【Gojo Family Housewife's Daily Life】Comics

What we see in the mirror is ourselves, who are both similar and opposite to ourselves.

This is the case with Xiaoqin and Maki.

1. Similarities and Opposites

In fact, Qin and Maki’s growth experiences are somewhat similar, so when they met at Zenin’s house a year and a half ago, Qin encouraged Maki to leave Zenin’s house.

She said to Maki at the time: "You asked me if I would come again, so why don't you try to go out yourself?"

"If the Zenin family can't accommodate you, try to leave here. The world is so big, you can always find your own piece of heaven, Maki."

When Xiaoqin said this, she was definitely pinning her ideals on Maki. She saw a stubbornness in Maki's eyes, which was very similar to her past self.

Note that it is your former self.

Because they are still different.

I just said that Xiaoqin and Maki's family backgrounds are somewhat similar, but they are different in some crucial aspects:

1. Xiaoqin used to have a very happy family. We can infer from the first chapter that she had a good childhood. Her mother was still alive, her parents were loving, and she was a spoiled child.

This leads to her being different from Maki in her completely negative opinion of the Zenin family and her complete hatred after her sister Mayui's death.

Xiaoqin’s hatred is not complete. In her own words, “I used to think that I hated them (Lü Ci, Lü An and her mother Lü Chen) very much, but later I found out that I just loved them painfully and tormentingly… and I also blamed them for not loving me completely.

Compared to Maki's feelings towards the Zenin family, Lu Qin has more complicated feelings towards the Lu family.

2. Maki has been "educated through frustration" since she was a child. The more the group of people headed by Zenin Naoya looked down on her, the more they tortured her and tormented her. The more frustrated Maki became, the braver she became.

What Lu Qin faced was not the kind of overt contempt or beatings from Naoya. What she faced was the deliberate cold violence from her father Lu An in revenge against her mother and the long-term indifference and coercion from her great-grandfather Lu Ci. Especially the coercion from Lu Ci, which had left Xiao Qin with PTSD.

Therefore, Qin and Maki’s relationship is somewhat “mirror-like,” but the difference between them leads them to completely different paths.

2. Contradictory “Self” and Incomplete Resistance

The reason why Lu Qin and Xia Youjie get along well with each other is that in terms of personality, both of them are gentle guys with a depressive factor.

Lu Qin would feel that her life was a failure, and she did not fully accept this failure.

1. Her mother ran away. As a daughter, she was unable to keep her mother. (And she would think that her mother did not love her enough, which is indeed the case.)

2. Her beloved sister died. As a sister, she failed to protect her sister.

3. As a lover, she had a good start but a bad end, and her relationship with her first love ended in failure due to the intervention of her family.

From this we can also get a glimpse of the reason why she committed suicide in "Parallel World 1". Her daughter An said it well, "regret and guilt drove her mother crazy." But it's not just that. It was precisely because of the above that the death of her husband Gojo Satoru had such a great impact on her, causing her to not want to live in the end.

Who would lose all hope because their husband died? If I were in her shoes, I would be so happy - my husband is gone but he left me with such a huge fortune. I spend my dead husband's money every day to date supermodels and celebrities. I am the "only sister" in Japanese entertainment!

But Qin would not think so. She would think it was her fault and that her husband's death was caused by her own problems, just as she would feel responsible for her mother's departure and her sister's death.

Lü Qin was still very conflicted. On the one hand, she wanted to escape from her family, but on the other hand, she was extremely eager for the warmth of her family. Deep down in her heart, she loved the Lü family and hoped to be recognized by her family, especially Lü Ci.

Once people with her personality go to extremes, they will actually fall into self-consumption, which is quite painful. Geto Suguru is also a bit like this, very self-consumption.

But Maki is different, she is stronger in spirit. Her strong body may also give her a strong soul.

Actually, personally, I really like girls like Maki - she is extremely strong both mentally and physically, she is straightforward, brave, and fearless!

Qin, like Xia Youjie, is gentle but sensitive and thoughtful. This kind of people are also easy to get along with, but their spiritual core is not strong enough.

But Wu... I feel like he just likes people with this kind of personality. His lover and best friend both have this kind of awkward personality, so the pot fits the lid.

Having said so much about Xiaoqin's shortcomings, let's talk about her strengths. She also has her shining points. She is kind, talented, and even romantic. She also has a soul that yearns for freedom.

Of course, these do not all come from herself, but also from her family background and education.

The 15 years of life in her previous life made her disgusted with the dregs of the feudal family and yearn for free and equal interpersonal relationships. If she didn't have the inner core of her previous life, a girl living in the big dye vat of the Lu family would probably be contaminated by the environment. And such a rotten orange girl contaminated by the surrounding environment would not be loved by Gojo Satoru.

But her talent mostly comes from her family's education and training. This is also a rare advantage of such a large family - they often spend a lot of money to cultivate their children's talents in all aspects:

You can see that Qin is good at robbing, and she is pretty good at it, comparable to Judy from the FBI; she is also very good at housekeeping, and when she held a birthday party for Wu (a family birthday party), she managed everything in perfect order. She can check the accounts and manage the household...but she is usually lazy and delegates this part of her power to others, and she also has some psychological resistance, so she would rather go to work than stay at home every day to do these housekeeping things.

Reading chapters 45, 64, 72, etc., you can see that she understands music theory and can play many instruments. Even in chapter 6, when she and Wu meet for the first time at the Gojo family, it is a very poetic scene of cinnamon and harp under the moon... She can go to concerts and operas with Wujo Wu, and the two can discuss the characteristics and techniques of performances by famous artists. The love for music is one aspect, but it is a very expensive hobby, which also requires time and a lot of money.

Xiaoqin knows flower arrangement and tea ceremony, and she has learned all the things that aristocratic women need to learn.

Although the Lu family ignored her emotionally, she still learned all the necessary skills as a young lady from a prominent family. If it weren't for a series of events that happened later, she and Lu Huan would have been trained by Lu Ci to marry the two next candidates for the head of the family respectively.

This is why the Lu family would never allow her to be with her first love. It is not an easy task to train such a wife who can support the family. The money invested in education is another matter, but the effort invested in hiring teachers is also not small. If she were to marry an ordinary person, it would be tantamount to declaring the Lu family's initial investment bankrupt.

Lu Ci is not a philanthropist. Even if Lu Qin does not sell her domestically, he will sell her at a high price. So we can see in the final agreement that the condition agreed upon during the engagement is that the Lu family wants a daughter from the Gojo family who has awakened the soul-enlightenment technique to marry back to the Lu family. This is almost an overlord clause. Of course, Wu and Lu Ci talked about it again later, and directly adopted their son to the Lu family. Anyway, the Lu family also lacks male heirs (Gojo Masa: Wu, are you clear-headed? It is true that his Lu family lacks male heirs, but my Gojo family does not have male heirs!)

Let me complain here: It seems that everyone has problems with fertility since the millennium.

It's a pity that Qin's advantages cannot make up for her biggest flaw - her mental strength is not strong enough, and her resistance is not thorough.

What's worse is that the two are causally related to each other. Because her mental strength is not strong enough, her resistance is not thorough and she is very vulnerable when she falls into an emotional low. The same is true for Jay.

Think about it, if she had really resisted the marriage by threatening death, like Yuanyang in Dream of the Red Chamber, the Lu family would not have dared to marry her. Gojo Satoru would not have really forced her, after all, until the last moment of the wedding ceremony, he was willing to let go and even encouraged her to leave.

She didn't leave on her own.

Let’s take a look at how people with truly strong spiritual cores resist marriage.

Note that the strength I mentioned is not in status, but in the heart. According to status, Qin is a young lady, and a direct descendant of the head of the family, Lu Ci, and the eldest daughter, which means that she has the highest status among all the unmarried women in the Lu family.

Please read the following thought-provoking speech by Yuanyang in "Dream of Red Mansions" when she refused the marriage proposal:

"Don't even mention that the master wants me to be his concubine. Even if my wife dies now and he asks for me to be his first wife, I can't go."

"I have made up my mind. In front of everyone here, I will never marry anyone, let alone 'Baoyu', 'Baojin', 'Baoyin', 'Baotianwang' or 'Baohuangdi'. Even if the old lady forces me to do so, I would rather die with a knife than obey her!"

"If I am lucky, I will die before the old lady. If I am not lucky, I will have to beg for food and wait on the old lady until she passes away. I will not follow my parents and brother. I will either commit suicide or cut my hair and become a nun! If you say that I am not sincere, I will just make excuses for now and try other things later. The gods and ghosts in heaven and earth, the sun and the moon are shining on my throat, and a boil has grown from my throat and rotted out. It has rotted into sauce and is here!"

After she finished speaking, she took out a pair of scissors from her sleeve. As she spoke, she opened her hair with her left hand and cut it with her right hand.

I am shocked every time I watch this part. I dare say that in the 21st century, most women in the world do not have the awareness of Yuanyang. They will still follow the crowd because of the views of their family or society. When they reach a certain age, they will find a man who is not bad and marry him.

Isn’t that what Lu Qin did at the beginning?

So, this is already a fairy tale, because she will find in her husband a soul mate who shares her values ​​and they can complement each other and form a more complete whole.