Re-enactment of Boyhood [Rebirth]

When Li Tongzhou went out, Jiang Min also arrived and was waiting for him outside.

Jiang Min was still wearing the work clothes of his work unit, and when he saw his son coming out, he immediately walked over and asked a few words in a low voice. Li Tongzhou was not feeling well, so he just shook his head or nodded, and talked to her briefly.Jiang Min had to be more careful, raised his hand to touch his forehead, and asked in a low voice: "What's the matter, what's wrong?"

Doctor Gao followed closely behind. After he came out, his attitude was always kind. He smiled and said to Jiang Min, "It's nothing, it's just a little stress reaction during the treatment, it's normal."

Jiang Min was a little worried, "Maybe he's tired, why don't I take him home first?"

Dr. Gao nodded and said, "Okay, if it's convenient for the parents to stay, I'd like to talk to you."

Jiang Min said: "Then I will send Xiaozhou to the car first, and I will be back later."

Li Qingcheng sat on the sofa and did not leave. He sat there and discussed a few words with Dr. Gao. The three sentences he said were inseparable from the matter of studying abroad. He was only worried about whether his son would be unstable in the next exam and fail the exam again. .

Dr. Gao said: "After consulting with your child today, I also took some questionnaires. In fact, this test has been done before. The questions on the questionnaire are very simple, and he answered them very well within the specified time."

Li Qingcheng didn't understand these things, he just thought it was the same IQ test as before, and he was dissatisfied: "He usually performs well, but when it comes to major exams, his performance on the spot is terrible. I lost all face and only went to a school like Chengnan."

Doctor Gao said: "Chengnan No. [-] Middle School is a pretty good school in the city."

Li Qingcheng said: "Based on his grades, I originally arranged for the Provincial Experimental Middle School. I don't know what happened. He was usually doing well, but his score was so much lower in the last exam! His grades in the three years of high school have recovered. I lost the previous stability, but this time in the college entrance examination, I saw that he was going to make old mistakes again, especially this time I wanted to send him to study abroad, so I specially hired a famous teacher to tutor him, and it was just a few mock questions, which was terrible."

Dr. Gao listened patiently, nodded and said: "Adolescence, anything is possible, and he may be different from other children, the situation is a bit complicated."

"What do you mean?"

"I remember when you brought him here for the first time, I took an intelligence test. Your child's IQ is above the average level. Generally speaking, such a person will have good future achievements, but if he is guided by others in adolescence It’s easy to go astray.”

Li Qingcheng frowned upon hearing this, "You mean he has problems with his friends? But he doesn't know a few classmates, only one or two."

They were chatting, Jiang Min came up in a hurry, sat aside and listened, with anxiety on her face, worried about her son's affairs.In fact, in the past two years, she feels that her son has no problems. He has made friends at school and his grades are good. Apart from not being talkative, he is a very perfect child.It's just that her husband is always dissatisfied, he cares too much about face, more than he loves this family.

Dr. Gao did not continue but changed the subject and talked about his profession, "Today I gave him some questionnaires. I have done this test questionnaire before, and I have done it more than once. The answers your children answered Exactly the same as before."

Jiang Min asked: "Is this not good?"

Dr. Gao shook his head: "It's very bad. It is impossible for a person to answer questions with the same mentality all the time, so the answers are absolutely impossible to be completely consistent. So his answer, in my opinion, shows that he is lying. It's not a very good trend."

Jiang Min froze for a moment, subconsciously denied: "Impossible, although Xiaozhou doesn't like to talk, he never lies."

Dr. Gao said: "We generally call this condition selective mutism. The reason for reluctance to speak is usually anxiety, which is a kind of mental illness."

Li Qingcheng frowned slightly, he couldn't help but feel dissatisfied when he heard the word "illness", it seemed that his child had some problem and it was not normal.

"When feeling anxious, there may be confrontation, avoidance, or rigid reactions, which will show confrontation. Our treatment plan is to first find out the environment that is prone to anxiety, and then use corresponding strategies to encourage children to learn to relax." Dr. Gao said , "especially in the teens and adults, who are influenced to make social mistakes."

Jiang Min said: "You mean, Xiaozhou was excluded in school?"

"This possibility cannot be ruled out. Of course, in today's consultation, I have heard that he has mentioned a good friend who may have a relationship beyond friendship. Of course, girls who have too close relationships during adolescence are generally girls. In some cases It’s also normal for a boy, and his parents need to pay more attention to his friendship after returning home.” Doctor Gao showed his iconic smile again, as if what he said was not a big deal.

The expression on Li Qingcheng's face froze immediately.

Before Jiang Min heard it, she wanted to ask again, but was quickly scolded by Li Qingcheng. Li Qingcheng said with an ugly face: "Stop talking, don't you think it's not embarrassing enough!"

Dr. Gao waved his hand and said, "Mr. Li, I can understand your feelings, but 'homosexuality' is a mental illness, it is not a shameful thing, and there are cases of cure, it is not a big deal."

Li Qingcheng lowered his voice and asked about his treatment.

Dr. Gao said: "I know a professor who is an expert in this field. He has opened a treatment clinic. The drug therapy and cognitive therapy for correcting behavior are both effective. You can try it."

Li Qingcheng frowned, and asked, "Is the effect quick?"

"It's hard to say, it depends on the individual's situation, but there is closed management over there, I suggest that you can observe the child's usual situation first, after all, the college entrance examination is coming soon, after the exam is over, you can consider sending it for treatment. "Doctor Gao said, "Don't worry, this treatment center has a cooperative relationship with the provincial hospital. It is a separate nursing institution separated from the Department of Neurology. The price is slightly more expensive, but the effect is very good."

Just as Jiang Min came to her senses, her face was pale, her lips were tight and she didn't speak, only her eyes couldn't focus. She couldn't believe it, but she didn't want to send her son for treatment, "If, if not..."

Dr. Gao turned to look at her, "Of course, this is also a choice. Children with high IQ are usually perfectionists and have strong self-preferences. We assume that the worst consequence will be social withdrawal, unable to I don’t need to talk more about integrating into society, right?” He spread his hands, “Your parents are the ultimate guardians and also his family members, so they should play a positive role in guiding him.”

There was cold sweat on Jiang Min's forehead, she said with difficulty: "I think it's better to go back and have a good chat with the child and listen to his opinion."

Dr. Gao analyzed some cases with them. Without exception, they were all "cured" in that nursing home. He even took out some photos and persuaded them: "Look, the children in these photos How close they are to their parents. It’s because they know that their parents have helped them through a hurdle in life, and the relationship between the whole family has become closer. They are grateful to their parents in their hearts, and they can also understand that their parents do these things for their own good. .For example, this 14-year-old boy who was treated for Internet addiction was discharged from the hospital in two months, and now he is very obedient to his parents..."

Jiang Min listened absently.

Li Qingcheng was listening to those very seriously. He looked hesitant, and before leaving, he asked Dr. Gao for a business card of the nursing home.

On the way back, Jiang Min discussed with Li Qingcheng: "I don't think you can just listen to what Dr. Gao said unilaterally. When you go back, don't blame the child first, but talk to him slowly, or let me talk to him. ?”

She wanted to protect her, but Li Qingcheng didn't know what he was thinking, he just nodded perfunctorily, turned his head to look out the car window, frowned and said nothing.

Even with such an attitude, Jiang Min was relieved.

When he got home, Li Qingguo went into the bedroom without saying a word.

Jiang Min poured a glass of fruit juice, took it to Li Tongzhou's room door, knocked on the door, and opened the door after hearing a promise from inside.

Li Tongzhou was studying in the room, with his mobile phone aside, when he saw her come in and yelled mom.

Jiang Min gave him the juice. She had already thought about it on the way. If there was one person who had a close relationship with Li Tongzhou, it would only be Guo Jingyu.She sat aside and asked in a low voice: "Xiaozhou, how are you and Jingyu...how are you?"

Li Tongzhou said: "Very good, what's the matter?"

Jiang Min is engaged in scientific research. He stays in the laboratory all day and doesn't know how to communicate with the children nowadays. He was a little cautious for a while, "That's right, I haven't seen him for a long time, I want to ask."

Li Tongzhou said: "He just came here a few days ago."

Jiang Min: "Oh, is that so?"

"Well, he has a professional qualification certificate from Tsinghua Academy of Fine Arts."

Jiang Min was a little surprised, and she dispelled more than half of her doubts about Guo Jingyu for a moment. She still had old ideas, and always felt that children with puppy love, whether they were boys or girls, would have some impact on their grades. She jumped from the bottom one to the top three in the school, which really surprised her. "Jing Yu is so good. It seems that he has been studying very hard recently. Are art students getting lower grades in cultural subjects?"

Li Tongzhou said: "Yes, it's more than 200 points lower."

Jiang Min said with emotion: "That's great, it's really worth celebrating to be able to go to such a good school."

Li Tongzhou was silent for a moment, and said to her: "Mom, I don't want to study abroad, I want to stay in China, I already have a promising school."

Jiang Min actually heard her son talk about this issue once or twice before. She sighed and persuaded in a low voice: "Actually, your father is doing it for your own good. He thinks that you will have a better future after you go out for a few years."

Li Tongzhou said: "But I don't like the school and major he chose."

Jiang Min suddenly remembered the "lying" that Dr. Gao mentioned, she carefully observed Li Tongzhou, and asked: "Xiaozhou, is it because you don't want to go abroad to study, so your father asked you to do mock exams on purpose the few times before?" Poor exam? In fact, mother knows that you don't like to change the environment, and I think the country is very good, otherwise, you should take the exam well, as long as you can..."

Li Tongzhou looked at her quietly, and Jiang Min suddenly felt less confident. She felt uncomfortable, her eyes were sore, and she always felt that the children did not owe them anything, but were always doing what they asked. It was their parents who asked too much too much.