Three or Two Things about Rebirth

"Oh? You don't like working in the lumber mill? Which unit do you want to work for?"

Xie Zhi laughed, "Can I join any unit I want? It's so hard to find a good unit nowadays!"

Seeing Qiu Luming wanted to talk, Xie Zhi waved at her and said, "Go home quickly."

Qiu Luming walked a few steps and couldn't help but look back. Xie Zhi's back was still straight, but she could still see some loneliness in his eyes.

When she got home, lunch was on the table and her parents were waiting for her to come back for dinner.

"Ah, it's already one o'clock, why don't you eat first!" Qiu Luming quickly washed his hands.

"Today, there are only three of us eating lunch, so of course we have to wait for you." He Manshu pointed at the phone, "When there was no phone, they were afraid that I would wait, so they had to come back. Now that the phone is installed, it has become a special line for them to notify others not to go home for lunch. Today, your eldest sister-in-law and your second brother all followed the Youth League Committee to some restaurant for a celebration banquet!"

"They all won awards, so we should celebrate." Qiu Luming sat down at the table and picked up his chopsticks. "Where's my eldest brother? Is he on duty?"

He Manshu glared at Qiu Jiye and said, "Humph!"

"What's going on?" Qiu Luming asked his father.

Qiu Jiye laughed, "Hurry up and eat. Your elder brother went to Harbin yesterday. I supported him!"

"Ah?" Qiu Luming was still a little surprised. You know, on weekdays, his father was fully focused on work. When he had some spare time, he would read books and play chess. He almost never asked about family matters, and even rarely intervened in his children's affairs. He had never "gone against" his mother like this.

"Your mother used to be an ambitious woman. Since she came to this border with me, her horizons don't seem to be as broad as before, haha." Qiu Jiye smiled and patted the back of his wife's hand. "To put it bluntly, she's old and not cruel enough to herself."

He Manshu still snorted, but her eyes were a little red.

Qiu Luming looked at his parents in confusion, not knowing what they were up to.

"Yoyo, you have to become a mother yourself to truly understand a mother's heart. Mother's love is great, but also complicated. We know better than anyone that young eagles must fly high, and parental love cannot become a shackle that binds their wings." Qiu Jiye looked at his daughter, "Dad still remembers your first day at the nursery.

In other dual-income families, children are sent to nurseries at the age of two months old. You are your father's youngest and only daughter. When I went to the nursery, I saw rows of children lying there kicking their little feet and crying so hard that their noses were blue. The aunties didn't even bother to hold them. One child cried so much that his belly button bulged out!

I was 35 years old when you were born. To be honest, I have no memory of how you and your three brothers were born and grew up. Your mother was too capable and she spoiled me with all kinds of bad habits. It seems that I only became a father after you were born.

I was reluctant to send you to be neglected among the other children, and finally, I found an old lady who was willing to look after you and gave you ten yuan a month. You were late in walking, so you were not sent to the government nursery until you were almost two and a half years old. Your mother sent you there that day. You cried inside and I cried outside. I secretly went to see you at noon. You were sitting on a small chair eating fruit without raising your head or opening your eyes. For a moment, I didn't know whether to be relieved or sad.

I still remember what the nursery teacher said today. She said that for those children who cannot be weaned, it is not the children who are attached to the milk, but the mothers who are attached to the children!

Yo Yo, did you understand? She said 'initially'. Yes, if the child is not weaned early, perhaps the child will never be able to be weaned psychologically for the rest of his life.

So, your mother and I have made a serious decision to let your eldest brother go out and explore the world. This time we are really letting him go! Times have changed, and so have our mindsets. You are all independent beings, and we have no right to keep you by our side. That would be too selfish."

Qiu Luming looked at his father who had said such a long talk for the first time in his life, thought about it and said, "Dad, you have a job to rely on, but my mom is no longer a class teacher and will retire soon. Her attention is inevitably on Dabao and us. She will definitely be sad when my eldest brother and his family leave. If you spend more time with my mom in the future, you will have everything!"

"You!" Qiu Jiye was stunned, then burst into laughter, "You're right! You're absolutely right!"

"Don't talk as if I can't live without you. I have a lot of things to do every day!" He Manshu glared at the father and daughter, and said to Qiu Luming, "Just work hard and don't focus on these things all day long!"

"I didn't spot it. I analyzed it based on what happened around me! You know Zheng Wei, the old lady his eldest sister found was a widow at a young age, and she raised her son alone with great difficulty."

"I know. Is he the one with the surname Fan? He works in the Agricultural Machinery Bureau. He's a very ambitious young man."

"Yes, it's him. When Zheng Wei's eldest sister was looking for a partner, his parents didn't agree. They said that the two families were one positive and one negative, and they would never get along. It would also be difficult to get along with a mother-in-law like that. But his sister refused to listen. As a result, she now knows it's difficult." Qiu Luming spread his hands.

Qiu Jiye asked his daughter tactfully, "Why is it so difficult?"

Qiu Luming slapped his thigh, "Zheng Wei said that everything was fine before the marriage, and her sister was like the ancestor of their old Fan family. But on the wedding day, she changed her face. Because her mother-in-law was alone, she lived with them. On the wedding day, the old woman cried in the bedroom, hugging the photo of her husband when he was young, and Zheng Wei's brother-in-law also cried while hugging his mother's thigh.

After marriage, the first thing his brother-in-law did when he got up in the morning or got off work in the evening was to go to his mother's room to greet her. He would visit her every morning and evening. They would watch TV together. His mother would never knock when entering her son and daughter-in-law's room, but would just push the door open.

His sister never told her family about these things. After all, she made the choice herself, and they were all trivial matters. It was not until five years into her marriage that she couldn't stand it anymore and cried to her mother.

The reason I gave this example is that if dad can pay more attention to mom, mom’s emotions will be comforted and satisfied, and she will not interfere in her children’s lives! That’s the logic, right? "

Qiu Luming finished speaking proudly, but found that his mother's face was getting worse and worse, "What's wrong, mom, am I wrong?"

Qiu Jiye touched his daughter's head and said, "Youyou is right. Over the years, outsiders have envied us for being a happy family. In fact, I am the only one who is happy. Your mother has worked very hard."

He Manshu's eyes immediately turned red, and she frowned and said, "Don't talk nonsense in front of the child!"

Qiu Jiye continued, "Youyou is right, but next time you should talk to dad in private, you know, my silly girl."

"Got it!" Qiu Luming nodded.

"Yoyo is becoming more and more mature. She will definitely integrate well into this society!"

"Don't worry, I have strong survival ability. I..." Qiu Luming paused, "Don't always treat me as a fool. When Zhang Ailing was sixteen, she couldn't peel apples, knit sweaters, make small talk, or remember the way, but she still wrote such amazing words! I just don't have a good-looking transcript. Why do you all look at me differently?"

"Child, the length of your rebellious period is almost as long as your mother's menopause!" Qiu Jiye said with a good-tempered smile.