New year greeting

Song Xinyuan was lying on the bed in the hotel, full of thoughts, unable to fall asleep, switching faces of Song Yanqing, Feng Deng, and Li Mingzhou in his mind.Thinking of the conflict that happened during the meal, he bit his lip, poked open Li Mingzhou's WeChat, and entered a paragraph of text.

"Brother, I'm sorry, I know you are doing it for my own good, not out of compensatory psychology, I never blamed you, but I hope you can respect my thoughts, worry less, and treat me as a normal adult."

Song Xinyuan waited for a while, but did not receive a reply.He inadvertently saw the dialogue between himself and Feng Deng, a sense of shame welled up, and he hurriedly quit WeChat.

When he was playing dumb, he often voiced Feng Deng. Sometimes he was upstairs and Feng Deng was downstairs, and he had to turn on the voice to find someone and say some willful words, all because of his lack of clarity.

When did Feng Deng find out that he had returned to normal?Thinking of his behavior during these days, Song Xinyuan felt extremely embarrassed. He couldn't care less about recalling the love and hatred between him and Feng Deng, and began to think about how to face Feng Deng next.

He glanced at the phone again, but Li Mingzhou and Feng Deng ignored him. He flipped through the address book, hesitated for a long time, and made a call.

"Hi, hello, excuse me, may I meet with you?"

At nine o'clock the next morning, Song Xinyuan quietly came to Lin Huan's psychological consultation room.He went in and took off his mask and hat, and greeted Lin Huan: "Doctor Lin, hello, I'm Song Xinyuan, thank you for teaching me how to register online."

"You're welcome, Mr. Song, how are you doing? Do you have any needs here?" Lin Huan asked Song Xinyuan to sit down, and secretly observed Song Xinyuan. He saw that his eyes were clear and his conversation was clear.

Song Xinyuan said in a roundabout way: "I'm fine, I want to know some psychological content, that is... Dr. Lin, have you heard of the word 'lithromantic'? I, I have a friend who seems to have this disease."

The two of them knew who this friend was. Song Xinyuan didn't want to name Dao, so Lin Huan pretended not to know.

"Lithromantic refers to sexual unrequited love, which is a psychological disorder," Lin Huan understood Song Xinyuan's intention, Wen Sheng explained, "This type of patients can have sex and love for others, but they don't expect to get a response. If they are confessed They will avoid and even hate each other, even if they start a relationship, they don’t intend to accompany their lover to the end, but hope to return to the single state.” (*Note)

Lin Huan's explanation is similar to the information Song Xinyuan checked online.Song Xinyuan was still confused: "Doctor Lin, why did my friend get this disease?"

Lin Huan asked: "Mr. Song, if you don't mind, can you tell me the truth, what is your relationship with that friend? Only in this way can I give you more advice."

Song Xinyuan hesitated, met Lin Huan's gentle gaze, and whispered, "He, he is my boyfriend."

"I see, are you worrying about your relationship?" Lin Huan smiled and said seriously, "There are many reasons for unrequited love, and they vary from person to person. The most common factor is the environment in which you grew up. Families, single-parent families, if there is a death of a loved one, it will have a great impact on mental health."

Song Xinyuan's heart skipped a beat: "My boyfriend's father passed away many years ago, and his mother took him to reorganize a new family."

"There seems to be a reason for this. In addition, if he grows up with little love and is not praised when he needs encouragement, then he is prone to low self-esteem, thinking that he is not worthy of love, and does not believe in love." Anyone's love, although he desires to have love, he will resent it after he has it, and he can't wait to get away immediately to prove that he should not touch love."

Song Xinyuan suddenly thought of Yang Xiyue's previous advice: Some people get too little emotion in their lives, and they don't know how to express and how to love, so the love he can give is very little, but that may be all he gives. , you need to ask for the rest, you teach him, guide him, let him experience your mood, feel your love, and then learn to love you.

Song Xinyuan thought for a few seconds and asked Lin Huan: "Doctor Lin, do you think my boyfriend likes me?"

Lin Huan: "Of course, although he is sexually unrequited, he definitely likes you and has sexual impulses towards you. This kind of person is actually very pitiful."

"Pitiful?"

"Yes, his heart is too desperate, worried that if his lover gets too close to him, he will discover his shortcomings and abandon himself, so he voluntarily leaves the person he likes, preferring to be alone for a lifetime; however, he can't help but get closer to and stay away from the other person again , into an endless loop, it is difficult to obtain happiness. Did he behave strangely when he was in contact with you?"

Song Xinyuan nodded: "Yes, he treats me hot and cold, good and bad, and thinks I'm clingy."

"That's right, unrequited love patients often have similar phenomena when interacting with others. Your boyfriend is also very helpless. He didn't mean to hurt you."

Song Xinyuan confirmed: "He dare not accept me, is he afraid of losing me?"

"Most likely."

"Does he really love me?"

Through communication, Lin Huan found out about Song Xinyuan's temperament. Song Xinyuan is not firm in his thinking, and he easily believes what strangers say. He has probably been deceived many times, and he firmly believes that he is naive and stubborn, and he will still be deceived next time.

Lin Huan has been in contact with Feng Deng for many years, and has more or less guessed Feng Deng's knot in his heart. Now facing Song Xinyuan, he simply pushes the boat: "He really loves you."

When Song Xinyuan heard the answer, his eyes flickered: "Then how can I help him?"

"Let him believe that you love him, impress him with love, and keep a certain distance. Many problems are caused by distance. In short, he absolutely likes you."

"He doesn't say anything."

"It's normal. He's afraid that after he speaks out, his feelings will fade."

"He suffered from bipolar disorder before, and it wasn't long after he was cured, why did he have unrequited love again?" Song Xinyuan was troubled, "It will really cause trouble to others, and he lied to me that it was an anxiety disorder."

Lin Huan was amused. Feng Deng did not suffer from bipolar disorder at all. She forged the checklist in court. Given the agreement between her and Feng Deng, she did not reveal the truth to Song Xinyuan: "He may be very anxious. If you accept Will you give up on him if you don't get his illness?"

"I, I have to be responsible to him, after all, he likes me so much."

"Well, come on."

"It's okay, I'm used to it, I take the initiative every time."

Lin Huan felt strange: "How long have you been dating before, who confessed first?"

"For four years, I confessed my love to him, and I chased him."

"Four years? Didn't break up halfway? He never confessed? Never rejected you?"

Song Xinyuan: "Yes, what's wrong?"

"..." Lin Huan tried to keep smiling, "It's okay, I wish you happiness."

"Thank you, Dr. Lin, I'm leaving, bye."

When Song Xinyuan returned home, it was almost noon, he took a deep breath and slipped in the door quietly, but Feng Deng was not at home.He thought about it, squatted at the door of the villa, and after half an hour, he saw Feng Deng walking over with two bags.

Considering that Feng Deng is a patient, Song Xinyuan held back his anger and said, "Why don't you contact me when you have time to buy groceries? Do you think I have to be you, and I'll come back when I'm sure?"

Feng Deng: "I'm sorry."

"Don't say these three words to me in the future!"

"Okay, let's go inside."

Song Xinyuan ignored Feng Deng's extended hand and went back to his room to take a shower. He was sweating and uncomfortable.

Feng Deng went to the kitchen to cook, and suddenly received a call from Lin Huan.

Lin Huan said apologetically, "Doctor Feng, I'm sorry, you are not unrequited love. I misdiagnosed you. I don't know your past and misled you. You just—"

"It's okay," Feng Deng interrupted her, "Thank you."

The author says:

Good night [*Note: The definition of unrequited love is quoted from Baidu Encyclopedia, and some of the following content is my own understanding. 】