Flowers on the other side [Comprehensive Red House]

In winter, Daiyu accepted the invitation of her fellow seniors to enjoy the snow with Yingchun on the officials' holiday.When I came back, I went to the study to find Lin Hai, and brought up again the question of whether the younger brothers would divide the family property.

Lin Hai didn't want to take a nap, and was killing time with Jiujiu Xiaohantu. Seeing that Daiyu hadn't changed her clothes when she went out, she asked the question three years ago seriously, so she put down her brush, looked at Daiyu and replied: "In Daddy's Angle of view, every younger brother of Yan Yan belongs to the Lin family, there is no such thing as dividing into the Bo Lin family. Just like a big tree, new branches are planted in other places, and finally the small trees grow into big trees .”

"Daddy, why did they say that before?"

Lin Hai looked at his daughter, who was almost 9 years old, and explained to Daiyu the difference between the legitimate son and the concubine in the eyes of the man and the mistress.

"In the eyes of the father, they are all the same. They are the continuation of the patrilineal blood. But in the eyes of the mistress, the concubine is someone else's child. It is to take away the father's energy and all that should belong to her own son. Few women would be willing to inherit the family property from their own sons."

"Then, Dad, why did mother record the Manman born to Miss Chunxiu under her name?"

"Yanyan, a concubine is different from a concubine. When a daughter is raised well, it can be a good tool for marriage and bring benefits to the concubine. It is recorded in the name of the concubine, and the status of the concubine raised by the concubine is much higher. In In terms of etiquette, such a named daughter-in-law is second only to the daughter-in-law of the step-wife. If she is cared for and married to a family that is beneficial to the mother-in-law and son-in-law, it will bring countless benefits to the mother-in-law and son-in-law .”

"Daddy, will you trade my wife's son in exchange for favors?" Daiyu grabbed Lin Hai's skirt, her eyes full of fear.

Lin Hai hugged Daiyu into his arms, patted and comforted the frightened villain. "How could Daddy be willing to wrong Yanyan? In terms of etiquette, first the children of the original spouse, then the children of the step-wife, and then the named sons and daughters of the concubine. For the concubines, there are no concubines from good families. The arrangement of the birth of the daughter, the birth of the good daughter, and even the birth of the outer chamber. Have you ever talked about it, sir?"

"Yes. Daddy, but he also asks to treat all the children as his own. It's so contradictory."

Lin Hai laughed. "Yan Yan, this is the contradiction of the ethics formulated by men. On the one hand, children are divided into many levels according to the different mothers. On the other hand, men want wives, and children of different levels are treated the same. Yan Yan remembers Go to the jewelry store to buy a bracelet?"

"remember."

"Birth is like bracelets of different materials. This analogy is inappropriate. But the essence is the same. Asking to sell bracelets of different materials at the same price, and unconscionably saying that they are all the same bracelets. Do you understand?" Lin Hai felt that Daiyu At this age, you should know the essence of some things.

"Daddy, this is a lie. How could it be the same?"

"Yeah, those things about women's commandments are written by men to deceive women. They are all things to coax people into death."

"But daddy?" Daiyu was a little confused by Lin Hai's words, "Then why do you still have to learn the three obediences and four virtues?"

"The female precepts are like the rules of chess. First master the rules, and then use your brain to win within the rules. If you go beyond the rules, there are two ways."

Lin Hai listened, took a sip of tea, and looked like Daiyu was waiting for the answer, before continuing, "One is to completely lose the chess game."

"What about another one?"

"Changed the rules and let the world accept it."

"Change the rules so that the world can accept it? Daddy, how can it be done? Who can do it? The queen?"

Lin Hai smiled, "Rules are not made by one person, they have been formed for thousands of years. To change, it is not something that one person can do in a lifetime. The queen seems to have the highest status among women, and she is also subject to these female commandments. Constraints. If you exceed it, you will be impeached, and there will be an ending after the abolition.”

Daiyu fell silent.

Lin Hai leisurely added color to the cold dispelling picture, called the servant to come in, and packed up the brushes and so on.

"Yan Yan, did you enjoy enjoying the snow?"

"well enough?"

"Fortunately, that's something that doesn't go your way. Yanyan tell daddy?"

"Father, Senior Sister and the others don't like children from concubines, why do men definitely want children from concubines?"

This sharp question, huh, huh, hard to answer.Lin Hai thought about it, and then he chose his words and said, "It's too easy for children to die young. Men want to have more children to ensure that they can inherit the incense."

"Daddy, it's not like that. My younger brother got sick because of those people's mischief. If Daddy didn't accept so many concubines, mother wouldn't... my younger brother wouldn't be sick." Daiyu's face paled immediately after she said that. Cover your mouth with your hand.Looking at Lin Hai, tears rolled down in fear, "Daddy, don't be angry, Daddy, Yanyan didn't mean to blame Daddy."

"Yanyan, what you said makes sense. Daddy won't blame you." Lin Hai nodded approvingly. The child was finally willing to speak out and face the death of his younger brother and mother that was suppressed in his heart.

"Daddy, why does it make sense?"

"Daddy told you the story of the monkeys before, remember?"

Daiyu nodded, and tears rolled down another string following the nod.

"In the group of monkeys, only the monkey king can leave offspring. The nature of a man is to wish that all the land as far as the eye can see are all his offspring. So he wants to have more children. And women, the best way to reproduce The age is between 18 and 30 years old, and there are only 3 to 4 children. If there are more, the birth will be harmful to the body. Therefore, men and women have conflicts. This world is ruled by men In the world, men play tricks of three wives and four concubines, and want to leave more offspring, so there are women's commandments, etc. If women want to accept this point of view, they must treat concubines and concubines the same. Women, as mentioned earlier After that, I don’t agree with this point. There is another one, children are really weak, and they are easy to die when they catch the cold. Yu’er, do you understand?” Lin Hai slowed down his speech, and slowly talked to Dai Yu said.

"Daddy, I understand better. Daddy thinks that the younger brothers will grow up well, so now we don't need so many concubines?"

When the old man and the little girl said such things, alas!

"Yes. So, my father kept confiscating the four singers. Yanyan, my father only left Guiyi alone because she was not too busy and didn't participate in the fights between concubines and concubines in the backyard. There is another reason, that is Daddy's background and position determine that it is impossible for Daddy to have only one woman. Even Yingge, Daddy didn't want to accept her at first, and Chunxiu, let alone Chunxiu. Daddy doesn't want the past to happen again."

"Yanyan understands. Daddy doesn't want my brother to get sick either. Daddy..."

Lin Hai looked at Daiyu who was hesitant to speak, "If you have anything to say, feel free to tell Dad."

"Dad said it was mother who prevented concubine Ji from giving birth? Or is it better for the wife to let concubine conceive like this, and then let my younger brother suffer?"

"It's your mother's right to not allow concubine Ji to have children. When exercising this right, you must ensure that you will not be backlashed by it. Do you understand?"

Daiyu nodded.

"What did the wife make my younger brother suffer?" Lin Hai became alert, trying to keep his tone unchanged, and induced Daiyu to speak.

"Father, don't let Brother Mu and Guan'er be together anymore. Officials in the morning bully Brother Mu, and their nanny doesn't care, and Aunt Gui is so distressed that she bit her lip." Daiyu's tears came down again.

"Chen Guan'er bullying Brother Mu?" Chen Guan'er is less than one and a half years old, how old is Brother Mu?He's only turned one year old, he still can't walk steadily, and he doesn't talk much, often spitting out one word after another.How can he bully?

"That's right. Chen Guan'er pushed Brother Mu down, knocking his head loudly. The wife didn't care, and neither did the nanny and maid, and let Brother Mu lie there alone crying. Yan Yan went to touch it, and knocked on the back of his head." It's a big bag."

No wonder Gui Nie's lip was broken, asked her, and said that she slipped in the snow and bit her mouth in fright?At that time, Lin Hai suspected that people would open their mouths when they were frightened, so why would they bite their lips?So this is ah.

Lin Hai thought, Chen Guan'er is still young, and he said that he doesn't understand the truth, but the nanny doesn't correct him, and Ji doesn't care, what kind of personality will he have in the future?Brother Mu was bullied at such a young age, but when he grows up, it's not that he changed his temper, and the brothers in the future will not be as close as they originally imagined.

"Miss saw it, huh?"

"Yes. My wife went to see my daughter, and said that Brother Mu just loves to cry, and he can't be coaxed when he cries. It was my daughter who was outside the door by herself, and she saw Chen Guaner push Brother Mu."

"Yan Yan, you don't know about this matter, Dad will take care of it. Okay?"

"Okay. Daddy, since the wife doesn't like Brother Mu, why do you want to hold Brother Mu to her and let Aunt Gui Nian take him with you, isn't it good?"

"Yanyan, your wife was born in the general family, which is different from our family's habits. The general family has as many sons as possible, and they will be the old man's right-hand man when they grow up. And the concubine and the concubine are raised together since childhood, and they are used to In order to obey the orders of the descendants." Lin Hai slowly deduced the relationship between Ji's natal family and the brother-in-law from the trivial matters of the two sons.

"Father, that means, Brother Mu will listen to Guan'er Chen for the rest of his life?" Daiyu was a little sad. Compared with Guaner Chen, she felt more sorry for Brother Mu who was being bullied.

"My wife must think so."

"Daddy, don't. Brother Mu is also my younger brother, they are all the same." Daiyu had a vague idea in her heart, but she couldn't grasp it.

"How could it be the same? The mothers of Chen Guan'er and Min Guan'er are step-mothers and wives. Gui Ning is a servant who gave birth to a child."

"No, Daddy. They are both Yanyan's younger brothers, and they are the same in the eyes of my daughter."

"Look, Yanyan, when we're talking about this, we're back to the patrilineal blood relationship we mentioned earlier. From the father's point of view, all children are the continuation of their own blood, and they are the same. But in reality—husband and wife get married. Each of them has their own connections and corresponding betrothal gifts and dowry. Although there is a saying that the marriage is based on good family status, it is basically a balanced relationship. As for the second wife, they tend to marry at a lower price, and more often, there will be an exchange of benefits .As for the concubines, they are meant to serve others. They don't even belong to themselves, so they don't have the same status as being the main wife. Their differences are directly reflected in the children they give birth to. Do you understand, Yan Yan?"

"Daddy, what did you marry your wife in exchange for?" Daiyu stopped Lin Hai in one sentence.