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If it were someone else, how could they control their thoughts?

We should not forget: What was Lou Xiao'e's real purpose in actively looking for Sha Zhu?

That precious bracelet passed down from the Lou family is made of white jade, and I guess it should be a bracelet carved from Hetian jade!

Faced with such a precious treasure, Sha Zhu was not greedy at all, and finally returned it intact to Lou Xiao'e.

It was this action that deeply moved the experienced Lou Xiao'e; after experiencing the complex emotions of countless people in this complicated world, the purity and kindness in Sha Zhu's bones completely shocked her heart.

Lou Xiao'e's ex-husband became unfaithful to her when she became rich, and she eventually left him with their child He Xiao; perhaps, it was all this that prompted her to want to go back to the past and try to make Sha Zhu her new support.

But does this mean she has the corresponding rights?

Frankly speaking, Qin Huairu and her family do seem to be constantly taking advantage of others, but this is all based on the wishes of both parties, and it is difficult for bystanders to comment!

The difference between her and him is that Sha Zhu, who is already married at this time, belongs to someone else's husband.

So, what is Lou Xiao'e's identity?

Yes, she gave birth to a son - Qin Huairu did not give birth to a son because of contraception.

But it needs to be emphasized that on this issue, I have no intention of defending Qin Huairu in the original work. What she did was tantamount to exploiting other people's resources.

However, it is worth noting that from another perspective, Lou Xiao'e's behavior does not seem bright: trying to interfere with other people's feelings.

Indeed, she had given Shazhu a child.

But she left without any prior explanation, and did not take Sha Zhu with her, nor did she come back to invite Sha Zhu to live with her in another place, even after several years.

According to the plot setting, Qin Huairu and Sha Zhu have a legal marriage. There is no need to argue too much about the various considerations behind their union. It is their mutual wish and it is not convenient for outsiders to interfere.

But from the perspective of laws and regulations, Lou Xiao'e has essentially become an "intruder".

At the same time, I don't imply that Qin Huairu in the play is the representative of kindness! But we should not forget that there are many other female options worth considering for people with outstanding qualities like Sha Zhu.

For example, Yu Haitang, who changed her mind and sought Sha Zhu's acceptance after ending her marriage, fully demonstrated Sha Zhu's unique charm;

To put it bluntly, Yu Haitang could also give birth to He Yuzhu's offspring? Does He Yuzhu really need someone who is willing to bear children for him?

In addition, Qin Jingru, who is divorced, is full of regrets for not marrying Sha Zhu.

As for why Yu Zhu was never able to get rid of the entanglement with Qin Huairu, I really can't believe that he never had any other thoughts during the years when they were separated?

Of course, it is human nature to look for someone else, and it comes from the heart, so we should be understanding and sympathetic.

But when she heard that Sha Zhu resigned and decided to start his own business instead of involving the hotel, this noble act touched her mind again; at this moment, Sha Zhu was a sincere person and could be trusted.

As the nursing home business gradually took off, I would never think that Lou Xiao'e had not made careful plans. As a woman who can stand on her own in the business world!

Do you think a business elite like her would be so stupid as to spend money and effort to build a nursing home for Qin Huairu for no reason?

Lou Xiao'e is definitely not stupid! Qin Huairu's thoughts are not a secret at all in Lou Xiao'e's eyes!

Money was not a problem for her, because her family was extremely wealthy! With just the heirloom and the wealth that the Lou family already had, Lou Xiao'e could be said to be extremely wealthy!

What does it matter to her to open a restaurant or build a nursing home for Sha Zhu? What she really lacks is not material things, but a caring person by her side.

Old people always need help. Sha Zhu and Qin Huairu had both promised her that this was exactly what she wanted.

In short, in He Yuzhu's heart, he did not regard Lou Xiao'e as his close partner, he saw it very clearly.

This is also an important factor why He Yuzhu dislikes Lou Xiao'e.

Even if they might have a daughter - he acknowledged and accepted that; maybe he would do whatever it took to bring her back and raise her himself.

Even if his daughter had Xu Damao's blood, it didn't mean anything to him; it was just a life that needed to be nurtured and cared for.

However, for Lou Xiao'e, there are more important considerations.

Although Lou Xiao'e is a strong and emotionally courageous professional woman, smart and capable, it is a fact that she is unwilling to be inferior to men.

This was also one of the main reasons why Xu Damao was unhappy with her, and even hated her enough to ask for a divorce.

This is also the reason why Sha Zhu prefers Qin Huairu rather than Lou Xiaoe.

Even if it was just a slander that was fabricated out of thin air, she could be accused of being the main cause of the breakdown of the marriage.

This may be the most likely reason why her husband left her and fell in love with another after he became rich in Hong Kong.

Lou Xiao'e is a very strong-willed and manipulative person. She has a domineering mentality and expects everything to go her way and be in her control.

The following things are enough to illustrate how well Lou Xiao'e is controlled:

Someone was assigned to closely monitor Shazhu in the restaurant and impose various rules on him in order to change his behavior.

Liu Lan was immediately dismissed for her disobedient behavior;

He also sent spies to monitor Sha Zhu.

As for what type of women men prefer?

Take Shuang'er in The Deer and the Cauldron as an example:

She is not only loyal, gentle, kind, and good at understanding other people's intentions, but also has a gentle, clever and considerate personality.

But at the end of the day, what matters most is:

She is a woman who can comply with a man's wishes, understand his feelings, admire him and serve him attentively.

In the story, Sha Zhu is already in his old age, having experienced countless ups and downs and changes. What he longs for now is a woman who can take good care of him and understand his feelings.

Rather than the type who is always strong, often causes disputes, and forces him to do things he doesn't want to do.

How did Qin Huairu make He Yuzhu obey her orders? Her wisdom is amazing! Qin Huairu knows how to use the softness unique to women and is never aggressive. Because she understands the male psychology and knows how to touch He Yuzhu's heartstrings! To He Yuzhu, she is like a stubborn mule, and Qin Huairu always goes along with him and takes good care of him. When encountering things, she will never challenge his self-esteem directly, but knows how to be roundabout in order to obey him.

Even He Yuzhu mentioned this in the original version - since Qin Huairu appeared, his heart seemed to be comforted and at ease.

He Yuzhu has a strong male chauvinism, and he does not need another person like Lou Xiao'e. In this courtyard, the behavior of most people has gradually been guided by him to the direction that conforms to his will.

But there was still one person in the courtyard, that person was Yi Zhonghai, who was called "Old Man". He Yuzhu always respected the old man and his wife for taking care of the deaf old lady, so he never took action against them.

As for the life arrangements for the old man in his later years, it depends on the attitude and behavior of their son Banggeng. If it is found in the future that he has failed to fulfill his responsibility of respecting the elderly, then He Yuzhu will consider finding a professional caregiver.

Regarding a mystery in the courtyard house in the previous life, the part about He Daqing, that is, He Yuzhu's father. He married a widow and took his children away to live in Baoding, but still sent money home every month!

There are two main different views on this money: one is that the remittance reached the old man, and then the old man privately subsidized He Yuzhu and his sister. However, this was not actually his money, but he regarded it as a charitable act, and the amount was set at a stable level of ten yuan per month.

This phenomenon caused widespread suspicion. Some people believed that the old man and the old lady were in collusion. In order to ensure that they would be supported by "Silly Zhu" He Yuzhu in the future, they drove He Daqing and the widow out of the house, and regarded the money they sent back as a favor to the other party, hoping to get something in return.

Another version is that the money was sent directly to He Yuzhu, and he also knew the source.

According to the TV series, He Daqing said that the moment he wanted to return to his hometown to enjoy his old age, he left the widow and abandoned his children, causing them great harm. However, he was sure that he would send living expenses back every month. This sentence was immediately stopped by "Shazhu".

When He Daqing came to face He Yuzhu and his sister, he rejected them, which aroused the latter's questioning. Finally, He Yuzhu learned that the widow had passed away and He Daqing wanted to return to the courtyard and to his son He Yuzhu.

His only wish to come back was to live in the old house passed down from his ancestors. In this regard, Qin Huairu proposed to him that since she and her husband (and his wife who was about to give birth) were currently living here, could she please provide the old lady's house to He Daqing.

He Daqing did not agree to this proposal; just when the conflict was about to happen, he was stopped by Qin Huairu.

At this time, the "old man" - Yi Zhonghai proposed to give up his house to He Daqing. In order to ensure that this matter could be implemented, he also signed a formal document. From then on, the old man's house truly belonged to He Daqing.

In the known plot, the second situation is true; the other statement has never been witnessed. Is this really a Mandela effect?

Not long ago, when Qin Huairu heard that Banggeng had his leg injured by the stubborn old man Jia Zhang, she felt so distressed that she had to visit Banggeng in person. After all, to Qin Huairu, Banggeng was as important as her own son.

After Banggeng and Jia Zhang lost their income, they lived in poverty. Fortunately, Banggeng found an old man as his godfather, and they barely had someone to rely on. Qin Huairu was worried about him, so she went to the school to see Banggen many times without telling He Yuzhu, and she felt very distressed every time she saw him.