Reborn in that autumn

"Girl, we still have to avoid gossiping in this regard, because gossiping between men and women has always been the most unpleasant thing to listen to."

As for other gossip.This is something we will inevitably encounter in life, especially in some social situations, many people will gossip and talk about other people's rights and wrongs."

"How should you deal with your encounter tomorrow? Analyzing it from multiple angles, I can give you some advice."

"What should I do if someone gossips about me?

[-]. Don’t believe easily

When others tell us gossip about someone, the first thing we need to pay attention to is not to believe it easily.Because many times these gossips are not supported by actual evidence, but are just other people's subjective assumptions or hearsay.Therefore, we must remain vigilant and not easily believe what others say, let alone spread such gossip at will.

[-]. Remain silent

When someone gossips about someone to us, we can choose to remain silent.Don't comment on other people's rights and wrongs, and don't express your own opinions on these gossips.Because many times, our words will cause more contradictions and unnecessary disputes.So, staying silent is a good choice.

[-]. Refuse politely

When we encounter questions that we have to answer, we can politely decline to answer them.For example, when someone asks us what we think of a certain person, we can say: "I don't want to judge others, there is no benefit in doing so." or "I don't know this person very well, so I can't give any comments." It will not offend the other party, but also avoid getting involved in unnecessary disputes.

[-]. Change the topic

When someone gossips about someone to us, we can choose to change the topic to avoid unnecessary conflicts.For example, we can say: "What do you think of the weather today?" or "What have you been busy with recently?" This can make the other party feel that you don't care about these gossips and avoid unnecessary conflicts.

In short, when we encounter someone gossiping about us, we should stay calm, don't believe it easily, stay silent, decline politely or change the topic.At the same time, we must always remind ourselves not to talk about other people's rights and wrongs. Only by maintaining a good social environment can we make our lives better. "

"As for you in college, these are inevitable. If others don't say anything about you, you may also say something about others."

"If you don't get involved, they will say that you don't fit in with others. If you show it, they will say that I am not the kind of person to gossip, or that I don't bother gossiping about others."

"If you want people to not know, you must do it yourself."

"People's words are scary and people's hearts are unpredictable. Some people's hearts are black and their intentions are to harm others. Some people's mouths are specially grown to fart and spread rumors."

"Gossips are all day long, and if you don't listen, you will naturally have nothing. People's words are to be feared. Those who are pure will be clean themselves. Those with pure hearts will be clean themselves. Slander and spreading rumors are harmful to others and not self-serving. They are gossiping in secret. There is no ruler. Who does not speak behind others' backs? There is no one who speaks behind someone’s back, and there is no one who speaks behind someone’s back.”

“There are always some people who like to talk about others behind their backs.”

What is more terrifying than lies are those who spread rumors without knowing the truth. We always think that those who are innocent will be innocent, but we forget that people’s words are terrible and rumors are a powerful weapon to destroy people.Right and wrong exist all the time. If you don't listen, there will be nothing. It is better to be right but not enough, not to be evil and have more than enough.