A Timely Wife

Li Ruosong resisted the urge to give him a blank stare, and forced a rather stiff smile on his face, "You have an idea so soon?"

Li Ruoshan raised his head triumphantly, gave Li Ruosong a look that you should not underestimate me, and when he turned to Chengdong, he immediately put on a smiling face and said, "Well, actually, I heard this sentence from Mr. I have some ideas, but I have never thought about them, I thought about them just now, and I don’t know if they are right.”

After finishing speaking, Li Ruoshan put on a slightly shy expression, and Li Ruosong wished to give him a few hands. He confirmed again that having a younger brother is really annoying, especially the kind who likes to pester his husband. Lang's younger brother.

After hearing Li Ruoshan's words, Cheng Dong hummed and said, "Well, let's talk about your current thoughts first, and then the three of us will discuss it."

Li Ruoshan said happily: "Okay, let me say it first. When I heard what my husband said before, I thought this passage was about self-cultivation, family governance, and world peace. Only then can we have the ability to govern the country, and only when the country is well governed can we talk about the peace of the world, if the self is not upright, then nothing else will be possible.”

Chengdong nodded in satisfaction, and said, "It's pretty good to have this kind of cognition at your age. If a person wants to achieve something, he must stand upright. He can gain benefits, even a country, but in the long run, it is difficult for him to make great achievements, and even if he gains benefits, he will soon lose them.

We say that as a person, if you want others to recognize you and then follow you, you must have something that attracts others, that is to say, you must have a charismatic personality so that others are not because of money, status, beauty, etc. It is very important that material things follow you, but actually follow you because of you. To achieve this, you must have your own qualities. Those are very good, enough to be admired, I admire your qualities. "

Seeing that Li Ruoshan and Li Ruosong were listening very seriously, Cheng Dong paused and continued: "The passage just now can be regarded as a Confucian classic. There is a sentence in it called Zhizhi Gewu, Ruoshan, how do you understand these four words? Or, how do you understand Confucianism?"

Li Ruoshan tilted his head, thought for a while, and said: "Confucianism, um, Mr. said before that we must preserve the principles of nature and eliminate human desires. In fact, I don't quite understand the meaning of this sentence. Want to eliminate human desires? Individuals always have desires, which cannot be eliminated in the first place. If human desires are forcibly suppressed just for the sake of heaven, what should we do when we can no longer suppress them?"

"What you said is very correct. Preserving the principles of nature and eliminating human desires does not mean blindly suppressing the most basic desires of people. For example, I want to eat when I am hungry. This is the law of nature, but I must eat bird's nest and abalone. This is human Desire, it is the law of heaven to sleep when you are sleepy, but it is human desire to have a beautiful woman to accompany you to sleep. called desire.

We have always said that affairs are divided into yin and yang, and we should look at problems in two aspects. This sentence alone must be viewed in two aspects. Let me tell you an example. A pair of brothers attend a banquet, and the host also presents a beautiful woman. The elder brother took good care of the beautiful women, but the younger brother dismissed the beautiful women. After returning home, the younger brother lost his temper at the older brother, saying that the older brother was disrespectful. The older brother was shocked and told the younger brother that he had a beautiful woman in his arms at the banquet, so he had a beautiful woman in his heart, but when he returned home There is no beauty in your arms, so naturally there is no beauty in your heart. The elder brother asked the younger brother, don't you still have beautiful women in your heart now?

You see, it is also about keeping the law of nature and destroying human desires. My elder brother thinks that the law of heaven is in my heart, and I just need to be myself, but my younger brother thinks that the law of heaven needs to be found outside, relying on the power of the outside world to learn things, so as to make my heart feel better. Reach the realm of perfection.Neither of these two people can say wrong, but neither can say right, Ruoshan, you must always remember that there is no absolute right or wrong in everything in the world, only relative right or wrong, it depends on what position you are in at that time , and when did this happen.

Investigate things to know these four words, Ge means righteousness, if it is not correct, it will return to righteousness, people can do good and eliminate evil, that is the kung fu of investigating things, after investigating things is extending knowledge, knowledge is the essence of the heart, when you see your parents, you will know filial piety, see When a child enters the well, he knows compassion. This is conscience, and he does not ask for it outside. If a person’s conscience flourishes, he will have no selfish desires, let the compassion flourish, and the compassion will reach the extreme, then we can call it benevolence. But as ordinary people It is impossible for a person to have no selfish desires. At this time, it is necessary to rely on the extension of knowledge to overcome your selfish desires, so that your conscience will always prevail. Once your conscience reaches a certain level, you will naturally be able to govern the country and the world.

As long as you are human, no matter how despicable or cruel you are, there will always be a place in your heart for conscience. Conscience is a good medicine that can solve all problems, and you don’t need any external help. People, it depends on whether your heart is right, not See if you abide by the law and observe etiquette.

We have so many officials who can memorize these Confucian things better than anyone else, talk about those laws better than anyone else, and speak the truth better than anyone else, but what is the use? It is still corrupt when it is time to break the law, and it is still illegal when it is time to break the law. This shows that relying on foreign objects to restrain them has a certain effect, but it may not be completely effective. Can be a good official.

There is a folk saying that the door is a thing that prevents a gentleman but not a villain. It is the same reason. If there is no door, if the other party is a gentleman, he will still not go in. But even if you have a door and a lock, the other party is a villain and wants to steal. Things, you can't stop him even if you use ten locks and ten doors. "

Li Ruoshan nodded again and again, and Li Ruosong also put away his relaxed expression at the beginning, and became more serious as he listened, until finally he couldn't help but also nodded.