The Records of the Library

Subject post: What should I do when my boyfriend cries

1L blue haze (landlord):

Help, help, what should I do when my boyfriend cries?

I am really at a loss what to do, and comfort is not good.

As for what just happened in the afternoon, he was lying on the bed, probably looking at his mobile phone, then got out of bed to get hot water to make milk tea, and asked me if I would like to drink it, I said no, he stood next to me holding a cup , and didn’t speak. At that time, I didn’t realize that something was wrong, and I was busy writing on the computer.

Then he put the cup on the table and called me. When I turned around, I saw his eyes were red and his mouth was pursed. I was really shocked and asked him what's the matter.It's okay if you don't ask, but when you ask him tears burst out.

It happened so suddenly that I was totally dumbfounded.

While crying, my boyfriend climbed onto me like an octopus. He was tall and had long legs, and he squeezed into the same chair as me. In order not to let him fall off, I had to hug his back hard.I asked him if something happened, he said no, and I asked if it had something to do with me, but he kept quiet and hugged me tightly to cry.I feel like it should be, but don't know what exactly is going wrong.

Now his head is resting on my shoulder, as if he fell asleep crying. I am afraid to wake him up and dare not make big movements. His shoulders and neck are almost unbearable. Can anyone help me?

PS: I don't think crying means weakness. You can cry when you are happy or sad, and there is no need to distinguish between men and women. It is a normal emotional outlet.My boyfriend is very cute, please don't attack him, just leave decently if you can't stand it.

2L Coke:

The landlord is the legendary "trick the dog in and then kill it"?

3L popping candy:

Seriously, shake him awake.

4L winter padded jacket:

I thought about the right medicine for this, what could make a big man cry, Yazi felt very serious.

Aunt 5L scarf:

If conditions permit, the landlord will take a look at your male ticket phone!Maybe he just watched Korean dramas!

6L blue mist (the original poster replied 5L):

Thanks for your suggestion, it's no big deal.

My boyfriend allowed me to look at his phone. Not long after the relationship was established, he recorded my face ID and told me the password, but I think we are already living together and we still have to keep some personal space, so I haven’t looked at it. .

His mobile phone was in his pocket, and I just took it out to look at it, but the page stopped at his final review materials, and there was nothing to see, no new news on social software, and no Korean dramas.But the photo album was opened in the backstage, and he put our photos in an album. I found a lot of black photos of me, the one who couldn’t stand up after running to hold the goal, the one who rolled over on a bicycle, all kinds of things, I didn’t pay attention at all When did he take it.

We have visited art exhibitions, his photography skills are very good according to the amateur level, why I am distorted in his lens, even if I have to save it, what is he thinking?

My mobile phone is full of handsome photos he has carefully selected and left behind. I think it’s not enough to look good, but the ones that he thinks look good must be the ones.

He has double standards and is starting to get angry.

There are people at the position of 7L:

Don't be angry, this is a common operation of straight men, so don't ask too much of them.

My face is the size of a washbasin in my boyfriend's cell phone, and my body is half-fifty, and the whole candied haws is fine.

8L blue mist (reply from the owner):

Haha, I'm not angry.

But just scrolling down and found something strange.

Sudden Metamorphosis.jpg

I quickly backed out and saw his memo.

[Brother should not dislike the smell when eating snail powder, you can apply essential oil under the nose. ]

[Sign in every day and cast a little star for my brother. ]

[Remind brother to use hand cream. ]

[2018.11.25, 9:34 am, heavy rain, small fork in the canteen, I am the happiest person on earth. ]

[The second cup of half-price milk tea, here I come. ]

[Brother doesn’t dislike me sweating after running, so I don’t have to avoid him from now on?(ˊ?ˋ*)?]

[The denim jacket I bought last time was very good, and my brother would take the initiative to come over and ask for a kiss (crossed out). After thinking too much, it turned out that the smell of hot pot has not dissipated. ]

[Christmas gift: a keyboard in my brother's shopping cart. ]

Spoiled, I dare not watch, personal space is really necessary, good for my heart health.Or continue to discuss what should I do.

9L popping candy:

Bridge bean sack, brother? !Is the host also a boy?The smile is getting brighter.jpg

10L I am a fish:

Bubbling, thank you, the landlord, I feel like I’m getting it.

There are people at the position of 11L:

The landlord might as well wake up the boyfriend and ask, the big pig's hoof will go back to sleep soon, it doesn't matter.

12L blue mist (reply from the owner):

He didn't sleep much during the review recently. I woke up in the middle of the night and he was still reciting, so I wanted him to sleep a little longer.

But the problem also needs to be solved. He has cried before, but I still can't stand his tears this time. I panic when he cries, so I want to ask for advice on the correct way to comfort my boyfriend.

13L Coke:

Understood, it turned out to be the interest of young couples, I am not worthy to answer this question.

14L yellow and sour:

It feels like lemon.

15L make a break:

Curious why you were crying before!

16L blue mist (reply from the owner):

Many people think that my boyfriend has a straight face and talks indifferently when they first meet, and it is difficult to get close to him. They may not expect him to be like this in private.

Before, I also thought that a character like a boyfriend would not cry.

The first time I saw him cry and we were not officially together, he confessed to me that I actually liked him too, but at that time I rejected him cruelly out of certain considerations.Later, on our way back to the dormitory, the street lamp reflected his side face, his eyelashes were long and curled up, and after being wet with tears, the shattered light flickered, and the water marks on his face didn't bother to wipe, like a small stream. Looking at me with my eyes closed, I was a little dazed and thought that he looked very spiritual. It turns out that gods can shed tears, so I almost raised my hand to help him wipe it off.Now I take it for granted that it is better not to cry, otherwise I will feel uncomfortable.

The second time was because we were out of control the day we were together, he hurt me, I thought it was okay, but he apologized to me with red eyes, I said it was okay, but he cried even harder, I It was hard to coax him well.

And then this time.

What can 17L do and what can't be done to engage in pornography No.1:

It looked like a car was driving past.

18L yellow and sour:

I knew that the essence of all the posts in the emotional section is to show affection.

19Lshake it:

Sure enough, if the face is right, love is half the battle.

20L Ouye:

First of all, I wish the landlord and the male ticket 99, no wonder if I made a mistake.

Has the landlord and the male ticket had a conflict recently?It is inevitable that there will be some bumps and bumps in the relationship, maybe it has accumulated over time, so he just vented a little today.

21L blue mist (the original poster replied 20L):

I seriously thought about it, we did have a dispute before.

At that time he wanted to make the relationship public, because he had a post with many people crying and begging for a follow-up, but I think it’s not too late, our relationship is still unstable, and I haven’t told my family yet, in case my family disagrees, they want us to break up …

Before I finished speaking, he became anxious and asked why you said such things and why you broke up with me.

I think he only heard the last sentence.

I said I meant just in case.

He said that there is no chance, he will definitely seek my family's consent.He stayed up all night to write dozens of M letters to his father-in-law and mother-in-law. I remember a sentence in it saying that he could learn everything except having children, which was really humble.

I took him to have dinner with my parents last weekend. Although I went there as a friend, he was so cowardly that he didn't dare to talk at all. He put the pepper in his mouth directly with the vegetables.Fortunately, my parents have a good impression of him. My father is not in good health. I am afraid that he will not be able to accept it for a while, so I still want to take it step by step, and finally my boyfriend agreed.

But I have met his father, and his uncle agreed to our relationship, so I think he may be a little wronged at this point.

Another time he was angry because I waited for him to finish class. It was snowing that day, and I saw many students going downstairs, thinking that he was coming soon, instead of going upstairs to wait on the overhead floor.We were chatting about what to have for lunch, and after making an appointment to eat porridge casserole, I asked: [When are you coming down? ]

He asked: [Are you downstairs? ]

I said: [Yes, I finish class early and I am so hungry. ]

[I'm procrastinating, did you wear a scarf when you went out in the morning? ]

[No, I forgot to leave in a hurry. ]

He said: [I'll come right away. ]

I saw him run downstairs angrily, took off his scarf and wrapped it around my neck, it was still warm, he put my almost frozen and unconscious hand into his pocket, stuffed the warm baby in it, and used it Covering me with my own hand, I walked towards the dining hall like this, my face was smelly the whole time, and his eyes were so fierce when he was angry, I didn't dare to say anything at all.

He said, "If it's as cold as it is today, you can go directly to the dining hall and wait for me."

But if he hadn't snatched my quilt, I wouldn't have caught a cold a while ago, I thought so at the time, and later I found out that he contradicted the teacher and came to eat with me.

The author says:

It's the kind of girl who can cry.