August 8th was 8:3 in the morning, which was the exact time of Donghai's father's death. The doctor's first aid still failed to defeat the god of death. This seemed to be the fate of many ordinary people, but Li Xianyin's mood quickly fell down.
The funeral was scheduled for the morning of August 8 two days later, and Wu Zhibin asked him if he wanted to do some condolences first, such as helping them arrange the funeral and sending a wreath or something.
In this kind of disturbing time, a calm assistant played a very important role. After getting the affirmation of Li Xianyin, Wu Zhibin would arrange everything without him needing to worry too much.
Afterwards, he also received an inquiry text message from Jian Xie'an. Now, Jian Xie'an, who has completely become his personal spokesperson, made a statement not to spread the news to the outside world. Be careful when using words and tone, because it’s not good to cause fans’ resentment and accusations with inappropriate words and tone, and no one wants to add to the chaos.
Because Li Xian didn't reply him for the time being, he turned to look at several other new text messages, most of which were sent by leaders of other departments in the company. Some people even asked him if he wanted to return to the company for a meeting tomorrow morning.
Li Xianyin, who originally planned to go directly to Jeju Island from Gwangju tomorrow after communicating with Lao Li, and then transfer to Huaxia, of course, could not return to Seoul. It's not a good thing to say the same, so what's the point of having a meeting?
It is sad news, no matter whether the public is sympathetic or indifferent, every time it is mentioned will only bring harm to the person concerned, the best ending is to let time forget this matter, maybe after many years, Donghai will also be rational And plainly mentioned the deceased father.
As far as SM is concerned, all that needs to be done now is to issue a statement to inform the outside world of this matter. He deliberately rushes back to the meeting and can't do anything more constructive. If he is a little more indifferent, they don't even have to worry about it. For the funeral, just ignore the past and wait for Dong Hai to adjust his mentality and come back to work.
Excluding the human factor, the relationship between the artist and the company is a contract. Some things are done because of love. Although fans may accuse them of being cold-blooded if they don't do it, it is not a fault.
Li Xianyin has been wondering whether to go to Li's father's funeral since the afternoon. It is really unlucky to think about this kind of thing in advance, but until now he has not come up with a result.
In fact, if his big boss does not go to the funeral, he will not be judged too much by the outside world. In this country where the chaebol has too much control, the people have a deep understanding of the fact that "the boss's time is precious".
Compared with fans in other parts of Asia, although Korean fans are also very sensitive, they will feel that their idols have been treated harshly because of some small things, but these things definitely do not include "the owner of the agency did not go to participate funeral", in the general social perception in Korea, bosses and entertainers are not at the same level.
If Li Xianyin went to the funeral, he could even be praised as humane.
He had enough reasons to avoid this occasion, but his heart was inexplicably anxious, his heart beat fast in the middle of the night, and he didn't know if it was because he didn't sleep well, or it was a precursor to the disease.
The last few days when Li Xian received allergy treatment in the hospital was when Li Xian’s stress disorder was most obvious. During the resistance to treatment, the heart beats too fast, and I just can't relax.
Looking back now, it was a particularly terrifying experience, because he was completely unable to control and regulate his physical and psychological state.
He thought that if he didn't go to the funeral or face the death of other people, his chances of getting sick would decrease, so he also avoided things that made him feel scared.
But it is because he can clearly perceive his evasion and knows that he is making excuses, so under the anxious mood, Li Xianyin will inevitably cast aside some self, and even think about the distant future, whether he will gradually be in the same place again and again. Completely lose the courage to take risks in the escape?
Such a self, not to mention that he has become a weak person in his definition, is also unable to lead a company to develop at a high speed. Entrepreneurs cannot be insulated from the word risk. Most businesses in this world have risks that can be large or small. , Once you start to be timid, good money-making opportunities will not be your turn.
Li Xianyin also knows that his thinking is too divergent now, so that he magnifies the future effect of a certain decision. It's just a funeral, it's not that serious, but pessimistic thoughts just keep popping up uncontrollably, as if It seemed wrong for him not to go to the funeral.
This kind of behavior of putting pressure on himself was purely sick in the eyes of Li Xianyin in his previous life, but... who made him really sick now.
That's why it is said that people with mental illness need the counseling of a psychologist, especially a good psychologist, otherwise they can kill themselves just by digging into a dead end.
At present, Li Xianyin, who cherishes life very much, leaned on the bed and held his left chest for a while, and finally called Zhou Deyi before dawn.
He who knows the current affairs is Junjie. When there were no major problems before, he could still stubbornly say that he was not sick, but when it came to the critical moment, his fearless stubbornness could only make him double the pain and injury that could have been avoided.
The voice on the other side of the phone is still a little confused, his psychiatrist is obviously not up yet, and today is a Sunday when many people don't go to work, so it's understandable to get up late, but Li Xianyin won't just hang up the phone because of this and choose to wait a while Let's talk again.
He couldn't wait at all, as if the presence of someone else's voice, even the sound of breathing, would make him feel more at ease.
Zhou Deyi, who was in a daze for a while, finally grasped the situation, and had to take care of his wife who was sleeping soundly next to him. He had to get up from the bed and go to the study to give Li Xianyin early morning psychological counseling. It was early morning.
However, Li Xianyin, who took the initiative to call, didn't know how to speak at the moment. His purpose of calling was to lose control of his emotions under anxiety for a while. He needed to find someone to put it aside and vent some negative emotions depending on the situation. Turned around.
Zhou Deyi is the most suitable candidate. After all, the other party has good professional ethics and will not tell what he said. It is not shameful to show weakness to the psychiatrist occasionally. At the same time, he hopes that the other party can give him some words of enlightenment and help.
But when it came to an end, he didn't know how to describe his current state. If he really had to use the thinking of a normal person to sum it up, he was hypocritical plus delusional...
So in the end, Li Xianyin had no choice but to state the matter dryly, and the matter that could be summed up in two sentences made him stupefied all night.
Fortunately, Zhou Deyi was well-informed and had contact with all kinds of patients. He didn't think there was anything wrong with Li Xianyin's behavior, and even analyzed it for him in a serious manner.
"I can't confirm your state just on the phone, but this is your life, as long as you go in the direction you like and are willing to go, if your avoidance behavior makes you uncomfortable, even to the point of getting sick, then It's not such a bad decision to go to a funeral."
There are many kinds of mental illnesses, such as autism, which belong to the psychological level and mostly affect the physiological development of the body. It is reflected that there is no particularly obvious concept of "morbidity" in real life, because people with autism Most people behave differently from normal people all the time, instead of being normal sometimes and not being normal when they get sick.
Except for this type, most mental illnesses with onset characteristics have no rules at all. It may be that one second you are sitting there, and the next second you are stimulated by a small detail. It is not uncommon for you to break down emotionally and cry every minute. possible.
Don't talk about logic with the patient, it's impossible to make sense at all. Basically, it is mainly obedience and comfort, otherwise it may aggravate the other person's condition.
Take traumatic stress disorder as an example, if the condition is more serious, the incidence frequency is very high, and there are many people who are so anxious that they can't sleep at night. Li Xianyin is obviously not at that level. Emotions should be something, or some pictures in his imagination, that stimulated him.
Scaring oneself is not a rare thing among mental patients, but Zhou Deyi is a little confused because of this. Li Xianyin seems to be particularly concerned about the matter of facing death, as if he is worried that the god of death will suddenly rush out Taking his life away, although he was vaguely aware of this before, but now it is more and more obvious every time, so he has no choice but to speak out.
"Xian Yin, death is far away from you. You don't have to be afraid of seeing others passing away. There are not so many accidents in life, right? It is said that if you survive a catastrophe, you will have future blessings. If you live a good life after a car accident, you will get better and better in the future. Come and get better."
As early as the first two conversations, the two of them made an appointment to say non-honorific words to each other before the treatment ended, so that they felt more like real friends. He said this sentence in a very normal tone without too much Exhortation, of course, will not be impatient, like a sudden feeling.
However, Zhou Deyi, who has always been able to accurately predict the psychological activities of patients, encountered Waterloo this time. After these words, Li Xianyin on the other side of the phone fell silent for a while, as if suddenly no longer willing to confide in Zhou Deyi. Soon there was a not-so-relaxed atmosphere.
He said the wrong thing.
Zhou Deyi immediately realized this, and his originally quite relaxed thoughts instantly tensed up, thinking about how to change the topic to make up for it.
"However, if you really want to go, don't go in front of the coffin and portraits. Seeing you off is already a good way to express your heart. If you leave in the middle of the funeral, the rhythm is just right."
Funerals in Korea are held in funeral parlors, or at home or in special hotels. Basically, meals are prepared for the guests, and the funeral is held after a meal.
It can be said that except for the first entrance and the final funeral, few people will keep staring at the photos and coffin of others, "You mean I should go?"
Li Xianyin listened to this sentence, but cut the beginning and the end, and only listened to the part he wanted to hear, which made Zhou Deyi choke and almost didn't come down.
"If you think it would be better to go, then go, as long as you are happy."
He wanted to say a few more words. Li Xianyin was so afraid of things related to death. In his heart, he still didn't recommend that the patient go to such a place where negative emotions gather. But after the trial failed just now, he must speak Be careful, you can only end this topic with this panacea of approval in the end.
"But if you feel unwell in the middle, remember to call me. I am free anytime and anywhere these days, including nights."
Zhou Deyi knew about Li Xianyin's overseas travel plan very early on. After all, the treatment cannot be interrupted. Even if he goes abroad, he still has to make regular video calls. How can Ms. Jin have already paid him a large amount of treatment expenses, at least for the next half a year? He has to bear Li Xianyin's mental health.
As a patient, Li Xianyin hung up the phone after he got a satisfactory answer. Even if you let him think about it, you will find that the whole conversation is illogical. Zhou Deyi is echoing him, and he himself is saying Talk to yourself.
The bottom line is that he had already made a decision before making the phone call, but he couldn't be sure whether his decision was correct in fear. He needed someone to approve his decision, not to refute it fearlessly.
Even if he was persuaded by Zhou Deyi today, and he didn't go to the funeral later, it doesn't mean that the hypocrisy that has tossed him for most of the night will easily dissipate, so he just hopes that the other party will obey him, hope that he can get external support, and make him feel like going to participate The funeral is not a big deal, affirming his choice in disguise, this is what he needs a psychiatrist to do.
If Zhou Deyi gave an answer that didn't meet his initial expectations, it would aggravate his anxiety, and it would make him feel uncomfortable no matter whether he went or not.
As an experienced psychological counselor, even though he didn't see Li Xianyin's expression directly, Zhou Deyi also noticed this. It should be said that many patients will have this kind of mentality. In the treatment, we should have conveyed "you are right"" You're doing a good job" This concept does not conflict with the previous differentiated therapy.
Li Xianyin's itinerary for the funeral has been decided, but the stay will not be too long, and he will not help with trivial matters. Wu Zhibin will help him handle everything, he only needs to change into an all-black suit , it will be enough to bring your whole body with you when the time comes.
However, both Wu Zhibin and Jin Zhenjing were very surprised that he was going to attend Donghae's father's funeral two days later. They didn't understand why their boss would attend such an unrelated occasion.
Even Stanley, who was far away in Germany, expressed doubts after learning the news, and even asked directly more boldly than his two colleagues: "I think Donghai's family may not be familiar with you..."
Although as a family member of an artist, I was not very familiar with Li Xiuman, who is the president, and the number of times we met may be enough to count with one hand, but Li Xianyin is still different. In fact, it is enough for people to bring condolences.
To tell the truth, Wu Zhibin was ready to go to Mokpo instead of the boss, but the result is that life is full of surprises, and the boss goes astray every day.
Now ordinary people can't understand Li Xianyin at all, he doesn't bother to explain even if he is too stubborn, as if going to a funeral can prove that his courage and determination will not be lost with the passage of time.
At 8:8 am on August [-]th, SM announced the news of Donghae's father's death. While expressing deep condolences, he also informed Donghae of his itinerary for the next few days.
At least in the last week, Donghae will not participate in any SJ group activities. This is a funeral leave that many companies do not have. Although it is not written into the company's rules and regulations, Li Xianyin has given some compensation for funeral leave since he took office. It is already a well-known fact that not only artists, but also employees are treated equally.
A family member has just passed away, and most of the staff are not efficient at work, so it is better to calm down at home.
Those who are alive still have to work hard to live. The one-week vacation is already very long. After all, it is SJ’s comeback period. It’s always bad to be short of people for a long time. In addition, this comeback is almost the best result since their debut. I missed it once. The impact on Donghai's career is not small.
After grief, a fulfilling life and work can also speed up the fading of the traces of injury. Li Xianyin didn't think there was anything wrong with this arrangement.
He didn't go online for two days on the 8th and 9th. On this matter, he didn't want to watch those netizens talking nonsense and studying the famous scenic spots in China for a long time after forced meditation in the room.
Ever since he knew that this parallel world does not have those bad family members in his previous life, Li Xianyin only went back to Huaxia with Dongshen last time, and most of the information he consulted afterwards was mainly about business, but this time he planned to use Huaxia as a The first stop of his tour.
Although he has a heart for China, he was rich and had the opportunity to travel all over the country in his previous life, but when it comes to serious attractions, he has never been to a few, and he knows less than some foreigners who often travel to China. Think about it carefully It's a pity to think about it.
Moreover, China and South Korea are also close, with a very small time difference. He can slowly spend two or three months in China, and then turn around to deal with the financial crisis.
But before that, he had to attend the funeral, and then make it clear with Lao Li.
It was originally a matter of a phone call, but now it has been postponed to after the funeral. It was not difficult to say that he did not want to continue to be the president, but besides brewing words, he was still thinking about killing first and then playing.
Anyway, he ran away directly from Korea, so he had a showdown one day in advance. No one in SM had time to catch him. Lao Li had to come back if he didn’t want to come back. We can’t let SM not even have a president in the next few months. Yes or no.
That is to say, on the morning of August 8th, Li Fuzhen completed the matters related to the shares of the TV station, and after passing the documents to him, he added: "I will send you the contract for the transfer of shares this afternoon. In addition, If you have time, give Yun Xin a call."
Li Xianyin didn't know what this had to do with Li Yunxin, even though he felt like throwing it away after using it, but after confirming Li Jianxi's destination and time of going abroad, he did not contact Li Yunxin again.
From the time he chose to approach Li Yunxin, all he wanted was to seek cooperation. Once this plan was over, there was no need for contact between them.
It's not that you can't even be friends, but no matter how you think about it, it seems that there is nothing to talk about.
Leaving aside the differences in natural hobbies brought about by gender differences, in many things, he and Li Yunxin are not on the same level of acceptance.
Moreover, the social identities and natural personalities of the two people are also very different. I really don't know what to talk about, and it's not a relationship. I have to find a way to understand each other's hobbies, and endlessly find ways to get along that suit the two.
That's too tiring, and it's really unnecessary. It's also good to return to the ranks of "people who are not too familiar" as soon as the project is over.
In Li Xianyin's perception, Li Yunxin should also think this way. After all, the girl agreed to cooperate with him at first to gain emotional freedom. Now that she finally got rid of her father's control, she should run away as if she were having fun. The United States should look for her first love boyfriend, where there is no time to talk to him.
And those days when he was an undercover agent should be hard for Li Yunxin to talk about. According to common sense, that girl would not want to see his face at least for a short time, and it would be miraculous for him to call at this time.
Besides, it's not that Li Yunxin didn't know his phone number, if there was something to do, she would have called by herself, so why would Li Fuzhen help convey it.
There have been too many strange things recently. Li Xianyin promised that Li Fuzhen would call back, but it must be after attending the funeral in the morning. I hope his condition will not be too bad at that time, so he can call Li Yunxin and Lao Li separately. Finishing the phone call is his victory.
Kim Jeong-kyung did not go to Mokpo with him because he had other things to deal with. Because the drive was too slow, Lee Hyun-yin took the KTX. KTX is a type of Korean train, but it is faster than most trains. In fact, it is a bit like a train. Like, save at least half the time.
Kim Jeong-kyung has bought a KTX ticket for him. Among the six existing lines, only the KTX Honam Line stops at Songjeong Station in Gwangju, and then drives to the terminal station Mokpo. Of course, the starting station is Seoul.
Li Xianyin was wearing the black suit that was just delivered to him yesterday, wearing a black mask and hat, standing on the platform in a daze while waiting for the train to enter the station. He didn't know what he was thinking. A little trance, seems to be just following the subconscious reaction.
Even if he was tortured by his weird father for a long time in his previous life, he didn't seem to be so depressed. Every day he felt that he had created a new height of hypocrisy.
However, the speed of KTX is too fast, and there is not much time left for him to mourn the autumn and spring. It takes more than ten minutes to travel from Gwangju to Mokpo. After leaving the station, he will report the address of the funeral to the taxi. You can get there in half an hour.
"You young people, you have to come to join in the fun at the funeral of your father."
Li Xianyin looked at the interior of the taxi unnaturally. After all, he hadn't taken a taxi for a long time. Hearing this, he subconsciously asked, "Whose funeral?"
The driver seemed to be a little annoyed by his fast-talking, "Oh, you are not with those people before? I thought you were all fans of that boy band member. There are two little girls in the car after five o'clock in the morning. I couldn't cry anymore, but I feel sorry for him, and I don't know..."
The driver master did not say the words behind, but normal people can understand them, that is to say, the fans are too excited, and feel anxious and distressed. It is normal for your idol youth to lose his father. You came to attend the funeral without being invited What's the matter?
It's not like your family has passed away!
The driver looked incomprehensible, and Li Xianyin also frowned. When SM made the public announcement before, no one thought there was anything wrong. The funeral was not an event, and no one thought that there would be fans running to see him off.
In fact, on that occasion, no matter whether it is kind or not, and whether you want to confirm the status of idols, it is not suitable to go to the scene to watch, and it will easily cause trouble to the parties involved.
"I'm not a fan of that artist, but it just so happens that a friend's house is also having a funeral. Are there many fans who came here today?" Li Xianyin let out a panic smoothly, wanting to ask for more information, so that he could have a better idea.
"I picked up three cars just this morning, and those two girls are still good, at least they are wearing black clothes, with a white flower on their chest just like you, and there are a few boys who are not in compliance with the rules, I don't know I thought it was going to make trouble."
It seemed that Li Xianyin was willing to listen. The driver said more and more, and the expression on his face was no longer deliberately controlled. The sense of dislike and accusation was almost overflowing, "How can someone like a stranger so much? This level? Isn’t it a fan of brains? They don’t stop talking in the car, I didn’t know that our Mokpo also produced idols.”
The status of idols has always been very low. Apart from the fact that many people think that they earn money just by their looks, which is something for nothing, it is mainly the middle-aged group who hold economic power who are quite unimpressed with idols.
After all, many idol fans are quite crazy, and illegitimate meals have become popular in recent years. If your son and daughter are also fascinated by idols, running around without studying all day long, no parent will like it, of course. Even idols themselves hate it together.
Even the term "brainless fan" was originally passed down from the mouths of the parents.
"Are those who don't wear black clothes also fans? Fans should be more considerate of idols, right? It's common sense not to wear colored clothes at funerals."
Li Xian was not in the mood to complain with the driver, and continued to ask in a casual tone. He always felt that things were not that simple.
Because South Korea is also influenced by Confucian culture, the funeral etiquette is very similar to that of China. If it is a traditional family, the funeral for the family needs to wear hemp and filial piety, wear Hanbok, pull hair, and prohibit obscenity. The guests who come to condolence and ask for courtesy also wear black suits, and girls are not allowed to wear skirts.
Many young children have never held a funeral, and some have never even participated in it. It is normal to be unclear about some details, but wearing bright colored clothes to a funeral is easy to be scolded in Europe and the United States, not to mention Asia. , Li Xianyin does not believe that fans can do such a thing.
"I don't know about that, but they also went to this address, and the names mentioned are the same as those little girls said." So saying, the driver paused for a while, and added: "But they don't seem to be As sad as the girls, one of them is still wearing a bright red T-shirt, maybe the boys are not as careful as the girls..."
Li Xianyin stopped talking, and looked up at the sky outside the car window, which was unexpectedly gloomy.
The funeral was scheduled for the morning of August 8 two days later, and Wu Zhibin asked him if he wanted to do some condolences first, such as helping them arrange the funeral and sending a wreath or something.
In this kind of disturbing time, a calm assistant played a very important role. After getting the affirmation of Li Xianyin, Wu Zhibin would arrange everything without him needing to worry too much.
Afterwards, he also received an inquiry text message from Jian Xie'an. Now, Jian Xie'an, who has completely become his personal spokesperson, made a statement not to spread the news to the outside world. Be careful when using words and tone, because it’s not good to cause fans’ resentment and accusations with inappropriate words and tone, and no one wants to add to the chaos.
Because Li Xian didn't reply him for the time being, he turned to look at several other new text messages, most of which were sent by leaders of other departments in the company. Some people even asked him if he wanted to return to the company for a meeting tomorrow morning.
Li Xianyin, who originally planned to go directly to Jeju Island from Gwangju tomorrow after communicating with Lao Li, and then transfer to Huaxia, of course, could not return to Seoul. It's not a good thing to say the same, so what's the point of having a meeting?
It is sad news, no matter whether the public is sympathetic or indifferent, every time it is mentioned will only bring harm to the person concerned, the best ending is to let time forget this matter, maybe after many years, Donghai will also be rational And plainly mentioned the deceased father.
As far as SM is concerned, all that needs to be done now is to issue a statement to inform the outside world of this matter. He deliberately rushes back to the meeting and can't do anything more constructive. If he is a little more indifferent, they don't even have to worry about it. For the funeral, just ignore the past and wait for Dong Hai to adjust his mentality and come back to work.
Excluding the human factor, the relationship between the artist and the company is a contract. Some things are done because of love. Although fans may accuse them of being cold-blooded if they don't do it, it is not a fault.
Li Xianyin has been wondering whether to go to Li's father's funeral since the afternoon. It is really unlucky to think about this kind of thing in advance, but until now he has not come up with a result.
In fact, if his big boss does not go to the funeral, he will not be judged too much by the outside world. In this country where the chaebol has too much control, the people have a deep understanding of the fact that "the boss's time is precious".
Compared with fans in other parts of Asia, although Korean fans are also very sensitive, they will feel that their idols have been treated harshly because of some small things, but these things definitely do not include "the owner of the agency did not go to participate funeral", in the general social perception in Korea, bosses and entertainers are not at the same level.
If Li Xianyin went to the funeral, he could even be praised as humane.
He had enough reasons to avoid this occasion, but his heart was inexplicably anxious, his heart beat fast in the middle of the night, and he didn't know if it was because he didn't sleep well, or it was a precursor to the disease.
The last few days when Li Xian received allergy treatment in the hospital was when Li Xian’s stress disorder was most obvious. During the resistance to treatment, the heart beats too fast, and I just can't relax.
Looking back now, it was a particularly terrifying experience, because he was completely unable to control and regulate his physical and psychological state.
He thought that if he didn't go to the funeral or face the death of other people, his chances of getting sick would decrease, so he also avoided things that made him feel scared.
But it is because he can clearly perceive his evasion and knows that he is making excuses, so under the anxious mood, Li Xianyin will inevitably cast aside some self, and even think about the distant future, whether he will gradually be in the same place again and again. Completely lose the courage to take risks in the escape?
Such a self, not to mention that he has become a weak person in his definition, is also unable to lead a company to develop at a high speed. Entrepreneurs cannot be insulated from the word risk. Most businesses in this world have risks that can be large or small. , Once you start to be timid, good money-making opportunities will not be your turn.
Li Xianyin also knows that his thinking is too divergent now, so that he magnifies the future effect of a certain decision. It's just a funeral, it's not that serious, but pessimistic thoughts just keep popping up uncontrollably, as if It seemed wrong for him not to go to the funeral.
This kind of behavior of putting pressure on himself was purely sick in the eyes of Li Xianyin in his previous life, but... who made him really sick now.
That's why it is said that people with mental illness need the counseling of a psychologist, especially a good psychologist, otherwise they can kill themselves just by digging into a dead end.
At present, Li Xianyin, who cherishes life very much, leaned on the bed and held his left chest for a while, and finally called Zhou Deyi before dawn.
He who knows the current affairs is Junjie. When there were no major problems before, he could still stubbornly say that he was not sick, but when it came to the critical moment, his fearless stubbornness could only make him double the pain and injury that could have been avoided.
The voice on the other side of the phone is still a little confused, his psychiatrist is obviously not up yet, and today is a Sunday when many people don't go to work, so it's understandable to get up late, but Li Xianyin won't just hang up the phone because of this and choose to wait a while Let's talk again.
He couldn't wait at all, as if the presence of someone else's voice, even the sound of breathing, would make him feel more at ease.
Zhou Deyi, who was in a daze for a while, finally grasped the situation, and had to take care of his wife who was sleeping soundly next to him. He had to get up from the bed and go to the study to give Li Xianyin early morning psychological counseling. It was early morning.
However, Li Xianyin, who took the initiative to call, didn't know how to speak at the moment. His purpose of calling was to lose control of his emotions under anxiety for a while. He needed to find someone to put it aside and vent some negative emotions depending on the situation. Turned around.
Zhou Deyi is the most suitable candidate. After all, the other party has good professional ethics and will not tell what he said. It is not shameful to show weakness to the psychiatrist occasionally. At the same time, he hopes that the other party can give him some words of enlightenment and help.
But when it came to an end, he didn't know how to describe his current state. If he really had to use the thinking of a normal person to sum it up, he was hypocritical plus delusional...
So in the end, Li Xianyin had no choice but to state the matter dryly, and the matter that could be summed up in two sentences made him stupefied all night.
Fortunately, Zhou Deyi was well-informed and had contact with all kinds of patients. He didn't think there was anything wrong with Li Xianyin's behavior, and even analyzed it for him in a serious manner.
"I can't confirm your state just on the phone, but this is your life, as long as you go in the direction you like and are willing to go, if your avoidance behavior makes you uncomfortable, even to the point of getting sick, then It's not such a bad decision to go to a funeral."
There are many kinds of mental illnesses, such as autism, which belong to the psychological level and mostly affect the physiological development of the body. It is reflected that there is no particularly obvious concept of "morbidity" in real life, because people with autism Most people behave differently from normal people all the time, instead of being normal sometimes and not being normal when they get sick.
Except for this type, most mental illnesses with onset characteristics have no rules at all. It may be that one second you are sitting there, and the next second you are stimulated by a small detail. It is not uncommon for you to break down emotionally and cry every minute. possible.
Don't talk about logic with the patient, it's impossible to make sense at all. Basically, it is mainly obedience and comfort, otherwise it may aggravate the other person's condition.
Take traumatic stress disorder as an example, if the condition is more serious, the incidence frequency is very high, and there are many people who are so anxious that they can't sleep at night. Li Xianyin is obviously not at that level. Emotions should be something, or some pictures in his imagination, that stimulated him.
Scaring oneself is not a rare thing among mental patients, but Zhou Deyi is a little confused because of this. Li Xianyin seems to be particularly concerned about the matter of facing death, as if he is worried that the god of death will suddenly rush out Taking his life away, although he was vaguely aware of this before, but now it is more and more obvious every time, so he has no choice but to speak out.
"Xian Yin, death is far away from you. You don't have to be afraid of seeing others passing away. There are not so many accidents in life, right? It is said that if you survive a catastrophe, you will have future blessings. If you live a good life after a car accident, you will get better and better in the future. Come and get better."
As early as the first two conversations, the two of them made an appointment to say non-honorific words to each other before the treatment ended, so that they felt more like real friends. He said this sentence in a very normal tone without too much Exhortation, of course, will not be impatient, like a sudden feeling.
However, Zhou Deyi, who has always been able to accurately predict the psychological activities of patients, encountered Waterloo this time. After these words, Li Xianyin on the other side of the phone fell silent for a while, as if suddenly no longer willing to confide in Zhou Deyi. Soon there was a not-so-relaxed atmosphere.
He said the wrong thing.
Zhou Deyi immediately realized this, and his originally quite relaxed thoughts instantly tensed up, thinking about how to change the topic to make up for it.
"However, if you really want to go, don't go in front of the coffin and portraits. Seeing you off is already a good way to express your heart. If you leave in the middle of the funeral, the rhythm is just right."
Funerals in Korea are held in funeral parlors, or at home or in special hotels. Basically, meals are prepared for the guests, and the funeral is held after a meal.
It can be said that except for the first entrance and the final funeral, few people will keep staring at the photos and coffin of others, "You mean I should go?"
Li Xianyin listened to this sentence, but cut the beginning and the end, and only listened to the part he wanted to hear, which made Zhou Deyi choke and almost didn't come down.
"If you think it would be better to go, then go, as long as you are happy."
He wanted to say a few more words. Li Xianyin was so afraid of things related to death. In his heart, he still didn't recommend that the patient go to such a place where negative emotions gather. But after the trial failed just now, he must speak Be careful, you can only end this topic with this panacea of approval in the end.
"But if you feel unwell in the middle, remember to call me. I am free anytime and anywhere these days, including nights."
Zhou Deyi knew about Li Xianyin's overseas travel plan very early on. After all, the treatment cannot be interrupted. Even if he goes abroad, he still has to make regular video calls. How can Ms. Jin have already paid him a large amount of treatment expenses, at least for the next half a year? He has to bear Li Xianyin's mental health.
As a patient, Li Xianyin hung up the phone after he got a satisfactory answer. Even if you let him think about it, you will find that the whole conversation is illogical. Zhou Deyi is echoing him, and he himself is saying Talk to yourself.
The bottom line is that he had already made a decision before making the phone call, but he couldn't be sure whether his decision was correct in fear. He needed someone to approve his decision, not to refute it fearlessly.
Even if he was persuaded by Zhou Deyi today, and he didn't go to the funeral later, it doesn't mean that the hypocrisy that has tossed him for most of the night will easily dissipate, so he just hopes that the other party will obey him, hope that he can get external support, and make him feel like going to participate The funeral is not a big deal, affirming his choice in disguise, this is what he needs a psychiatrist to do.
If Zhou Deyi gave an answer that didn't meet his initial expectations, it would aggravate his anxiety, and it would make him feel uncomfortable no matter whether he went or not.
As an experienced psychological counselor, even though he didn't see Li Xianyin's expression directly, Zhou Deyi also noticed this. It should be said that many patients will have this kind of mentality. In the treatment, we should have conveyed "you are right"" You're doing a good job" This concept does not conflict with the previous differentiated therapy.
Li Xianyin's itinerary for the funeral has been decided, but the stay will not be too long, and he will not help with trivial matters. Wu Zhibin will help him handle everything, he only needs to change into an all-black suit , it will be enough to bring your whole body with you when the time comes.
However, both Wu Zhibin and Jin Zhenjing were very surprised that he was going to attend Donghae's father's funeral two days later. They didn't understand why their boss would attend such an unrelated occasion.
Even Stanley, who was far away in Germany, expressed doubts after learning the news, and even asked directly more boldly than his two colleagues: "I think Donghai's family may not be familiar with you..."
Although as a family member of an artist, I was not very familiar with Li Xiuman, who is the president, and the number of times we met may be enough to count with one hand, but Li Xianyin is still different. In fact, it is enough for people to bring condolences.
To tell the truth, Wu Zhibin was ready to go to Mokpo instead of the boss, but the result is that life is full of surprises, and the boss goes astray every day.
Now ordinary people can't understand Li Xianyin at all, he doesn't bother to explain even if he is too stubborn, as if going to a funeral can prove that his courage and determination will not be lost with the passage of time.
At 8:8 am on August [-]th, SM announced the news of Donghae's father's death. While expressing deep condolences, he also informed Donghae of his itinerary for the next few days.
At least in the last week, Donghae will not participate in any SJ group activities. This is a funeral leave that many companies do not have. Although it is not written into the company's rules and regulations, Li Xianyin has given some compensation for funeral leave since he took office. It is already a well-known fact that not only artists, but also employees are treated equally.
A family member has just passed away, and most of the staff are not efficient at work, so it is better to calm down at home.
Those who are alive still have to work hard to live. The one-week vacation is already very long. After all, it is SJ’s comeback period. It’s always bad to be short of people for a long time. In addition, this comeback is almost the best result since their debut. I missed it once. The impact on Donghai's career is not small.
After grief, a fulfilling life and work can also speed up the fading of the traces of injury. Li Xianyin didn't think there was anything wrong with this arrangement.
He didn't go online for two days on the 8th and 9th. On this matter, he didn't want to watch those netizens talking nonsense and studying the famous scenic spots in China for a long time after forced meditation in the room.
Ever since he knew that this parallel world does not have those bad family members in his previous life, Li Xianyin only went back to Huaxia with Dongshen last time, and most of the information he consulted afterwards was mainly about business, but this time he planned to use Huaxia as a The first stop of his tour.
Although he has a heart for China, he was rich and had the opportunity to travel all over the country in his previous life, but when it comes to serious attractions, he has never been to a few, and he knows less than some foreigners who often travel to China. Think about it carefully It's a pity to think about it.
Moreover, China and South Korea are also close, with a very small time difference. He can slowly spend two or three months in China, and then turn around to deal with the financial crisis.
But before that, he had to attend the funeral, and then make it clear with Lao Li.
It was originally a matter of a phone call, but now it has been postponed to after the funeral. It was not difficult to say that he did not want to continue to be the president, but besides brewing words, he was still thinking about killing first and then playing.
Anyway, he ran away directly from Korea, so he had a showdown one day in advance. No one in SM had time to catch him. Lao Li had to come back if he didn’t want to come back. We can’t let SM not even have a president in the next few months. Yes or no.
That is to say, on the morning of August 8th, Li Fuzhen completed the matters related to the shares of the TV station, and after passing the documents to him, he added: "I will send you the contract for the transfer of shares this afternoon. In addition, If you have time, give Yun Xin a call."
Li Xianyin didn't know what this had to do with Li Yunxin, even though he felt like throwing it away after using it, but after confirming Li Jianxi's destination and time of going abroad, he did not contact Li Yunxin again.
From the time he chose to approach Li Yunxin, all he wanted was to seek cooperation. Once this plan was over, there was no need for contact between them.
It's not that you can't even be friends, but no matter how you think about it, it seems that there is nothing to talk about.
Leaving aside the differences in natural hobbies brought about by gender differences, in many things, he and Li Yunxin are not on the same level of acceptance.
Moreover, the social identities and natural personalities of the two people are also very different. I really don't know what to talk about, and it's not a relationship. I have to find a way to understand each other's hobbies, and endlessly find ways to get along that suit the two.
That's too tiring, and it's really unnecessary. It's also good to return to the ranks of "people who are not too familiar" as soon as the project is over.
In Li Xianyin's perception, Li Yunxin should also think this way. After all, the girl agreed to cooperate with him at first to gain emotional freedom. Now that she finally got rid of her father's control, she should run away as if she were having fun. The United States should look for her first love boyfriend, where there is no time to talk to him.
And those days when he was an undercover agent should be hard for Li Yunxin to talk about. According to common sense, that girl would not want to see his face at least for a short time, and it would be miraculous for him to call at this time.
Besides, it's not that Li Yunxin didn't know his phone number, if there was something to do, she would have called by herself, so why would Li Fuzhen help convey it.
There have been too many strange things recently. Li Xianyin promised that Li Fuzhen would call back, but it must be after attending the funeral in the morning. I hope his condition will not be too bad at that time, so he can call Li Yunxin and Lao Li separately. Finishing the phone call is his victory.
Kim Jeong-kyung did not go to Mokpo with him because he had other things to deal with. Because the drive was too slow, Lee Hyun-yin took the KTX. KTX is a type of Korean train, but it is faster than most trains. In fact, it is a bit like a train. Like, save at least half the time.
Kim Jeong-kyung has bought a KTX ticket for him. Among the six existing lines, only the KTX Honam Line stops at Songjeong Station in Gwangju, and then drives to the terminal station Mokpo. Of course, the starting station is Seoul.
Li Xianyin was wearing the black suit that was just delivered to him yesterday, wearing a black mask and hat, standing on the platform in a daze while waiting for the train to enter the station. He didn't know what he was thinking. A little trance, seems to be just following the subconscious reaction.
Even if he was tortured by his weird father for a long time in his previous life, he didn't seem to be so depressed. Every day he felt that he had created a new height of hypocrisy.
However, the speed of KTX is too fast, and there is not much time left for him to mourn the autumn and spring. It takes more than ten minutes to travel from Gwangju to Mokpo. After leaving the station, he will report the address of the funeral to the taxi. You can get there in half an hour.
"You young people, you have to come to join in the fun at the funeral of your father."
Li Xianyin looked at the interior of the taxi unnaturally. After all, he hadn't taken a taxi for a long time. Hearing this, he subconsciously asked, "Whose funeral?"
The driver seemed to be a little annoyed by his fast-talking, "Oh, you are not with those people before? I thought you were all fans of that boy band member. There are two little girls in the car after five o'clock in the morning. I couldn't cry anymore, but I feel sorry for him, and I don't know..."
The driver master did not say the words behind, but normal people can understand them, that is to say, the fans are too excited, and feel anxious and distressed. It is normal for your idol youth to lose his father. You came to attend the funeral without being invited What's the matter?
It's not like your family has passed away!
The driver looked incomprehensible, and Li Xianyin also frowned. When SM made the public announcement before, no one thought there was anything wrong. The funeral was not an event, and no one thought that there would be fans running to see him off.
In fact, on that occasion, no matter whether it is kind or not, and whether you want to confirm the status of idols, it is not suitable to go to the scene to watch, and it will easily cause trouble to the parties involved.
"I'm not a fan of that artist, but it just so happens that a friend's house is also having a funeral. Are there many fans who came here today?" Li Xianyin let out a panic smoothly, wanting to ask for more information, so that he could have a better idea.
"I picked up three cars just this morning, and those two girls are still good, at least they are wearing black clothes, with a white flower on their chest just like you, and there are a few boys who are not in compliance with the rules, I don't know I thought it was going to make trouble."
It seemed that Li Xianyin was willing to listen. The driver said more and more, and the expression on his face was no longer deliberately controlled. The sense of dislike and accusation was almost overflowing, "How can someone like a stranger so much? This level? Isn’t it a fan of brains? They don’t stop talking in the car, I didn’t know that our Mokpo also produced idols.”
The status of idols has always been very low. Apart from the fact that many people think that they earn money just by their looks, which is something for nothing, it is mainly the middle-aged group who hold economic power who are quite unimpressed with idols.
After all, many idol fans are quite crazy, and illegitimate meals have become popular in recent years. If your son and daughter are also fascinated by idols, running around without studying all day long, no parent will like it, of course. Even idols themselves hate it together.
Even the term "brainless fan" was originally passed down from the mouths of the parents.
"Are those who don't wear black clothes also fans? Fans should be more considerate of idols, right? It's common sense not to wear colored clothes at funerals."
Li Xian was not in the mood to complain with the driver, and continued to ask in a casual tone. He always felt that things were not that simple.
Because South Korea is also influenced by Confucian culture, the funeral etiquette is very similar to that of China. If it is a traditional family, the funeral for the family needs to wear hemp and filial piety, wear Hanbok, pull hair, and prohibit obscenity. The guests who come to condolence and ask for courtesy also wear black suits, and girls are not allowed to wear skirts.
Many young children have never held a funeral, and some have never even participated in it. It is normal to be unclear about some details, but wearing bright colored clothes to a funeral is easy to be scolded in Europe and the United States, not to mention Asia. , Li Xianyin does not believe that fans can do such a thing.
"I don't know about that, but they also went to this address, and the names mentioned are the same as those little girls said." So saying, the driver paused for a while, and added: "But they don't seem to be As sad as the girls, one of them is still wearing a bright red T-shirt, maybe the boys are not as careful as the girls..."
Li Xianyin stopped talking, and looked up at the sky outside the car window, which was unexpectedly gloomy.
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