Anecdotes with Dr. Cheng

Under the 'aggressive' momentum of the old man, Cheng Xiuyuan's steady voice appeared extraordinarily stable.

"Dad, no relationship can be 100% stable, and happiness cannot be guaranteed by obtaining a marriage certificate. You also know that many young people get married and divorce quickly. Two people should stay together firmly and not separate. More It still depends on the two people working together and working hard together.”

Cheng's father said impatiently: "Analyze the specific issues in detail, and don't talk to me about the examples of young people getting married and divorced! You are different from them. As long as you choose someone to marry, it is a lifetime matter. In your case There is only the possibility of widowhood, but no possibility of divorce.”

Cheng Xiuyuan went on to say: "It is precisely because I have a more specific personality that it is difficult to empathize with someone when I rarely fall in love with him. Isn't it the greatest disrespect for other girls if you tell me to give up him and choose someone else? If I really did this, my next generation will not be able to be happy."

Undoubtedly, he thought of Ning Yi's own example, which was too vivid.

The father obviously doesn't like women, but he is forced to break up with his lover under the pressure of his elders. It seems to be a measure of helpless compromise with reality, but in fact it is a desecration of a marriage.And the last thing he should do is to choose to have a child with the woman, which is Ning Yi.

No matter how good a girl is, she will definitely not be able to endure this kind of marriage. If it is more extreme, she will inevitably not take revenge.Just like Ning Yi's mother, she would rather take revenge on Ning Yi's father than treat her son as her own.Although, the consequences of doing so may not really retaliate against Ning Yi's father much, but it will harm Ning Yi for half his life.

Cheng's father was a little annoyed. His youngest son had been obedient since he was a child, and he seldom contradicted his elders. The only time he barely counted as contradictory was when he pleaded for his brother, out of brotherhood.

But now, for the sake of an outsider, he refuted him time and time again, asking him how he could swallow his breath!

"So, are you determined to convince me today?"

Cheng Xiuyuan bowed his head and said, "Yes. The matter is very important, Dad, I really can't take a step back."

Seeing that the father and son were about to face off against Maimang, Cheng's mother hurried over to become a mediator and a 'firefighter'.

"Old Cheng, you talk too aggressively, and you have lost your sense of normalcy. You used to say that in the past, the more you confront him, the more energetic he will be, and he will step back a little bit, and plan for the future. It is the most labor-saving method of education."

She turned her head to look at Cheng Xiuyuan, and sighed. "As for you... To be honest, I want to know why, why you only fell in love with him, Ning Yi, right? There is something about this kid that you have to pay attention to? Don't tell me, it's because he can cook and eat , you fall in love with it as soon as you eat it."

Compared with Cheng's father's tone of reluctance, her words were obviously much softer, and she gradually felt reasonable.It seems that as long as Cheng Xiuyuan gives a reason she can accept, she may accept Ning Yi.

However, this reason cannot be just because of cooking skills. She made it clear that she did not believe that her son would fall in love with one person because of his cooking skills, otherwise he could have found a better cook instead of Ning Yi.

Why does he like Ning Yi?A boy who is about five years younger than him, with a cheerful and optimistic personality, sometimes hiding the fragility of his personality, and a boy who is sensible and makes people feel distressed?

Yes, the word 'boy'.Ning Yi has the innocence that is rare for adults, and he is not the kind who is ignorant of the world, it is purely because of his personality.He is simple but not stupid, he is cheerful but sensitive, he is sensible but not too much...

He thought for a long time, and the answer he finally gave was literally unconvincing to himself.

"I can't tell. Probably from the first time I saw him, I subconsciously felt that he was different from ordinary people. It was not because of how good he was, but because he was what attracted me. After being with him, I also Very happy... How should I put it? To put it in a more literary tone, it probably looks like being illuminated by the warm winter sun?"

"Before I met him, I thought that love was nothing more than the excessive secretion of one or several hormones, which produced the so-called sweet feeling of love. After meeting him, this feeling is still there, but there is a lot more substantive content .I think that is really the feeling of being in love, not just the hormonal effect that can only last for three months at most.”

Cheng's mother was completely stunned. Is this still her obedient and quiet little son?When talking about Ning Yi, the expression on his face is far different from before. If you really want to describe it, it is probably "glowing"?

Only now did she have to admit that her son really fell in love with that Ning Yi.She had seen the same expression and similar phenomenon on other people's faces before, and they were all couples in love without exception. It was almost the same when she met Lao Cheng when she was young.

She originally thought that when her youngest son met his first love, he was still young and vigorous, so he might be surprised and act impulsively, so he fell into it and couldn't extricate himself.As long as you ask the root cause and let him realize that the so-called deep love is just an impulsive desire or desire, it will also have the effect of drawing salary from the bottom of the pot.

However, her prediction was wrong. It seems that not only did it not have the desired effect, but it also inspired the other party by the way?She began to feel a headache, and the good feelings she had for Ning Yi because of the desserts were all gone in the face of the harsh reality.

When the three talked about it, they finally returned to the "old-fashioned" crux that most families would bring up.

"If you do this, have you ever thought about how we will conduct ourselves in the future? I can't even imagine what people will say about our Cheng family in the future? A homosexual and gay Cheng family? The same conditions, no, even if you lower the conditions, as long as you like it Your mother and I won't be so hard to accept the last girl!" Father Cheng said distressedly.

Although Cheng's mother didn't speak, the meaning in her eyes was the same.

After hearing this, Cheng Xiuyuan knelt down without hesitation, "I can't argue with this point, my parents were lucky enough to raise me, but I want to dust your reputation...Although, I don't feel loved Being gay is wrong, but most people see it as wrong."

Cheng's father's voice was full of exhaustion, and he wiped his face dejectedly, "How did I teach you when I was young? Most of them said that you were wrong, so no matter whether you were wrong or not, you were wrong. Until now, Are you still unwilling to change?"

Cheng Xiuyuan lowered his head, "Dad, I admit my mistake, but I really can't change it."

At this time, Cheng Xiujin couldn't see it anymore, he didn't kneel down with his younger brother, which was equivalent to two brothers coercing their parents together, and it was also a kind of unfilial piety.

He said: "Actually, such things as younger brothers are nothing in foreign countries. Isn't there scientific research that shows that a person's sexual orientation is half-to-half? It's just that our mainstream thinking is that men should be with women. Together, that's why most people choose men and women to marry."

"In fact, as far as I know, there are quite a few people like him, especially in foreign countries. These are seen very quickly. Several countries have already recognized same-sex marriage. If they want to, they can go abroad to get a certificate. Except for the same gender, nothing else is different."

Cheng's mother glared at him, and was the first to question him. "No girls, doesn't it mean no children, why is there no difference? I think there is still a big difference. When he gets old, who will take care of him?"

Of course, this is a euphemism for her, and the more standard one should be "who will see him die when he is old?" Some words are more taboo for the elderly, but they all have the same meaning.In the traditional concept, if there is no incense to inherit, the ancestors will have to suffer and suffer.

Cheng Xiujin added: "Actually, the child is not a problem. As long as you change your mind and ask your younger brother to find a surrogate, the child born will also be the Cheng family's child, and there is no difference in blood."

Cheng's mother is also a teacher herself, so of course she knows that these words do not contain exaggeration, and it is precisely because she knows that she has nothing to say.

On the contrary, Cheng's father was annoyed that the eldest son 'contradicted' his mother, very unhappy, with a dangerous expression on his face. "You two, let's collude together today. One will block me, and the other will block your mother? Since you refuse to listen to all the good words, then I will play tricks for a while. Kneel first, and then get up when you think about it! "

After finishing speaking, he dragged Cheng's mother to leave, and made up his mind not to care about his younger son's life or death. Cheng Xiujin wanted to persuade him, but the old man gave him a stare. "If you continue to make trouble, you will be punished together. Although I am old, I still have the strength to whip you a few times."

Cheng Xiujin didn't dare to argue anymore, knowing that the old man was really pushed, otherwise he wouldn't have admitted that he was cheating.The whole family has similar personalities, they are all stubborn, and they are all determined not to listen to what you say.

He sighed a long time, patted Cheng Xiuyuan's shoulders and said, "Brother really tried his best."

Cheng Xiuyuan nodded, "It's okay. Anyway, we said earlier that we should do our best and obey the destiny. It really can't be reversed..."

"Are you going to give up?"

"Of course not. I will choose to wait for a few more years, and I will wait until the day when the two elders soften their hearts."

"I didn't expect that the honest man was the most dishonest one? Unfortunately, I thought you would choose to compromise because you loved your parents."

Cheng Xiuyuan's eyes were firm, "My parents are also people I care about very much. I am willing to compromise for my parents on most things, but in this matter, I really cannot give up an inch."

Cheng Xiujin was silent for a moment, and said: "You still can see it clearly. But, in this way, parents will really be sad, and it is difficult to make up for it."

"Then use your whole life to make up for it. Together with Ningning, it can be said that we will make up for it twice."

How can there be such an algorithm?Cheng Xiujin also knew that he was having fun while suffering, and he just said it as a joke. People's hearts have never been something that can be measured with data, nor does it mean that they can pay off what they owe in one or two lifetimes.

He is not sure if his parents can let go of their inherent thoughts.Honestly, it's not very likely.

"Hey, as a brother, I can only say one thing, old-fashioned, come on."

Cheng Xiuyuan nodded silently.

The author has something to say:

1. The theory of hormones comes from the fragmented memory in my brain, which is the science explanation of love.A random check, probably what Jiang Zi said.

Five kinds of love substances: phenylethylamine (nervous excitement), dopamine (satisfaction), endorphins (approximate tranquilizers, that is, factors that create marriage), norepinephrine (vasoconstriction, nerve conduction), posterior lobe Vasopressin/Pituitary Hormone (in colloquial terms 'driving')

2. Does emotion originate from "love" or "reason"? If it is "love", then which is true love, love at first sight or love after a long time?

My personal understanding is that falling in love at first sight should be because the other party is satisfied with the original partner setting in his mind, or the other party is very good, which arouses biological instinctive love.It's easy to fall in love with each other for a long time, get used to it as one, and gradually get used to it until you gradually fall in love with it.

Personally, I think the best model is the combination of love at first sight and long-term love. In the article, these two things are Jiang Zi. Falling in love at first sight is because the other party conforms to the concept in my mind.

In fact, what I set is an over-idealized feeling, and it is also the emotion that is least likely to appear in reality.Among other things, if I haven't seen you for three years, [-]% of them will be forgotten, and then they will be gone.

But I'm writing novels, I've always relied on 'bullshit', half-truths are the most like that!

The long-winded end!