The star who is too difficult to get out of the village

Chapter 229

The game of questioning was initiated by Yang Jie and terminated by Yang Jie.With his omniscient way of answering, he can only be a questioner in this game. Asking him to answer is a waste of questions. It can only add some knowledge points to them, which is not fun at all.

But it's still early, and it's not yet time for Yang Jie to continue telling the story.

Then let's chat, it's almost Chinese New Year, dinner is inevitable.

You want to participate in the company's dinner, it's good that there are few people who are familiar with it, so feel free and casual.

But sometimes when participating in the company's dinner, you have to face different leaders.This question was actually raised by Peng Yichang, and he has this doubt now.And I usually see people complaining about the embarrassment of Jiujushan on the Internet, so I asked.

"Brother Jie, what do you say when you toast the leader?"

In fact, it would be better to ask He Quan and Huang Sen, two old drivers, for this question, but just now Yang Jie's knowledge was too strong, and he felt that he was better than others, and Peng Yichang was also influenced by this feeling.

But since he asked himself, Yang Jie didn't say he didn't know, he only heard him think for a while and said: "This matter is actually nothing complicated, and I haven't participated in many dinner parties, so I will summarize what others said. If you want to talk about it, let’s talk about the dinner in the ordinary workplace.”

"Many of us in the workplace will have a phobia when participating in a wine game. Because the most fearful thing is to hold up the wine glass, and don't know what to say, right?
Even, some people just eat and eat food at the dinner party, as if nothing happened, no matter how others go to toast with the leader, I just ignore that, in fact, we are eating and eating food Sometimes, there will be fear in my heart.Worrying that one day, we will be abandoned by the leader, and worrying about offending the leader because we are not polite in front of the leader, making the leader think that you seem to be neglecting him, right?
Of course, we sometimes, some people may choose blunt toast words.Just pick up the wine glass and give a fierce toast, I'll do whatever you want.As for the other party, they will also think that you are a bit reckless.

Of course, we still have a wrong approach, that is, we always hide behind others. When others toast, we follow closely behind, and a group of people salute together. But in that case, what can you leave for the leader? Impressed?Only the person who takes the lead can take it.So, if we want to toast different leaders individually, what should we do? "

"There are generally three situations here, and according to these three situations, I will give some suggestions respectively.

First of all, the first situation is that you must express your attitude when facing your active leader.

In fact, you don’t need to play fancy things with your active leader. If you can give him more confidence and get things done well, you can make him feel that you are his right-hand man in the next development of this department. Let him feel that after drinking this glass of wine today, you will work harder in the direction of his expectations. In fact, the leader is already satisfied.

This is to understand the current leader and understand what he wants.He doesn't need you to admire his attitude.Why are you so handsome and capable.These are not important, what is important is whether you can create value for him and bring benefits to him.

So, you just do it in the direction he expects.For example, what kind of things have been worrying you during this period of time? To help you share your worries.And you can rest assured that in the next quarter, I will definitely give you what kind of goals to achieve.It means that our department can gain a better foothold in the whole company, so don't say anything, let's see you in action, this glass of wine is toast to you.

You see, after saying this, your leader will value you very much. This is an attitude towards the current leader. "

"The second situation is when facing the leader of the collateral line, what should we say when we toast.

The so-called collateral leaders are the leaders of other departments who are not directly related to you.Their location may be above yours.When you are toasting this kind of person, remember a sentence, which is called respect by collateral leaders.

It is the point of combining the other party's sense of superiority.Whether it is the fact that he has personally achieved certain aspects, or that their department has achieved certain achievements, or that the other party has certain professional expertise, you can combine these points to express your admiration for the other party. , respect for each other, admiration for each other.

For example, you pick up the wine glass and come to the leader of the collateral department.Ah, Mr. Zhang, congratulations. You have won some honors on behalf of our company during this period. I really admire you. Look at your speech on the podium last time. I was in the audience. I was thinking that when I can stand on the same stage like you, I will feel that I am supremely honored.

Being able to add credit to the organization, and at the same time, be able to achieve such extremes in the things you love.If it were me, I would wake up laughing from my dream.So I respect you with this glass of wine, I hope I can ask you for advice in the future, and you will take care of me more in the future.You are respecting and admiring each other.

Sometimes you can also express your congratulations on the other party's professional ability in certain aspects, or the achievements of a certain department, and express your actions.For example, Mr. Zhang, you can see that you are an expert in this field. I have never admired anyone in this field. You are one of the people I admire. This is a toast to you. You study.So if you compare the toast to your current leader just now to a pragmatic toast, then facing this kind of person is sometimes too pragmatic.

You don't need to express your opinion to him, you don't need to promise him to do something, you just need to express your admiration and respect for him, and your admiration for him will be perfect. "

"In addition to this, there is a third situation, which is to face the former leader.

When you want to toast him, you must remember a principle, he has taken you with him before, and you must express your gratitude and the meaning of knowing others and repaying them.

So when you come to this kind of leader, you can hold up your wine glass and tell him, Mr. Zhang, I remember when I first came to the company, something happened in the company at that time, and I met him at that time. What kind of bottleneck, if you hadn't given me some guidance at the time, I might have been useless at that time.

I still clearly remember what kind of words you said to me at that time. Up to now, I have guided my current work with the teachings you gave me at that time. Thank you very much.You are my first master in a certain aspect when I joined the company. If it weren’t for your high standard requirements at that time, I wouldn’t be as meticulous as I am now, so all my achievements and positions now In fact, it all came from the drive you gave me at that time, so I especially thank you for this glass of wine, and I respect you for this glass of wine.

This is a form of thanks.This is to take the meaning of repaying the gratitude, and even talk about the scene that happened at that time, and convey the real emotion through some real pictures. In this way, the leader can also remember that you are a grateful person. People, what other good opportunities or resources does he have when he turns back, and he will also connect with you again. "

After Yang Jie paused for a while, He Quan concluded: "Actually, what Xiaojie said was to express his attitude towards the directly subordinate leaders, show respect to the leaders who are higher than himself but have nothing to do with him, and express gratitude to the old leaders. But Xiaojie can Said, each one also gave an example, and the audience who heard what you said can directly use it by changing the title and event, which is amazing.”

Huang Sen said with a smile: "But you have to admit that Xiaojie's words are transparent. Although it's a bit long-winded, it's comprehensive."

Zhang Cailun asked at this time: "This is when the subordinates toast with the leader. Uncle, I will talk about the toast words in the usual banquet. This is the one that is used the most, okay?"

Yang Jie said with a smile: "In fact, everything can be summed up. There are also routines for toasts, and there are generally four types. Just remember the routines I said, and you will be welcome at the dinner party." It's not difficult at all."

"First of all, the first one is to express gratitude. You can think about what kind of experience story you have with him, or the other party has helped you on those points, or reminded you, or It’s what the other person said to you that inspired you. Even if it’s what the other person said in public that awakened you, it’s something you can use as a thank you.

For example, if you pick up your wine glass and find your goal, you can say such words of thanks first when toasting, and express it, so you can have something to talk about?

The second is to express celebration. You can take the good news of the other party's good grades, or something that we all deserve to celebrate together, and things that are worthy of joy and joy, as an entry point to toast to the other party.

The third is respect.It's almost the same as what I just said.

The fourth is to express hope.Whether it is a happy event for the other party's family, or the company has achieved a certain achievement, you can say a toast in a tone of blessing and hope. "

After listening to what Yang Jie said, Huang Sen became talkative, and said: "Actually, the dinner party, how should I put it, can accomplish a lot of things. But there are also many secret words.

For example: Get together when you have time, have you heard it often, this is the best opening line.If the other party really wants to get together, they will definitely add a sentence at the end, choosing a date is worse than bumping in, it's better to just choose a certain day and determine a time.This is to invite you out to chat and eat.If you just say that you have time to get together, it is very likely that it is just a simple polite sentence between friends.If it is a tentative question, then nine out of ten are asking for something, or wanting to get closer to each other.

Another thing is: I will introduce a friend to you, this is amazing.Many friends in life are actually met and familiar with other people’s introductions. As the saying goes, there are many friends and many paths. Sometimes the introduction needs your help, and sometimes you need the help of others. This is normal. You help everyone and everyone helps you.

Another sentence is: I toast, you can do whatever you want.You don't really want to do this, do you?At large and small dinners and wines, we will all hear this sentence: "I'm toasting, you can do whatever you want. When the host who is speaking raises her head and drank down a glass of wine, she actually doesn't have extra time to taste this glass of wine." Instead, focus on your every word and action with wide-eyed eyes, wanting to see how casual you can be.

From ancient times to the present, Chinese people have always liked to meet friends with wine. Wine can be said to be the catalyst for mutual relations. There are often many mysteries hidden in a glass of wine.The so-called subtext of my toast is that I have put my greatest sincerity in your hands.And if you are free, it means that I am still waiting for you to see what kind of sincerity you have.

This is the same principle as reciprocity.When the other party said this to us, it firstly showed his respect and enthusiasm for us, and secondly, it also gave us enough space to relax, so that we don't have to be obsessed with returning the gift, and forcefully drink this glass of wine. Ah poured it into my stomach.Obviously, in social situations, whoever says this sentence first will enjoy full initiative. After all, my toast has already shown that I have lowered my posture and tried my best to be polite.As long as you take a sip at will, I will appreciate your kindness.

But who can really be completely random.Certainly not.If it is really like what the other party said, just lightly touch the wine glass with your mouth, then the opponent will probably think that we are very unreasonable.If you can't even understand such a simple polite sentence, what is the need for communication in the future?So in order to avoid the other party's feelings of grudges, we'd better drink this glass of wine to show our sincerity that we are willing to get acquainted with him.

In fact, drinking is a matter of small face and great importance.

In many cases, dinner parties are not set up simply to satisfy appetites, but to facilitate friendly interactions between people, and to recognize each other in communication.

Therefore, when we exchange glasses and hear the code phrase I cheer you casually, if you don’t want to leave a bad impression of indifference and selfishness on others, then let’s do it first after clinking glasses, toast Look at each other, haha ​​and smile, isn't this friend handed over.If you can return a toast properly, make good things come in pairs, come and go, the climax of the dinner will appear.Not only that, poured the third glass, and persuaded loudly with enthusiasm, come on, everyone, this glass of wine is dry, everyone will be friends from now on, we must remember to take care of each other, this situation is different Is it the beginning of establishing a harmonious and harmonious interpersonal relationship? "

In the end, He Quan also said: "If you really can't drink it, then don't drink it at the beginning. Once you drink it, you can't just drink a small amount."

(End of this chapter)