After Black Lotus became a reborn person, he went completely crazy

After listening to Xia Ran, the woman paused for a moment and then said in silence: "What you said seems to make sense. Let me think about it. I know that they are just like this. It's not intentional, but it makes me feel a little uncomfortable."

Xia Ran said: "I understand, I understand. I have given my all, but the other party seems to ignore me. I am angry and upset. But we still have to live our lives. We can't be sulking every day. Also, people are different. Some people are born careful, while others are born careless. This is human nature and it is difficult to change. Change what we can change and accept what we cannot change.

We should learn to let trees grow into trees and flowers grow into flowers. You can't ask a vine to grow into a towering tree according to your requirements. This is unrealistic. It makes things difficult for others and yourself. Those who have the ability to grow into towering trees should grow into towering trees, and those who are originally vines should just be vines. There is nothing wrong with allowing everything to exist and releasing nature to be yourself. What we need to do is to learn to accept and embrace it.

This is the same as some women who despise their men for being incompetent, unable to make money and being too lazy to help when the oil bottle falls. Some men think their women are not pretty and can't help them. If the other person is really as good as we hope, they may not be willing to marry us. Since two people have met, it means that they are compatible in some aspects and are on the same channel, otherwise they would not meet each other.

Look more at the other person's strengths, use more of their strengths, and look less at their weaknesses, and life will become better in an instant. If you use a magnifying glass to look for weaknesses, all you see are weaknesses, that's for sure. If you really live with someone who has the same personality as you, your life may become even more chaotic. Close your eyes and think about it, is this true? You will know in your heart whether you are willing to live with someone who is the same as you.

First of all, I don't want to. I am quite strong-willed. I want to be in charge of the family and have the final say in everything. I don't want to suffer any loss or humiliation. If someone bullies me, I will pay him back twice as much. Apart from other things, the fact that the other party also wants to be in power is unacceptable. You and your elder brother are very suitable in character. You are suitable for living a down-to-earth life. He is willing to listen to whatever you say, accommodate you, and let you make the decision. That's enough. When you think about it this way, do you feel that you are quite happy?"

The woman said thoughtfully: "If you put it that way, I don't seem to be so angry anymore. Could it be that I really asked for too much?"

The man's eyes were full of gratitude. The boss's words were very well-spoken. He hoped that the child's mother could really listen to him. That would be great.

Xia Ran laughed directly: "The key is that it's too late for you to ask the other party now. Whether you can accept certain aspects of him or not is a problem that should be considered before marriage, not a problem that you should be entangled with now. Obviously, before marriage, you should open your eyes, inquire from many sources, and carefully screen, but most people turn a blind eye to it before marriage because of the emotional filter. They always think that they can train the other party in the future, and the other party can change slowly. They always think that it's okay, there is still a long time after marriage, and there is plenty of time to train.

In married life, we should focus on the big things and ignore the small things, but most people think that after marriage, the other party should follow their own ideas. So they start to be picky and look for problems with a magnifying glass. Think about it, how can we live like this? Why would someone change their habits that have not changed for decades just because of a few words from us? This is unrealistic.

Of course, this does not mean that certain behaviors of the other party are necessarily right. I personally think that as long as a man does not indulge in eating, drinking, gambling, whoring, and takes all the money he earns home, and takes care of his family and children, life will be fine. Of course, it would be even better if he can take on some housework. As for whether he is forgetful or whether he can provide emotional value, these are not important.

We have to learn to provide emotional value for ourselves, rather than asking others to provide it. What others provide can be given today and withdrawn tomorrow. The stability and durability are too poor, it is very unreliable, and it is easy to affect our mood. So, in summary, if you have the time and energy to pay more attention to yourself, improve yourself, and make your core strong and stable, that is the right way. "

The woman didn't say anything, but the man next to her thought to himself that what the boss said made so much sense. He didn't like eating, drinking, gambling, or whoring, and he loved his family. He mainly cooked the meals and did the housework at home by himself. He had been working very hard and seriously to live his life. He hoped that his wife would listen to him today.

If he were to be less critical and give more affirmation and encouragement, he and his son would have peace of mind and live a happier life.

The woman thought for a while and said, "Boss, I think what you said makes sense. I will think about it carefully when I go back. Boss, let's exchange contact information. I feel much more open-minded after talking to you. My last name is Yu, as in Yu Ji. What's yours?"

"Sure, my last name is Xia, as in summer. So I'll call you Sister Yu." Xia Ran agreed immediately. This was a good thing. Even if she was used to being independent, humans are social animals and there would be no harm in getting to know more people.

Then it was much simpler. The two of them really left their contact information, and Xia Ran remembered that she also had a pager. She had almost forgotten about it. Maybe it was too quiet, and no one called her.

Sister Yu was planning to buy two, but her husband said directly: "You like that one too, why don't you buy it too and use them alternately."

In the end, they bought three tickets. Before leaving, Xia Ran also gave them a box of apples. The couple didn't expect this to be a good thing and left happily.

Sister Yu also specifically inquired about Xia Ran's daily whereabouts, saying that she would go to see Xia Ran some other day, and Xia Ran naturally agreed.

After the other person left, Xia Ran realized when he had become an emotional mentor. Hey, he didn't control his mouth again and started talking nonsense. It was another day of meddling in other people's affairs.

Well, let's just leave it at that. Sure enough, learning to shut up is much harder than opening your mouth to speak!

Selling goods, selling goods, I’m so busy selling goods that I almost forget my job.

Just as I was thinking about it, Peng Bo came over and said, "Boss, all the goods over there are sold out. I came over to get some more."

"You guys sold quite a lot today." There were quite a few left, about 150 if I remember correctly.

"We have several returning customers today. They brought clients with them, so the sales are faster. We also received referrals from other people. Boss, it seems like there aren't many people here. The traffic is not as high as over there."

"Indeed, but it's okay. We received a big order today and the sales are pretty good." Xia Ran said, and the two of them bundled up 30 blankets and asked Peng Bo to carry them away.