1987: Sleepless Tonight

"Being good-looking is also an ability?" Su Min interjected, "Aren't you teaching children badly? Learning something is an ability, right? What kind of ability is natural appearance?"

Su Min's concept is the same as that of many people nowadays. She believes that skills and abilities must be learned, and innate ones, such as family background and appearance, cannot be called abilities.

And not only cannot it be called ability, it cannot be mentioned or relied on one's own life experience or appearance to compare with others.

"There are two types of abilities, one is innate and the other is acquired." Lu Hao said, "Acquired refers to the ability to learn, such as a skill. You can rely on acquired abilities to gain survival skills and make money. , being able to support myself and my family, that’s for sure.”

"But in addition to acquired abilities, there is also an innate ability, which is appearance and family status. If you look good and have a good skin, you will naturally have many advantages. For example, in the selection of officials in ancient times, in addition to writing, There are requirements for skills, and there are also requirements for appearance. If you don't look good, if you are too shabby, you will offend Long Yan. You could have been an official, but you can't be an official because your looks are too bad. You were admitted to the top exam because your looks may The ranking has been adjusted.”

"This is actually still reflected today. For example, if you have some physical defects or mental defects, you cannot take some exams, study some majors, or enter some industries."

Appearance is indeed very important.

What most people talk about and understand is facial features, but in addition to facial features, there are also things like height, weight, etc. For example, when you are a soldier, you have requirements for these aspects, and some branches of the military have higher requirements. , there are also requirements for vision.

"Are there any requirements in this regard?" Su Min really didn't know.

In other words, she never thought about anything special.

"Of course there are requirements in this regard." Lu Hao nodded, "After all, some industries not only have requirements for brainpower, but also for physical functions."

"And if you are good-looking, even if you work as a receptionist, people don't even need to ask more questions. They will choose you at a glance. You have a great competitive advantage. When you work as a doorman, people will see that you are 1 meters tall and have a strong appearance. Yes, he has a square face, and he looks very tall and dignified at first glance. Similarly, there is no need to ask too many questions, and he can be arranged to start work immediately on the same day."

"These are all advantages brought by good looks. As for people with a good family background, it is easier than this. You can use your family connections to find a good job, or even directly work in government agencies and institutions. We all know how difficult it is to get into government agencies and institutions.”

"Of course, it's difficult to get in only for people who don't have identity background or network resources. But for people who have network resources and background, it's actually very simple, and they can even be picky."

Lu Hao looked at Su Jin, "We have to understand the actual rules of society, but we don't need to be too confused. We just need to treat it with a normal mind."

"Ideals are ideals, reality is reality. We cannot be immersed in ideals, nor can we complain about everything and think everything is dirty just because we have seen the world. We have to see through it and look away at the same time, and use rules to achieve own purpose."

"After all, nothing is so pure. Even the air we breathe has a lot of dust and bacteria in it, right? You can't say that if there are dust or bacteria in the air, you can't breathe."

"For example, when you are assigned a job after graduation, you can invite the leader in the school who assigned the job to have a meal with you and find out which jobs are better. You can be given priority."

Even though many schools can still allocate work, the jobs are different, and the work units are good or bad. As long as you have choices, everything can be done.

Su Jin looked at Lu Hao, "Isn't this not good?"

"What's wrong? Do you want to be assigned to a township? Once the arrangement is finalized, it will be much more difficult to regret it than to say hello in advance, and you won't think that you can adapt. Life in a village, right?" Lu Hao looked at her very seriously, "Life in a village is very hard, not to mention food and drink. You can tolerate these things and get used to them, but there are still some places that you may not be able to bear. There is no psychological preparation.”

"First of all, it is inconvenient to wash up. Most places may not have running water or even wells. You have to go far away to fetch water. As a girl, can you fetch water? How much can you fetch at one time?"

"The other thing is that the place to live is not that convenient. Many units may not have separate dormitories for employees, but still use the original old buildings as dormitories, or even arrange to stay in the villagers' homes. At that time, we will arrange for you to stay in the villagers' homes. It's emotionally difficult to be together with people you don't know well, and the house is leaking and drafty, with many people living in the same house, and there is no guarantee of food."

"You are a girl, so it is even more difficult to get along with you. Moreover, the transportation is not that convenient. It will be difficult to come back when the time comes. You spend most of your time on the road. You only go home three or four times a year. , maybe not even yet, can you adapt to this?"

"Another one is that after you graduate, you will almost have to find a partner, get married and have children. But if you are really arranged to work in a township, it will be more difficult to find a partner first. Although there are many young people in the townships, it is difficult to find a partner. Most people have low academic qualifications. Although low academic qualifications have nothing to do with the level of character, academic qualifications do not represent character. Character is character, and academic qualifications are academic qualifications. However, the level of academic qualifications is related to people's concepts and ideas. A person’s perspective on things has a lot to do with it.”

"For the same thing, people with high education and people with low education have different opinions. If two people get along, if their opinions are not consistent, or similar, then the rest of their lives will be very painful. Such a marriage It’s definitely unfortunate, and I’m sure you don’t want such a marriage.”

Mine is honey and he is arsenic. Ordinary people can stay away from each other if they don’t have the same outlook on life. But if a close person has different outlooks, it’s simply torture.

This is not only true for couples, but also for parents and children. However, there is no chance to choose parents, but couples and partners can choose.