dear psychiatrist

"Actually, it's my fault too. I know he's obsessed with my voice, as I said just now, he likes to hear my voice. In order to please him, I deliberately obeyed his preferences and deliberately seduced him by making noises on the bed " Xu Shi trusted Tao Yaoyao's relationship, and the woman completely opened her heart.He expressed all the thoughts in his heart to Yaoyao.

Hearing the woman sighed for a long time, it seemed that all the sadness in her heart was about to be rushed out of her chest: "It is said that you are to blame yourself. This is not false at all. I am just taking responsibility. The result. Perhaps it was because of my active temptation at the beginning, which turned him into what he is now, and made him think that I like this kind of love mode."

"My husband works in the same company as me, and both of us are ordinary employees. Although we don't have much promise, but fortunately, the work is easy and the income is stable. Although we can't say that we are rich and expensive, the most important thing is to save worry and effort. But a few days ago, I heard a lot of rumors about him." Speaking of this, the woman paused for a moment, and began to sob softly.

Even the woman herself doesn't know whether her tears are for herself or her husband at this moment.In short, at this moment, she was crying uncontrollably.After a while, the woman continued: "Everyone said he was in the office, watching a small movie... You know what I mean? It's an A/movie."

Tao Yaoyao quietly handed over a tissue.

The woman took the tissue paper and woke up, as if she had cried enough.Suddenly laughed out loud again, as if a self-mockery of the past.It seems sad and joyful, which makes people feel sad for no reason.

To be honest, the most important thing a psychologist should learn is to listen.You said, communication between people, isn't it just that you probe my heart, and I go to see yours.Then they looked at each other and smiled, and everyone laughed a few times.

In this world, there are too many people who only care about expressing their inner feelings, and have already forgotten how to listen.Take Tao Yaoyao's clients as an example, most of them are because they don't know how to express their hearts, or don't know how to feel the thoughts of others.The long-term psychological burden is backlogged in the chest, and over time, the depression becomes a mental illness.

Fortunately, Tao Yaoyao is happy to listen, and always feels that listening makes people wise.It's like at this moment, listening to the woman in front of her crying with tears and snot in her eyes.Telling about the past with her husband, romantic memories.Tao Yaoyao's thoughts changed, but she thought of a word - hypersexuality.

If Tao Yaoyao remembers correctly, men with hypersexuality are often accompanied by masturbation.Due to the long-term state of sexual excitement, the patient's sexual performance will be reduced.If the description in the literature is true, then the chance of the man cheating is not high.

After all, even if a man is wild in his heart and wants to have a vigorous affair, his physical condition does not allow him to do so.

"Because he was watching a small movie in the company, he naturally stayed in the company. After he quit his job, for nearly half a month, he kept silent about changing his wife. I was still surprised and thought to myself Did he know he was wrong, and learned to change for me. It seems... I was thinking too much." The woman chuckled, then shook her head, and said again: "He didn't change for me, but It’s just being attracted by another novel and exciting thing.”

"A few days ago, I had a big fight with him. I was willing to be patient before because he never put his fantasy into practice. I always thought he was just talking casually. But who I once thought that he became an oil masseuse and gave naked women massages with essential oils. He also told me with a smile on his face how much this job means to him." The woman said with red eyes Talking, weeping.

Tears have already faded away, and the woman's meticulous makeup...

"I know that he didn't have any deviance with those women. What do you call this? Mental derailment, right? Although he didn't have sex with anyone, he had derailed thousands of times in his heart. To be honest, for These, I am bearish." After the woman opened her mouth, she no longer cared about Tao Yaoyao's feelings.

The woman said those words to Tao Yaoyao, but also seemed to be speaking to herself: "I think there is a clear contrast between his words and his actions. There are countless contradictions between his words and deeds. He is always in the I told you in front of me how many lovers I had before, how many beautiful women followed him willingly, and how many women were looking for life and death for him. "

"..." Tao Yaoyao moved the corners of her mouth, but she didn't speak after all.

Yaoyao knew that the woman in front of her didn't want to leave her husband, even though the man was said to be worthless by her, she still loved him deeply.

Maybe when a person reaches a certain age, he will understand how difficult a person's life is.Everyone has tasted the taste of loneliness. No one can escape or hide from it. No one is special.

Love is a bowl of strong wine, marriage is a glass of white water.Just like the "Fortress Besieged" written by Mr. Qian, how many people stand outside the besieged city, envious of the beauty in the besieged city, and how many people are trapped in the besieged city, lamenting the freedom in the past.

Perhaps, the woman in front of her doesn't want much.I just want to return to the normal and happy life in the past, a husband who loves me.Although, feelings will always become tasteless with the passage of time.Love will eventually turn into family affection.There is less passion when I was young, and more plainness after maturity.

After all, the woman had cried enough and wiped away her tears, but her makeup was blurred.Confided to Tao Yaoyao, the words that had been accumulated in my heart for a long time, on the contrary, they did not have the restraint when they first met.

It wasn't until the woman stopped talking that Tao Yaoyao opened her mouth: "Have you ever told your husband that you don't like him working as an oil massager? You don't like him telling you about his sexual fantasies? ?”

Hearing Tao Yaoyao's question, the woman was startled, and then glanced suspiciously at Tao Yaoyao.After thinking for a while, he answered Yaoyao's question: "I rarely talk about this kind of private topic. Most of the time, he is the one who talks and I listen. Doctor, what do you think I should do?" manage?"

"It is undeniable that each of us has more or less sexual fantasies. It's just that most people don't tell others what they think in their hearts." Tao Yaoyao organized her mind Thoughts, out to the woman one by one.Try to make her understand that these behaviors of her husband, although exaggerated, are also understandable.

Judging from the woman's statement alone, her husband is likely to suffer from sexual hyperactivity.Yaoyao advises women to open their hearts appropriately and tell their husbands what they want in their hearts.

Emotionally, no one is right or wrong.Most couples drift apart because of lack of communication.The woman in front of her was trapped by herself at the other end of this long gap, not knowing how to express her heart.

Under benign communication, the man's situation still hasn't improved.Then it needs to be considered, let the man receive certain psychological counseling and appropriate drug treatment to treat sexual arousal.

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Watching Tao Yaoyao send the woman out of the office, Li Manyun, who was making plans for tomorrow, stood up from her seat without haste.Stepping on his high heels, twisting his waist, he sent the woman out of the consulting room with a smile.It wasn't until the woman disappeared at the end of the stairs that Man Yun turned around and returned to the office.

"Man Yun, will there be any guests later?" Tao Yaoyao sat on the boss's chair, stretched exaggeratedly, looked tired, and smiled at Li Manyun.

"Hey, do you still want to greet a guest? Well, as long as you say a word, I will arrange it for you immediately." When no outsiders are around, Man Yun will always put away her serious appearance and open a few words to Yaoyao. Harmless joke.

Xu is from the bottom of his heart, he likes Tao Yaoyao's relationship, Li Manyun will always imitate Tao Yaoyao's movements intentionally or unintentionally.No, Li Manyun crossed her legs and sat on the sofa beside Yaoyao, making a casual joke.

Yaoyao looked at Li Manyun's appearance and thought it was funny.But she didn't speak, only Tao Yaoyao frowned and smiled.

Man Yun smiled and asked gossip: "It is said that everyone has a story. I really don't know, what is the secret of this woman?"

"Look at you, you're just prying. You're so gossip, you always care about other people's affairs." Tao Yaoyao said with a smile, but she wasn't really angry with Li Manyun.

After being silent for a moment, Ting Yaoyao said in an unknown tone: "There is really no right or wrong when it comes to emotional matters."

Man Yun wanted to say something else, but at this moment, Tao Yaoyao's cell phone rang.Tao Yaoyao gave Man Yun a sorry look, picked up the phone and glanced at the caller ID - it turned out to be her brother, Tao Banxia's call.

"Yaoyao, are you off work? In the evening, do you have time to have a meal with your brother?" Just after the call was connected, before Tao Yaoyao could speak, Tao Banxia's voice came from the other end of the phone.

Hearing Ban Xia's voice, Tao Yaoyao's fatigue of the day was swept away.Busy turned to the other end of the phone and joked: "Brother Bandit, it's rare to think of my sister. I must reward you for this face."

"Okay, then it's settled. In half an hour, I'll pick you up downstairs!" Tao Banxia was impatient, so she made an appointment with Tao Yaoyao, and hung up the phone in a hurry.

For Tao Banxia's temperament, Yaoyao had long been used to it, she shook her head slightly, and hung up the phone.