After the white moonlight cuts the black

After confirming the time, Chu Qi decides to invite her little sister Li Jun to come over to play on weekends.

After Meng Huaiming and Yan Hui learned about it, they were inexplicably nervous, especially Meng Huaiming.

Although he has seen more storms and waves than Yan Hui, it is still difficult to get along with young people.

From the various mistakes in stocking Chu Qi, it can be seen that he is really not good at dealing with adolescents.

Still a typical cramming player.

Some time ago, in order to try to improve the relationship with Chu Qi, he bought a large number of developmental psychology books, and moved them home without picking books from experts and scholars of any professional title.

This is quite different from his usual personality, which shows his degree of anxiety.

It's still so strange that when Meng Huaiming was buying books in a bookstore, he also ran into a doctoral advisor from a well-known university who specialized in educational statistics.

Both of them bought wholesale books in large and small packages like potatoes, and finally knocked two smoking-quitting lollipops on the curb to discuss their children's problems.

As a result, a deep revolutionary friendship has been formed. After making an appointment, we will share the book list and go out for a drink or two if we have nothing to do.

Yan Hui didn't know what expression to use to respond.

Meng Huaiming also said that he would go to their school's lectures whenever he had time, and he also collected advertisements for courses on adolescent psychology.

It is more serious and serious than preparing for the college entrance examination in the seventh day of junior high school.

Meng Huaiming made up his mind to re-establish the friendly relationship with Chu Qi, but in fact, the two of them had a shallow temperament.

They have never learned how to persuade each other to stay, and they rarely compromise with each other.

In addition, Meng Huaiming was busy with work in the past, and Chu Qi was an extremely well-supported child, so that Meng Huaiming couldn't remember the last time they sat down to talk calmly.

That was the period Meng Huaiming least wanted to recall.

His father passed away suddenly, and Su Yaowen, who had been in love with him for a long time, tried his best to help his wife's family bring down the Meng family.

And when he got home, his only thought was to fall asleep, and he couldn't think about whether Chu Qi was there or not as before.

Later, with Yan Hui's death, Meng Chuqi attended his funeral in the shed downstairs of his parents' house in Lanting. Meng Huaiming couldn't get in, so he asked Chuqi to bring him an extra wreath and a set of clothes in the distance. Holding white flowers is a very traditional funeral method.

Chu Qi was wearing a black dress at that time, and she didn't show any special grief, just numbness.

Only then did Meng Huaiming realize that his niece had changed out of her high-heeled shoes, which were also short and short.

In fact, Chu Qi's expensive clothes were all hung up and sold online after the collapse of Meng's house, leaving only a few sets of casual clothes for her travels.

Lin Jun bought this skirt for her, so she didn't throw it away.

Meng Huaiming was already so busy at that time that he didn't realize that Chu Qi could obviously rely on her godfather.

Based on Lin Jun's promise to her father, he would not ignore Chu Qi who kept half of her blood, and Chu Qi could continue to live her life of luxury and maintain her expensive hobbies.

But she really didn't leave, just like that joke, she stayed, as if she really wanted to support Meng Huaiming instead.

At the end of the seventh day of the seventh day, she did not ask him for living expenses, and the girl became financially independent by working part-time and taking orders from photography models.

She changed schools, saying goodbye to the expensive private school.

It is said that she walked with a cool posture, emptying the desk drawers, dragging the suitcase, completely ignoring the snickers and whispers of others.

She was also wearing a knee-length black skirt, and she looked lonely, not as if she was leaving in despair, but like a light swallow cutting across the sky.

At that time, misfortunes never come singly was Meng Huaiming's perfect pronoun. Even if he noticed Chu Qi's silent and considerate, it was difficult for him to separate his mind to care for her.

And when the sudden accident made Chu Qi want to use her best years to atone for her mistakes, Meng Huaiming didn't hear her call uncle or injustice.

Yan Hui got up early to make preparations for the arrival of her friends on the seventh day of the lunar new year.

At this moment, he is still able to do a job with ease, since that night, there seems to be something missing and something more between them.

Meng Huaiming couldn't say, but he already had a rough idea of ​​what to do next.

They don't delve too much into gender dysphoria, but they still need to know basic information in order to prevent deviations in the communication process.

This degree is actually very difficult to grasp. Yan Hui mentioned related topics in "Honey Pot", just using depression as an example.

Through the protagonist's eyes, I experienced a story between a depressed patient and his friend.

Because of inappropriate words, the friend caused the other party to have a depression attack for the second time. The friend sat in the psychology department of the hospital and said that he had not slept well for half a month, and felt that it was all his responsibility.

But he couldn't figure it out, obviously the other party told him not to treat him with the attitude of treating depression, and he did as he did, why did he end up with this consequence in the end.

"Actually, that's not what he meant."

"The so-called don't look at him with the eyes of 'looking at depression', the implication is that you don't look at him with strange eyes."

This is a very common phenomenon in interpersonal communication, but it is often overlooked by people around you because of the particularity of the symptoms.

For example, whoever tells you that you don't like a certain star is telling another person not to mention him frequently, and most of them will also receive this hint.

But when the other party becomes a patient, unconditional obedience and care are counterproductive.

Understanding symptoms is not about treating them differently, but more about avoiding unintentional harm.

Just because someone is too deliberate, it makes the patient feel uncomfortable.

So they put forward the request of "no", which in a sense implies a kind of trust, trusting that this person will not hurt themselves, and will not be so careless.

In fact, there is another example that was merged in the original book, that is, the same-sex group, but this line was deleted during the filming of the TV series.

Homosexuality has been removed from the category of mental illness, but it is still a minority group. In the scope of non-mainstream culture, too many specious topics can often be raised.

Some of them are for freedom and progress, while others are confusing and implying some purpose.

There are too many people calling on the Internet not to look at them with strange eyes. This is not wrong, but it has evolved into an extreme.

Saying things like "They don't want respect, but equality" sounds very reasonable at first glance, but as human beings, no one needs respect.

It’s better than wantonly introducing someone of the opposite sex to a homosexual at the wine table, asking offensive questions about privacy because of curiosity, this is really treating their specialness as “special”.

Understanding and paying attention to speech behavior is a kind of extra respect, which really needs to be controlled well. In fact, as long as this is also regarded as ordinary social etiquette, unnecessary stabbing and attacks can be avoided.

Just as you should avoid repeatedly mentioning "death" and "the pain of life" in front of depressed patients, they are not objects that can be vented.

Precisely because they are "normal", socially basic politeness and understanding are required.

Meng Huaiming and Yan Hui read the encyclopedia about gender dysphoria together. In the early years, it was called gender identity disorder, but it was later revised and determined to be "gender dysphoria".

The noun substitution also represents transgender formal farewell to the category of disease.

After reading this, Meng Huaiming really has a sense of déjà vu that he once turned over as a "patient".

Gender orientation or gender cognition was once a disease, and the disease was linked to treatment, but if they did not affect their own life because of this phenomenon, and did not affect the lives of others, they would be forced to accept treatment. Disease, to achieve the effect of twisting, it is too ridiculous.

The difference between physiological cognition and psychological cognition is bound to be uncomfortable. The reason for its formation comes from brain-related and hormones, but most of them come from the acquired society. Intuitively observe the phenomenon.

On the weekend, Yan Hui finalized the menu, and Meng Huaiming was in charge of going to the supermarket to buy it. Yan Hui's colds came and went again and again. Apart from some nasal congestion this morning, she was still full of energy.

They attach great importance to the lady who is coming to visit, because "she" is Chu Qi's only friend.

Because he used another kind of emotion from a friend to help Chu Qi understand the world.

Li Qiong is in the same grade as Chuqi, and is about to face the college entrance examination. Unlike Meng Chuqi's ups and downs, they are among the best in their grades, and they can also come out on top in top classes.

Although Meng Huaiming didn't know why there was still a top class, but they were all outstanding academically.

He got up early to buy fresh ingredients, but they hadn’t arrived when he returned home. Yanhui decided to make a crucian carp soup for the table, grilled pork ribs and garlic open-back shrimp, served with golden cabbage and fried three shredded, and added a home-cooked dish Steamed eggs, still thinking about making a dessert after dinner, hesitating whether to make egg tarts or puddings.

Meng Huaiming has also learned how to cook now. He has upgraded from a novice who only knows instant noodles, and can cook scrambled eggs with tomatoes at least.

He watched Yan Hui pour the condiments into the glass bowl in an orderly manner, adjust them to his unique taste, and sprinkle the finished product with chopped shallots and sesame seeds for decoration, as well as those green leafy vegetables that he couldn't name. It's amazing, but also touching.

One's kitchen is too lonely, and one's house is too empty.

Meng Huaiming took the seasoning bowl from Yanhui's hand, touching his fingertips together.

Yan Hui turned to chop the vegetables, while Meng Huaiming stirred the bowl manually with chopsticks.

Yan Hui said in a steady rhythm: "That night, the day the thunder struck, were you really there?"

It was a thrilling night for Meng Huaiming, he nodded silently, and Yan Hui laughed: "I'm scared to death."

"It's okay." Meng Huaiming was about to make creative processing with the soy sauce jar, but Yan Hui hurriedly stopped him. Meng Huaiming held his wrist, and Yan Hui understood what he meant.

"Before, such a situation often occurred. It would scare me to death. In fact, it is better to be hospitalized... But I couldn't go out, so Dr. Xu came to see me at home."

He lowered his eyes and didn't say any more, but Meng Huaiming understood in an instant that Zhao Hao let him go, maybe he hoped that both of them would suffer, or he could be expelled after he couldn't bear Yan Hui's madness.

"But I don't know why... Auditory and visual hallucinations are rare now. Dr. Xu, I am in a special situation. Time and forgetting may be the way to improve."

Meng Huaiming put down all the bowls and chopsticks with one hand, went around Yan Hui's back, patted it lightly for a few times, and then followed this force, pulled Yan Hui towards him, lowered his head, "It's okay, everything is fine... "

He paused for a moment before picking up: "It's still there, it's all good."

"Hey, uncle, you can't do it, can you choose a time to spread dog food?"

Meng Chuqi came back at some point and poked his head out.

Today she is wearing a fiery red long dress, the white fur edges set off her rosy complexion, she is a girl in her prime, and she is dazzling, her long hair is tied into a high ponytail at the back of her head, she grinned: "The guest is here .”

Yan Hui's exit from this degree of completion is only more than half a hug.

The two walked out of the kitchen, only to see a boy a head taller than Chu Qi standing in the living room.

The reason why he seems to be defined this way is that he does not have the slightest sign of transgender on his appearance.

Jeans, a gray sweater, a thin coat with horn buttons, clean hair, and a clean face. He is the most well-behaved student in high school with his own good looks.

Chu Qi stepped forward to hold his arm, and Meng Huaiming suddenly had the illusion that this was the posture of her daughter bringing her boyfriend to meet her parents.

"Excuse me." They all nodded politely, their voices were not deliberately suppressed, but they sounded surprisingly pleasant.