bosom friend

Qiao Ping laughed, "Of course not... So, I still have merit?"

Liang Weidao: "Why do you say 'I still have merits'? You don't think highly of yourself? - Do you feel that you have no merits?"

"No." Qiao Ping said with a smile, "I just thought that Xin Yu would not like a worthless person." It was obvious that Xin Yu liked him, even now—it was just that he didn't want to live with him now.Xin Yu is very "no desire, no desire". Many things, as long as they don't bother him, he can accept them, and if they are too troublesome, he will refuse them.

Qiao Ping thought about it, he might be a very big trouble to Xin Yu now. "My evaluation of myself is probably a bit bad, but it's not useless."

"Is it bad?" Liang Wei said, "What kind of behavior do you think is bad?"

Qiao Ping was lost in thought.

Liang Wei said, "You care about Xin Yu's opinion?"

This question is easy to answer, Qiao Pingyi said straightforwardly: "Yes."

Liang Wei said, "If you're worried that Xin Yu has a negative opinion of you, then you can ask him directly."

Qiao Ping was a little taken aback, "Huh?"

Liang Weidao: "You can directly ask him if he thinks you are bad, and he should answer you—do you think he will answer you?"

Qiao Ping said together: "Yes."

Liang Wei said, "Then you can ask him directly."

Qiao Pingyi hesitated.

Liang Wei said again: "Are you worried that asking this question will make him dissatisfied with you (or other negative emotions)?"

Qiao Ping shook his head, "Xin Yu likes frank people." He smiled, "Of course, it must be reasonable and frank, not too stupid or illogical." Like Zhuang Yang, not to mention his other aspects, his personality is actually It's quite frank, but Xin Yu doesn't like him.

Liang Wei said, "It must suit his aesthetics."

"Yes." As soon as Qiao Ping looked at Liang Wei, he understood why Xin Yu admired this person. He had only known him for 10 minutes, and he had already discovered one of the advantages of this person: chatting is easy. "Well, I'll ask him."

Liang Wei nodded, and then picked up the old question again, "You seem to feel guilty towards that friend of yours, because he stood in front of you when you were in danger? Do you think you hurt him?"

"There is a reason for this." Qiao Ping said, "Let me start from the beginning. His mother and my mother are friends. He is ten years younger than me. When I first met him, he was only a few months old. My family and I People of the same generation don’t have as many small people as me. Therefore, I think it’s quite new, so I treat him as a younger brother, but it’s still not comparable to ordinary relatives. I mean, I’m not too close to him because there is no blood relationship. relationship, and we don’t meet frequently, and the age difference is too big, so we can’t play.”

Liang Wei said, "And then?"

Qiao Ping said: "It's always been like that. From this year, some things changed suddenly. He started to interfere in my life and disturbed me a bit, but I didn't care too much, because that kind of disturbance is not for me. What kind of."

Liang Wei nodded. This man is someone who has been followed for several years and doesn't "care too much". Being "disturbed" by his friends is really nothing to him.

Qiao Ping said together: "Actually, I'm not very polite to him, but I don't know why he admires me."

Liang Weidao: "It's convenient to talk about how rude you are to him, and how does he worship you? I'm a little curious."

Qiao Ping told about the beating of Zhuang Yang, some things about the business trip together, and some trivial things about the daily relationship.

Liang Weidao: "You are a little special to him. I don't know if you have noticed. You are different from other friends to him. There is a difference."

Qiao Ping frowned, he thought for a while, and then laughed, "There is a difference, he caused me some trouble, I was a little annoying to him, but I had to win over him (after all, he was a very familiar person, I didn't want to I didn’t even think about breaking up the relationship, he was pretty easy to win over, and when he wasn’t messing around, we actually got along quite happily.”

Liang Weidao: "My feeling is: you don't regard him as an equal friend, you look down on him."

Qiao Ping agreed, "Yes."

Liang Wei was silent for a few seconds, and said, "I have a guess, and it might offend you."

Qiao Ping smiled, he was quite interested, "Say it."

Liang Weidao: "You are controlling him. Of course, it is not malicious control. You need him to be 'obedient'. When he is well-behaved, you are in a happy mood, so treat him better; when he is not well-behaved, you hate him , trying to get rid of him."

"..." Qiao Ping was silent for a moment, the person Liang Wei was talking about was very bad, and he was just such a person?After a while, he picked up the coffee cup and drank the coffee, and looked at the passers-by on the street outside through the glass wall for a while, "Where's that stalker, I'm controlling him too?"

Liang Weidao: "Let me clarify first, although I used the word control, I am not saying that you have a strong desire to control, but I think this can explain the problem more clearly."

Qiao Ping nodded.

Liang Weidao: "Control can be mutual. They like to be 'controlled' by you (because they think it's a sign that you care about them), and they also want to control you because they like you so much that they want your world It’s sick to have them alone.”

"Fuck..." Qiao Pingyi was a little angry, but he quickly forced himself to calm down—he didn't want to behave "badly" in front of Liang Wei.

Liang Wei said, "They should receive psychological treatment."

Qiao Ping said: "I should also accept it, right? I didn't think about intentionally controlling or manipulating anyone. My friend, I was kind to him on purpose - maybe it was deliberately leading him to have a good impression of me? But My purpose is not to control him, I just hope that he will not make trouble for me."

Liang Weidao: "You said you deliberately treated him better, do you think this misled him to a certain extent?"

"Ah."

"Does that make you feel guilty?"

"It's kind of, I didn't expect it to turn out like this."

Liang Wei nodded.

Qiao Ping said together: "Also, he gave me unconditionally. I am very touched, but he also annoys him... I feel a little guilty about this."

Liang Weidao: "Because 'other people treat you well', so you feel that you shouldn't bother him. After you are bothered, do you feel guilty?"

Qiao Ping nodded, and said again: "Besides, he admires me a lot...I feel like I've let him down."

Liang Weidao: "Do you feel like you haven't made a good idol?"

Qiao Ping smiled, "Yes."

"In addition to guilt, you also mentioned annoyance? I think, in addition to annoying him, you will also annoy other friends? What I mean is: everyone will be impatient with others."

Qiao Ping thought about it, did he bother Hao happy?Sometimes it will. "Other friends are sometimes annoying, but I am particularly annoying to him. To be honest, I think he is easily annoying."

Liang Wei said, "Then do you hate being with him?"

"It was okay before, it was quite easy..."

Liang Wei gestured for Qiao Ping to stop, "Sorry, I'm curious, how easy is it?"

"It's just casual."

Liang Wei asked: "Why is it random? Can you tell me something specific?"

Qiao Pingyi said a few things about their daily relationship.

Liang Wei understood, "It sounds like you have the final say on how you get along, he obeys unconditionally, and no matter what you do, he thinks you are the most powerful and powerful, etc."

Qiao Ping was silent for a moment, he was so vain?Not so...

Liang Weidao: "Do you need the affirmation of others? I understand this need, and I also want to achieve a career-this is also a manifestation of wanting to be affirmed by others."

After thinking about it, Qiao Ping frowned and said, "No, I don't need people to think I'm capable..." He still has self-knowledge, he spends most of his time fooling around, if someone praises him that much, it's not Is he a fool? "But I should like to be noticed... What am I?" He laughed at himself, "Lack of love?"

Liang Weidao: "People have many needs, it's normal."

"..." Qiao Pingyi was a little tired. He leaned on the sofa and sighed, "It's normal to have needs... But something went wrong... So what's wrong?"

Liang Weidao: "Let me share my opinion, let's exchange and discuss..."

Qiao Ping smiled helplessly: "Okay, let's talk."

Liang Weidao: "There are actually a lot of things to pay attention to in the relationship between friends. Pay attention to 'degree' and not overdo it. Your friend is demanding too much from you, which puts a lot of pressure on you; Boundaries, there must be a clear demarcation, otherwise the relationship will be out of balance, and the two will have problems."

After a moment of silence, Qiao Ping said, "I didn't pay much attention to what you said. No, it should be said that I just didn't take it seriously." But I will definitely have to take it seriously in the future.

Liang Weidao: "You unconsciously let them go. If someone crosses the line and you can't tolerate it, you just break up with him?"

Qiao Ping sighed, "It's not necessary to break up friendship, but it will alienate them. After a long time, most people will still understand what I mean and won't stalk them. My friend who got into a car accident is a bit... stupid. However, I think he should understand now and stay away from me."

Liang Weidao: "It's the same with you and your ex-lover? I assume you have an ex."

Qiao Ping laughed, "Not only that, but I have many exes. Yes, when they demand too much, I will get bored and then break up. I am the kind of person who is called a 'player'." Talking about this Sometimes, he gave up on himself a little, so he didn't hide it.

Liang Weidao: "There are two types of players."

Qiao Ping raised his eyebrows, "Oh?"

Liang Weidao: "One is licentious love of freedom; the other is love of impotence. The difference between the two is that the latter will be afraid. As for what to be afraid of, it varies from person to person."

Qiao Ping was silent for a while, then took a plate of cake and ate it. After eating slowly, he said to Liang Wei with a smile: "It's a pleasure to chat with you, I have benefited a lot."

This is the meaning of ending this meeting.Liang Wei said: "Thank you for the afternoon tea. If you still want to drink tea in the future, you can ask me to join you."

Qiao Ping nodded, "Thank you."

The two stood up and walked out, saying goodbye at the door, Liang Wei went back to his studio, and Qiao Pingyi went to pick up his car.

At night, Qiao Ping hesitated for a long time, then dialed Xin Yu's cell phone number.

Xin Yu answered, "Xiao Qiao?"

"Well, it's me..."

Xin Yu smiled and said, "What's wrong?"

Qiao Ping hesitated, "It's okay..."

Xin Yu smiled and said, "Tell me."

"..." Qiao Ping said together, "Xiaoyu, do you think I'm terrible?"

"Huh? What do you mean?"

"..."

"Just kidding." Xin Yu laughed, "It's not bad, you're fine. You're good-looking, should this be recognized?"

"...This is not a good thing."

Xin Yu smiled and said, "You are independent, assertive, and insist on yourself. I think this is very good."

"..." Qiao Ping said, "Why do I feel that you are talking about yourself?"

Xin Yu laughed, "No, it's about you. Then, you have a good personality. Compared with me, your personality is much better. Not only are you cheerful and enthusiastic, but you also don't like to argue with others. Your friends like you very much."

Qiao Ping said together: "You are the one who really doesn't care about others, I do sometimes..."

Xin Yu laughed again, "Yiyi, so this is what you're looking for in my strengths?"

Qiao Ping said softly: "But you are really good."

Xin Yu sighed: "No, I just don't care, it's not good."

Qiao Pingyi insisted: "I think you are fine."

Xin Yu laughed, stopped arguing with him, and continued: "When I say you are 'good', I mean most of the time. When summing up, of course you have to talk about the main impression. If you want to go into the details, then no one is perfect Now, where in this world can you find a 'good' person?"

"Oh."

Xin Yu said: "You are also very warm-hearted and generous to others. You are willing to help others, and you don't care about rewards. When you donate money, you always donate a lot. There must be many people who are very grateful to you in private."

"That's nothing..."

"It's nothing to you, but it may be a great help to others." Then, Xin Yu listed Qiao Pingyi's many advantages—afterwards, he began to admire his own eloquence.

As for Qiao Pingyi on the other end, his face became hot when he heard it.

After chatting for more than an hour, after saying and listening to all the good things, the two said good night to each other "shyly" and ended the call.

Qiao Ping went to take a bath as soon as he floated - he listened to Xin Yu's words and wanted to go to bed early.

But Xin Yu was sitting on the sofa thinking: Why did Qiao Pingyi call and ask "Is he bad?" What happened?Must have found something.

Are you going to ask Hao happy?Not very convenient.Moreover, if there is anything, Hao Xingxin should take the initiative to tell him, unless it is something that he feels inconvenient to say, if so, then ask him himself, he probably won't say it, he is standing on Qiao Pingyi's side head.It's even more impossible to ask other people. It may not be possible to ask anything, and you have to make a big mess. It's better not to mess around.

After much deliberation, Xin Yu finally came up with a solution: he was going to find Gu Ruinian.

Gu Ruinian was surprised when he received Xin Yu's call, "Xin Yu? Are you looking for me?"

Xin Yu said: "Yes. I need your help to observe Mr. Qiao's recent situation. Is it convenient? If it is convenient, you can send me a quotation and I will pay you."

"..." Gu Ruinian was stunned, didn't he screw up last time?How could Xin Yu become a repeat customer?