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In order to get to know Li Huan, Xingbu used the star positioning search system to find Li Huan's information. According to the information, Li Huan is an ordinary primary school student in the third class of the fourth grade of Hope Primary School.Li Huan's father was an ordinary worker in a factory with a junior high school education, addicted to gambling and drinking, and ignored Li Huan.Li Huan's mother is a salesperson in a shopping mall. She has no bad habits, but has a bad temper and vanity.Li Huan's parents are at odds with each other. The mother pins all her hopes on her son, but she likes to manipulate her son and arrange everything for him. She thinks that everything she does is for the benefit of her son. , also blocked his way to growth.

"Grandpa, is that why Li Huan is unwilling to associate with his classmates?" Xingbu asked after learning about Li Huan's family background.

The old man Xiaoyao said: "I think it is very possible that Li Huan's current situation is inseparable from his own personality characteristics, family environment and personal experience. Li Huan is introverted, lacks the courage to express himself, and lacks confidence , coupled with the various difficulties encountered in school, it caused him to shrink back and avoid interacting with his classmates. If this continues for a long time, the consequences will be disastrous."

Xingbu still doesn't understand, Li Huan is Li Huan, his parents are his parents, why Li Huan is like this, parents and family are also responsible?

In order to make Xingbu understand more thoroughly, the old man Xiaoyao patiently guided him step by step: "Xingbu, you also hope that your parents can be by your side, and you also hope to have a complete family. Just imagine, if you have a mother , what kind of mother do you want your mother to be?"

Xingbu began to think about what kind of mother he wanted.His thoughts went back to the scene when he went to Hua Jinyun's house a few days ago with Hua's mother. Hua Jinyun and Hua's mother had a deep love for each other. A mother like my mother is gentle, kind, generous and virtuous, loves children very much, and takes care of them very much. Such a mother is very happy to be with her.

"Grandpa, but... I won't choose a mother like Li Huan's mother."

"Son, why?"

"I don't know, but I just don't like it. Grandpa, then again, how can I help Li Huan? He always doesn't play with us and stays with himself. How can he be happy like this? ?”

"So, this requires you to work hard, Xingbu, I have to say, you are different from before."

"Grandpa, what's wrong with me? Why is it different?"

The old man Xiaoyao said with a smile: "Child, don't worry. Grandpa said that you are different and have changed. It is a change for the better. You have learned a lot during the time you went to Earth."

Xingbu said: "Is there? I think I'm still the same as before."

Xingbu never noticed the change in himself, but the old man Xiaoyao clearly saw it in his eyes. In the past, Xingbu only knew that there was high technology, but he didn't know that there was warmth in the world. He used to only know how to explore high technology, but now, He will also be confused by emotions. In the past, he only needed high technology, but now he also needs relatives and friends. Xingbu didn't know that the childish nature he should have was quietly emerging like a dusty memory for many years. out of the water.

"Grandpa, I think we should talk about Li Huan. How can I help Li Huan?" Xingbu was at a loss for what happened to Li Huan. deal with us."

The old man Xiaoyao said: "My child, have you ever thought that it is the child named Li Huan who dare not associate with you?"

Xingbu said: "No, we are not monsters, and we will not bully him, let alone scare him. Why is he afraid of us? I don't understand."

The old man Xiaoyao said: "Grandpa thinks that it's not that Li Huan doesn't like you, nor that he doesn't want to associate with you. On the contrary, it's because he wants to associate with you that he avoids you, because he is afraid and afraid of becoming friends with you."

Xingbu was even more confused: "Grandpa, why? How did this happen? If you want to be friends with someone, shouldn't you hang out with him more? How can you avoid it? I still can't figure out what's so scary about it."

The old man Xiaoyao said: "Grandpa doesn't know Li Huan very well, but from your description, he should be suffering from social withdrawal."

Xingbu asked, "Grandpa, what is social withdrawal?"

The old man Xiaoyao patiently answered Xingbu's questions. It was rare for Xingbu to come back to Planet Xiaoyao today, so the old man Xiaoyao had a long talk with Xingbu, discussing topics that he hadn't talked about before.

The old man Xiaoyao said: "Social withdrawal is also social anxiety and social fear. Simply put, it means avoiding interacting with others. People with social phobia will feel very depressed and nervous when interacting with others, especially in crowds. In public places, they will be more uncomfortable, so they gain freedom by avoiding contact with others. However, this avoidance cannot make them truly happy. opportunities for self-growth.”

Xingbu asked again: "Then why does Li Huan suffer from social withdrawal? Why don't other people have it?"

The old man Xiaoyao said with a smile: "My child, not everyone will suffer from social withdrawal, and its formation factors are not single. It has its own personality factors, is also affected by the family environment, and its own experience. Various factors , may cause a person to have social anxiety. People with social withdrawal disorder do not dislike socializing with others, on the contrary, they like to socialize with others, but they are afraid that they will not be accepted, liked, or rejected by others. Therefore, I avoid dealing with others in various ways, and if I don’t communicate with others, I won’t make mistakes, and I won’t be disliked by others.”

Xingbu understands the theoretical aspects of social withdrawal, but he still doesn't understand a lot, "Grandpa, do you think it can be understood in this way, Li Huan is afraid of not being liked by everyone, but in essence he still hopes to be liked by everyone?"

The old man Xiaoyao said, "Not bad."

Xingbu said: "Then how can we be liked by everyone? Why does Li Huan avoid dealing with everyone? We all don't like him, don't accept him?"

The old man Xiaoyao said, "Xingbu, how do you feel about Li Huan?"

Xingbu recalled all his contact with Li Huan on Earth, and said: "To be honest, I think he is very ordinary. He doesn't play with his classmates, and he doesn't talk to people in our dormitory. We don't understand what he's thinking. What, I asked him if he had something on his mind, and he didn't tell us. As time went on, everyone paid less attention to him. Some students said that Li Huan is like an invisible person, which is dispensable, and some students They said that he was a freak, and some students said that Li Huan was very sinister, thinking about how to punish people every day, grandpa, I think what they said was wrong."

The old man Xiaoyao looked at Xingbu's righteous expression and felt that he was a little cute. He put his arms around Xingbu's shoulder lovingly and asked, "Oh? Xingbu, then tell me, your classmate What are you saying wrong?"

Xingbu said: "They're not Li Huan. How do they know what Li Huan thinks? Li Huan doesn't deal with or talk to everyone, but that doesn't mean he's insidious. He's a bit strange, but he's definitely not insidious. , besides, even if he is insidious, he didn't do anything bad, why did the students say that about him?"

Sometimes Xingbu really doesn't understand people on Earth, what does it matter to them whether others are good or bad?Why do you want to say that others are useless?It is too much.