male nanny from town

"Children's interests should be cultivated from an early age. I think that instead of buying them some iPads, two of which cost tens of thousands of yuan, it is better to send them to the city to learn some special skills and cultivate their morality."

Tian Zhiyuan took a shower, wore a pair of knee-length shorts, and sat chatting with Yin Zhen on the balcony of the living room.

"I also thought about sending them to learn something, but the problem is that I haven't been able to find a suitable person to take care of them." Tian Zhiyuan, as before, put his right hand behind his head, bent his left leg, and lay on a bamboo recliner On, "There was a college student in the town who came back last summer to hold a dance class, but unfortunately he couldn't recruit any students, so he left after a few days. In a small place like ours, we want our children to learn some specialties. It can only be during the winter and summer vacations, when parents accompany their children to live in the city for a month or two."

Yin Zhen has also taken a shower, his slightly long hair is wet, but he is not used to being shirtless in front of outsiders - Tian Zhiyuan's stepmother is still watching TV in the living room.

"Xinxin can learn to write calligraphy and cultivate his temperament. Speaking of which, is it because you are too fierce to him, and he has a rebellious mentality, so he has become such a... bully-like behavior pattern?"

Tian Zhiyuan sighed in confusion: "Sometimes he is quite fierce, but what can I do? He always bullies others, doesn't listen to reason, and says a lot of good things, but he just doesn't admit his mistakes, so I just... "

Yin Zhen raised his hand to stop him from continuing, "Okay, I get it. You are not competent at all. Why don't you ask him why he bullies others first? Children are ignorant, but there must be a reason for disputes, you It must be because he only pays attention to teaching him and ignores his mood every time, so he gradually becomes distrustful of you, subconsciously he only believes in himself, and that’s why he has the personality he has now.”

"Hey, after all, it's all my fault!"

"Well, your thinking is not right. Don't blame yourself every time a child makes a mistake. Children's growth is inseparable from the education and guidance of their parents, but they are also independent individuals with their own thinking and action. You should teach them the awareness that they have to take responsibility for their own mistakes, and they can't always rely on adults."

Tian Zhiyuan sat up, frowned and looked at Yin Zhen, "But they are so young, how can they understand such profound truths?"

"It is precisely because they are young that we have to instill this kind of truth in them. Do you know how foreigners educate their children?"

"Uh... I don't know!" He has never been abroad, and he only reads the news about international politics and military wars. How would he know how foreigners educate their children?Otherwise, he wouldn't even be able to discipline his own children badly.

Yin Zhen shook his head helplessly, stood up and patted Tian Zhiyuan's slick shoulder, "Forget it, I think even if I tell you, you may not understand, anyway, you don't have time to care about children!"

After all, girls are easier to discipline than boys, so Yin Zhen decided to teach Xinxin how to write calligraphy first.

Yin Zhen is not a person who doesn't know how to observe words and expressions, he can tell that Tian Zhiyuan doesn't trust him too much.If Niu Niu wants to learn piano, she must go to the county seat, so there is no need to worry about the various expenses. Tian Zhiyuan has never been stingy with the money he spends on his children.What he cared about was the person who took care of the child, and he was worried about leaving the child to someone else to take care of him.

Yin Zhen thought about it and thought it was quite right. From Tian Zhiyuan's point of view, they were just strangers who had just met for a few days, so it was not surprising that he was wary.

So, Niuniu put aside her piano learning and asked Xinxin if she would like to learn to write.

Yin Zhen does not advocate compulsion in learning extracurricular skills.Five-year-old children already have their own thinking and action consciousness. After determining the direction and method of guidance for the children's own defects, we should first ask for their opinions while guiding them, so that they can feel autonomous. It can cultivate their ability to choose independently.

"Xinxin, is there anything you want to do during the summer vacation?" After lunch, the two children were about to go outside to play, but they were stopped by Yin Zhen and brought into the study for a conversation.

Xinxin's plan to go out was interrupted, she was a little unhappy, her two thick black eyebrows were tightly frowned, "What are you doing?"

"For example, is there any place you want to go? Is there anything you really want to play?"

"Yes, I want to go back to my hometown to climb trees and dig out bird nests!"

"……do you have anything else?"

"Others?" Xinxin lowered his head and thought for a while, "Does it count if I want to fight?"

Yin Zhen also frowned: "War?" This is really what Xinxin wants to do, "There is nothing else? For example, do you want to read and study?"

Xin Xin rolled her eyes at Yin Zhen, "Uncle, I think you must be the legendary nerd."

Yin Zhen was shot with an arrow by the "nerd".

"Brother Zhang said that people who always talk about reading and studying are nerds. They look very knowledgeable, but they are actually... pretending..." Xinxin turned to look at Niu Niu, "Brother Zhang What are you pretending to be?"

Niu Niu replied in a straight voice: "Pretend to be aggressive!"

Yin Zhen was shot with an arrow by "pretending to be forceful".

"That's right! It's just pretending, I don't want to be a pretending person!" Xin Xin said with a straight face: "Brother Zhang said that only in battle can the value of life be reflected, can one show personal charm, become a hero of the world and man!"

Yin Zhen shook off the two arrows, held Xinxin's small shoulders, and asked very seriously, "Who is Brother Zhang?"

"Brother Zhang is Brother Zhang."

"I asked him whose family the child was from and where he lived."

"Oh, his dad runs a restaurant next door to ours."

Yin Zhen remembered that there was a small restaurant next to Tian Zhiyuan's house, and the two of them had dinner once.There was indeed a child in that family, very big, at least in the fifth grade.

"Do you usually play with that brother?"

"Well, the other kids don't play with us." Niuniu rubbed her nose, "They all like to scold us, but they are afraid of my brother, so they don't play with us. Only Brother Zhang doesn't scold us, and he often gives us sweets eat."

Yin Zhen felt that his idea of ​​teaching Xinxin to write calligraphy should be shelved for a while.

"Come with uncle." He pulled the child to the desk, he sat in a chair, the two children stood in front of him, "tell uncle, what have those children scolded you for?"

The two children looked at each other, and Niuniu said, "Uncle, why are you asking this? Do you want to avenge us?"

revenge?

Yin Zhen pressed the center of his brows, and suddenly felt a little headache.

After he came back from abroad, he worked as a teacher in S City No. [-] Middle School for two years. At that time, he only came into contact with boys and girls aged [-] or [-].For children of that age, as long as they have a good grasp of the method, affirm their strengths, and give them a lot of care and encouragement, it is not a problem to communicate with them.And this kind of young children basically don't understand the basic principles, and they seem to have simple thinking, except for eating and playing, but in fact their little brains are full of things, and anything weird Yes, and the ability to imitate is very strong.For example, Xinxin's violent behavior, and Niuniu's rhetorical question of "revenge must be revenged", Yin Zhen knew it without guessing, and probably learned it from that "Brother Zhang".To communicate with such children, people without a little patience really can't do it.

Yin Zhen took a deep breath and smiled, "Let's put the revenge aside first, tell uncle first, what are those children scolding you for?"

"I have everything, your mother, you, you, Siwazi, you wild species..."

"Stop, stop, stop..." Yin Zhen interrupted Niu Niu in astonishment, "Those children scold you like that?"

The little guy nodded.

"Where's your father? Don't you know these things?"

After coming to Tian's house for so many days, Yin Zhen knew how much Tian Zhiyuan loved his two children. Although the care he gave spiritually was somewhat lacking, the reason why he got up early and stayed late was not to create a better living environment for the two children, so that They will not have too much financial pressure when they go to college or even go abroad for further study in the future.Since he valued children so much, how could he not know that they were scolded outside?

Niuniu said: "Dad is often not at home, we told the nanny sister."

Xinxin snorted coldly: "The nanny never takes revenge for us, she only knows to be lazy all day long."

"Then did they tell your father these things?"

The two shook their heads in unison, "I don't know."

Yin Zhen frowned, no need to ask, he must have never told.It is estimated that Tian Zhiyuan is usually too busy to stay at home, and his stepmother is also a gentle and easy-going master, so the little nanny feels no pressure, and can coax the child to get by without major incidents.

Yin Zhen decided that it is still necessary to have a good talk with Tian Zhiyuan.

"Xinxin, how about uncle teaching you how to write?" It's better to find something for this brat to do first, otherwise, during the two-month summer vacation, this guy will spend his days fighting with others.

Xin Xin frowned when she heard this, "Writing!" She pursed her lips in reluctance.

"Don't you want to learn? Uncle started learning when he was your age, and he has won many awards and was received by the mayor."

Xinxin's eyes widened immediately, with a look of great interest, "What is the mayor? But do you eat it?"

"..."

"Brother, you are so stupid!" Niuniu poked Xinxin's forehead with a smile, "The mayor is the chief of Persimmon, idiot!"

"You're an idiot!"

Yin Zhen was defeated by the wonderful thinking of these two children.

In the end, Xinxin still agreed to learn to write brush characters, but he only agreed after Yin Zhen explained clearly what a "mayor" is, and there were two reasons for his agreement——

"When I learn brush calligraphy, I'll also meet that mayor!"

Yin Zhen stared at Xin Xin with dead fish eyes, "Please work hard for this lofty goal!"