Mr. Chinese

Not long after this class started, the students started to write notes frantically. After hearing the second half of the two classes, many people wrote two full pages of notes.

Some students even said directly: "Teacher, slow down, we don't have time to write."

The student's suggestion was unanimously echoed by everyone.

He Xilang was amused: "These are not the key points, you don't need to take notes."

The students shook their heads and wrote vigorously: "This is the essence."

Jin Xunfeng never took notes, and was one of the few people in the classroom who looked up at the podium.

In mid-October, the blue sky and green tiles, the golden autumn is brilliant.A gust of wind blew into the classroom, rattling the pages of the book.Looking at He Xilang on the podium, Jin Xunfeng suddenly felt his heart beating a little faster.I feel that my heart is also like this tumbling book page, trembling and fluttering.

He suddenly regretted skipping class.

He Xilang's voice sounded again: "After a long time, the ending of any love story is not good. Everything is changing all the time, and no one can guarantee eternity until the day when the coffin is finalized. Moment is eternity It's a sophistry, because people know that eternity is too difficult, and they have to go through too many tests to stay together, so they settle for the next best thing, thinking that they have met and loved, and this is eternity."

Although he said he didn't need to take notes, He Xilang stopped and waited for most of the students to finish writing before continuing the lecture.

"During the similar marriage between Juansheng and Zijun, love died. Zijun thought that Juansheng, who was busy with housework, no longer read books, and lost his previous shining points in thinking. But in the process of pursuing love alone, is Someone needs to take responsibility behind the scenes. Juansheng asked Zijun to take responsibility, but in the end she accused Zijun of changing."

"Speaking of the changes in housework to Zijun, interested students can go to Beauvoir's "The Second Sex" to read." He Xilang took a piece of chalk and broke it into two pieces, and wrote on the blackboard with the notched end. The title and author of the book are listed.

His handwriting is very interesting. It is not the common running script and regular script. It is a bit like a thin gold body. It is thin and sharp but has muscles and bones. Every stroke, stroke, and hook seem to have a different charm.

"Beauvoir has a point of view. She thinks housework is meaningless work, 'clean things become dirty, dirty things are wiped clean again, cycle after cycle, day after day. The housewife consumes herself in the same place: she No progress, just the status quo forever.'”

"Teacher, since you said that their love died out in the daily life, how can the love between them be maintained?"

"This is a good question. What is it that maintains love?" He Xilang paused, intentionally playing it off.

Sure enough, the students were motivated by him, stretching their necks and waiting for his answer.

Unexpectedly, He Xilang shook his head: "I don't know what the answer is either."

There was boos from the audience.

"Students, there is no standard answer to feelings, you have to figure this out on your own," He Xilang said with a disappointed expression, "Different people have different love patterns, how do I know what to do with your feelings? "

"Does the teacher recommend any related books?" Some students asked.

He Xilang recommended "The Art of Love".

"Interested students can look for this book. Fromm said in the book, 'Loving someone is not only a strong feeling, but also a decision, a judgment, and a promise.'My The understanding is that a feeling is easy to develop, but it may disappear quickly, and if you turn this feeling into a responsibility, you may be able to maintain it for a longer period of time."

Some students raised their hands: "Teacher, but in the end, if you really don't like it, there's no need to force us to be together, right?"

He Xilang nodded: "Of course, you can see that Juansheng and Zijun fell in love freely 100 years ago. But when to insist and when to separate, you have to have a limit in your heart."

At this point, the content of the course was almost finished. He Xilang looked at the time, and there were still 10 minutes left before the end of get out of class.

"Do you have any questions, students? If you have any unclear points, you can bring them up for discussion. If not, you can study by yourself."

A girl raised her hand and asked timidly: "Teacher, I have never liked anyone since I was a child, and no one has liked me. I think I will be single for the rest of my life, what should I do?"

As soon as the question came out, many students nodded in agreement.

He Xilang was amused: "Actually, being single is just a choice. Most people say they are single, but it's just that they haven't found someone they like."

"I don't know if you know this data. According to media reports, in 2020, there will be 3000 million more marriageable men than women in China. According to the ratio of men and women in China, a woman can basically marry as long as she is willing to marry. Why? Now do you think you will be single for the rest of your life?"

"It's not easy," a classmate below said in a low voice, "No one can see it, and no one can see it."

"This classmate is right. This is indeed a reason. But there are more complicated reasons. Maybe you haven't realized that singleness has become a social phenomenon that cannot be ignored."

"Traditional marriage is to reduce the cost of survival. Women exchange fertility and housework for men's property and shelter. This kind of marriage has a certain degree of dependence and there is a certain degree of inequality."

"However, with the advancement of society, the improvement of women's status, and the further refinement of social division of labor, women can independently take care of their own economic life. The stability of society also provides a certain objective environment for women to live alone, and the concept of male clan is gradually weakening. .This makes modern marriage no longer an exchange of economic benefits, but a union of two free people.”

"The proportion of love in modern marriages is gradually increasing, but love is rare and difficult to maintain, so many people feel that they will be alone for the rest of their lives. This is a normal phenomenon."

"Teacher," the girl raised her hand just now, "but I've seen many people, and their partners have changed one after another, without interruption, and it seems that they have no troubles in love at all."

"That's not love, not even liking," He Xilang said firmly, "People who keep changing love partners lack the ability to be alone. They need the company of others, but they don't have the ability to love. Can't make the right response, so every relationship can't last long."

"Constantly changing love partners may seem glamorous, but it actually exposes the fragile psychology of the parties involved, longing for love but not knowing how to love."

It was rare for Jin Xunfeng to sit in the front row this time, and it was rare for him to listen so seriously. It turned out that after the teacher finished speaking, more than half of the students in the classroom looked up at him.

Jin Xunfeng was looked at inexplicably: "What are you looking at me for? Don't you attend class?"

After being yelled at by him, the students looked away guiltily, but they gathered together in twos and threes to whisper to each other, as if there was no 300 taels of silver here.

"You all don't understand," Jin Xunfeng shook his head, and began to move out of Wilde, "The loyal and uncompromising people only know the little bits and pieces of love, and the people who are different and change their minds understand the great sorrow and pain of love."

Xu Qiandeng: "You admit that you have changed your mind?"

Jin Xunfeng: "..."

Everyone echoed Xu Qiandeng, no one believed Jin Xunfeng this time.

Jin Xunfeng was surrounded by enemies and was very injured.

He Xilang smiled: "The change of marriage is a big topic in sociology. If you are interested, you can go down and look up the information. There are many professional books, and there are also many papers on Zhiwang."

This time it was the same girl who raised her hand, and she asked again: "If a girl chooses to be celibate, will society accept it?"

"Three hits, it seems that this student is quite anxious!" He Xilang couldn't help teasing, and there was a burst of joyful laughter in the classroom. The girl was a little embarrassed, but she laughed too.

"Whether the society recognizes it is very important? Isn't it what you think is the most important thing?" He Xilang shook his head, "Actually, I said before, whether you are willing to get married and have children, or you are willing to be an only child for the rest of your life, These choices are fine, the key is to follow your heart."

Another girl raised her hand again: "Teacher, what do you think of homosexuality?"

As soon as this question came out, the classroom exploded immediately.

Students at this age have been exposed to the novelty of the adult world, but they haven't pulled off the fig leaf yet.Itching, but secretive, no one dared to bring it up, let alone this kind of public discussion.

"It doesn't matter what I think about homosexuality, the key is how you think about it." He Xilang pushed his glasses, "I may also be able to give you some guidance, but you are not young anymore, and there are many things you have to do judge for yourself."

He wrote eight words on the blackboard-patriotism, progress, democracy, science, diligence, rigor, truth-seeking, and innovation.

He Xilang said: "Schools are not only about teaching, but also educating people. I know that you don't like to recite school mottos. Maybe you don't know that your school doesn't have school mottos. But I hope you can remember these words. , what the school wants you to learn is patriotism, progress, democracy, science, diligence, rigor, truth-seeking, and innovation. Instead of making you backward, narrow, complacent, and drifting with the crowd.”

The classroom was quiet.

Teachers, so preaching, accepting karma, and solving doubts.

Through He Xilang's words, they vaguely began to understand the meaning of university education.

In front of the university is a high school with great pressure to enter a higher school, and behind it is a society with fierce competition. It can be said that university is the most romantic four years in a person's life.

In these four years, the school is not only a place to impart knowledge, nor a training institution to teach you how to find a job, but also to let you learn how to be a person—a person who is upright, brave, constantly enterprising, and becomes what you want to be that person.

The author has something to say: "People who are loyal only know the little bits and pieces of love, and people who are different and change their minds understand the great sorrow and pain of love." "Oscar Wilde" Oscar Wilde