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Everyone thinks that there is nothing wrong with the way they love their children, and that loving them this way can make them better. So, what kind of love from mothers will make children feel suffocated?

Mothers think that the following three types of love are deep love, but in fact they make their children feel suffocated and uncomfortable. These kinds of love can only hurt children. Which kind of love do you have for your children?

Blindly controlling: People often say that maternal love is the greatest love in the world, and many great men have written touching poems and songs about maternal love. However, some maternal love makes children feel suffocated. Many mothers do not know how to love their children correctly. They think that the way to love children is to blindly control them. However, blindly controlling only makes children feel suffocated. This kind of love is not love, but a way for mothers to satisfy their desire for control.

Blaming: Every mother hopes that her child can surpass other children, and that they can become her pride and a tool for showing off. They often compare their children with other children, and when they find that their children are not as good as other children, they will blame them blindly. And mothers' blind accusations can make children feel suffocated. For mothers, although they are blaming their children, it is also a kind of love. This kind of love has deteriorated, but mothers don't realize it.

Indulgence: Mothers naturally love their children. After all, children are born after 10 months of hard work. There is no mother who does not love her children. However, mothers do not know how to truly love their children. Even if the children get into trouble or do something wrong, mothers only know how to indulge them and never guide them to correct their mistakes. However, this behavior of indulging children is love for mothers, but for children, it is also a kind of love that makes them feel suffocated.

Song Yun's love for Liu Minjun is just controlling and blaming her! Liu Minjun became sensitive and inferior under Song Yun's long-term suppression!

Gradually, she developed a second personality, which was violent, undisciplined, and rebellious!

Song Yun asked Fu Zihao: "Doctor, how do you think I should love my child? Doctor, you are still young, you don't understand the feelings of being a parent at all."

This sentence made Fu Zihao unable to communicate with her. As a doctor, he still gave three suggestions: First: Know how to let go at the right time. As a mother, you always worry about your child. Since the child was born, the mother has been used to taking care of the child's diet and daily life. The mother is very concerned about everything about the child. But after the child grows up, we must know how to let go at the right time, and don't always control the child tightly. For example: let the child take on some housework, let the child know how to take care of themselves, etc., so that they can learn some basic life skills, which will be more helpful for their future.

Second: Know how to give timely affirmation. Perhaps for many mothers, blindly picking on their children can make them more aware of their own flaws, so that they can change these flaws and become perfect. However, there is no perfect person in this world. Everyone has certain flaws. Since we love our children, we must know how to tolerate them and accept their shortcomings and strengths. When they do the right things and excellent things, we must give them affirmation in time and give them more words of encouragement. This kind of love can help them grow.

Third: Know how to set rules for children. As a qualified mother, when we love our children, we must know how to set rules for them. Be a principled mother and love our children with principles. We can discuss these rules with our children and tell them why we should set these rules.

Let the children understand our behavior, and we must abide by these rules with the children. Only by setting rules for them can they become a person bound by rules, and such love can make children become better and better.

After listening to Fu Zihao's points above, Song Yun said: "Doctor Fu, I feel that you are not suitable to be my Liu Minjun's doctor. You are too young, and you don't understand many ways of dealing with people! In the future, I will not let Liu Minjun go there again." Fu Zihao sighed again.

That night, when Song Yun told Liu Minjun that she didn't have to go to Fu Zihao's place anymore, Liu Minjun completely fell out with Song Yun. She angrily pushed Song Yun to the ground, sat on her, and started punching her!

Later, when Fu Zihao asked her, she had completely lost her memory and she didn't remember hitting her mother at all.

After she felt angry, she felt sleepy and she felt like she was falling asleep.

So, at that time, her second personality appeared, and it was her second personality who beat up her mother!

Fu Zihao initially thought she was pretending to have amnesia in order to evade responsibility, so he hypnotized her. It turned out that she was not pretending, she really had no memory of that period! Song Yun had no choice but to let Liu Minjun return to Fu Zihao.

Fu Zihao once asked Liu Minjun: "Why do you have to choose me?"

Liu Minjun said: "I have seen other psychologists before, but they always advised me to control my emotions, saying that it is not easy for a mother, and asked me to be more considerate. It made me feel that I am very bad! When I came to you, I felt that I found someone of the same age. I think you can understand my feelings, and I feel very relaxed when I come to you. When I come here, I just want to take a nap! I feel more relaxed than ever before!

You would tell me that my mother's method was also wrong, and you would comfort me by saying that my idea was half right. You would also praise me..."

When Fu Zihao went home and talked to Murong Tian about Liu Minjun, Murong Tian said: "There is a kind of love called, I feel I love you. My mother died early, and my father gave all his love to me!

However, his love for me is respectful. He would not force me with something he thinks is good without asking me what I like. He would ask me: Do you think this is okay? Do you like this? Or if I don’t like this, what kind do you like? Dad will buy it for you! His love is respectful!

So, even though I lost my mother, I live a very happy life!

Dad gave me all the love from my dad and mom alone!"

Fu Zihao held Murong Tian on his lap, kissed her cheek and said, "In the future, when your father gets old, we will also be filial to him! I will be filial to him with you. Do you want to know about my parents?"

Murong Tian: "I think so. I heard that they are very remarkable people!"

Fu Zihao: "In fact, they are very ordinary at home. When we were young, our uncle Qiu brought us up. Our parents are always busy. For the country and the people, they have done a lot of things that benefit the country and the people, but they feel that they owe us four children. In fact, we don't think so. We are very happy! In our hearts, they are the best parents!"