The evil life of Jia Erhu

Wen Ruyu nodded and said, "Now let's talk about drinking. You may not have noticed Chen Lingyan drinking with me just now.

When I said I wanted to toast you, her mentality was actually the same as yours, but why did you rush to stand up and pick up the wine glass instead of her.

Because your idea at the time was to try to show your humility and respect for me. For you, doing so is not only okay, but also shows your sincerity and simplicity.

But have you ever considered what I would think?

Do you think I will accept it if you sincerely show respect for me? "

Cao Yadan looked at Wen Ruyu in confusion again, thinking: Isn't it?

Wen Ruyu continued: "As soon as we serve the table, if you stand up first and propose a toast to me, I will happily accept it.

The problem is that I have already said that I want to toast you two, but you stood up first and insisted on toasting me first. Does this mean that my proposal is wrong? "

Cao Yadan blurted out: "I didn't mean that."

Wen Ruyu smiled: "But I must understand it so well, and all leaders understand it so well.

This is like at a banquet, a leader stood up with a wine glass and said he wanted to toast everyone, but you stopped him from doing so. He had to wait until you toasted him before he could join everyone and others?

No matter how open-minded the leader is, or even the leader who has ulterior motives for you, if you do that over the wine table, the other party will not tolerate it.

He will definitely set his sights on Mr. Jia, and Mr. Jia will definitely scold you bloody in public, or even kick you out directly, and you will have to apologize to the other party. "

Cao Yadan just has no experience, but her IQ is not bad. After hearing Wen Ruyu's explanation, she immediately understood, because people's positions are different, and they look at problems from different angles.

You think this is a good thing, but the other person thinks that you are sincerely sorry for him. This is why some people always lament that it is difficult to be a good person.

Because you just think you are being a good person, but what the other person sees is that you are making a fool of him.

"I understand." Cao Yadan asked again: "I just wanted to express my respect for you. After all, you are my teacher and now my boss. I think accepting your toast is not polite. .

So what I want to ask is, I really want to show my mentality, and you toasted in advance, what should I do? "

Wen Ruyu said: "You should be like Chen Lingyan, staring at me without saying a word and waiting for me to finish speaking.

When facing a leader or elder, patiently listening to what the other person has to say is not only an essential quality for subordinates and juniors, but also the greatest courtesy to leaders and elders.

You can look for opportunities to show your mentality after accepting the toasts from leaders and elders.

Just now, you can wait until I finish explaining the reasons for the toast and drink, and then say, Teacher, I was supposed to toast you first, but I accepted your toast just now, which really makes me feel uneasy. , I toast you.

The humbler your tone is and the more polite you are, the more your qualities will be reflected, and your leaders and elders will look up to you. "

Cao Yadan nodded and said: "I understand, thank you teacher for your teaching."

"Also," Wen Ruyu said, "The reason why I emphasize that you have to tell yourself that you are a woman is to be different from men, especially at the wine table.

Regardless of whether Mr. Jia is present or not, as long as you are facing leaders of other departments or units, and as long as the other party proposes a toast to you, you must not drink before the leader.

And when drinking, you must pay attention to how the leader drinks. You can only toast if the leader drinks. If the leader only takes a small sip, you can only take a big sip at most, and you must not toast.

This is what Chen Lingyan did just now. She kept looking at me and waited until I started drinking before she drank.

See how much I drank, slightly more than I did, that's the detail.

Now, both leaders and bosses pay more attention to the details of their subordinates.

Let’s go back to when you were drinking with your boss. Again, because you are a woman, your boss didn’t want to drink that glass of wine, but you did. Do you think he can stop drinking?

What's more important is that if he doesn't do it, others will think that this person is not a big person, and they won't take you, the little secretary, or the little girl seriously.

If he does it, others will say that he must have fallen in love with you and has evil thoughts about you, and he is definitely a pervert.

Do you understand now? When the other party does not toast, but you do, you are putting the other party in an awkward position, leaving them with no choice.

Just said that, because our relationship is special, I don't care.

If we were not in this kind of relationship, I would toast you two and you should drink up the wine first.

Tell me, how should I drink this wine next? "

Cao Yadan's face turned red and she apologized repeatedly.

Wen Ruyu smiled slightly: "No need to apologize. Although you are no longer my student, you are Mr. Jia's secretary, so I don't treat you as an outsider. I treat you as my own sister. I hope you will avoid detours in the future."

Cao Yadan said: "No, you are my teacher and will always be my teacher!"

Chen Lingyan rolled her eyes at her: "Why don't you change despite repeated admonitions? Teacher Wen just spent a long time talking to you in vain.

What do you mean no? Are you saying that what Teacher Wen said is wrong?

You should say thank you for treating me as your own sister. If you want to express your respect for Teacher Wen, you can also say that in my heart, you are not only my sister, but also the teacher who knows me, and you are my forever teacher! "

Only then did Cao Yadan react. She lowered her head in shame and shook her head vigorously, wishing to find a crack in the ground to crawl in.

The way Wen Ruyu looked at her, she suddenly remembered her girlhood.

Cao Yadan's current appearance and body shape are very similar to her in the past. She is falling in love with Cao Yadan more and more, and at the same time, she also understands why Jia Erhu keeps Cao Yadan by her side.

Wen Ruyu smiled and said: "It's okay today. We are our own people. We don't have to pay so much attention to eating and drinking, but we must develop this habit."

At this time, Chen Lingyan raised her glass and said, "Teacher Wen, thank you for your teaching. Cao Yadan and I have benefited a lot. Now we both toast you together."

Cao Yadan's heart skipped a beat and she thought: Why am I so stupid? Teacher Wen made it so clear, but she actually beat me to it.

But she still quickly raised her glass: "Teacher, we respect you."