Siheyuan: Cooking journey

"Why?"

Ran Qiuye was full of surprise.

Since she was young, her parents encouraged her to pursue her dreams and live a free life. They only gave her suggestions on some of her ideas and never opposed them. They were so open-minded.

With such open-minded parents, she never expected that her mother would actually disagree with her marriage.

“The reason is simple.”

Mother Ran glanced at her and said in a profound tone:

"You are the only child of yours, your father and I. We have never restricted you since you were young, hoping that you can have a wonderful and free life.

"I paid for your college education and helped you pursue your dreams, but I don't want to see you give up on your life path and rush into marriage as soon as you graduate from college.

"Think about it carefully. If you get married right after graduation, then what is the point of studying so hard for so many years? What are you pursuing?

"You will definitely regret doing this in the future. Mom doesn't want to see you regret it, so she doesn't agree to your marriage."

Recalling my acquaintance and friendship with He Yuzhu.

Recalling his character, his paintings, and his care for himself.

Recalling the tacit understanding between us.

Ran Qiuye felt soft in her heart, but shook her head firmly.

"I won't regret it. Even if you object, I will still marry him."

"Hey……"

Mother Ran frowned, her tone softened a little, waved her hand, and said gently:

"Then tell me why you don't regret it, how you met him, what he did, what is the purpose of getting married, and what you want to do after marriage;

"Mom is doing this for your own good. If you are happy and have a fulfilling life, how can I object? I just don't want your future life to be filled with regrets."

Seeing that my mother no longer rejected it outright,

Ran Qiuye breathed a sigh of relief, sat next to her, and said softly:

“I met him in the library…;

"Mom, don't worry. I have planned everything. After we get married, it will be no different from before. We will just live together. I will come back to see you often. By then, he will be busy with his work and I will do mine. After work, we will take a walk together, go shopping together, and go home together..."

Mother Ran listened quietly, and when she finished speaking, she looked at her seriously and asked:

"Mom only asks you one question, do you know what love is?"

"love?"

Ran Qiuye thought about how it felt to be with He Yuzhu, and said with a blushing face:

"Love means that you like being with him, and when you are not together, you will think of him in your heart."

"What you said can only be regarded as a sense of novelty, not love. It's like if you want a certain skirt, but your mother doesn't buy it for you, will you always miss it? Is this feeling love? If you get that skirt, how long will it be fresh? At most, after a while, you won't be interested in it anymore. Why? Because the novelty is gone."

Ran's mother said solemnly: "Love is like-minded and is the cornerstone of marriage. If you want a lasting marriage, you must have common interests and hobbies. How can completely different people stay together for a long time? They are destined to go their separate ways:

"He is a chef, and you are a college student, your knowledge and cultivation are not compatible in any way;

"You feel curious about him, Mom is not surprised. You have never met such a person before, so you are naturally curious. You get married because of the novelty. What happens next? What if the novelty wears off?

"You will find that you have nothing in common."

Ran Qiuye frowned slightly, thought about it, and suddenly realized,

"So that's how it is. No wonder I feel so compatible with him. It turns out we have similar interests.

"Mom, don't underestimate him because he's just a cook. He's very knowledgeable and well-educated. Didn't I tell you that we met in the library?

"He likes to read all kinds of books, and I also like to read. We have the same interests and hobbies:

"I care about him and he cares about me, so our future is definitely bright."

"..."

Mother Ran.

"Mom, if you hadn't told me, I wouldn't have realized it myself."

Ran Qiuye said happily and full of longing: "In the future we can go to the library to read books together. I look at him and he looks at me. How warm and romantic it is."

“…”Mother Ran.

"call……"

Mother Ran exhaled, adjusted her mood, and said calmly:

"You misunderstood. Mom was talking about like-minded people in terms of social status:

"You are a college student, and your friends and classmates are also college students, knowledgeable and cultured people.

“And he was just a cook, an ordinary worker, surrounded by crude workers;

"What is marriage? Marriage is when two people's lives overlap;

"When the time comes, how will you introduce your husband to your classmates and friends? To put it bluntly, he is a waiter, to put it nicely, he is a cook, and even to put it nicely, he is a worker. How will your friends and classmates view you, and how will they talk about you behind your back?

"Have you considered all of this?"

Ran Qiuye hesitated, not knowing what to say. Imagining that scene, he felt inexplicably uneasy.

Mother glanced at her, sighed and said:

"Are you starting to hesitate now?

"Your hesitation proves one thing: you don't like him at all, you don't love him, there is no love between you two, just a feeling of freshness;

"True love, true affection, will not hesitate because of differences in status. Just like when your father wanted to return to China, although I was reluctant, I did not hesitate at all and still returned with him;

“That’s love, true like-mindedness.

“You and a chef, how can you be like-minded?

“Besides, you’ve only known each other for a few days, how can you have any feelings?

"Your father and I have been dating for three years, and you want to get married after just three days. Are you being responsible for your life? Have you ever thought about all this?"

Ran Qiuye remained silent, his heart in a mess.

At first, I noticed He Yuzhu just out of curiosity because he was different and I didn't think of anything else.

But suddenly, he confessed his feelings and used a vivid sketch to express his feelings.

At that moment, my heart was touched. Was it because of love?

Or is it because his action is very romantic?

The more Ran Qiuye thought about it, the more panicked he became, but he couldn't find the answer.

But she also felt that what her mother said made sense. If it was true love and true liking, how could there be any hesitation?

So, it’s really not love?

"Hey……"

Mother Ran looked at her expression and sighed again.

“There are some things I didn’t want to say so directly:

"Look at the workers nowadays. How many children do they have in their families? Two or three is common, three or four is normal, and five or six is ​​an honor.

“Have you ever thought that after you get married, you will get pregnant and have children;

"If you have one child, a year is gone, if you have two, three years are gone.

"By then, your mind will be entirely on your children. What use will the knowledge you learned in college be?

"If I had known you were thinking this way, your parents shouldn't have let you go to college. You could have just found a husband and got married.

"You are my only child, and we always hope that you can have a free life, a life that is different from others. We don't want you to be shackled like this, lose your freedom, lose your dreams, and we don't want you to be like most women, who spend their whole lives revolving around their children and family, and eventually become a vassal.

"That's all I have to tell you. If you have really thought it through and still insist on getting married, your parents will not object. They will only bless you."

Ran Qiuye was trembling all over, his bright eyes lost their luster, and he felt more confused than ever before.

Does getting married mean giving up your dream life?