Then there is no more

After knowing that Bian Jingyu's second book was about to be published, Mao Chunmei had new things to talk about when she went to those patriarchal families to do mediation work: "...my granddaughter is a good painter, and a book will be published soon Don’t you know? If I didn’t send her to school back then, and shut her up at home every day to feed pigs and chickens, would she be able to publish a book? You feel your conscience and say, whose sons and grandsons can have my granddaughter Promise?"

However, when Mao Chunmei faced Yuanfeng, she changed her rhetoric again: "If it weren't for Dabao, who would have known that you would be able to publish a book after so much effort? Dabao is now in school, and the students in the class are all older than him." , as a sister, you must support him, and don't let him be bullied."

On the day of the school report, Mao Chunmei sacrificed Xiaojia for everyone, ran to the neighboring village to fight against her unfilial daughter-in-law, and did not accompany Bian Jingyu to school.So taking advantage of this holiday, Mao Chunmei asked Bian Jingyu many questions, who is the head teacher, is there any disobedient bad boy in the class, and so on.

"Teacher Mao? Teacher Mao from Qianxi Village? The one with the revolutionary hair cut?" Mao Chunmei asked.

Bian Jingyu hesitated for a moment and said: "It should be, I don't know if it is from Qianxi Village, but the hairstyle is indeed revolutionary."

"That's it, it should be that silly girl!" Mao Chunmei couldn't help but patted her thigh.

Bian Jingyu froze for a moment.Shen Yi leaned in front of Mao Chunmei, pretending to be obedient and asked: "Grandma, why do you say that Teacher Mao is stupid?"

"Look, your teacher Mao will definitely have a hard time in the future." Mao Chunmei said in a godlike manner, "She is just too stupid to be fooled by her mother-in-law... Hey, she is a educated person who has studied, Why is her mind so unclear, she will believe whatever her mother-in-law says."

Bian Jingyu and Shen Yi looked at each other.Bian Jingyu said: "Grandma, Teacher Mao is a good teacher and is very careful with the students. I heard from my sister that a student in the school passed out due to malnutrition, and she gave the student her teacher's meal voucher to that student." , so that he can eat an egg every day."

"If you're so careful with your students, why aren't you more careful with your own son?" Mao Chunmei muttered.

Teacher Mao's husband's surname is Jiang, and his name is Jiang Ming.He is the only one in Jiang Ming's family, and he has no other brothers or sisters.He lost his father when he was young, leaving only orphans and widows in his family.After Mrs. Mao married Jiang Ming, she became pregnant within two months after entering the house. She conceived in October and gave birth to a big and fat boy Jiang Cong, so she had a lot of face with her mother-in-law.She also always felt that her mother-in-law was very nice.When Teacher Mao was confinement, Jiang Cong always cried in the middle of the night. Her mother-in-law was afraid that the child would affect her rest, so she took the child to raise her. Except for breastfeeding, she did not let Teacher Mao take care of everything. Teacher Mao was also very grateful to her mother-in-law.

Teacher Mao is a very gentle person, and the relationship between husband and wife is very good. Jiang Cong was very close to her when he was a child.She didn't know it, which made her mother-in-law unhappy.Her mother-in-law wished that her grandson would only be close to herself, how could she tolerate her grandson being bewitched by her daughter-in-law?So, when Teacher Mao became a teacher in elementary school and could only stay at home two or three days a month, her mother-in-law began to plan to provoke the relationship between her grandson and daughter-in-law.

When Teacher Mao first became a teacher, Jiang Cong was still young and looked like he could walk.When Teacher Mao came back from school, her mother-in-law told her how Jiang Cong was so disobedient, why he was picky about eating, why he spit at others, in short, he had a lot of bad habits.Mr. Mao never doubted his mother-in-law. When he heard that his son had a bad habit, of course he had to educate him.But how can children like to preach?After Teacher Mao returned to school after the vacation, her mother-in-law quietly said to Jiang Cong: "Look, your mother scolded you as soon as she came back, or grandma treats you better?"

As Jiang Cong grew up, and when he was able to play wildly with the boys in the village, the content of Mr. Mao's mother-in-law's complaint against Mr. Mao also escalated.Her mother-in-law is very skillful in speaking, and when she complains, nine are true and one is false.Jiang Cong admitted that he went to other people's vegetable fields with his little friend to break corn, and admitted that he was walking like a blind man, but he did not admit that he stole grandma's money, which was obviously given to him by grandma.At first, Teacher Mao believed in the child's words, but because of the lack of communication between the mother and the child, she gradually believed that her son dared to do it but did not admit it, and was even more disappointed in his son.

The work of the head teacher in the lower grades is very tiring. Although Teacher Mao is still very patient in school, which is her duty as a teacher, but during the two or three days of rest every month, when she is facing her family , her exhaustion made her not as patient as she used to be.

As his son became more and more "unruly", Teacher Mao's patience became less and less.

Things have developed to the present, every time Mrs. Mao comes home from vacation, the first thing her mother-in-law sees her is to complain, and Mrs. Mao will call her stubborn son to have a good talk, and often punish her to stand.When Teacher Mao went back to school and went to work, her mother-in-law hugged Jiang Cong with her sweetheart in her arms, and said to Jiang Cong, "Your mother is a bad person. She only knows how to scold you. Grandma is the only one who treats you best."

So Jiang Cong annoyed his mother the most. He wished that his mother could live in the school for the rest of her life and never come back!

"...a rotten old hag! She doesn't see her daughter-in-law well, nor her grandson well, she only sees herself!" Mao Chunmei couldn't help scolding Teacher Mao's mother-in-law as she spoke, "If she really loves her grandson , Just like I love Dabao, can I be willing to let my grandson be criticized and punished by his mother? I, I wish that the whole family would love my Dabao the most!" As a person who likes her grandson, Mao Chunmei looks down on Teacher Mao's mother-in-law very much.

"Grandma, you must help Teacher Mao! Teacher Mao really takes care of us." Bian Jingyu said.

Mao Chunmei thought for a while and said, "Okay! After you finish your vacation, I will accompany you to the school and have a good chat with your teacher Mao." It won't be seen through by some old ladies in their village, and then spread to Mao Chunmei's ears as a joke.It's just that Teacher Mao spent too few days in the village, and no one wanted to offend her mother-in-law because of her.

When she was sleeping at night, Bian Jingyu said to Shen Yi: "The methods used by the inner house are terrible."

"I think Teacher Mao himself did something wrong." Shen Yi said as objectively as possible, "She doesn't believe her son's words, but only her mother-in-law's, because she hasn't regarded her son as an independent individual. She didn't give her children enough respect."

The biggest problem is of course Mrs. Mao's mother-in-law, but Mrs. Mao is a bit dereliction of duty as a mother.Oh, Teacher Mao's husband is also very problematic.Teacher Mao lacks attention to her son because she has to live in school. Can't her husband pay attention to what the child does every day?

Adults always think that children can understand something, and they don't want to listen to children's voices.Educators like Teacher Mao have failed so much in educating their own children, which shows that many adults do not know how to teach their children and how to be a good parent.

This is a widespread social problem.

The couple would never know that without their butterfly wings, the problems between Teacher Mao and her son Jiang Cong would only get worse.When Jiang Cong grew up, he fell in love with a married woman who was 16 years older than him, and became a male mistress, just because that woman was obedient to him and made him feel the missing maternal love.Until then, Teacher Mao cried and cried, and made troubles, but what's the use?

The harm suffered in the original family can often affect that person for a lifetime.

"You see, at that time, we paid attention to the monarch, the minister, the father, the son, and the son, but when we educated our children, we didn't treat our children as our own private property, we didn't force them to accept our ideas, and we didn't prohibit them from challenging us. authority." Bian Jingyu said.Although they didn't have any children of their own in their previous life, there were many small dumplings from the Bianchen family who grew up in front of them, especially in their later years.

"Then we can be regarded as relatively successful parents?" Shen Yi said.

"I think so." Bian Jingyu chuckled lightly.

"Hey, I suddenly had an idea, why don't we write a book together on the issue of family education!"

"what?"

"Just write down the experience of the two of us as parents in the previous life, and then make some changes to suit the current background." Shen Yi said enthusiastically, "I have already thought about the title of the book, "Are You Really Ready?" Are You a Parent?", or "On the Self-cultivation of Parents."

"We, six years old, teach others how to be parents?"

"It's not really six years old...Moreover, because we are only six years old, we can better understand children's psychology, think about problems from a child's perspective, and make better suggestions for parents. For example, adults Do you really know why kids don't like shopping?"

"why?"

"Because I'm too short, I can only see other people's legs when I look around, which is very boring." Shen Yi said.

"..."

Bian Jingyu thought to herself, it can be seen that Shen Yi has a lot of experience in shopping.

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At the end of the year, Mao Anni led Shen Yi back to the capital.The book co-authored by the two Guan Yings has been completed.Mao Anni sent the manuscript to Beijing Publishing House in advance.Huaguo currently lacks books in this area, and this book "Are You Really Ready to Be Parents" is unique!

The author's name is two characters, Guan Eng.

The editor tentatively asked the author to meet, but he did not expect the author to actually agree.

On the day of the meeting, the editor saw an intellectual and elegant woman leading a six or seven-year-old child into the private room of the teahouse.The editor thought, as expected, only a mother can write such a book with life wisdom. This mother must love her child very much!

The editor stood up and said hello, "Hello, are you Ms. Guanying?"

Mao Anni took off the hat on her head, pointed to her son, and said, "No, I am the guardian. This is the Guanying you want to see."

edit:"……"

Mao Anni added: "This is one-half of Guanying."