How to trap a runaway puppy [Entertainment]

Li Zhan's heart stopped beating for a moment.

This is something he never thought about.

He hesitated a little, "Now, you have so much platinum..."

Is it not enough?

Yi Bo smiled very lightly.

"If someone says I'm not good at all, I will question myself. So I can't stand other people's disapproval. Seeing the first episode of "Sword" and someone saying that I am 'qualified', I will feel...not doing well. Brother , do you think I look good on stage?"

"Of course...it looks good."

"Really? Then why do people say I'm not good?"

Li Zhan: "..."

"I can't stand people saying I can't do it, and I can't stand people liking me first and then leaving me. This feeling... Brother, do you understand? Do you think Bo Liu would like me who hid in the corner every day when I was a child."

Li Zhan suddenly fell into a huge confusion.

Originally thought that his boy just had a knot in his heart and had the shadow of childhood.

I thought... as long as I get rid of those bastards when I was a child, everything will be fine.

But now he realized that it was not the case.

Yi Bo's knot has long been deeply rooted in his heart.

Bright and beautiful on the outside, humble and sensitive on the inside.

He uses other people's love to define his own existence, and carries out strict self-discipline and control.

Carefully, grab every bit of love.

He kept his inner child well hidden.

Seeing that the man didn't speak, Yi Bo closed his eyes and got out from the gap at the man's side.

"Now I just want to perform this play well. As for the past, let it go."

He turned his back, unable to see what expression he had.

And Li Zhan's heart seemed to be swallowed by a black hole.

I can't feel a little heartbeat, and even the pain is torn apart.

He immediately propped up his body, strode up and hugged Yi Bo tightly from behind.

"I'm sorry, I said the wrong thing."

He apologized, not daring to stimulate the person in his arms.

How can a sensitive and fragile baby be coaxed well.

Yi Bo didn't look back: "No, I don't think..."

Again.

Neither happy nor angry, neither sad nor anxious.

Just wear invulnerable armor and keep everything out!

Li Zhan took a deep breath, solemnly and seriously.

"You are a star, an entertainer, and there are many celebrities who love you. They won't dislike you just because you don't meet expectations. They will love you too..."

Yi Bo didn't say a word.

"You're mine too... baby."

The man clung to his ear, emphasizing with restraint.

"If you are sad, I will be more sad than you. If you are wronged, I will be more wronged than you... Can you feel my heartbeat?"

His chest was warm and powerful, and against Yi Bo's back, there was a reassuring rhythm.

"It loves you, can you still feel the pain?"

The young master took Yi Bo's hand and pressed it on his chest.

The magnitude of the vibration was small at first, and then gradually became more intense.

Li Zhan knew that the little milk dog had listened.

Although there is no sensation in consciousness, the body will respond.

"Honey, can you start practicing thinking for yourself now? Whether it's me, or... your dad, and your friends. No matter what happens, I'm there. We'll protect you."

He doesn't believe in himself, nor in others.

It doesn't matter, I will tell you over and over again, and I will do it over and over again to make you believe.

After a while, Yi Bo nodded slightly.

"Got it, brother."

……

Taking advantage of Yi Bo's lunch break and nap, Li Zhan carefully recalled his college days, where he studied psychology at T University.

Unexpectedly, the psychology learned on a whim actually came in handy.

I thought Yibo was just an obstacle to intimacy.

But today it seems that there is something deeper in him that has not been disclosed to the outside.

After thinking for a while, Li Zhan decided to call a former classmate.

He has done psychological counseling after graduation, and now, after a few years, he has made some achievements.

After the call was connected, there was a bit of a surprise there.

"Huh? Why did you remember to call me?"

"I have something to ask you."

"Haha, what's the matter?"

"About some...behavior of people."

"Hey." There was a whistle over there, and he asked incredulously, "Boss, you have entered all the passers with all A's in the highest score, do you have any questions for me?"

"Theory doesn't match reality after all."

"That's right, then tell me, I happen to have time."

The man is leaning on a chaise longue by the window.

The sun is very good, but when it shines on his body, he feels cold.

"There is a... child, he..."

After a moment of silence, the classmate over there laughed.

"Why, did you forget how to write the patient profile?"

"No, it's hard to describe."

For the little milk dog, where to speak is a problem.

"Okay boss, let me ask you, oh, I want to come out and get together with my classmates when I have time."

"Ah."

"Are you familiar?"

"Familiar..."

"...What do you mean by familiarity? Boss, what kind of answer is this, I am really drunk. Tell me his basic information first, how old is he, what is his occupation? Student or something, whether the test scores are good, how much money he makes if he works, Is professional achievement high?"

"The academic performance has been very good, and the achievements in the field of work are unmatched."

In view of Yi Bo's special status, it is difficult for Li Zhan to reveal all the specific information.

The classmate pondered for a while: "Oh... this is a high achiever. How about the family situation? What about the parents? How about the childhood? You know that set of growth theories. Just follow that."

Li Zhan thought about it.

"I didn't have a father when I was young, and my mother passed away recently. I just met my father."

"...Oh, what a poor child."

"Ah."

"This is the lack of family affection. So boss, have you thought about how to describe him now?"

"Ah."

Taking a deep breath, Li Zhan cleared his mind and told his story slowly.

"He is very strong, sets very high goals for himself, is always strict with himself, and is not willing to make a mistake. There are many, many people who like him. He hopes that this kind of love will always exist, so he will go for the love of these people. Be strict with yourself."

"What does it mean that there are many people who like him, many friends?"

"No." Li Zhan whispered, "On the contrary, I don't have many friends."

"Oh, it's just that he yearns for others to love him, but he can't really communicate closely with others, right? This is the intimacy disorder."

"Yes. I thought so, but it's not."

"How to say?"

"He's hurting himself. In order to achieve the goal he set, even if he suffers a lot of damage in the middle, he won't care."

"……Oh?"

"He doesn't even feel that this injury is irrational, deformed. That's one thing. On the other hand, even with a very high level of achievement now, he lacks everything, lacks everything, people who like him So much, he still doesn’t think he’s good enough.”

"I get it, you're trying to say he doesn't approve of what he's accomplished."

"Basically, he may have been doubting himself—is that good because 'myself' is good? Or is it because of something else?"

"Ugh."

A sigh came from the other end of the phone, "This child is too pitiful. Let's start with childhood. The absence of a father is already a major childhood injury. Without the role of a father, boys will mature more prematurely. He is more eager to succeed, to protect and support his family. At the same time, he has to see what kind of person his mother is-oh, his mother has passed away too? Oh my god, how was his mother when he was a child?"

"..." Li Zhan was silent for a while.

After a while, he said: "As far as I know, he was bullied by many people when he was a child. This is the result of my analysis of his lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem. But he still became a leader in the field. His mother... …Smart, capable, kind, and very ambitious, but unfortunately, he missed many of his childhood experiences. I analyze this as the root cause of his lack of love. But in the later period, according to him, his mother gave him a lot of encouragement in his career, so he It made him what he is now."

"Oh...that's how it is. Since childhood, I have depended on my mother for life, but my mother also passed away..."

The classmate thought for a while, and then began to talk about it.

"This is a high achiever with perfectionism. According to you, this should be a subtype of depression - Dominant goal. There is really not much information in the textbook. No wonder you came to me."

"Yes. Tell me."

"There is a problem with this child's native family. I can't say what happened to his parents. After all, according to your description, his parents didn't criticize, abuse, or beat him. However, the things you said about bullying him The child becomes this role. So I can define those injuries as broad family of origin issues - not just how his parents were, but everything related to his childhood, can be defined as 'original' injuries. Excluding parents, as a child Criticizing his classmates, 'friends', enemies, and the environment, all those related to the environment are irritating. After all, is there no one who can help him when he was a child?"

Li Zhan: "..."

'All circumstances' are stimuli.

The young master lowered his eyes, and suddenly realized that he was also one of the stimulants of that native family.

The other side continued talking as if talking to himself.

"There is no one who can be so miserable. I guess no one can help him when he was a child. See, this is really lack of love. Why do you think he is so eager for others to like him now? Is it only his mother? It’s not because others were violent to him when he was young. This kind of influence from childhood is also deeply rooted. I’m afraid the only thing he can rely on when he was young is his mother. The role of this mother is also very conflicting.”

"..."

No, and me.

But at the time... it didn't work.

"Now he longs for others to like him but dare not approach him. He should have tried it when he was a child. He wanted it many times, but he couldn't get it. You know, if you want too much, you can't get it, so just forget it. Anyway, he doesn't care what others do. If you don’t, you can only manage yourself. Try not to deal with it, don’t think about it, don’t worry about it. Over time...it becomes a false peace, and he himself gets used to it and becomes what you said. The most powerful point is that He's great, he's smart, he can do what he wants, so he's an overachiever with external perfection."

Li Zhan probably knew the specific reason and asked:

"What should I do? I've told him many times that he's very good and great... In short, I've encouraged him, but it's useless."

"Hahaha."

There was laughter over there.

Li Zhan frowned, "What are you laughing at?"

"I didn't expect Young Master Xiao to make mistakes. This... To be honest, in my opinion, encouragement is useless, because now his thinking has been fixed, and no one can change it. Besides, didn't my mother pass away recently? The only person he could rely on since he was a child has left. To be reasonable, I admire him for not breaking down. It's really strong."

After a pause, the other party said helplessly, "How do you expect him to change? I think, from his mother's death to now, he must be walking on eggshells. Be careful when treating him like this—I have seen too many clinical patients, You encourage him, it’s useless, it’s better than nothing. Let me give you an example:

For example, how would most people respond to such a dialogue of 'I don't think I'm doing well'? 'Oh, I think you're fine', and then he said 'I'm not good', and you said 'you're fine', it's no wonder if you don't quarrel with each other.

For another example, if he said 'I think I'm fine', you have to say 'I think you're not good?There's something wrong with you', wow, then he must still think there's something wrong with you.

You must not do this, you know, few people dare to challenge you in front of you, Young Master Xiao.He is low self-esteem and negative, and he must swallow all his objections. "

The young master's Adam's apple rolled.

That's right.

The little milk dog thinks he has no problem, but I just say he has a problem.

After a while, he asked in a hoarse voice, "Then what should we do?"

The other party said: "Why don't you bring him to talk to me. Professional!"

"No."

The man flatly refused.

These things cannot be known to outsiders.

"Then I can only give you a few ideas."

"You said."

"Two directions. The first direction, let him live like this. He has accepted all this now, and insisting on changing it may be counterproductive. After all, the material conditions in life are fine, aren't they high achievers? The top of the pyramid How many achievements can people ask for? Besides, I feel that the superficial peace may be what he wants."

"And the other one."

"You want to cure? Hey, it really fits your style—it's going to be hard. Remember it."

"One, systematic desensitization. Find an opportunity to let him slowly and truly accept his own weaknesses. No one is a god, and no one will have shortcomings. It depends on whether he can agree with it.

Second, break away from the script of the original family.Don't escape, don't stay away-but it's very difficult, he has to learn to blame and retaliate.If you can no longer fear, there may be a day when you can leave.

Three... Re-experience certain things, such as the most stimulating negative episodes in his life, and when he happens again, immediately correct the results.Put what he realizes and what he doesn't realize on track.

Four well... uh. "

He hesitated.

"go on."

"The fourth is when will he be willing to take the initiative to 'self-expose' to others. Open up and speak out? Hey, this person must be very close to him. Anyway, according to your description, I don't think it is optimistic. oh."

……

After hanging up the phone, the man walked quietly to the bedroom.

Silently looking at the person who fell asleep on the bed.

The scattered sunlight cast a layer of gold powder on his fair and handsome face.

He was as beautiful as a china doll that would shatter when touched.

Master Xiao never dreamed of it.

I just learned psychology, but I just found it interesting and didn't intend to practice it.

...and the first, perhaps the only 'patient' in my life was actually him.

After watching him quietly for a long time, Li Zhan sat down by the bed.

"Honey, wake up."

"...Hey, are you going to the set?"

Yi Xiaobo said in a daze with sleepy eyes.

"Ah."

The man nodded and smiled lightly.

I'm going to teach you revenge first.

Some things, you have to do it yourself.

Li Zhan said flatly: "There will be a fight in the afternoon, let's go for some activities first."

fight?Yi Bo blinked.

Oh - it seems that there is such a thing.

Hebrew came out of the visiting room, met Yan Lang, and wanted to attack the police without saying a word.

Yan Lang fought back coldly.

Li Zhan said, "Didn't he slap your face in the morning? Remember to beat him to death later."

Yi Bo didn't wake up, and said suspiciously: "Huh? I'm dreaming? What are you talking about?"

"Kill him to death." He repeated in a flat tone, "Didn't Director Chen tell him to be more ruthless? I told you to kill him. It's all work, and you didn't avenge yourself anyway. The harder you work, the more realistic you are, and the better the effect." , remember?"

Yibo: "..."

If I remember correctly, when you escape from prison, I still have to beat you =口=

The author has something to say:

When it comes to professional things, I can talk for days!Well, that's all for the psychological analysis, it's more important to hit people.