my joann

Chapter 47

It's not that medicine can't be taken, it's just that it's not necessary. Ren Youning wouldn't suggest taking it.If it is really because of psychological barriers that life cannot go on normally, Ren Youning will definitely ask the other party to buy psychotropic drugs.

But Joan bought it secretly, and even told the doctor that he suggested it.

Joan's face was a little stiff, "When I was in college, I was usually the first to enter the classroom, and then sat in the corner of the last row, so as not to attract the attention of others, and was the last to leave the classroom after class. After one semester Basically no one talks to me."

"What if your teacher happens to call you in class?" Ren Youning asked.

"Then Joan will skip class." Joan replied.

Ren Youning was silent, he glanced at the time and knew that this time he could only go here.Before it was over, he started asking sideways about taking medicine.

"Is there anything interesting in life recently? Or something that must be done, but it is a little scary and troublesome." Ren Youning put down his pen and looked at Qiao An with a gentle expression.

Joan thought about it, and then said, "There is indeed one thing, from next week, I may go to the gym to work out."

"En." Ren Youning nodded.

"This matter bothers me a lot. I'm scared, but I have to go." Joan began to snap his fingers again.

Once again, Ren Youning handed the note with the anxiety formula to Qiao An, "Just in time, we can use this matter to practice it."

"How?" Joan asked.

"You will have such emotions, first of all, because you are very concerned about fitness, which can also be said to be what happens when you are exercising. It may be that you don't want too many strangers to notice you, or you are afraid of doing it yourself. It's not easy to be laughed at, right?" Ren Youning said.

Joan nodded.

"Another one is threat. There are several sources of anxiety. There are two that are suitable for you. One is the fear of the unknown, and the other is the fear of rejection and denial." Ren Youning said, "If you want to improve this situation, you must either Reduce your focus on this, or you reduce the threat."

"How exactly?" Joan asked.

"Reduce the level of attention. When you don't pay much attention to this matter, then you can be free from fear. Of course, you may think, how is this possible? How can I not pay attention to such a dangerous place?!"

Joan said, "Yeah, I can't help noticing this."

"So, I suggest you start with a sense of threat."

"In previous consultations, I once told you that 'distraction is power', where your attention is, you will focus. When you no longer focus on fitness, those accidents that will happen When you are up, then the possibility of triggering anxiety is reduced."

"I understand, just like when the image was guided before, you told me to concentrate on cleaning the windows, and then I really won't be afraid of those people in the room." Joan said.

"That's right, it's not just cleaning the glass. In the systematic desensitization treatment, in addition to letting you relax your muscles, I also tell you to focus on your breathing. This is also a diversion. Just like the fitness you will do next week , You divert your attention from strangers to sports, focus on your breathing, and experience the rhythm of every muscle in your body, then you have diverted your attention.”

"Turn your attention away from the threat and onto something that you feel safe with, and it will naturally reduce the threat and focus."

"Ah..." Qiao An's face suddenly became clear, and he buried his head in deep thought.

Ren Youning waited for him to digest, and then said, "Regarding threats, there are many causes of fear and anxiety, such as feeling powerless to the environment, such as too many changes in the surroundings, such as insecurity, the sense of conflict between the heart and behavior, The feeling of being on the verge of breaking down and all that."

Joan nodded and listened carefully.

"In the face of these, we have many ways to try to change." Ren Youning said, "If you think about it in the gym, what will happen at worst?"

"Worst..." Joan frowned.

"Yes, you can simulate the worst thing that can happen after you go to the gym, and tell me."

"There are many people I don't know..." Joan stammered.

"Then what will this group of people do to you?"

Joan thought for a moment and said, "I will make mistakes, they will see me, I will be watched, I will be talked about, and they will laugh at me...I will not know how to communicate with people, and they will think I am a weirdo...They will talk to me , I will not dare to open my mouth, I will feel physically uncomfortable, and I will faint..."

He shook his head suddenly, his voice choked up, and he gritted his teeth, "I'll be found..."

"What will be discovered?" Ren Youning asked.

Joan stared at his wrist, but said nothing.In the room, the music was still playing in a low voice, and the hot tea that had just been refilled gave off a few wisps of white smoke.Suddenly there were a few ticks outside the window, and Ren Youning saw through the cracks in the curtains that it was raining outside.

"He took me there. If I make a mistake, he will definitely find out." Joan said.

Ren Youning sighed softly in her heart, and then said, "Have you ever thought about telling your family about this?"

"Why did you tell them?" Joan asked.

"There are many benefits to telling them, why are you unwilling to tell them?"

"Do you know why for so many years, I never chose to commit suicide?" Joan asked.

Ren Youning shook his head.

"It's very simple, I don't want them to be sad." Joan said, "Suicide is not a simple thing, and many people have too narrow a view on it. I remember reading a sentence on the Internet before, what' you even committed suicide I’m not afraid anymore, so there’s nothing to be afraid of.” The person who said this seems very irresponsible to me, because the person who said this has no idea that there are many things that are more terrifying than death.”

Ren Youning didn't speak, he looked at Qiao An quietly, and told Qiao An with his eyes that he was listening carefully.

"This world has given me too many bad impressions, and I don't like it. But why am I alive? Because I know there are people who love me, and I don't want them to be sad. In the same way, I don't want them to know that I am sick. I hope they worry about me, I don’t want my family to worry about me every time I lose my appetite, every time I change my expression when I see a stranger, every time I sweat, afraid that I will get sick, afraid that I will feel uncomfortable.”

"Did I feel bad during those times? I did feel bad, but it was only me. If they knew, the pain would be multiplied and they would be with me. Why? Why let them be because of me Unhappy? I can't bear it."

"I can not let it go."

After Joan finished speaking, he lifted his knees up to the seat, hugged him in front of his chest, buried his head between his knees, and stopped talking.

Ren Youning didn't say a word. Looking at Qiao An like this, he had mixed feelings in his heart.In his industry, he has met all kinds of people, kind or full of malice.

People who need to see a psychiatrist will more or less have psychological disorders, and those bad things will be thrown to the doctor in one go.During the internship period, Ren Youning couldn't sleep for many nights, but fortunately, he had a good mentor to accompany him.

Up to now, Ren Youning is not afraid of maliciousness.But kindness is hard to be moved.

Especially when the subject was Qiao An, Ren Youning knew that he was not abiding by medical ethics, but after getting along for a long time, Qiao An was like a weed, unnoticed at first, but it spread all over the garden before he knew it.

Ren Youning is confident. Judging from Qiao An's trust in him, he will be able to subtly influence Qiao An to make Qiao An unable to leave him without knowing it.However, he is a doctor, and he still remembers how the word "medical ethics" is written.

Joan has someone he loves and someone who loves him, and they are a perfect match.

"Qiao An." Ren Youning patted him on the shoulder lightly, "If one day someone in your family encountered an irreversible illness or disaster, what would you do?"

"This question is not valid." Joan murmured, "They won't."

"Yes, this question is not valid, Qiao An, you are very smart, you understand what I'm talking about." Ren Youning said, "No matter what happens, you will definitely not abandon them, right? You will accompany them until at last."

Joan said nothing.

"Have you ever wondered why you did this?"

"Because I love them," Joan whispered.

"Yes, because of love." Ren Youning continued, "But what if they don't want your company?"

"I'll still be with you."

"Are you forced? Because you are family, you are forced to accompany them?" Ren Youning asked.

Joan raised his head, obviously a little angry because of this sentence, "No, no, I did it voluntarily, not because of our identities, just because I love them! How could you think so?!"

Ren Youning raised the corner of his mouth, "Then why do you think that way? Your family members think the same way as you do."

Joan was stunned.

"But...but..." He tried to refute, but suddenly realized that what he did was extremely unfair to his family, and his guilt was like a mountain, pressing down on Joan's shoulders.

Ren Youning didn't speak, he believed that Qiao An could figure it out.

"Anyway, I won't tell them." Joan finally said.

Although a little disappointed, Ren Youning still didn't say anything. During the treatment, it's not what the doctor said, he would do what. Everyone has their own ideas. Ren Youning just opened a door for them. Come on, it's all personal.

In fact, Ren Youning would prefer to meet someone who has his own ideas. If he listens to everything, then the other party will not be able to grow in personality.

Ren Youning has always believed that it is necessary to help them solve their problems in behavior, but cognitively and psychologically, they must learn to grow on their own.

It is better to teach a man how to fish than to give a man a fish. He cannot accompany everyone for a lifetime. When the obstacles are eliminated, their relationship will end.He can only help the other party find a way of self-improvement within this limited time.

When the time came, Qiao An packed up her things and left Ren Youning's house.After Qiao An left, Ren Youning was the only one left in the huge room.

He turned off the speaker, looked at the empty room, and suddenly felt a little lonely in his heart.

After Qiao An went out, he realized that it was already raining. He didn't bring an umbrella, so he ran out of the community quickly, hoping to hail a taxi.

The rain was heavy, blurring Joan's eyes.

But when Qiao An ran to the door, his eyes were obviously obscured by the rain, but he suddenly found the person standing quietly in the crowd.

He held up an umbrella and looked at himself in the transparent water curtain formed by the rain.

It seemed that nothing could take him away, and nothing could divert his attention. The only thing he could see was himself.

The author has something to say:

Lu Yihang: Hmph.

Joan: What's wrong?

Lu Yihang: Without me again!Not even a name!

Joan: Then who was standing in the rain at the end? !frightened.

Lu Yihang: He is the most handsome person in the world.

Notes of Lu's Beloved Wife 47

Nothing can stand in the way.