between men and women

No.90 three posts

The world is really one thing down one thing, you can't help but believe it.It's like me and Peng Zhiran, although he is half a year younger than me, but when I'm with him, he will always be the one who makes the decision, not me.This is reflected in many things, such as buying a house, such as traveling, such as the most basic meals.He always said that I was the most troubled when ordering. I always ate my pineapple paella but thought his cured claypot rice was delicious.But in fact, when I'm not with Peng Zhiran, I'm not like this.

When working, I have always been very independent and assertive. Although I can't handle things vigorously, at least I don't procrastinate.Going out to eat or shopping with my colleagues is also very refreshing. On the contrary, sometimes my colleagues will let me make decisions and listen to me.So when Peng Zhiran is not by my side, I can be regarded as a very capable person, but I just don't know why, as long as I am with Peng Zhiran, my whole state will completely change, and I will become all kinds of confused people. .You will become dull and don't want to use your brain, you will become dependent on him, and you will always feel that his things are good.When I go out to buy a tie, I think the one he picked is more beautiful than mine; when I go out for a meal, I think the one he ordered is better than mine.So in the end, Peng Zhiran simply refused to give me the right to choose, and made the decision on my behalf.

He put it all down to the fact that I have type O blood, I am a Tangled God, and I have difficulty choosing.

I don't want to delve into whether this is the inferiority brought about by my blood type, and I don't want to delve into whether it is because I love him so much that I am willing to accommodate him in everything. When I am with him for a long time, I have no own opinions. I only know him. Seems to be having fun while he's in control of me, and I love seeing him having fun.So I was pretty much obedient to him, except for one thing.

I want to come back, at any cost.

Yes, I will find a way to call it back.The Lu Shuangmen incident told me that more and more girls are coveting my Peng Zhiran. 23 years old is the golden age of a boy.Boys at this age look full of vigor, full of love for life, no dark circles, no fat belly, no matter what they wear, they are fashionable; they can dress up, play cool and talk, have bright and sunny smiles with no intentions, and look forward to the future Confidence, all of this is exuding a seductive light.

On the contrary, for a relationship that has lasted for more than two years, it is the time when the novelty fades and the real problems follow.When the effect of love hormones gradually weakens, the passion between two people gradually cools down, if we don't have good communication and dialogue, if we don't have enough time to face each other day and night to deepen our relationship, if we have misunderstandings and barriers due to distance, if Peng Zhiran was suddenly tired... I dare not think about it...

I don't know what will happen if I lose me, Peng Zhiran, but I know that if I lose him, my life will be meaningless from now on.

So I'm going back to him, not to restrain him or tie him up, but to keep up with him.

Once upon a time, I asked Peng Zhiran, and I said, would you be with me forever.People are like this, the question I like to ask the most when I first fell in love is how deeply do you love me, especially the one who fell in love first.But I didn't ask, because I know that I love him more than he loves me. From the beginning of our love, I didn't expect to be equal.But I asked you will always be with me.I don't know why I would ask this question, maybe I am very insecure, maybe I am afraid of living alone all my life, I want to hear him say, I will always be with you.

But he didn't say it.

He said: "Chen Jia, I will work hard. I know you want to hear me say that I will be with you forever, but you also know that this kind of talk is just empty talk. Men and women may not be together forever, let alone Us. So all I can say is I'll try."

He is like this, sometimes when you tell him a serious thing, he will suddenly say a very sweet little love word, but sometimes you want to hear him say a love word, even if you know that this kind of word is just easy to say, he But it will be very unsightly to tell the truth.

I was very disappointed when I heard that sentence, but the next second he hugged me very tenderly and said to me: "You know Chen Jia, our life is like a marathon with different starting points, and here At different stages along the way, you will meet some different companions. Friends in childhood are teammates who started from the same starting point with you, but as you run, your knowledge may grow, your vision will increase, and your way of thinking and They are different, so they can’t catch up and leave you behind. You keep your speed and keep going, maybe at the next fork, you will meet teammates who started from another starting point. You meet here and have the same speed and height, so you walk together. But maybe after you run together for a while, there is a gap between speed and height. At this time, if two people want to continue running together, one needs to slow down and wait. The other person needs to adjust and catch up, or else it will end up drifting away. So Chen Jia, I will try. You are the one I met at the fork in the road, so if you run fast, I will Try to catch up. If you run slowly, I will try my best to slow down and wait for you. But Chen Jia, you have to work hard to catch up. The relationship between two people will be permanent if you chase after each other, otherwise you will always be alone Waiting for another person, that love will be worn out one day. So you ask me now if I will be with you forever, I don't know. I just know, I want to run all the way to the finish line with you, so you Remember to catch up, you know?"

I don't know if this is a kind of promise, or a kind of love words, but I know that he said these words sincerely, he really wants to run to the finish line with me, but this journey is just like what he said, we need to work together s hard work.

Because his metaphor is so vivid, I am deeply impressed, so I always remind myself to keep up with his pace, not to fall behind, to enrich myself and improve myself, so that I can look at things at the same height as him, and don't think too much. Too big a gap.But to be honest, from the Lu Shuangmen incident, I found that I have distanced myself from him.

Putting aside the emotional factors of the Lu Shuangmen incident, let us look at the essence through the phenomenon.The essence is that Peng Zhiran, who often deals with all kinds of people, has begun to mature with the widening of his social circle and the improvement of his vision, and his skills in dealing with people are much better than mine.First of all, he is correct in creating the atmosphere.It was originally a gathering among colleagues.It was not between friends, nor was he and I alone. For a man, this kind of gathering is a kind of display, a kind of entertainment, a entertainment without personal preference.Secondly, Peng Zhiran didn't realize that I would be jealous when he sang K that day. Apart from his confidence in his self-control ability, the reason may be that he went out to entertain too many people as he said. His expression seemed childish to him, and he thought that I would have the same knowledge and experience, so he thought I would not be so jealous of my low EQ.

Yes, that's the gap.I don't have a wide social circle, and I don't often go out with leaders or something to socialize with people. My heart, my own feelings.

And the contrast in behavior between the two of us after we became jealous all the more reflected the fact that he was maturing, while I was still naively stalled.

You know, we are all social beings, we can't just live in our own world, and I can't imprison him in a world with only the two of us because of the relationship between me and him that is different from ordinary people.On the long road of life, we will definitely encounter all kinds of temptations or obstacles, and if I can't use a better way to deal with it at that time, but just blindly make my temper or want to restrain him to use If a rope is tied to my waistband, then one day he will not be able to bear my narrowness, my willfulness and restraint, and eventually leave me.

It's fun to be self-willed once or twice, but if you continue to be self-willed forever, he will get tired of it one day.

Peng Zhiran is a Gemini. Gemini people can't bear boring, single and uninteresting things. Peng Zhiran has type B blood, and type B blood can't stand being restrained, restrained, and controlled.But even if he's not a Gemini, even if he's not type B blood, I can't tie him with my love.

Love is not a simple binding of one person to another, nor is it just a fit between beds. The real SOULMATE should be the fit of hearts and the resonance of souls.Only with a similar level of thought and a worldview and outlook on life can we go a long way, and we will not part ways without a common language.

When we were young, maybe we would be greedy for fun, as long as we have the same hobbies, we can find many common topics, but we will grow old one day, if we stop playing StarCraft when we are older When I was with Nock, I found that our views and opinions on things had completely different perspectives. What else could we talk about at that time, and what else could we use to maintain our relationship?

So the enemy of a relationship is never passer-by A or B, but ourselves.If we don't work hard for ourselves, who else will work hard for us.

Looking back now, if I had been more mature and had a higher EQ, in fact, I could have acted smarter this time around Lu Shuangmen.I can definitely invite Lu Shuang to sing two love songs after Peng Zhiran and Lu Shuang sing together, and then ask Peng Zhiran and Zou Feng to sing two songs about stupid children, so that Lu Shuang will have no chance to have an affair with Peng Zhiran, and such a Chen Jiacai is a person who is both elegant and magnanimous, and more worthy of appreciation and love.

Yes, I don't want to continue to stagnate in the current state, I want to catch up with his footsteps and be a more attractive Chen Jia.So I have to go back to him and live with him, so that we can communicate in time when there is a change in thinking.Don't tell me that you can communicate on the phone. I deeply understand that some words can only be expressed by looking into the other person's eyes. Saying I love you a hundred times on the phone is not as good as letting him see that I love his eyes.Yes, I want him to see my efforts and my love, and I want to go back to him.

So while Peng Zhiran was busy working on passports, making plans for Hong Kong hotel air tickets and itineraries, I went to talk to our director about this matter.The branch's finances have long been on track, and the personnel have already been in place. I have been doing this for so long. Where is the promise that I can be transferred back?

The director smiled and said, "Xiao Chen, don't be in a hurry. At the beginning, there were three people transferred. You see, the people sent by other branches are not in a hurry at all."

Yes, Tang Xia and Zhong Yanping who went with me are not in a hurry, because they are now in a relationship!

As long as two people are together, it doesn't matter where they are!If Peng Zhiran and I could be together every day, I wouldn't be in a hurry if you transferred me to a mountainous area, but the problem is that we are "separated in two places" now!

But no matter what I say, the director always uses the company's arrangements, young people must persist in doing things, don't be impetuous, and other words to play Tai Chi with me.When I left his office, I suddenly understood that sometimes I can't pray for the best of both worlds, I can't have both, if my work problems really can't be solved, I need to give up something for my love.

I have decided that if this problem cannot be resolved this year, I will resign.You can find another job, but Peng Zhiran only has one.

When we come back from traveling in Hong Kong, I will stay with Peng Zhiran day and night!