[Red Mansion] Queen's Road

Regarding the family conflicts caused by raising this boy, in Master Lin's opinion, he had to deal with it.And it must be handled carefully. If it is not handled well, it will leave endless troubles and eventually lead to restlessness in the house. .

First of all, in his opinion, the old lady must be respected.Her old man's starting point for wanting to raise a grandson is good.

Then there is the daughter-in-law. It is right for the daughter-in-law not to want their children to follow the old man. After all, the old man likes to spoil his grandson.

So this Tanhua Lin thought about it all night, and finally came up with a solution that he thought was the best of both worlds.

After thinking of this method, he hurried back to discuss it with his wife.

"Put our son on the old lady's side. During the day, you go to the old lady to talk with her, take care of the housework, watch the children, and come back to sleep at night. Even if the children follow us, it's the same.

You just changed the place where you raise your children from our yard to the old lady’s yard. If you put it in our yard, you go to serve the old lady, and you can’t see him for a long time. When you miss him, you’d better put it in In front of the old lady, do you think this is the truth? "

If Jia Min was more aggressive, if this society was more tolerant towards women, Jia Min would definitely jump up and break Lin Ruhai's head.

Is this the truth?Certainly not.

On my own three-acre land, I can do whatever I want if I want to lie on my back, cross up, or lie on my stomach.If I go to my mother-in-law, I will be almost like a big maid.To be free is to dream!

But Jia Min is a woman of three obediences and four virtues, even if she can't wait to break the dog's head of the person in front of her at this moment, she still wants to express her willingness.

After Lin Ruhai left, Jia Min immediately sent someone to inquire how the master knew about the fighting between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

It's okay not to inquire, but after inquiring, I found out that it was the girl I gave birth to who told the secret.

"This little complainer doesn't even think about it. She told the master this. The master must be filial to the old lady. Can the old lady be wronged? Is there anything I can say when I am wronged? After all I didn't raise her up, and now I have one heart with that old woman."

Her dowry maids quickly persuaded her, no matter how much she tried to persuade her, they couldn't change the fact that Lin Hao, who had just turned one month old, was sent to her grandmother's yard.

This time, the old lady of the Lin family was full of ambitions, but the old lady knew very well the principle of accepting as soon as she was offered.He was polite to his daughter-in-law, and obviously only came to invite Ann's daughter-in-law once two or three days ago, and then walked away after asking Ann.Now I come to my yard every day, stand there and set rules to serve the old people to eat, drink tea and chat with them. One stop is a day, and the hard work involved is not enough for outsiders to understand.

The old lady of the Lin family is also a wonderful person. She knows that even if she doesn't like her daughter-in-law, she will not torture their mother in front of the children. Compared with other daughter-in-laws, Jia Min's situation is better than others. Even if it is serving the mother-in-law to eat, it means picking up a couple of chopsticks, and I can sit and eat together. When talking, the two children surround me, and I can hold my son every day.

In this way, compared with the previous days, Jia Min still felt very wronged. When he returned to his yard, he would always cry in private.

After a long time, this matter was known to the old lady of the Jia family. Of course the mother felt sorry for her daughter.

After the old lady scolded her, she gave her daughter some advice, "Brother is still young, it's fine if you don't go for a day or two, just say you're sick, take a good rest for a while, and take care of yourself." Body bone, and then raise a brother."

When a daughter always trusts what her mother said, after meeting her mother, she will get sick every three to five days according to what the mother said. Will go to serve the old lady of the Lin family.

Getting sick once or twice, the old lady of the Lin family thought it was a big deal, but getting sick often, the old lady thought it was intentional.

After a period of honeymoon period, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has entered a freezing period again, and it has been more than half a year since then.Little Lin Hao is already sitting firmly on the wooden couch, and can eat a few mouthfuls of complementary food with his little mouth.

Because of better care, the little guy is like his sister, the whole person has become fat, as long as the child is white and fat, he looks cute. Now Lin Ruhai only needs to go home, and he will come to the old lady's yard as soon as possible to see the child first. .

When he came home that day, the husband and wife met outside the old lady's yard and came in to watch the child together.

As soon as she entered the door, she found that the room was bustling with activity. Linlin was sitting next to her younger brother, opening his small mouth, and counting the small teeth in his mouth.

Seeing his mother and father coming in, he quickly stood up and greeted him politely.

"Get up," Lin Ruhai greeted the old lady first, then lifted her daughter up, felt the weight, and said with a smile, "it's heavier than last time. Although it's good to have a good appetite, you're starting to feel the weight now." When you grow up, remember to eat more grains and less meat."

When encountering father's earnest teaching, you should stand up and listen respectfully, and then answer seriously.This is the so-called rule.

After Lin Ruhai weighed his daughter, he picked up his son and weighed it in his arms. He lifted it high, looked at the little boy's teeth, and sat on the side watching his wife interacting with his son very satisfied.

As a man, he naturally didn't pay attention to small things at home, but the old lady of the Lin family who stayed in the backyard every day saw the way.

The daughter-in-law has never paid attention to her granddaughter for more than half a year. When she came, she cared about her grandson.Thinking that girls are from others, boys are naturally more noble than girls, so the old lady didn't say anything.But now that the husband and wife came together, the daughter-in-law is still so undisguised, not paying attention to the granddaughter, which makes the old lady a little angry.

Even if you are angry, it is impossible to break out at this time. Firstly, this is the time when the family is happy, and secondly, when you break out at this time, you will appear to be stingy as a mother-in-law, and you will be nitpicking.

Even after living in my hometown in Suzhou for a few years, the whole mansion is full of changes after I come back, but the old lady is still an old lady. After so many years in this mansion, it is very easy to get some news.

In a few days, I will know why his granddaughter doesn't like his mother.

After the old lady of the Lin family heard the news, she couldn't laugh or cry, and complained that her daughter-in-law was stupid.How many years can I live with my old bones? If my ancestors bless me, I can live until my grandson marries a wife, that would be a great thing.The actual situation is also clear to me, and I will never live to that time. I hold my grandson to my side because I want to raise my grandson, and secondly, I want to stay with my grandchildren before I die.

To put it bluntly, the two children will rely on their own mothers in the future, but that daughter-in-law is willing to listen to her own mother, and she doesn't even think about it when people say that the little girl has been sued for filming, Linlin, why is the little girl so.If you blindly hate children now, it will only be a matter of face to children in the future.

"I didn't expect my little selfishness to separate their mother and daughter!" The old lady of the Lin family thought about it, not knowing what to do.

The matter has come to this point, and I can only think about how to remedy it.The old servants around her give her advice.

"The young lady is different from the young master. No matter whether you marry a wife or go out to become an official, young masters will have to rely on their mothers to worry about things. But the only thing that girls trouble their mothers is finding their husbands. Even if the relationship is not very good now After all, it is due to blood, and you will not find a messy family for our girl. At that time, you can just give us a lot of your dowry. As long as we don’t lack money, we will be fine. Relying on the natal family is just borrowing the power from the natal family, borrowing the influence of the men, and I don’t want to do anything with the backyard.”

The old lady of the Lin family thought this method was very good. There are five generations of the Lin family here, and the dowry of the headed grandmother is not on the table, not to mention the farms and furniture. The gold and silver jewelry they left behind is just this item. All in all, let the children and grandchildren eat and drink without worrying about it.However, this family is sparsely populated, and these gold and silver treasures will often fall into the hands of the daughter-in-law, and they will be accumulated from generation to generation, which is also countless treasures.

"The big things can't be moved, but there are still a lot of soft things, if you tidy them up carefully, I will give them all to Linlin."

After making up her mind, the old lady of the Lin family started to sort out her private house money, and she didn't avoid people in the process of sorting out, as all the masters and masters in the family knew about it.

On weekdays, the old lady of the Lin family is not the kind of old lady who wears gold and silver, but a very simple old lady. A silver hairpin on her head can pass her daily life.In addition, people say that scholars are noble, and to put it bluntly, they are poor, so how much dowry she has, of course, the daughter-in-law will not inquire about it, and it will not be much.But since the dowry and private house started to be cleaned up these days, Jia Min immediately gave her mother-in-law a high look.

In private, the companions from the Jia family also said that they did not expect the old lady to be a rich master.

After tidying up for ten days and half a month, the property was finally cleared up. While the husband and wife came to pay their respects, the old lady asked someone to take out the list.

"I've sorted out my things these days, and I'll give you two an explanation first. I'll leave the above things to Linlin. If you have a granddaughter in the future, don't blame me for being partial. The child really won my heart, he is a filial child. Don't even think about moving the things on it," said Lin Ruhai, "there are still people in your uncle's family, if someone finds out that you two have moved the dowry list When the time comes, I will have to talk to you guys about it.”

The couple quickly stood up, Lin Ruhai took the list with a smile, and stuffed it into his sleeve, "Don't worry, Linlin is my daughter, she is indispensable."