My boss is my fan [Transmigration Book]

Wen Yumang explained to Gu Jiahao all the way, and after sending Gu Jiahao home, Wen Yumang dismissed his mother and chatted with Gu's mother.

"Auntie, you see we are both idle, so I just want to have some academic exchanges with you."

Mother Gu was amused by Wen Yumang's serious tone, and patted the chair beside her for Wen Yumang to sit over.

"What kind of academic do you want to exchange hahahahaha?"

"Children's education."

"What? Are you talking about a girlfriend? You are still a child, why do you want to educate children?" Mother Gu teased.

"That's not true, auntie, don't talk about it," Wen Yumang covered his face in embarrassment, "Isn't it hard for me to grow from a child to an adult now, so I can't be a slave to turn over and sing, criticizing my mother's education problems , thinking that you and my mother have a good relationship, and you have two children, so you must be quite experienced, so I want to find you as a staff officer, how can I join my mother!"

Gu's mother laughed and leaned back: "I don't know anything about this, come on, tell me!"

Wen Yumang began to make up nonsense: "My mother rarely praises me. No matter what I do, she just responds lightly. As time goes by, I don't have confidence!"

"Ah, how could this be?" Gu's mother thought for a while, and comforted, "But in my impression, your mother often praised you to us, not just me, she praised all the seven aunts and eight aunts. all over."

Wen Yumang replied disapprovingly: "But I don't know about these praises. My mother never told me that she approved of my actions, so I used to feel that I was worthless."

"Your mother may be afraid that if you praise you in front of you, you will be proud!"

"But proper praise is still needed, because my mother's approach makes me feel unfulfilling in everything I do, and I feel that I have no advantages in myself."

"Well, you're right." Mother Gu thought of something and nodded.

"And more! Don't I have a brother? My mother takes care of my brother much more than me, and often expresses love to my brother. I feel that my mother loves my brother more."

"Hey, it's like this when there are more than one child in the family. You always have to look at one end and then the other. Maybe your mother didn't pay attention and was negligent?"

"Why do you ignore me and not my brother? I was very sad when I was young."

"Don't think too much, how could your mother not love you?"

"But she didn't tell me, how would I know?"

Mother Gu sighed, "Oh, yes."

"My mother also likes to compare me when there are other people's children, and always praise other people's children."

"Your mother just wants to be polite, to maintain superficial etiquette."

"I understand it now, but I didn't understand it when I was a child. It was very sad. My mother can tell me in advance, and I will definitely not care about it."

Gu's mother has been completely convinced: "Okay, I will criticize her with you in a while!"

"One more thing. Actually, I understand that I also have problems. For example, I usually don't talk much. My mother may think that it is difficult for me to communicate, so she doesn't communicate with me anymore."

Gu's mother took the initiative to retort: ​​"That shouldn't be the case! The child has a middle and second puberty, and when he thinks that he grows up, he pretends to be cool and deep. It's normal for him not to talk. If it’s difficult to communicate, why don’t you just stop communicating with me?”

"Yes." Wen Yumang changed the subject, "You also have two children in your family, will our situation happen in your family? Does Siming usually chat with you?"

Mother Gu shook her head: "Oh, it's not like you don't understand Siming's temperament."

Wen Yumang said softly: "Auntie, in fact, I have also talked with Siming. He is relatively passive and a little negative when getting along with others. He is the type who simply stops communicating once he feels that communication is useless. So if you stop communicating because you think Siming is too assertive and unwilling to communicate, won't both of you never be able to understand what the other is thinking?"

Gu's mother finally came to her senses, and said with a wry smile: "Mangmang, you just said a lot of things in a roundabout way, but you were not talking about your family, but ours, right?"

Wen Yumang quickly explained: "Auntie, I know it's inappropriate for me to say these words, but this kind of family is really unhealthy. I think Siming and you, and Jiahao in fact, I just chatted with him and found that everyone's The state is not very good, it may be that the authorities are obsessed and the bystanders are clear, so I think I have to find an excuse to say it."

"Everyone is different and has their own personality and hobbies. It doesn't mean that one type must be good, and one must be bad. There is no right or wrong method. Siming is sure It’s just that he chooses the way he thinks suits him and makes him feel comfortable and natural.”

"Parents like to praise other people's children, which is true, but it would be better if their children know that this is just a social etiquette. Many parents may think that children don't think so much, but if children Being compared all the time, and getting suppressed from parents will indeed affect the healthy growth of children. No one doesn't like to be praised, let alone the praise from their own relatives, and relatives always praise others but not their own. Any child who hears this will feel uncomfortable."

"Oh," Gu's mother sighed again, "I understand all these principles, but Siming is so old..."

"You want to say that he is so old and an adult, he won't be so naive, right?" Wen Yumang propped his chin with one hand, "Adults really don't care about most things Yes, that’s because he’s used to it. He knows that the person who said the words may not have any malicious intentions, but he will still feel sad when he hears such words. He may already understand why you said these words, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that you don’t really want to. I don't mind."

"However, we haven't communicated for so long," Gu's mother still hesitated, "I don't know how to communicate with him now."

"Oh no no no," Wen Yumang smiled slyly, "You are an elder, how can you start this matter? Don't worry, leave this matter to me, I will tell Gu Siming , Let him take the initiative to chat with you, do you think it is okay?"

Gu's mother put her hand on Wen Yumang's knee and said softly, "Okay, then I will leave this matter to you."

"You're too polite," Wen Yumang narrowed his eyes with a smile, "Siming is my friend, and you and my mother are also friends. I definitely can't sit idly by. This is what I should do!"

"I'm really glad that Siming has a friend like you."

"Of course, excellent people definitely love to play with excellent people!" Wen Yumang laughed twice, "Okay, okay, I'm not kidding, in fact, I should have friends like Siming. I'm happy."

Wen Yumang turned and went upstairs, just took two steps, then turned around and whispered: "Auntie, don't say that in front of Siming in the future, praise him more."

Wen Yumang entered the study, while Gu Siming was still busy with work.

Wen Yumang knocked on the table: "Busy people, please lend me some time."

"What's wrong?" Gu Siming raised his head.

"How long will it take for you to finish the work at hand?" Wen Yumang was afraid of delaying Gu Siming's business.

"No hurry." Gu Siming saved the file and closed the computer, "Let's talk."

Wen Yumang pulled a chair and sat next to Gu Siming: "I just talked with your mother and your brother."

Gu Siming nodded, indicating that he was listening.

"Tell me first, what do you think is the biggest problem between you?"

"I don't understand, I can't communicate."

"Not exactly, it's not that you can't communicate, but you haven't tried to sit down and communicate with them calmly at all."

Seeing that Gu Siming was about to frown again, Wen Yumang pretended to be angry and scratched Gu Siming's frowning eyebrows with the outside of his index finger, "If you still frown, I will iron you with an iron tomorrow!"

Gu Siming smiled when he heard the words, but did not speak.

"Speak straight up if you have something to say. I hate to say a word and have to make a detour, go back and forth several times, just don't say it well, or the kind that doesn't show what's going on in my heart, and I have to hold back." In my heart, why bother to hold myself back from getting sick? Why can’t I get along with myself?”

"If you think there is something wrong with your aunt's education method, you can tell her. If you think your brother is doing something wrong, you can also tell him directly. Don't always think that you are not good at words, can't speak, and can't communicate well with others. , not being able to speak is better than not being able to speak.”

"You may not understand those small language thoughts, and you may not be euphemistic enough to make people uncomfortable, but at least you have expressed your thoughts and opinions. You must first express your attitude before others can understand What are you thinking about? Thoughts need collisions to make continuous progress and seek common ground while reserving differences.”

Wen Yumang paused, and then said: "There is also the matter of you and your brother. I am not an only child, so I can more or less understand your feelings, but after all, I am not you, and I don't know your family. , your brother, so what I said may still be relatively one-sided, you can only use it as a reference. I will use my own experience to talk to you, just to share my experience."

"Don't think that your brother is young and doesn't understand anything. In fact, children of this age know a lot. If you want to communicate with him, you can try to treat him as a peer and put the two of you together. on an equal footing."

Wen Yumang talked for a long time, his mouth was dry, but when he looked up, Gu Siming stared at him straightly, which made Wen Yumang feel a little numb, wondering if he had gone astray, Quickly express your attitude and position.

"Of course, don't worry, I will always be your strong backing. If you really can't talk with Aunt Jiahao and the others, then I will definitely be on your side!"

Gu Siming said "um", Wen Yumang somehow felt that Gu Siming seemed to be a little absent-minded, and sighed helplessly in his heart.

Look at you, are you nosy again?

However, does Gu Siming really have such a big enmity with his mother and his brother?There are ready-made steps are not under!

Neither of them said a word.

Wen Yumang couldn't sit still until Wen Yumang felt that the atmosphere was embarrassing no matter how you looked at it. When he was about to get up and find a way to go downstairs, Gu Siming seemed to be belatedly aware that Wen Yumang had finished speaking, and handed it to Wen Yumang. Yu Mang a glass of water.

Gu Siming swept Wen Yumang's slightly peeled lower lip, and pursed his lips.