you understand?" Ye Ma said, "Even if the whole world doesn't like you, you can still live happily, but Xia Tang is different, look at the activities he usually participates in, Without exception, he needs to contact many people. Xia Tang likes to live in groups. He cares about other people's feelings very much and hates being alone. Only when the people around him accept him and agree with him can he find the value of his life. You do you understand?"

It seems so.

In fact, Ye Ji already had a vague feeling in his heart——if Xia Tang was really asked to make a choice, most of Xia Tang would not choose him, but Ye Ji has never been clear about the basis of his premonition. Now after listening to Ye Ma With these words, he was suddenly enlightened.

But it only made him sadder.

Ye Ma: "And your family values ​​are different. You are very independent and do not depend on your family. For you, it is not a problem for you to have no father or mother or no children at home. You can accept it with pleasure. But Xia Tang grew up in a very traditional family, and his own family concept is also very traditional. The family he really longs to have is a big and happy family with complete parents, a group of children, and happiness. If the family is incomplete, it will have a great impact on him. Big, I'm sure you can see what I mean."

Ye Ji fell on the back of the sofa and let out a long sigh. He felt that life was so difficult.