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In Ruan Gai's memory, she didn't spend much time with her parents. When she was very young, they went out to work.

Every year during the Chinese New Year, I come back and stay for a while, and then leave in a hurry.

Usually, I don’t have many phone calls, and when I was young, I would be more attached to them. I wanted my parents to be by my side and listen to her talk about interesting things in school.

But as she got older and her younger brother was born, her parents paid less and less attention to her.It doesn't matter whether you buy new clothes or not, and you won't ask too much about your grades.Just say listen to your grandparents and don't be naughty.

Grandpa and grandma are working very hard, we need to help them more.

All these things were explained on the phone.

As if she was someone who didn't exist.

So Ruan Gai gradually changed from looking forward to receiving their calls to not caring whether he answered them or not.Anyway, there is nothing to say.

Sometimes I received a call from them suddenly, and some didn't know what to say.

After receiving the call this time, Ruan Gai felt a little uneasy.

She walked to the small store, and the store owner told her to wait for 2 minutes, and your mother would call in a while.

Usually this is the case.

In order to save some phone charges, the phone will also be hung up on the way to call someone.

Then wait for someone to come and call back.

"Xiao Ruan, I heard that Dr. Mo's granddaughter who came from the city accidentally fell into the water?" The shop owner is a middle-aged woman in her 50s. Every time Ruan Gai comes here to make and answer the phone She will always take the initiative to chat and gossip with people when she is young.

She knew almost everything that happened in the town.

And she also loves to crack sunflower seeds.

Sometimes when Ruan Gai passed by her small shop, she would wonder whether she opened such a small shop for the convenience of eating melon seeds.

Nguyen Gai doesn't like small talk even among his peers.

What's more, it's this kind of old lady who likes to ask about everything.

But after all, she has to go to someone's place to call and answer the phone every time. Although she will give money every time, she still has to go to call someone.

Can not afford to offend.

"En." Ruan Gai replied lightly.

Pray to her in my heart, don't ask any more.

But sometimes like this, when something happens in someone's house, whether it's the neighbors around or the passers-by, they all like to stick their heads out and watch.

"You took her there?"

That day when Ruan Gai was carrying the drenched little dirty child all the way home from Xiangbei River, many residents on the road saw him.What exactly happened, no one dared to ask.It's just guesswork, or everyone hears something from hearsay.

"Why don't you say that I just passed by and saved her." Ruan Gai was a little angry.

In fact, she should have thought of it.

Although Lao Mo and the others won't say anything, she hasn't told her family about this matter yet.

At the dinner table that day, grandma must have heard some rumors and asked about it.

But she said nothing happened.

Grandma had a cold face. It's better if there's nothing wrong, otherwise no one will take the responsibility for you.

Ruan Gai didn't respond, he lowered his head and took two mouthfuls of rice before going upstairs.

The guilt and uneasiness that had been suppressed by Lao Mo and the others reappeared at this moment.

This matter will never pass.

Even if the person concerned feels nothing, there will still be people pointing at the spine and criticizing.

If someone else inadvertently mentioned it, the indescribable emotion would be uncontrollable.

As it is now.

The shop owner sensed Ruan Gai's dissatisfaction, and apologized with a smirk: "Oh, I'll just say it, it's definitely not what those people said, Xiao Ruan is so obedient, isn't she?"

At this moment, the phone just rang.

Ruan Gai was even less in the mood to answer the call.

At this time, she never thought that today's matter would never end.

A few days later, rumors began to spread in the town, saying that the granddaughter of the Ruan family looked very well-behaved on weekdays, but she lied because of her cuteness.Mingming took the little granddaughter of Dr. Mo's family who came from the city to the river, and got all the staff.What else to say, she happened to pass by and rescued her.

Everyone is repeating it.

Ruan Gai hurt the child who came from the city.

In the future, children should stay away from her. I don't know what kind of moths will be tossed behind her back.

Where did Ruan Gai say this?

She remembered it clearly in her heart.

She was young and ignorant, and she ran to argue with others in red.

In the end, the aunt left everything clean, and called Ruan Gai's grandmother, pointing at the old man and scolding how to teach a child, what's the use of being able to study, and not being a human being.

Most of the people around have inseparable ties to this small shop.

Although he didn't make it clear who he was facing, but the position between the adults can be detected with just one look.

The traditional old people want to save face the most.

He scolded Ruan Gai indiscriminately, and Ruan Gai only cared about seeking justice at that time.She wants that nonsense aunt to apologize to her, she wants her to apologize to her!

But in the end, she got nothing back.

I was also slapped by my grandma.

"You should pay more attention to safety! Isn't it embarrassing enough?!"

When everyone starts to care about face and is afraid of losing face, no matter how absurd the things they do, they will feel that they should do so.

When there is excitement to watch, the neighbors who smile at you on weekdays will also become indifferent.

Ruan Gai will never forget the crisp sound in his whole life.

She will always remember what her so-called relatives did to her that day.

At that moment, she felt hopeless and suffocated.

Also at that moment, the little dirty boy rushed out from the crowd.

Going straight to Ruan Gai's grandmother, punching and kicking her, "Why did you hit my Gai Gai, why did you hit her, why did you hit her in front of so many people!"

"What right do you have to hit her!"

The little dirty boy completely forgot that she was still a five-year-old child.

When everyone was watching this good show and no one stood up to persuade her, she appeared.

At this time, the neighbors who were watching the excitement began to whisper to each other, "Oh, where are Dr. Mo and Mr. Lin?"

"Call them here quickly."

But at that time, Lao Mo was standing outside the crowd.

She didn't interfere with any.

So when a neighbor said to call her, he was a little surprised when he turned around and found her standing outside the crowd.

Confused faces.

Shouldn't it be to discourage children from doing such things at this time?

Lao Mo smiled symbolically: "Children are what they see. Unlike adults, what they see and don't see, what they hear and what they don't hear, they all say it's true. But it's not enough to do it. I'm really ignorant to the point where I'm not sensible. It's not cleared up. I'm sorry everyone."

No one dared to guess whether this was said to the five-year-old child or the adults present.

That night, the dirty boy insisted that Ruan Gai eat at his home.

After eating, he asked her to sleep with him again.

Anyway, she was not allowed to go home.

Just want her to be by her side all the time.

Lao Mo and Lao Lin didn't say anything, it was the dirty boy who was talking to her.

But they used their actions to tell her, and even the neighbors around, that although the so-called falling into the water and injuries existed, it would not affect anything.

have nothing to say.

You don't have to stare at it every day.

Now, in the future, in the future, it will always be a good relationship.

Similar things happened in the town.

The two adults became enemies in the end, the kind who never get in touch with each other.

But what they don't know is that the two children actually play very well in private.But only in private, not to let everyone know.

What was originally a simple matter of minor bumps, became extremely complicated after being filtered by adults.

After that day, Ruan Gai found that his mentality had changed again.

She understood some things better, and told herself in her heart that no matter how long it takes, she will never lose her original intention.

Speaking of what happened that day, Ruan Gai actually had a premonition.

When she received a call from her mother, she was also emphasizing this matter on the phone.

Somehow the incident of the little dirty boy falling into the water reached her ears. Ruan Gai guessed that someone should have asked grandma, and grandma couldn't find anything from her, so she told her mother.

When something goes wrong, most people are most afraid of being responsible.

Especially the old man must have emphasized that the little dirty boy came from the city.

If something really happened, it would be even more troublesome to take responsibility.

The other end of the phone is full of scolding.

What makes you be good at home, do your homework more when you have nothing to do, don't run around and play around, you are fine, you go out to play by yourself and take other people's children from the city.Nguyen Gai, what do you think, huh?I ask what do you think?Don’t want to study anymore, right? That’s good, come out and work with your parents, and see how hard it is to earn money now. Such words sound suffocating.

Ruan Gai really wanted to explain, but there was really nothing wrong.

But she found that she could no longer speak.

She had heard from her grandma before that it was useless for girls to study, they read for others, and they all had to get married and have children in the end.It's better to come out to work earlier, learn to do housework, and help the family.

She didn't take it seriously.

Parents never told her this either.

But at that moment, she realized she was wrong.

Some beliefs are deeply ingrained and difficult to change.

And these people will also impose their own concepts on others.

It is suffocating and helpless.

Ruan Gai even thought about how great it would be if he were a man.

Even if you make a mistake, you will be forgiven by everyone, saying that the prodigal son will not return the money.What is said is that boys are late to understand, and it is normal to make mistakes.

But these are more harsh when they are women.

Ah.

Ok.

Ruan Gai couldn't let go of the unfair treatment of patriarchy over girls for many years.

When she told Lao Mo about her thoughts, Ruan Gai would always remember what she said at that time.

she says:

"In all living beings, most people watch other people's lives. What about other people's families, how many children they have, how many sons and daughters they have; what they eat and buy today, whether their children have Achievement. Even, when their children’s children get married, when they have children, and how the children lead their lives, they will have a hand. This kind of concept has been deeply ingrained.”

"You can't expect them to change anything. The only thing you can do is to change yourself. You can live your life in this way, and have your own pursuit and love, and that's it."

The author has something to say: it is a very real and existing problem

I only want to mention this story in the hope that if the family is also facing such a problem, the friends can feel some comfort

Believe that you can break free from these suffocating circumstances

The problem of unfairness and differential treatment has always existed. Even in the 21st century, there will still be some people who feel that they must have a son, but will life really be easier after giving birth to a son?

It's not women who work hard

I really hope that those adults who insist on interfering with their children's lives in the traditional reality will wake up