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Chapter 45

Before going to bed, Lu Yihang put his arms around Qiao An and said, "By the way, An An, you can come to my company to find me tomorrow afternoon. After I get off work, we will have dinner and then go to the gym."

"What?" Joan turned his head suddenly, "Going to your company? Fitness?"

"Yeah, didn't you always want to exercise? You didn't go because of the National Day, and now you can start." Lu Yihang raised his right hand, pinched Qiao An's earlobe and gently kneaded it.

Joan was unwilling, but he didn't know how to refuse. After thinking about it, he said tactfully, "I have a lot of things on my hands during this time, and I may not have time..."

"You can't work all the time. Sitting in front of the computer all day is not good for your health." Lu Yihang said, "Fitness doesn't take long. It really doesn't take long for an hour or two, plus eating."

"Uh..." Well-founded, without flaws, when Qiao An faced Lu Yihang, he always didn't know how to write the word "rejection", but the span of going to Lu Yihang's company was too big, exercising in the gym was like breaking through his bottom line .

"I'm really busy these two days..." Joan said weakly...

"Then next week, go next week." Lu Yihang let go, "You can't make excuses next week, I think your shoulders are going to be stiff." As he said, he squeezed Qiao An's shoulders hard.

"Hiss..." Working at the desk for a long time really made his shoulders extremely stiff, and sometimes it hurts even to move after sitting for a long time.

"Look, I can barely pinch it anymore, it's much harder than those 'muscles' in your arms and abdomen." Lu Yihang joked.

Qiao An was sore from being pinched, but somehow felt very good, and the expression on his face was particularly indescribable.

"Is that okay? I'll go next week." Lu Yihang said.

"Let's talk about it next week..." Joan tried to get away with it.

"Ah..." Lu Yihang suddenly put his hand on Qiao An's stomach, squeezed it and said, "It's so soft."

Joan: "..."

"Okay, okay, can't I go..." Qiao An felt like crying, but the longer he got along, the more he found that Lu Yihang's shell did not match his heart at all!

A person who looks so serious and cold, but actually has a bad heart, and sometimes is a little naive. He even loves sweets so much, and he especially likes bitter things like bitter melon.

However, Lu Yihang with these colors is more exciting than the cold and domineering Mr. Lu at the beginning.

Huh?Wait, I seem to have used the wrong word just now, it's not heartbeat, but it should be...it should be...

Joan was lying on the bed with a complicated expression, unable to figure out what was going on.

Mr. Lu was very satisfied, and he didn't take his hand off Qiao An's stomach.Joan is a person who is very easy to get used to. As long as he takes a few subtle actions, he will get used to it unconsciously.

Since the afternoon, Lu Yihang would touch Qiao An's stomach from time to time, and he would hide it at first, but now he has become used to it naturally.

Three days later, Qiao An went to Ren Youning's house on time again. He was still very interested in the score sheet that Ren Youning asked him to write before he left last time.

Once seated, Joan couldn't wait to ask about it.Of course, apart from being curious about this matter, Qiao An was more afraid that Ren Youning would ask about the past again, so he planned to "strike first."

"Some time ago, I taught you the technique of gradual relaxation, which was a foreshadowing for the next thing to do." Ren Youning sat upright and explained to Joan very seriously, "In the theory of behaviorism, we Human behavior patterns are all learned later. So we can help a person relearn and establish a new behavior pattern to replace the original one through training.”

"Through this theory, Walter created a method called 'systematic desensitization therapy', which can help patients with phobias overcome and eliminate anxiety and fear."

Joan nodded, he had heard of this method.

"We will guide you through imagination later, which is similar to the imagery guide we did before, but it is slightly different, because this time I will guide you from the side. Through imagination, we will substitute you in, the few words you wrote by hand last time. A scene, and then through muscle relaxation, to combat anxiety."

"After many times of practice, we will achieve what we want." Ren Youning smiled, "You can speak out if there is any discomfort during the process."

"Okay." Joan nodded.

Ren Youning came over, lowered the back of Joan's seat so that he could lie down comfortably, and then sat in the same position in front of his head as last time.

Everything was ready, Ren Youning used a gentle and deep voice, like Joan giving instructions.

"Relax yourself and focus on your breathing. Very good, now tense your feet hard, five, four... one, very good, relax. Now work hard on your calves, focus on feeling the feeling of muscle tension, hold on, Five, four... one"

"..." Ren Youning slowly moved up from the feet to the head, one part at a time, allowing Qiao An's body to gradually relax.

Systematic desensitization therapy will start from the lowest anxiety level of the treated person and gradually move up.Put them into situations that make them anxious, and then let them relax and fight their fears.

Generally, one treatment will span 3-4 layers. If the treated person cannot bear it, he will go back and repeat it many times until he can bear it and will not feel fear and anxiety about the current scene, then the treatment is successful.

What Qiao An wrote before leaving last time, the first level is "watching TV with acquaintances in the living room", this is 0 points, which means that this scene is just within his tolerance, Ren Youning will not do too much on it stay.

The second level is "leave the house and go to the hallway with people" 10 points.The third pole, "chatting with strangers while walking in the community" 20 points.

The two Ren Youning didn't plan to get in touch either, because from the previous consultation, Ren Youning could see that Qiao An belonged to the tougher type of person, and it was acceptable to use strong medicine within the controllable range.

Level 30, "crowded elevator" 40 points.The fifth level, "crowded convenience store" 50 points.Level [-], "Crowded bus or subway" [-] points.

These three are Ren Youning's goals today.

"Now imagine that you are watching TV in the living room of your parents' house, and there are two people sitting next to you, one is your father and the other is your mother." Ren Youning said softly, "The latest basketball game is on the TV. Mom didn't want to watch it, and kept nagging. But Dad wanted to watch it very much, and kept occupying the remote control."

"If you can clearly be in it, then gently raise your index finger."

A few minutes later, Qiao An raised his right index finger slightly, but his expression was not as relaxed and calm as Ren Youning expected.

What's going on here?

"Very good, keep it up. Now rate your anxiety index." Ren Youning said.

Joan opened his mouth, his voice trembling, "60 points."

Ren Youning never expected that just as he was about to speak, Qiao An spoke again.

He said, "70 points."

How can this be?Ren Youning glanced at the piece of paper that Joan had written to him again, he now needs to make a difficult decision.

During many consultations, Ren Youning always felt that something was wrong with Qiao An. He seemed to be flawless in the experience that caused his social fear, but Ren Youning always felt that something was wrong.

But what was the problem, because of Qiao An's lack of cooperation, he hadn't been able to touch it.

Today, by accident, he had the chance to find it all, and now was his chance.

Let Joan continue to be in this anxious state until he finds the truth, or should he protect the consultant first, let him regain his calm, and give up this opportunity?

Ren Youning pinched the note in his hand, opened his mouth twice but failed to speak.

Joan spoke again, and he said, "80 points." He closed his eyes tightly, but tears fell from the corners of his eyes.

Ren Youning pinched his palm hard, and said softly, "Take a deep breath, tell yourself to relax your whole body, use your skills to relax yourself, from your feet to your head, relax every muscle. Tell me your score after you do it."

"85 points."

Qiao An's breathing became more rapid, and Ren Youning knew that he couldn't go on like this anymore, he said, "It's getting late now, you are leaving, and you walked out of your parents' house, there is a corridor with no one outside."

"Have you imagined it? If you do it, raise your index finger." Ren Youning asked.

After a while, Joan finally stood up.

"Very well, now rate your anxiety index."

"Five points." Joan said.

Ren Youning looked at the note carefully, and he said, "Now two people suddenly came out of the corridor, they are the neighbors of your parents, and they will rate your anxiety."

"10 points."

"Now you got on the elevator with the two neighbors just now, and there are only three of you in it, have you imagined it?" Ren Youning looked at Qiao An's hand and said, "Okay, tell me your score."

"25 points."

It wasn't serious, Ren Youning ignored it, and he continued, "The elevator stopped halfway, the door opened, and five people walked in from the outside, it's good." Qiao An already knew how to raise his index finger once he imagined it. , "Score your anxiety."

"30 points."

"Take a deep breath, relax your whole body, and tell yourself to relax bit by bit. Make sure to raise your index finger, and then tell me your score." Ren Youning said slowly.

After a while, Joan's voice was slightly puzzled and uncertain, "10 points."

Ren Youning raised the corner of her mouth and continued to say in a low voice, "You left the elevator and suddenly wanted to go outside to buy two breads for tomorrow's breakfast, so you walked to a convenience store outside the community. It was the rush hour and there were people everywhere. .Did you imagine it?"

"Okay, keep it up. Tell me your score."

"40 points."

"Take a deep breath, relax your whole body, and use the relaxation technique just now. Do your index finger back and tell me your score."

Joan closed his eyes, his expression gradually calmed down, "15 points."

"After you bought the bread, you planned to take the bus home. There were a lot of people at the station. At this time, the road you were going to take arrived. You squeezed up with the crowd, and a car was so crowded that there were almost no room for people." Ren Youning said , "Have you imagined it?"

Joan raised his index finger and said anxiously, "55 points."

"Take a deep breath, relax your whole body, and focus on your breathing." Ren Youning said, "Did you do it?"

Joan raised his index finger.

"Score your anxiety."

"40 points."

"Continue to keep imagining, take a deep breath, relax the whole body, from the feet to the legs, to the waist, all the way up, relax every muscle, and make a fist when you can."

Joan raised her index finger lightly, then said with some hesitation, "25 points".

"Very well, keep imagining, keep relaxing yourself."

After a while, Joan said with less surprise in his tone, "15 points!"

Qiao An's condition is very good, Ren Youning decided to go up one level, to the sixth level, "Go to a place with a lot of people to eat." 60 points.

"The car stopped and you came to a crowded snack street. You smelled the smell and felt very hungry, so you decided to go down and eat something. Can you imagine it?" Ren Youning said, "Very good, you went to the most crowded one. Chuan Chuan Xiang, ordered There is a lot of food, and one person sits at a small table and eats."

"Now rate your anxiety index."

"65 points."

"Take a deep breath and relax your muscles." Ren Youning repeated what he said before, "After you do it, tell me your score."

"55 points."

"Continue to imagine, imagine that every muscle of yours, starting from your toes, relaxes piece by piece." Ren Youning said, "Okay, let's rate your anxiety."

"50 points."

Ren Youning repeated it two more times, and the score could only drop to 40 at most, and it could not go any lower. In the end, he chose to stop the treatment this time.

The author has something to say:

Lu Yihang: Take your wife to practice a beautiful body.

Joan:! !Why add a separator, it looks weird...

Lu Yihang: Hehehehe!

Notes of Lu's Beloved Wife 45

I want to live forever with you and become a handsome grandpa together!