Tiandi Baiju

"Catch his emotions."

Zhou Luoyang consulted for more than two hours, and this sentence impressed me the most.

In front of Uncle Fang Zhou, there is nothing to hide. First, he believes that doctors abide by professional ethics and will not talk about the situation of consultants and patients; I just hope to go back to my hometown to live, and there is no doubt about my professional level.

"The so-called catching his emotions means that no matter which phase your friend is in, you need to look at it calmly, understand him in his shoes, and regard all his 'abnormal' behaviors as normal during the illness, and It is not the emotional expression of our healthy people. You have to believe that those sudden emotions are not his intention."

Zhou Luoyang immediately said: "That's right, the most common thing he said was 'I don't want to hurt you'."

"Don't use words like 'the world is so beautiful, but you think about death, are you worthy of your parents? Are you worthy of your friends?' to increase his pressure. Don't repeat it to remind him that there are many beautiful things in life. Because the patient can't feel it, and when the depression occurs, you can't feel your love for life."

"Just need to accompany and understand, just like accompanying a patient with a high fever, knowing that he is in pain and suffering, that's enough. Once it changes to the manic phase, it is even more important to be calm and calm, they will unconsciously hurt You, once you notice something is wrong, give him time alone as soon as possible, and protect yourself. Don't have any arguments, and avoid secondary stimulation during a manic episode."

“After the manic phase is over for a short time, he will start to reflect and apologize to you. This introspection can easily bring him back into the depressive phase. Once he hurts you in the manic state, he will be very guilty. , I once had the idea of ​​committing suicide."

"Manic and depressive bipolar emotions are the process of constantly switching between the peak and the abyss. Think about it, don't you?"

Zhou Luoyang recalled Du Jing's usual behavior, and tried to repeat it to Doctor Fang. Doctor Fang didn't ask who it was, and simply taught him how to get along with this friend in extreme situations.

Zhou Luoyang thought for a long time, and Doctor Fang urged him again: "Also, you must urge him to take his medicine on time."

"Thank you, thank you." Zhou Luoyang asked with relief, "Can he fall in love? Will falling in love make him feel better and have more confidence in life?"

Zhou Luoyang knows that love feels like sunlight shining into the dim reality, full of hope for the future, beautiful love can change a person, and it is enough to change his life.

Dr. Fang said: "If the condition is not completely stable, it is not recommended to fall in love and get married. His attending physician must have reminded him of the specific situation, I think he should be clearer in his heart. Judging from his performance, I guess he I don’t want to fall in love, or even make friends.”

The implication was obvious, Doctor Fang was secretly reminding Zhou Luoyang not to meddle in his own business.

At the end, he added another sentence: "Besides, it would not be fair to his partner if he concealed his illness."

"That's right." Zhou Luoyang was ashamed. He never thought of hiding Du Jing's illness, but he always felt that Du Jing was a very attractive boy. Can accept everything about him.There must be girls in this world who are willing to accept everything from him because they love him.

"In short, don't make a fuss about his illness, and don't try to do anything to force him out of the state of his illness. What he needs most is companionship and understanding. As long as there is someone who can catch all his emotions, he won’t feel lonely and helpless, so you are very, very important to him.”

"...This patient needs to devote your whole life to accompany him." Dr. Fang said seriously, "Luoyang, I think this is the most difficult part. It is not difficult for a person to be patient for a period of time, but it is difficult What I need is to be patient in the long run, day after day, year after year. Many family members and lovers who come to me for consultation will inevitably have bad moods, but they are just "enduring". After a long time of patience, they will inevitably You can't control yourself. After all, we are all mortals, not gods. After a long time of unilateral dedication, you will easily lose control of your emotions, show impatient emotions, and even have a nervous breakdown and yell at him, which will cause harm to the patient. More harm. After establishing a deep emotional relationship, doing so is more deadly, it is better not to enter his life from the beginning."

Zhou Luoyang said: "I will definitely pay attention to self-defense."

Doctor Fang nodded and said, "Don't give up on him, you are a good boy, Luoyang." He took off his glasses, wiped his clothes, and said, "Your friend met you because of fate, and because of him A turning point in a lifetime. Hope he gets better, and if given the chance, let him bring his medical records."

Zhou Luoyang nodded and looked at his phone. Since this morning, Du Jing hasn't replied to his message.

Catch all his emotions.Zhou Luoyang recited these words silently. Before he went to university, he never thought that he would meet someone like Du Jing.

Pay unilaterally?Sometimes Zhou Luoyang felt that he had also learned a lot from Du Jing.Especially when it comes to dealing with interpersonal relationships, Du Jing's biggest life creed is that those interpersonal relationships that can not be maintained should not be maintained.

This is unreasonable in Zhou Luoyang's habits, but after getting along for a long time, he was surprised to find that there are many people in the world who really have nothing to do with him, and they are all just NPCs in each other's lives.It's better to spend time with people who are more important to you than trying to please everyone.

At eight o'clock in the evening, when walking home slowly in the cold wind, Zhou Luoyang really wanted to go back and say to Doctor Fang, "No, it's not a unilateral contribution, but he changed me."

In the past, if this time had been changed, Zhou Luoyang should have had dinner with some close friends.After ten o'clock, go to the nightclub, or go clubbing, drink some wine, and watch a performance.

But after getting used to being with Du Jing, after the long day was over, the first thing he did at night was to go home.

Zhou Luoyang was still lowering his head, checking to see if Du Jing had replied to the message. Du Jing hadn't said a word all day, which made him worried. This guy left by plane?Why don't you say anything?Chinese New Year is approaching, do you want to go back to school?

There was a car parked in front of the house, and Du Jing was sitting on a flower bed by the roadside.

"Du Jing!" Zhou Luoyang was startled.

Du Jing looked up at him, but didn't speak.

"Are you uncomfortable?" Zhou Luoyang never expected that he would appear without warning at this time.Zhou Luoyang stepped forward and knelt down on one knee, examined him, and looked into his eyes.

Du Jing still didn't speak, obviously a little tired, Zhou Luoyang didn't know what happened to him, but he had just consulted with Doctor Fang, and he decided not to question Du Jing.

"It's too cold outside, come in and say, come on." Zhou Luoyang took Du Jing's hand, opened the door, and led him in.

Du Jing was wearing a suit today, as if he originally wanted to attend some formal gathering, but in the end he came to Zhou Luoyang's house.

Zhou Luoyang opened the door, brought him into the house, let him sit down, found slippers, and changed them for him.

"How do you know my address?" Zhou Luoyang was worried, but he couldn't hide his joy at the reunion. He and Du Jing had been separated for a week, and he himself was a bit bored during this week.

Du Jing was silent, Zhou Luoyang asked and answered again, and said, "Yes, my home address is on the form."

Before the holiday, the hostess asked them to fill out a home address form.

"Have you had dinner?" Zhou Luoyang asked again, "I haven't eaten either. I'll go get something to eat."

Zhou Luoyang's family lived in a small three-story duplex villa. He hadn't been home for a long time, and the house was very cold. He turned on the floor heating, asked Du Jing to sit down, and said, "I'll go and park the car first."

"The turtle is in the car." Du Jing finally said a word.

Zhou Luoyang did not expect that Du Jing brought the little turtle from the dormitory. The plastic tank was placed in the passenger seat. He parked the car and opened the trunk. It was empty. Du Jing didn't bring any luggage.

He brought the tortoise in, put it in front of the warm window sill, and glanced at Du Jing, who was sitting on the sofa in a daze.

"Let's eat quick-frozen dumplings," Zhou Luoyang said, "I'll go shopping tomorrow, have you not eaten all day?"

Du Jing sat at the dining table, and Zhou Luoyang poured him a drink, turning a blind eye to his silence, just like playing with his mobile phone at school.Du Jing ate very slowly, but he ate a lot. He ate four-fifths of a large plate of dumplings.

"Tell me honestly," Zhou Luoyang said, "Have you not eaten for a few days?"

"Three days." Du Jing replied with a haggard expression.

Zhou Luoyang: "..."

Zhou Luoyang suppressed his aggressive mood and said, "Why don't you eat?"

"I don't want to eat." Du Jing replied.

Zhou Luoyang originally wanted to cook another packet for Du Jing, but considering that this guy hasn't eaten for three days, it's better not to eat too much at one time.

"There are glutinous rice balls in the refrigerator," Zhou Luoyang said, "If you're hungry in the middle of the night, make them yourself."

Du Jingting nodded, and Zhou Luoyang said, "You didn't bring a change of clothes? What happened to your shirt?"

When Du Jing sat at the dining table, Zhou Luoyang saw it when he was illuminated by the light. He leaned over and opened Du Jing's suit a little, and saw a lot of blood on the shirt.

"I cut it myself." Du Jing replied.

"Is it hard?" Zhou Luoyang guessed that Du Jing might have to self-mutilate because of his illness to make himself feel better.

Du Jing looked away and didn't speak, Zhou Luoyang said: "I happen to have it, let's take a shower. Let's sleep together at night."

Zhou Luoyang guessed that Du Jing probably suffered from insomnia for several days in a row.He found a paper bag from the closet, dug out new pajamas and underwear, handed it to Du Jing, and asked him to take a shower.

Du Jing said, "Don't tear it down."

"I bought them all for you," Zhou Luoyang said, "I saw a discount when I went out the day before yesterday, so I bought them by the way."

Du Jing showed a stubborn and puzzled expression, Zhou Luoyang said: "It's all your size, don't you know when you put it on?"

Du Jingting nodded and went to take a shower to change clothes. They were indeed bought for him.

"Luoyang!" Du Jing suddenly shouted in the bathroom.

Zhou Luoyang pushed the door open and went in, and asked, "Has the water stopped again?"

Du Jing was already taking a shower, turned his head to look at Zhou Luoyang through the glass door, and said, "Talk with me."

Zhou Luoyang didn't know whether to laugh or cry, he hung up Du Jing's suit and said, "Wait a minute."

Du Jing was drenched in hot water, as if he felt a lot better. Zhou Luoyang took his shirt, identified the washing method, found out the stain remover, and looked at Du Jing again, and found an inconspicuous wound on Du Jing's arm.

Zhou Luoyang didn't mention the wound, but asked, "What did you want to do today?"

Du Jing said: "There is a sorority in the department. I wanted to go and see it. After leaving the dormitory, I suddenly felt boring, so I came to you."

After questioning and answering, both sides were very calm. Zhou Luoyang turned his head to look at Du Jing. The glass door was filled with mist, reflecting his faint naked silhouette, which was very masculine and masculine.

"Is your hand alright?" Zhou Luoyang finally couldn't bear it and asked.

Du Jing didn't answer, but said, "What's your next plan?"

Zhou Luoyang: "I didn't make any arrangements, what about you?"

"Not going to Japan?" Du Jing said.

Zhou Luoyang said: "I didn't really want to go at first, so I have nothing to say to them."

Du Jing quickly came out of the wash, put on his underwear, and stood behind Zhou Luoyang to watch him wash his shirt.

"The manic stage is over," Du Jing said, "It's much better now."

Zhou Luoyang smiled in the mirror: "A few days ago, you were afraid of feeling uncomfortable, so you quarreled with me, didn't you?"

"I don't want to hurt you." Du Jingru said, took the cotton swab from Zhou Luoyang, pulled out his ears, and the two looked at each other quietly.

"Go and lie down." Zhou Luoyang said, "Let's go out and play tomorrow."

Zhou Luoyang's room was on the third floor. It was very spacious. They were lying on a big bed, Zhou Luoyang was lying on his stomach reading a book, and Du Jing was reclining in a daze.

When Zhou Luoyang raised his head, he inadvertently met Du Jing's gaze.

Sometimes Du Jing is like a big kid who can't take care of himself.Zhou Luoyang said in his heart.

"Aren't you going out to party with your classmates?" Du Jing asked again.

Zhou Luoyang said lightly, "Where are there so many gatherings every day?"

Du Jing: "Is your ex-girlfriend back?"

Zhou Luoyang turned a page of the book, raised his eyes and glanced at him: "What?"

Du Jing: "I want to see her."

Zhou Luoyang didn't know whether to laugh or cry, and said, "What are you doing seeing my ex? What on earth are you thinking?"

Du Jing: "I want to know what kind of girl is worthy of being loved by you, and who can kick you in the end."

Zhou Luoyang casually said, "That's why you want to remove my scar."

"I don't mean that." Du Jing suddenly became embarrassed.

"Her family immigrated." Zhou Luoyang turned over, holding the novel, and glanced at Du Jing from the edge of the page, "You are destined to be disappointed."

Du Jing didn't say anything more, Zhou Luoyang turned off the lights and said, "Go to sleep."

Zhou Luoyang never fell asleep. Nearly three years later, he lay on the big bed in the rented house, recalling bit by bit, that year was the first Spring Festival he and Du Jing celebrated, and they went shopping together on the [-]th year. Went to the market in Huizhou, bought pen, ink and red paper. Zhou Luoyang learned calligraphy when he was young, and he wrote good handwriting. He wrote Spring Festival couplets and "Fu" and "Spring" by himself.

Du Jing watched from the side, rolled up his sleeves, exposed the healed wound on his hand, and rubbed ink on Zhou Luoyang.

Fang Zhou asked Zhou Luoyang to go to the party, Du Jing drove the car outside the restaurant and sent him there, while he waited in the car.Zhou Luoyang didn't force him to participate, but after a while, Du Jing still sent him a message, wanting to come and have a look.

Zhou Luoyang introduced Du Jing to his high school classmates, saying that he was his roommate, and that night Du Jing got along very well with them, like a normal person, no one asked him about the scars on his face, and no one gossiped about him of origin.

Zhou Luoyang turned on the light again.

When the light is off and on again, the time and space of several years are fleeting as the light flies by.

Life is like a fleeting moment, all of a sudden.

He got up from the bed, put on his coat and slippers, and listened outside Deleyao's room for a while to make sure that his brother was fast asleep.Then he opened the door of the house and went downstairs, walked around the community under the street lights, and came to the garden.

As expected, Du Jing was still sitting on the bench in a daze. He was listening to music with headphones on, and when he saw Zhou Luoyang walking over, he raised his head slightly.

"Go up and sleep." Zhou Luoyang said, "Why did you choose to be in the garden? It's easy for me to find, I thought you weren't here."

Du Jing signaled Zhou Luoyang to look up. From the other side of the complex, he could just see the lights in Zhou Luoyang's room.

Zhou Luoyang pulled Du Jing up and let him go upstairs with him.

——Volume [-], Past, End——

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