when question marks become people

The mind was settled, but there was no suitable time. Feng Mingyang was free only at noon the next day.

The boy hastily picked up the lunch box, took out his phone and checked, it was 12:32.Or wait a little longer, many people haven't finished their meal yet.

He was sitting on the ponytail with his mobile phone in his hand, stepping on his feet and putting it down again and again. The tall and big boy shrank like a shrimp.

"Go inside first when it's cold, it will be a while before your turn in the afternoon." The assistant said and handed him a scarf and hot water, in case he would catch a cold.

"It's okay, I'll watch the seniors filming for a while, and it's easy to get sleepy inside." Feng Mingyang hung the scarf around his neck casually, and turned on his phone after hanging it.He is not cold, but a little nervous, and he can stay awake better outdoors.

8 minutes is very long, Feng Mingyang edited the text message, and clicked to send it as soon as the minutes jumped to 40.

"Hello, Teacher Wen, I'm cousin Dongdong."

"Hello, do you have a question about psychology and want to discuss it with someone? Just chat casually, I won't tell others that elementary school bullies also get stumped by questions. ^o^"

The other party responded quickly, and before Feng Mingyang stood on tiptoe again, the text message came.Seeing those two words, his toes slowly relaxed.

He didn't type his name in the text message, and neither did Teacher Wen. He called him "Xiaoba", which is what "mother fans" call him, although he is not actually a school bully.Teacher Wen knew who he was and cared for his concerns.

Moreover, the other party directly pointed out his intentions, and gave him a relaxed characterization, so that those devious temptations he had prepared were no longer needed, and finally, the initiative was returned to him.

Feng Mingyang was quite solid, but he still didn't dare to speak out.

"I was reading a book, and I encountered a problem and wanted to ask the teacher. A is very popular. One day, X sent a message to A, 'Come out and meet me, or I will commit suicide'. A didn't know X, so he ignored it. The next day, A I saw the news that X committed suicide. May I ask the teacher, what emotions should A express?"

This is not a professional question, and Wen Hao does not really want to discuss the application of psychology with Feng Mingyang, he has already obtained the key information.

"Different people react differently when they encounter the same thing. We can only be sure that A is not wrong, and there is no need to make up for it or punish yourself."

Feng Mingyang retracted his straight legs at once.He originally planned to ask a similar question first, and then discuss the story with Teacher Wen like a small talk, but the middle link was omitted by the other party.Teacher Wen didn't answer his question directly. The first half of the sentence was tantamount to not saying anything, but the latter stepped on his mind.

Normally, this feeling of being seen through by others is a little scary, but at this time Feng Mingyang has less struggle and wants to continue asking.

"X may really have committed suicide because of A. Maybe A stopped him at that time, so X would not commit suicide."

"This possibility is very small. A cannot and does not need to be responsible for X's life. X making this choice proves that he or she has encountered a bigger problem. Even if A can prevent this time, it cannot prevent the next time. "

Wen Hao typed as fast as he could, knowing that the child was waiting for his reply.He had basically guessed what Feng Mingyang had encountered.

The lingering question in Feng Mingyang's mind was "Why did she commit suicide", not "Am I wrong", or "What should I do?"This proves that he actually understands that there is no problem in theory with what he did, but he is still a soft-hearted young man, and it is too heavy for him that a stranger put death in front of him.He can't help thinking why she committed suicide, whether my ignorance was the last inducement, and if I responded and gave some assistance, would a life not die.

But the death of the other party is a fact, and he hopes to know the real reason for her suicide.If it has nothing to do with him, then he can pull himself out of guilt; if it has something to do with him, he also needs a psychological final judgment.

At this time, the first thing he needs is affirmation from others: Yes, you are right, and you don't have to bear the shackles for this.

Wen Hao guessed right, Feng Mingyang's burden was much lighter.

Things started more than a week ago.Feng Mingyang's Weibo is managed by his agent, and he only posts some promotional information, but he has always been self-disciplined, so he also has an account password.That day he was bored and logged on to the Weibo account, and clicked on the private message.As a popular star, he has thousands of private messages on Weibo every day, and his manager will not read them one by one.But so coincidentally, one of the items he saw was "Come out and meet me, or I will commit suicide" and sent a letter with the ID "Xue Twelve".

He has received guidance on how to deal with fans, and he has experience himself, so he skipped it without worrying about it.However, the next day, he saw a piece of social news: 17-year-old girl Xiaoxue (pseudonym) committed suicide by jumping off a building at school, suspected of being under too much pressure due to the upcoming final exam.The news reports focused on commenting on the weak psychological endurance of contemporary teenagers, and never clarified the exact reason for her suicide.Feng Mingyang felt flustered.

Finding no more information, Feng Mingyang clicked on Xue Shier's Weibo homepage, and the public address on it was the same as Xiaoxue's city, and the previous Weibo was almost all reposts about him.He has been secretly following, but from that day on, Xue Shishi did not update Weibo again.

The palpitation intensified, mixed with guilt and resistance, and turned into panic.I am afraid that the other party will really commit suicide because of me, and I am also afraid of the various consequences that this matter will bring.

The prerequisite for my parents to agree to continue acting is to ensure my studies, maintain my character, and avoid major harm. Will they forbid me to become an actor again if they find out?The company's strong support is because of its positive image. Will it change its opinion after knowing it?Will the fans think that he is too heartless?Do I have to carry this burden on my back for the rest of my life?

No matter how soul-stirring the performance, a 17-year-old cannot despise life and death, and cannot ignore other people's opinions.

The more he thought about it, the more hesitant he was, the less he dared to tell the people around him.Teacher Wen's appearance and encouragement handed him a rope. Although he still couldn't get ashore, he finally didn't have to wander alone in the troubled black river.

At this point, it is inconvenient for Wen Hao to go deeper.Why X committed suicide mentioned by Feng Mingyang may be a question that will never be answered.But Wen Hao still made some attempts during the sleep time this night.

He dug out all the recent suicide news, gradually narrowed down the scope according to the conditions of guessing, and searched for relevant information one by one.This is a lot of work for others, but his efficiency is many times higher.

When he found a girl named Xiaoxue (pseudonym), he found a long Weibo post by a student from the same school.The long article said that Xiaowen (Xiaoxue’s real name) committed suicide. The media teachers said that she was too fragile. At the funeral, her parents also cried and said why they had treated her so well, why did they leave like this, which made their classmates very sad.Xiaowen studies hard, but she is serious about partial subjects, but her parents insist on letting her take science subjects, which she is not good at.In her sophomore year of high school, Xiaowen didn't have a balance in liberal arts. Xiaowen's grades plummeted, and what she got was more scolding and more health supplements to cheer her up.She didn't cheer up, she chose to sleep forever.

This article is to complain for the students, but there is a kind of self-pity and longing between the lines.The author has not set the reading permission, she hopes more people can see it.Wen Hao thought, what she wants most is for her parents to see her, who has a similar experience.

There was the most possible reason for Xiaowen's departure, but she might not be X, even if Wen Hao found her Weibo, and saw a repost about Feng Mingyang in a few blog posts.He didn't stop.

In the middle of the night, Wen Hao accidentally found a picture with the keywords of suicide in a star chasing forum where teenagers gathered.It was a screenshot of the space log, posted in a post called "What bold things have you done for your idol".Fortunately, Wen Hao searched for information not by text symbols, but by meaning, otherwise this picture would have been missed.

As luck would have it, he had found the answer to his question.

The person who posted the picture is X.It's not because her ID is "Purple Snow 12", which is similar to Xiaoxue's name in the news, but because it is written in the picture that she threatened suicide on her birthday with "my beloved Ouba Mingyang brother" to come out to see her. It's a pity that Ou Ba missed her birthday, and she was still waiting for him to see the private message to contact her, and said that if Oppa dared to have a girlfriend, he would send him pictures of self-harm.

Judging by her wording, she is proud of it, not only showing off to her friends in the space, but also coming to speak when encountering such posts.

Zixue 12, in personal data, age: 14 years old.

After dawn, Wen Hao sent a text message to Feng Mingyang: "I accidentally saw this on the Internet last night, and I remembered the question you asked me, and I will forward it to you." The address of the post was attached.

Purple Snow 12's reply time was just the day before yesterday. Feng Mingyang felt relieved when he saw it, and laughed whenever he saw anyone, and the lost vitality rushed from the soles of his feet to the top of his head.

Wen Hao couldn't be happy.He thought of Xiaowen who committed suicide to resist, Fa Ruxue who threatened her idol with her life, Feng Mingyang who dared not tell his elders when encountering big problems, and the children in kindergarten who had a lot of homework.

Some parents hope that their children will be as good as themselves, some hope that their children will make up for their regrets, and some parents will absolutely let their children go after they have suffered enough.It's not that they don't love their children, and their ideas are not wrong, but some of them, when implementing their own ideas, forgot to give their children enough respect, and at the same time taught them to respect themselves and others, and forgot to create an indestructible harbor for their children. Let them dare to open their hearts when they encounter sensitive issues, forget to pay attention to the children's true heart, and reverse their deviation in time.

This kind of truth has been talked about for a long time, and the book called "Educating Children, You Must Be a Qualified Parent" is very good.More and more parents and teachers have more mature educational ideas, but there are still blind spots in the transmission of ideas.Moreover, even if all parents and would-be parents have seen these principles, they may not accept them, and they may not be able to practice them if they accept them, and the problems cannot be completely avoided if they are practiced.Children will also misunderstand their parents, which may be the case with Feng Mingyang.

But that doesn't mean we don't need to work harder, even if it's just to save one more child from tragedy and grow into a better adult and a better parent?

Wen Hao found that it was a bit wasteful that he only used live broadcasts to teach people to memorize knowledge and make money.

In the new live broadcast, Teacher Wen gave the students a "chance" with an intoxicating smile.

"Didn't you keep clamoring to give me rewards and gifts? Tell you how to give it."