【Gojo Family Housewife's Daily Life】Comics

1. Love in Multiple Persons

The bond between a husband and wife or a couple is a very special relationship. There is a view that many men are not so much looking for a wife as they are looking for a mother who can provide for them spiritually.

The same applies to women.

Because most people have not received much "maternal love" from "mother" in their lives.

Please note that the "mother" I am talking about here is not a concrete childbearing person, but an abstract concept, a "concept of mother".

What is the concept of motherhood?

A mother refers to someone who "can lift us up when we fall, cheer us on when we sprint, hold us tight when we cry, and applaud us when we laugh."

What we lack is such a person. This person does not have to be a mother, but can be a teacher, a wife, a sister... But in a conceptual sense, this person serves as the spiritual core of the role of "mother".

That’s why we say that mother, lover, wife, sister...can be many things in one.

I found that in the original manga, Megumi Fushiguro treated her sister Miki Tsugumi like this - my life has been completely changed because of you, and all my major choices are based on you.

Judging from the current comics, in Megumi Fushiguro's world, the most important person has always been her sister - only this explanation can make sense for his current actions.

He didn't go to the Zen temple, became a sorcerer, and went to die...all these actions were for his sister.

In Hui's case, the elder sister Tsu Miki actually plays the role of what I call the concept of "mother". This sister is his spiritual mother, and also his psychological and emotional lover.

Geto Suguru is more normal in this respect because he grew up in a more normal family environment.

His spiritual mother is his biological mother, and the death of his biological mother also caused the collapse of his spiritual world to a certain extent.

This is also why Jie said in the following article (not yet published) that "Qin, if you are you, should understand me." Because as early as when they first met in Zojoji, Qin understood part of Jie's soul through the soul-clearing technique.

This is a person who wishes to die deep in his soul (this will be discussed in the subsequent plot).

The same is true for Qin to Wu, but the situation is not exactly the same as that of Fushiguro Megumi and Suguru Geto.

What do you think is the only unconditional, destined love in the world?

The answer is: a mother’s love for her child.

Chizuko Ueno said: "There is no relationship more destined and unselectable than that between parents and children... You are my parent and I am your child. This is not determined by our mutual choice. But as long as I exist, you will love me unconditionally and without reservation. This is the love that is 'destined' and 'without choice'."

So Wu would say that he envied Xing, and even had a hint of jealousy. When he and Qin were doing it, he would touch his wife Qin's lower abdomen with envy and say "I envy Xing", and even implicitly express a very crazy meaning - I wish I could come from here too.

To Wu, Qin is his wife, his lover, his beloved, and his mother.... (That's why he was so crazy during the Shura Field. He only knew that Qin had an ex-boyfriend, but he didn't know that this boyfriend and his wife had not actually broken up - hehe, this is a "good thing" done by Lu Ci. And now, this man wants to take back his little Qin)

He said he envied his daughter Xing, and he meant it.

Because Xing was born from his wife's body, this is a connection that is stronger and more indelible than the relationship between husband and wife.

A mother's love for her child is more stable and much more lasting than a wife's love for her husband.

His feelings for the heroine are not just love, he even regards her as a carrier of his love, especially five years after Jay left, the appearance of the heroine actually fills the gap in his love.

Therefore, he will show a possessiveness that far exceeds that of lovers or couples. In the words of American writer Nabokov, she is his "light of life and fire of desire."

In Wu's opinion, Qin's love for him is conditional love, but Qin's love for their daughter Xing is unconditional love.

After all, conditional love will leave. Jie loved him so much, but he still left him. Who can guarantee that Qin won't leave him?

Of course, we cannot say that Wu does not love his daughter Gojo An. He does love his daughter. We can even say that he likes his daughter An more than his son Lu Feng.

Xing is different and special to Wu - not only because Xing is Qin and his child and makes him a father for the first time, but also because this child has great significance to his love.

He knew that Qin fell in love with him during the process of giving birth to their daughter.

So he has been committed to playing the role of a "good father" in front of Qin. Of course, this is what he understands as the so-called "good father" image - acting like a "daughter slave" and doting on his daughter unconditionally.

He will continue to act like this until his wife "leaves", for example, Qin dies.

This kind of relationship also exists for women, and the relationship between "father and daughter" is not completely "father and daughter".

Who do you think is the father of the heroine Qin in the article?

Is it Lu An?

Actually, no, Lu An is only her biological father. The heroine's real father is the image of "father" formed by the combination of "Lu Ci" and "Lu An".

Does Lü Qin hate Lü Ci? Does he hate Lü An?

Maybe there is.

But this kind of "hate" is very special. This hatred comes from love - from incomplete love, or in other words, not complete love.

So when Lu Qin faced her classmate Iori's "sophistry" - "You are also selling yourself, your family sold you out", she knew that Iori was making sophistry, but she was still hurt by such words.

And this hurt is rooted in her heart.

Because Qin felt deep down that Lv Ci and Lv An objectified and commercialized her, which actually made her very sad.

"I thought I hated him, but later I found out that I just loved him painfully and tormentingly." - Why did you want to leave the Lu family? Was it really because you wanted freedom? Or was it because you didn't get what you always wanted in the Lu family and developed a cowardly "avoidance mentality"?

After Lü Huan's death, she lost all her love, freedom and rights. So why not choose Ah Yan? At least she still has "love" and freedom, right? She can comfort herself in this way.

She would think, if my father and great-grandfather don’t love me, then they don’t love me, and I can get what I want outside.

Lu Qin must have received Lu Ci's love during his growth (as written in the first chapter), but this love was conditional and not absolute.

This made her even more miserable. If she couldn't always eat "sugar", it would be better for her not to have tasted "sweetness" in the first place.

From a psychological perspective, with Lu Qin's personality, she will definitely fall in love with a strong enough man who can satisfy her imagination of a "father" in terms of "strength" and "protection".

Her love for her ex-boyfriend was based on her "avoidance" of the Lu family, but her love for Gojo Satoru, the newcomer, was born out of her initial resistance and was purer than before.

I have always believed that this kind of "many-in-one" love is stronger, more extreme and more lasting than love between men and women.

2. Love and Desire between the Male and Female Protagonists

In "Dream of Red Mansions", the word "emotional or not" was used to describe Baoyu's love.

What’s behind “affection or not”?

The following actually refers to “Is it lewd or not”.

The heroine Qin is set to be a very beautiful woman, so beautiful that Lu Ci is confident that she can capture the heart of any man as long as she wants.

What does that extremely beautiful woman look like? Cao Xueqin gave us the answer - Qin Keqing.

Qin Keqing's nickname was Jianmei.

What does "beauty in combination" mean? Answer: She has the beauty of both Daiyu and Baochai - her bright and charming appearance is like Baochai, while her elegance and grace are like Daiyu.

So, what would a woman as extremely beautiful as Qin Keqing be like—"a sky of love, a sea of ​​love, and a body of illusory love."

However, the next sentence of "Love is the sky, love is the sea, love is the illusion" is "When love meets, it will lead to lust." Cao Gong believed that love and lust are inseparable.

Love is inherently lustful.

In A Dream of Red Mansions, "sex" is almost everywhere. Cao Xueqin believes that love is sex with beautiful packaging, and behind romantic love there is actually the connotation of "sex".

You said Baoyu and Daiyu were in pure love? Come on, didn't he have enough sexual fantasies about Daiyu?

Chapter 26: "If I could share the same bed with you, a sentimental lady." Chapter 28: Baoyu was standing nearby, looking at the white and tender arm, and he could not help but feel envious, thinking to himself: "If this arm grew on Sister Lin, I would have to touch it. But it grew on her."

From the perspective of human nature, male love must contain an element of desire, or even more seriously, a bit of "obscene" blasphemy.

So, there is no pure two-dimensional love between Wu and Qin. What exists between them is a love between adult men and women with a "lustful" nature.

So there was a car, and then I was blocked and was not released until yesterday afternoon.

Why(? ?︿ ??)…..