HP's Chinese Parents

Nick wonders if other parents have experienced this kind of bewilderment:

What should you do when you find out that the child you raised may not be what you expected?

’ Yes, he may indeed be as ruthless and manipulative as in the book, a pragmatist, results-oriented, and morally ignorant. '

'He cares about me because I am his uncle, he cares about Nagini because Nagini is his snake, and he likes to decorate the house because it belongs to him. '

'However, for other people and things, he may indeed not have kindness, the most important virtue in universal values. He is born with a lack of compassion, and may not be able to resonate emotionally because of the unfortunate situation of others in his life. '

' But can I fault him for his lack of empathy? ' Nick calmed down, then came to the conclusion: 'No, I can't.If accusations could gain sympathy for a child, I would shake him by the shoulder and yell at him every day.But unfortunately, if I blame him for this now, he will only feel wronged and inexplicable. '

'I adopted him at first just hoping to avoid the tragedy of the Riddle family, but gradually, I began to add my own values ​​to him, I hope he is smart and kind, happy and healthy, with integrity, full of curiosity about the world , can gain pleasure from knowledge and friendship.But obviously, he has no obligation and is not likely to grow up according to my wishes. '

Nick thought of a story in "Homer's Epic": the hero Odysseus encountered a monster on his way home. This monster had a bed, and everyone who passed by would catch it and lie down on this bed.If the passerby's body is shorter than the bed, it will pull the passerby to be as long as the bed; if it is longer than the bed, it will saw off the long part.

Perhaps every parent has such a bed in their hearts, which represents the standards parents set for their children, or to put it more harshly, it can actually be called prejudice.They keep putting their children up for measurement, and today they feel that there is too much kindness, and they need to cut off some, or they will become weak.Tomorrow, I feel that IQ is too low, so I should scold him more to give him a long memory, so as to avoid being deceived.

' But that's not right. 'Nick thought: 'Although I have expectations for him, my original intention is to protect him, not to hurt him. '

'Besides, I neglected this aspect too much before. In the UK, there is no such course as ideology and morality, and related education is completed by religious courses.It is conceivable that for a wizard, the binding force of religious courses is probably close to zero. '

In this way, in the blink of an eye, Nick, who seemed to be calm, actually had a thousand turns in his heart.He completed self-persuasion in the form of self-questioning and self-answering at lightning-fast speed.

Then he followed Tom's words and asked: "Then why did you change your plan because of a teacher's likes and dislikes? Is this teacher so important? I think your previous idea was very good. Choose supermarkets of different levels and compare them. The average price of their bread must be more prominent in the difference."

Tom replied confusedly: "This teacher is not important, but I made this plan because I wanted to get a high score. Since I want to get a high score, of course I have to consider the preference of the scorer."

Nick gave a huff to express his understanding, and then asked in harmony: "Then is the score so important this time? More important than your own thoughts?"

Tom was a little crazy. He thought for a while and threw the croissant in his hand aside, and then continued to explain to Nick with gestures: "This time the score is not important, but this homework is even more important. This time I want grades, so I will revise homework for high grades, and next time if I am particularly interested in an assignment, then of course I will care about grades again and use my own ideas to complete the assignment."

"Ah, ok, ok, I understand." Nick reassured: "It's good to have a wish in your heart and work hard to do it. As far as I know, most people don't know what they want, so they just don't know what they want. lived a lifetime."

Hearing the praise, Tom was finally relieved, folded his hands on the table, and showed a reserved smile.

Nick poured him a cup of tea, pretending not to care, and continued to ask him what he thought: "Then do you hate poor people?"

Tom, on the other hand, was very sensitive to the subject, and suddenly became vigilant.He actually knew the standard answer to this question, so at first, he wanted to deny it flatly, but then he chose to believe Nick for once, and chose an answer that wasn't a lie: "I don't like it very much."

Then he saw Nick's unsure expression and suddenly became discouraged for some reason: "Ah, Nick, I know what you want to say. You must want to say that you must be kind."

Nick didn't expect to see him cheating, so he laughed and said: "Haha, look, I just asked you directly when I was curious about your thoughts, but now you are making up me indiscriminately."

Then he looked at the child opposite him tenderly: "Tom, just now, I already know that you are a very sober child who always knows what you want, so I will not directly order you what you have to do."

"But I want to tell you why everyone does it. Why do you think everyone thinks people should be kind?"

Tom thought of the boring religion class at school, and curled his lips: "Because you can go to heaven after death?"

"Well, this is an answer, although it is the worst one." Nick pondered: "In fact, you have to know that all morality was created to protect the individual himself."

Finding that Tom was interested in this topic, Nick smiled and continued to explain to him: "For example, from the most selfish point of view, I actually hope that everyone around me has all the virtues mentioned in the Bible."

He snapped his fingers and gave Nick an example: "If they are all kind people, then they will not do anything to hurt me, and they will even take the initiative to harm their own interests to help me. If they are all honest people, then I don't have to bother to tell the truth from every sentence, and there will be no lies and deceit. If they are all brave people, then there will always be someone who rushes ahead of me in danger, and I can have the best protection. If they They are all tolerant people, then I don’t need to be careful, because even if I do something wrong, I will be forgiven.”

"But unfortunately, everyone thinks so."

"So we attack the evil people, hoping that others will learn to be kind. We crowd out the liars, so as to urge the bystanders to be honest. We ridicule the timid people, hoping that someone will rush forward when they are in danger. .”

"What about tolerance?"

"Tolerance is often forgotten for the better good, and it becomes a virtue of God to forgive others."

"Tsk."

"But it all works both ways. When a man uses these virtues as a standard by which others are expected, he himself will be judged. When a man abandons these virtues, he gives everyone a reason to attack him. .”

The author has something to say: Alas, weekends are not suitable for coding. I changed four or five places sneakily under the noses of my parents, and only coded 2000 in one day.Speaking of it, you may not believe it, but I am squatting under the window sill with my notebook in my arms.It's terrible, and they must not let them know that I am doing such a nonsense thing.

In other words, I opened my mind again and dug two holes.

One is that Tom travels back to 1930 and meets himself as a child, but fails to find Nick, and even fights with Lao Tang, so he can only support himself by cursing. —— "The Adventures of Tangtang"

The second is that Alan and Nick go to other worlds to fast travel after returning to modern times. —— "The Years That Have Gone"

Alan waited for Nick to confess his love for two lifetimes, and he hadn't waited until he had learned Chinese, so he wanted to give Nick a reminder.

Allen: I like someone.

Nick: Ah, I knew it, even after I've been chasing you for so long, you still like your first love.

Allen:? ? ?What?I mean I like someone, not I like, someone!

Nick: Ah, I knew it. I don’t have a common language with you because I’m so bad at math, so you think I’m annoying. Okay, I won’t bother you anymore!

Allen:! ! !I mean I'm in love with someone, not that I'm in love with someone!

Nick: (grievous face) who?Tell me, who do you want to date?

Allen: Damn!Chinese mistake me!

感谢在2020-05-1517:12:10~2020-05-1617:30:13期间为我投出霸王票或灌溉营养液的小天使哦~

Thanks to the little angels who threw mines: Tangxi, Lester1;

Thank you very much for your support, I will continue to work hard!