Siheyuan: Five mouths waiting for food at the beginning

During this period, the leader talked to Zhao Shanhe and asked him to teach another class of students, but Zhao Shanhe refused to do it. Finally, Zhao Shanhe compromised, mainly because the people at the university were too annoyed.

Time passed quickly, and it was Chinese New Year in a blink of an eye. The family gathered together again, but my second uncle still hadn't come back and was still spending the New Year with his son.

On New Year’s Eve, we still had the New Year’s Eve dinner at Zhaoshan Lake. This year, there were two more couples, so there were more people.

On the first day of the new year, all the family members came to Zhao Shanhe's place again, because today was Dingwei's first birthday, and they were celebrating the child's first birthday. With the addition of Xu Damao, Wu Cheng, Liu Guangtian, Sha Zhu and others who came to visit, the place was extremely lively.

Someone suggested that the children should have a weekly celebration, but Zhao Shanhe thought it was unnecessary, but it was held anyway.

The 12 items in the Zhuazhou ceremony and their symbolic meanings are as follows: Books: Symbolize that the baby is thoughtful and curious, and may make great contributions to academics in the future.

“Handkerchief”: suggests that the baby is introverted and reserved, and may be suitable for working as a writer or clerk.

“Green onion”: It symbolizes that the baby is smart and optimistic, and is suitable for teaching and educating jobs.

“Pen”: This indicates that the baby has talent for literature and art and may become a writer or artist.

?Abacus or calculator?: It means that the baby has a business mind and is suitable for careers such as business and accounting.

“Ruler”: It symbolizes that the baby is good at planning and designing, and may be suitable for a career in construction.

“Money”: This implies that the baby has a keen sense of money and is suitable for careers in finance, banking, etc.

?Seal?: It symbolizes power and is suitable for public office work, such as civil servants, officials, etc.

“Branches”: symbolize teaching and educating people, and making rapid progress in learning.

“Celery”: It symbolizes hard work and gaining wealth through one’s own hands.

?Straw?: Symbolizes agricultural work, similar to celery.

?Toy gun?: It symbolizes a sense of justice and is suitable for professions such as police.

The Zhuazhou ceremony is one of the traditional customs in China. It was first seen in the ancient customs during the Southern and Northern Dynasties. This ceremony is held when the baby is one year old, implying good wishes and expectations for the child. The items for Zhuazhou usually include books, pens, abacus, money, seals, etc. Each item represents a different profession or personality trait.

In the end, the child grabbed the stamp with his left hand and the money with his right hand. Everyone said that the child did a good job.

I don't know which young and ignorant person said that he wanted to be an official and also wanted money, so he must be a corrupt official. Everyone was embarrassed and the ceremony ended hastily.

Only Aunt Chen took it seriously and kept saying to Dingwei, "Dingwei, you can't be a corrupt official. We have finally turned things around. You are greedy for money, but for others, it is life..."

"Silly Zhu, aren't you going to get married after your son graduates? Why haven't you done anything yet? My grandson will be one year old soon. Don't wait until he's done with his daily grind before you can even hold him."

Sha Zhu refuted a few times, and after returning home he started urging He Dong to get married. As a result, his son ran away and hid in the building and never came back.

Sha Zhu was very worried during this period. He was absent-minded when cooking. Sha Zhu was originally a carefree person, but maybe because he thought about the fact that he was in his thirties before he got married, Sha Zhu was serious this time.

He directly sent Ma Dongmei to his son's side and asked her to look after him and tell him to come back when he found a partner.

Ma Dongmei packed her clothes and ran upstairs without hesitation, because she was almost 30 years old when she married Sha Zhu, and she was also worried about her son.

Now Ansong, An Tong, Xu Sheng and He Dong are all married. An Tong and Xu Sheng both have children. I heard that Ansong's wife is also pregnant. Now only He Dong is left.

He Dong was forced to not even dare to go home and lived in the dormitory of his workplace. As a result, Ma Dongmei called He Dong and said that if he didn't come back to find a partner, she would go to his workplace.

He Dong came back feeling aggrieved, "Mom, what's the point of you and dad forcing me? I don't want to find one. There are not many female colleagues in my unit, let alone those suitable for marriage."

"Where are your college classmates? We asked you to find a partner when you were in college, and you said you would get married after graduation, so we didn't force you. Now, you see, they are all married, and you are the only one left. Your sister might also get married this summer, and she will be ahead of you."

"Mom, you know what I'm studying. My female classmates are all working. Who wants to have a baby at home? When the time comes, no one will be able to take care of each other. It's not suitable for marriage at all.

You can find me a blind date, find me someone who is family-oriented and can take care of me, just like Uncle Zhao, who doesn’t have to worry about anything.”

"Son, your uncle's daughter, your cousin, is quite good and virtuous."

"Mom, what era is this? Close relatives of three generations cannot get married. She's my cousin. How is that possible?"

"When did you say that? How come I didn't know? In the past, we all exchanged marriages. There were many cases of cousins ​​marrying cousins, and I haven't heard of any problems."

"Mom, the country has issued clear laws since 1980. The legal marriage age for men is 22 and for women is 20. Close relatives of three generations are not allowed to marry. If you marry your cousin, you can't even get a marriage certificate, and the country won't recognize it."

"Besides, when I get married, my employer will definitely check it out, so it won't work. Don't mention my cousin or any of my relatives who have daughters."

"I have only a few requirements for my marriage partner: she should be virtuous and take care of the family. If you really want me to marry, just find me someone according to these standards."

College students in the 80s were still very valuable. He Dong had a good job and Sha Zhu's family was also well off. The news had already spread, unlike Sha Zhu who was rejected by the matchmaker back then, and no one was willing to find a wife for him.

He Dong's situation is exactly the opposite of Sha Zhu's. Sha Zhu's door is almost broken down by matchmakers, who have sent him photos of many girls, all of whom are of high quality.

"This one is good, this one is also good, look at this one, this one is the same as yours, with a big butt, it must be easy to give birth, it must be able to give birth to a big fat grandson for me.

I hope I can have more grandchildren in the future. I envy Xu Damao's grandson so much, and he laughs at me time and again."

"Come on, what's the point of you feeling good? Your son has to feel good too. And Xu Damao, who told you to mock your son when he got into college? Now that he's got the chance, you're giving it back, right?"

The next day, Ma Dongmei was lying at home after dinner when the third aunt came to her house.

The third aunt had helped Ma Dongmei with the incident with the passerby, and the two had a good relationship.

"Dongmei, I heard that your He Dong is looking for a partner?"

"Third Aunt, you are not here to introduce a date to my He Dong, are you? When did you become a matchmaker? Whose relative are you?"

In fact, Ma Dongmei didn't want to marry a relative from Third Aunt's family. Look at the wives that Third Aunt's sons married. None of them is easy to deal with. If she married a relative from Third Aunt's family, there might be endless troubles.

"What relative? She's my granddaughter, the eldest daughter of the Xie family. She'll be 20 this year. What do you think?"