Rebirth of Love: Jiang Ciyou's Counterattack Legend

Jiang Ciyou finally decided to seek help from a professional psychologist in her inner struggle. She searched for many psychological counseling agencies online, carefully read the counselors' profiles and patient reviews, and finally selected an experienced and well-reputed counselor.

After making an appointment, Jiang Ciyou came to the psychological counseling room with a nervous mood. This was a very warmly decorated room, with soft lighting, comfortable sofas and a light aroma, which slightly relieved her nervous mood.

The counselor was a middle-aged woman who looked amiable, with gentleness and wisdom in her eyes. She greeted Jiang Ciyou with a smile and motioned for her to sit on the sofa.

"Hello, Miss Jiang. I am your psychological counselor, you can call me Teacher Lin. Today you can talk to me about your troubles with confidence. This is a safe space and all the words are known only to the two of us." Teacher Lin's voice was soft and calm, like a trickle of water, flowing into Jiang Ciyou's heart.

Jiang Ciyou took a deep breath and began to tell her story. She started with the betrayal on her wedding night, describing the devastating feeling at the time, how she went from being a bride full of expectations to a poor abandoned person in an instant. She talked about how she started to support a gigolo for revenge, the excitement and conflict after meeting Lu Jingchen, and the beautiful and complicated time she spent with Lu Jingchen. Then she talked about her husband's sudden return to China, his confession and promise, and the anger and quarrel after Lu Jingchen found out.

"Teacher Lin, I am really confused now. I once had such deep feelings for my husband, and those beautiful memories are like thorns. Although it hurts a lot, it is hard for me to let go. And Lu Jingchen is very good to me. We have experienced a lot together, and I care about him very much. I feel like I am in a whirlpool, being pulled by two forces, and I don’t know where to go." Jiang Ciyou's voice trembled a little, and tears welled up in his eyes.

Teacher Lin listened carefully, nodded from time to time, and encouraged Jiang Ciyou to continue speaking with his eyes. When Jiang Ciyou finished speaking, Teacher Lin sighed softly and said, "Ms. Jiang, your situation is complicated, but it is not unsolvable. First of all, I want to tell you that emotional matters are inherently complicated, and many people feel confused in different emotional relationships. The entanglement you are facing now is actually because you have not really understood your inner needs."

Teacher Lin stood up, walked to the whiteboard next to her, and picked up a pen. "Let's draw a simple picture first." She drew a big circle on the whiteboard, and then drew a line in the middle of the circle, dividing the circle into two parts. "This side can represent your husband, and that side represents Lu Jingchen. Now what we have to do is to list your own inner needs one by one and see which side can satisfy you better."

Teacher Lin sat back on the sofa, looked at Jiang Ciyou and said, "Then let's start with some basic needs. For example, a sense of security. Who do you think gives you a greater sense of security, your husband or Lu Jingchen?"

Jiang Ciyou frowned and thought: "My husband betrayed me before, which almost completely destroyed my trust in him. Although he has come back and promised to change his ways, I still have a big shadow in my heart. I'm not sure if he can really give me a sense of security. As for Lu Jingchen, he has always been very kind and considerate to me, but sometimes his emotions fluctuate easily. For example, when he knew my husband was back this time, he was very angry, which also made me a little scared."

Teacher Lin nodded to show his understanding: "Then let's look at another need, respect. How do you think these two people are doing in this regard?"

Jiang Ciyou thought for a moment and replied, "Lu Jingchen respects my ideas and decisions most of the time, but in this case, he may care about me too much, so he was a little impulsive. My husband, he betrayed me before, which in itself is a manifestation of disrespect for me. Now that he is back, although he keeps saying that he will respect me, I still have some doubts."

"What about the passion in love? When you are with the two of them, can you feel that kind of heart-pounding passion more?" Teacher Lin continued to ask.

"When I first got together with my husband, I had that kind of passion, but after the betrayal, that feeling seemed to have disappeared a lot. But when I was with Lu Jingchen, I was full of passion from the beginning. His appearance was like a ray of light shining into my dark world. But now, because of this incident, that passion has become a little complicated." Jiang Ciyou's eyes revealed confusion.

Teacher Lin also asked some questions about family concepts, living habits, future plans, etc. Each question made Jiang Ciyou think more deeply about his inner needs.

When talking about family values, Jiang Ciyou said: "My husband's family values ​​seemed good before, and we had planned our future family life. But his betrayal made me doubt whether he really values ​​family. As for Lu Jingchen, when he was with me, he always looked forward to our future family. He would talk a lot about what our future home would look like, children and so on, but I was worried that this was just a temporary enthusiasm."

Regarding living habits, Jiang Ciyou feels that her husband is more traditional, while Lu Jingchen is more casual and free, and the pace of life when the two of them are together is very different.

As the problem deepened, Jiang Ciyou gradually realized her many potential needs in relationships. She found that what she longed for was not only the sweetness of love, but also a stable, respectful and mutually understanding relationship.

Teacher Lin looked at Jiang Ciyou who was lost in thought and said with a smile: "Ms. Jiang, we have now listed a lot of your inner needs. From these needs, you will find that you have different expectations and concerns about both of them. However, you must understand that relationships require the joint efforts of both parties. You can't make a decision just because of past relationships or a momentary impulse. You need to consider the long-term development and who can grow with you and face the various challenges in life together."

Jiang Ciyou raised his head, looked at Teacher Lin and said, "Teacher Lin, I seem to understand a little bit. I can't just look at the memories of the past or the feelings of the present, I have to look at this issue in the long term. But I am still very afraid of making the wrong decision, and I don't want to be hurt again."

Teacher Lin patted Jiang Ciyou's hand gently: "This is a normal worry. But you have to know that no matter what decision you make, there may be risks. The key is that you must be prepared to deal with these risks. You are no longer the helpless girl who was suddenly abandoned on your wedding night. You have grown a lot. You have your own ability to face the changes in life."

"Then how do I know if I am ready?" Jiang Ciyou asked.

"You can start with some small things. For example, you can try to have an in-depth communication with your husband or Lu Jingchen, express your inner concerns and expectations honestly, and see their reactions. You can also try to imagine what your life would be like if you spent the rest of your life with one of them. This is not to make you make a decision immediately, but through these methods, you can become more clear about your heart." Teacher Lin explained patiently.

After listening to Teacher Lin's words, Jiang Ciyou felt that the fog in her heart had dissipated a little. She realized that she had been troubled by the memories of the past and the entanglements of the present, and had not really thought about the life she wanted in the future.

Teacher Lin went on to say: "Another very important point is that you must learn to love yourself. In relationships, many people lose themselves and place their happiness entirely on others. But you must know that only when you love yourself can you love others better and let others love you better. You must pay attention to your own feelings, take care of your emotions, and constantly improve your abilities and values."

Jiang Ciyou recalled that when she was with Lu Jingchen, she sometimes ignored her own feelings in order to please him, and the same was true in her previous relationship with her husband. She realized that she really needed to be more independent and could not rely solely on the love of others to be happy.

"Teacher Lin, I understand. I must first learn to love myself, and then consider the relationship between me and them. I must understand my inner needs more deeply, and then make a decision that is responsible for myself." There was a little more determination in Jiang Ciyou's eyes.

Teacher Lin smiled with relief: "Very good, Miss Jiang. This is a good start. Relationships don't happen overnight. You need time to think and adjust. If you have any new ideas or confusions during this process, you can always come to me."

Jiang Ciyou looked at Teacher Lin gratefully: "Thank you, Teacher Lin. I have benefited a lot from talking with you today. I will do as you say."

When she left the counseling room, Jiang Ciyou felt that her steps were lighter than when she came. Although she still faced a difficult decision, she knew that she had a direction, which was to first deeply understand her inner needs, learn to love herself, and then face the difficulties in her relationship. She knew that this was a long process, but she was willing to work hard to explore for her own happiness.

In the following days, Jiang Ciyou began to follow Lin's advice. She would spend some time alone every day to think about her feelings. She also began to pick up her old hobbies again, such as painting and reading. In the process of painting, she was able to focus more on her inner world and express her emotions through her brush. Reading also broadened her horizons and drew strength from different stories.

She also tried to communicate with her husband. She told him that she needed time to think about their relationship and frankly expressed her concerns and distrust of him. Although her husband was a little disappointed, he said that he would respect her decision and would work hard to prove his change.

The communication with Lu Jingchen was even more in-depth. She told Lu Jingchen about her inner conflicts, worries about the future, and her new understanding of love. After listening to her, Lu Jingchen held her hand tightly and said, "Ciyou, I know I was a little impulsive before, but I really love you. I am willing to grow up with you and face all problems together. I will give you time to think, but I hope you know that I will always be by your side."

Through these communications and self-exploration, Jiang Ciyou has a clearer understanding of her inner needs. She found that what she most desired in a relationship was an equal, respectful, and mutually supportive relationship. She also hoped that the other party could understand her past and be willing to create a future full of love and hope with her. She knew that she was one step closer to making the final decision.

She continued on the path of self-growth. She took some courses on emotional management and self-improvement, learning how to better deal with her emotions and how to improve her communication skills. In the process, she met some like-minded friends who shared their stories and experiences with each other, which made Jiang Ciyou feel that she was not alone.

She also began to pay more attention to her physical health and exercised every day. She found that when her body became healthier and more energetic, her mood became more cheerful. She was no longer immersed in emotional entanglements as before, but was able to face various things in life more positively.

As time goes by, Jiang Ciyou has a deeper understanding of herself. She knows that she is no longer the woman who was devastated by the betrayal on her wedding night. She has become stronger, independent and confident. She knows that no matter what decision she makes in the end, she has the ability to bear the consequences and continue to live happily.

In the process, she also gained a new understanding of her husband and Lu Jingchen. Although her husband was trying to change, she could still feel that there were some cracks between them that could not be easily bridged. As for Lu Jingchen, he was constantly growing and improving, and his love for her became more mature and profound.

After a period of thinking and exploration, Jiang Ciyou finally felt that she was ready to make a decision. She knew that this decision would change the trajectory of her life, but she was no longer afraid. She believed that she was strong enough to face any possible outcome.

She returned to the counseling room and found Teacher Lin. She told Teacher Lin about her experiences during this period and her final decision. After listening to her, Teacher Lin smiled and said to her: "Ms. Jiang, I am very happy for you. Through your own efforts, you have grown into a person who can control your own destiny. No matter what decision you make, I believe you will live a happy life."

Jiang Ciyou looked at Teacher Lin gratefully: "Thank you, Teacher Lin. Without your help, I might still be wandering in confusion. Your advice has taught me a lot and helped me find my own direction."

When she left the psychological counseling room, Jiang Ciyou was filled with gratitude and hope. She knew that a new chapter in her life was about to begin, and this time, she would move towards the future with more determined steps.