A leisurely life that begins with the possession of a game character

There is no main character plot advancement, so it can be skipped

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Li Shumiao had a quarrel with her parents over the dowry when she got married because she had no money for a dowry marriage. Later, she bought a house. During the most difficult time, she spent 300 yuan to live with her husband for a month.

Li Shumiao felt that he was just an emotional trash can for his mother, who would PUA her for no reason, asking her how much money each daughter gave her in a year and what each daughter bought for her younger brother.

She would always say that she wanted to save face for Li Shumiao and told others how much Li Shumiao had given her. Every time she called or talked to him, there were complaints and negative emotions.

Originally, Li Shumiao wanted her mother to take care of her during labor and after giving birth. After her mother refused, she asked her relatives for advice, and then the relatives called and asked Li Shumiao to be considerate of her parents.

Li Shumiao didn't know what to do. Everyone asked her to be considerate of her parents, but who would be considerate of her? Her child was about to be born, and she would have no income for several months, and her family still had a mortgage.

If the mother does not come to take care of her and the child, she will have to hire a caregiver and a nanny, which will be an expense for several consecutive months.

Under tremendous pressure, Li Shumiao suffered from postpartum depression after giving birth. Li Shumiao went to a psychological counseling hotline and said that she didn't want to communicate with her family and was in pain, but she was worried that she was an unfilial daughter and felt that she was very bad.

The psychiatrist asked her: What would happen if I didn't call home? What would happen if I didn't like going home? What if I was an unfilial daughter? Actually, nothing would happen.

The psychologist said that it was not her fault, it was not her problem. If she didn't want to make a phone call, she didn't have to make one. If she didn't want to go home, she didn't have to go home. She could ignore what others said. She could just do what she thought was right.

After several psychological consultations, Li Shumiao seemed to understand.

Later, whenever her mother said something that made her unhappy, she would not argue, but just said that she was busy and could not talk any more. Then she seldom called her mother, and she answered once out of two or three calls. Her mother said that she did not answer the phone and ignored her. Li Shumiao said that she had no choice, as she was too busy, having to work and take care of the baby, and the pressure of mortgage was too great, so she could not take care of it.

Afterwards, the mother told Li Shumiao that she had told others that Li Shumiao had given her so much money to save face for Li Shumiao.

Li Shumiao said to his mother: I don't need to save face, I'm not going back to my hometown, I don't care what others think of me, I don't care about this kind of vanity, I don't want it.

In fact, these are what Li Shumiao's mother needs. Li Shumiao's mother said that she was selfish, and Li Shumiao said: Yes, there is no way, if I am not selfish, who will help me think about it, and life will be very difficult.

Li Shumiao's parents wanted to borrow money from her to buy a house for her brother. Li Shumiao said, "You know, I don't make much money. My husband makes the money. I rely on him for food and drink. Can you let my dad call my husband and have a formal talk?"

In fact, Li Shumiao could decide on her family's money, but she didn't want to. When her mother called Li Shumiao's husband, he said: I will discuss it with Li Shumiao and try my best to help, but I may not be able to do it, and I will reply later.

When the mother talked about which daughter earned more money and how much money she gave.

Li Shumiao was very calm and said, "It's really amazing. I'm so envious. It would be great if we were that rich. Then you could take care of my grandparents more and I could take care of you more."

Her mother said that having a daughter was useless because she would marry far away.

Li Shumiao said it was okay, the transportation was convenient and you married quite close by, but I didn’t see that your grandparents enjoyed much of your blessings.

Her mother said that Li Shumiao lived a much better life than her and enjoyed happiness every day.

Li Shumiao said that one has to earn a living by oneself. If he keeps saying that he has no ability, then he can only live an incompetent life.

Occasionally, Li Shumiao would say something to his mother, saying: "Be content. I think you are already doing well. Look at other children who are living off their parents. We are not as good as some, but we are better than some. If my two children are like me in the future, I will be very satisfied."

Later, Li Shumiao's mother talked about retirement support, and Li Shumiao said: It depends on how much money I can earn. The more I earn, the more I give. The less I earn, the less I give. Besides, don't I have a younger brother? You bought him a house and got him married. Don't you plan to live with him in the future?

Li Shumiao's mother asked her husband how much he earned, and Li Shumiao replied: Life is not easy when one has to rely on others. My husband has to pay off the mortgage and raise children with his earnings.

After having a child, Li Shumiao set a line for herself in her heart. She took the median value of how the people in the village supported their parents. She was not the worst, but she was determined not to be the best.

At the same time, she brainwashed her parents into thinking that she was a selfish and unfilial daughter. Selfishness and unfiliality were her true nature, and her current performance was already very good.

If my parents are not satisfied, there is nothing I can do. That's it. In addition, I usually don't buy things blindly, keep in touch with them and don't gossip about them. I give out red envelopes and buy gifts during festivals. I make a budget of about 10,000 yuan a year, and spend it all here.

If she thought it was too little, she would say she was poor and had no choice. Li Shumiao, who paid extra for the New Rural Cooperative Medical Scheme, estimated the amount in his mind and gave about 60% of the red envelope.

In short, after Li Shumiao let go of her moral shackles, strange things happened. In the mouths of her parents, she became a person with independent thinking, logic, very smart, ambitious and filial piety.

In fact, it is sometimes like this. When Li Shumiao later mentioned it to Zhang Lan on the Internet, he was very emotional.

He said that when he first got married, the situation was so difficult. While paying off a high mortgage, he would try his best to go home during the holidays whenever he had time.

Every time she went home, she would bring home a lot of things. When her parents were sick, she would run around to take care of them. But even so, she still couldn't hear any good words from her parents. They would say that it was useless to have such a daughter, and that she would marry so far away that she couldn't find anyone if she needed help.

Later, after having a child and consulting a psychologist, Li Shumiao saved on the money he spent on going home on weekdays and gave his parents a big red envelope at the end of the year.

When his parents were hospitalized for any illness, he would directly ask about the expenses and then send money back. In this way, Li Shumiao became a filial person in the eyes of his parents.

Even relatives and neighbors praised Li Shumiao for being filial after they found out.

In fact, things smell better when they are far away, and they stink more when they are close. The farther they are, the less faults they see in each other, and they don't have too many expectations of each other. But the closer they are, the more faults they see in each other, and even a small problem will be magnified infinitely.

Some relationships become less pleasing the closer you are to them. The sons and daughters-in-law who serve the elderly become the bad people in the elderly's eyes, while the sons and daughters-in-law who live in the city and occasionally go back to visit the elderly become the most filial people in the elderly's eyes.

Without certain abilities, it is difficult to handle often conflicting family relationships. Some family relationships are like a tangled mess, the more you try to untie it, the more difficult it becomes.

Just like some people often serve their elders, but the elders still stubbornly think that this person is the one who treats them the most wrongly, and no matter how much they say, it is of no use.