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"Grandpa, I just think those classmates who said Li Huan did something wrong. They shouldn't say classmates. They think Li Huan is strange, maybe Li Huan also thinks they are strange."

The old man Xiaoyao listened to Xingbu's speech with great interest, Xingbu was a little angry, but the old man Xiaoyao felt that Xingbu was cuter and more humane than before, and he was no longer just a person who could only discuss high technology with others Little inventor.Perhaps, "happiness" is a seed that will bloom beautiful flowers when it is sown in people's hearts.When Xingbu inadvertently asked Xiaoyao what happiness is, everything began to change quietly.

Xingbu asked the old man Xiaoyao how he could help Li Huan. The old man Xiaoyao said that caring for others requires a passionate and sincere heart, but a sincere heart is not enough.

"Isn't it enough to have a sincere heart? Then what should we do? Grandpa, I remember you once told me that we must be sincere in treating friends. Why do you say that only a sincere heart is not enough?"

"Xingbu, care for a person in a way that he can accept."

"The way he can accept?" Xing Bu was a little confused, what kind of way can others accept?

Xingbu asked the old man Xiaoyao to further clarify in detail. The old man thought about how to tell Xingbu in a simple and easy-to-understand language, so that the children can accept it and feel that it is not so obscure.He thought for a while and said, "Xingbu, grandpa asks you, if you are thirsty now, what do you need most?"

Xingbu said: "Of course it's water. I'm thirsty, so of course I want to drink water."

The old man Xiaoyao said: "That's right, if someone handed you a glass of water at this time, what would you think of him?"

Xingbu said: "I will think he is very good, and I am very grateful to him, because I need this glass of water. After I drink this glass of water, I will not be thirsty. He has solved my problem."

The old man Xiaoyao said again: "What if someone gave you an apple at this time?"

Xingbu said: "It's not bad. Although an apple is not water, it is a fruit. It contains water and can quench thirst to a certain extent."

The old man Xiaoyao was very satisfied with Xingbu's answer, and he continued to ask: "What if someone gave you a piece of cake at this time? What would you think of him?"

Xingbu told the truth: "I don't like it. The cake can't solve any problems. I'm thirsty. If I eat the cake, I will be even thirstier. Grandpa, who would give someone a cake when he is thirsty? If there is such a person If so, isn't his brain short-circuited?"

The old man Xiaoyao said: "Child, don't jump to conclusions, just think carefully, and grandpa will come to ask you. Xingbu, if you are really thirsty, there are three people, one will give you a glass of water, and the other will give you an apple." , a cake for you, who do you think is the best of the three, and who is the worst?"

Xing Bu said: "Of course the one who gives me water is the best. I am thirsty and need water the most. The worst is the one who gives me cake. Doesn't he know that eating cake will make me thirstier?"

The old man Xiaoyao said: "What if none of these three people know that you are thirsty?"

Xing Bu thought for a while and said, "If they don't know that I'm thirsty, it's better to be the one who gives me water."

The old man Xiaoyao said, "Where is the person who gave you the cake?"

Xingbu said: "...It seems that he can't be blamed, because he didn't know that I was thirsty, didn't know that I wanted to drink water, so he brought me the cake, and he just wanted to share his favorite cake with me."

The old man Xiaoyao smiled approvingly at Xingbu, Xingbu was indeed smart and a child could be taught.

The old man Xiaoyao said: "Xingbu, even if someone gives you a cake when you are thirsty, don't blame him, because he probably doesn't know that you are thirsty, he just wants to share the cake with you, you can refuse the cake , but you cannot refuse others to care about your heart."

Xingbu said: "Grandpa, I understand, but I asked you Li Huan's question, why did you ask me about cake apples?"

The old man Xiaoyao said with a smile: "Child, don't worry, Grandpa will ask you again, if these three people know that you are thirsty, what would you think of them?"

Xingbu said without hesitation: "Grandpa, the one who gave the cake must be a villain. He wants to make me thirstier."

The old man Xiaoyao said: "I can't say that your idea is wrong, but have you ever thought that the person who gave you the cake thought that the cake could quench your thirst?"

"Ah? No!"

Xingbu was completely dizzy. I don't know why the old man Xiaoyao made such a strange comparison, "Grandpa Xiaoyao, who would think that cakes have the effect of quenching thirst?"

The old man Xiaoyao said: "Xingbu, grandpa is just making an example. Of course cakes can't quench their thirst, but many people often use cakes to quench their thirst. There are not a few people who give cakes to others to quench their thirst."

Xingbu understood what Old Man Xiaoyao meant, and said, "Grandpa, do you mean that we care about Li Huan in the wrong way?"

The old man Xiaoyao nodded.Xingbu asked again: "Grandpa, where did we go wrong?"

The old man Xiaoyao said: "People need to care about each other, but they also need to keep a distance. People can't be infinitely close. It's good for you to help your classmates, but you also have to be careful. When it's time to help Help, care when you should care, and care for others in a way that others can accept. Grandpa can know that your class is a united class through listening to you talk about things on earth, and the 1303 dormitory of Class [-] and Class [-] is also a In the united dormitory, the classmates in your dormitory help each other, which is very touching. This is a good phenomenon, but there is one thing, grandpa thinks that what you and Hua Jinyun are doing is not very appropriate. Li Huan is not in the dormitory. You go to the dormitory. There is nothing wrong with looking for him, but Li Huan also needs time to get along with himself, if you interfere with him too much, he will shrink back even more. So you might as well keep a certain distance, this way, it is good for both of you to get along with each other."

The old man Xiaoyao said that not only Li Huan, but getting along with other people is the same. Keeping an appropriate distance is also the guarantee for the development of friendship. At the same time, knowing how to truly care for others is also an indispensable element for friendship.

"Truly caring for others, is caring true or false?" Xing Bu asked again.

The old man Xiaoyao said earnestly: "Yes, child, many people have done a lot of wrong things because they don't understand what others really need. They can't give others what they want, or what they give is not what others want. It is worse than not giving. Oops, kid, do you understand? Not all your good intentions will be accepted by others, or must be accepted, how many people are doing wrong things without realizing it?"

Xingbu seems to understand the words of the old man Xiaoyao. Xingbu, who has never had much contact with people, will be puzzled and confused when he listens to the words of the old man Xiaoyao. The old man said, it doesn’t matter if you don’t understand now. If you go deeper, some things will always be understood slowly.Don't keep thinking about things you don't understand. Thinking about it will only make you sad, and the matter will not be resolved.

Xingbu likes to get to the bottom of things. He will try his best to figure out what he doesn't understand. He seems to understand the "social withdrawal syndrome" that the old man Xiaoyao said, but it doesn't matter. He will rely on his own efforts to solve the doubts. , In addition, he will also find a way to help Li Huan, so that Li Huan can integrate into the group and interact with his classmates normally.

The old man Xiaoyao reminded and advised Xingbu that helping classmates is a good thing, but you must be careful, because too much is too late. The old man Xiaoyao also said that if you can’t help Li Huan with your own strength, you must rely on the strength of your classmates. Get up and help Li Huan. If it still doesn't work, you have to find the reason from his family.