Chinese medicine: from rural hospitals to top three hospitals in Kyoto

"No, you're saying I'm nagging, you're scolding me?"

The woman suddenly reacted and looked at Chen Yang angrily. She hadn't thought about it in this way just now.

Wu Mengmeng almost couldn't help laughing out loud.

"You misunderstood. I didn't scold you."

Chen Yang said: "I'm just diagnosing you."

"You mean, my illness is due to my own fault?" the woman said unhappily.

"can say that."

Chen Yang said: "Your disease is caused by liver qi stagnation, which is caused by frequent sulking. The reason for your sulking is that you think your mother-in-law is nagging and meddling in your affairs, and you and your mother-in-law often have conflicts."

“Conflicts do occur frequently.”

The woman said, "But it's not my problem."

"But it's you who's sick, isn't it?"

Chen Yang did not argue with the woman about who was right or wrong. As the saying goes, it is difficult for a judge to judge family affairs. The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has existed in China for thousands of years. Every generation of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has its own conflicts. No one can solve this problem, let alone Chen Yang.

"I'm telling you again, no matter who is right or wrong, being angry or sick is never a good thing."

Chen Yang said patiently: "Whether it's you or your mother-in-law who's sick, it's your family's money that's spent."

"You are right." The woman was amused by Chen Yang.

When it comes to spending money, nine and a half out of ten people are sensitive. Most people may not be interested in other things, but they are definitely interested in money.

The most expensive and most terrifying thing is getting sick.

During this period, the woman has spent thousands of dollars on medical treatment, examinations, and medicine. The disease has not been cured yet, and she has to delay making money.

"And what you just said actually makes sense."

The woman's tone was much gentler: "Now that you mention it, I think of my mother-in-law's appearance. It seems like she really saw my future. It's so scary."

"In fact, just like the sound just now, if you don't pay attention, you won't notice some sounds. Some things, if you don't take them seriously, don't really matter."

Chen Yang said: "You, your mother-in-law and your husband are a family after all. No matter how your mother-in-law nags or meddles in other people's affairs, there is no deep hatred or bad intentions. It is possible that she means well but does bad things."

"Sometimes, old people act like children, just to show their presence. When people get old, they are bound to panic, and unlike young people, they don't have many things to distract their attention."

"That's an interesting statement."

The woman said, "Indeed, sometimes I am just bored and nosy."

"So, you should find ways to resolve some issues. There's no need to create conflicts. No one will be happy if they do. In the end, one person will get sick from anger, and the other will feel uncomfortable."

Chen Yang said: "Either don't care about it, or live separately. The less you see each other, the less conflicts there will be. Think of a solution."

Wu Mengmeng and Ren Yaxin looked at Chen Yang in surprise. They didn't expect that Chen Yang could speak so many profound truths.

Normally, this is not something a man should be aware of or worry about.

In fact, the reason why Chen Yang understands all this, comprehends all this, and can say all this is because of what he experienced in Jiping Town in the past few years.

In the small town of Jiping, quarrels between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are common. Sometimes the whole village knows about it. There are also cases where the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law stand on the road with their hands on their hips and curse each other. That scene can be applied for as an intangible cultural heritage.

Moreover, in rural areas and small towns, it is basically the men who go out to earn money, while the women, the elderly and the children are left behind. A group of women have nothing to do, so they sit together and gossip. One says her mother-in-law is not good, and the other says her mother-in-law is not good enough. They may not be angry at first, but as they talk, they get angry and even wish to kill their mother-in-law.

Similarly, when a group of old ladies sit together, what they discuss most is which daughter-in-law is filial and which daughter-in-law bought something for the other mother-in-law. In short, other people's daughters-in-law are better, and their own daughters-in-law make them angry.

Doctors in township health hospitals often discuss these issues, and there are often old ladies who become sick and hospitalized due to being angry.

The more he saw, the more Chen Yang understood, at least he understood some of the tricks.

"you're right."

The woman nodded: "You really can't be angry all the time, otherwise, staying at home all day will be like suffering."

"Well, it's not a serious problem, it's not a matter of principle, if you can give way to the elderly, then give way to them."

Chen Yang said: "Some things should not be taken to heart if possible. In fact, the best way to not get angry is to stop imagining things. What's in the past is in the past."

As he spoke, Chen Yang asked Ren Yaxin to prescribe a dose of Xiaoyao Powder for the woman.

In fact, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is certainly difficult to deal with, but the husband plays a crucial role. If the husband is smart, there will be fewer conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If the husband is cowardly, or leans towards either side, the conflict will be aggravated.

A smart husband will act as a lubricant between his wife and her mother, while a stupid husband will only add fuel to the fire.

"Doctor Chen, you tell the patient so much, aren't you afraid of being scolded?"

After the woman left the clinic, Wu Mengmeng said with a smile.

"We are doctors, and doctors are responsible for treating patients."

Chen Yang said: "Chinese medicine treatment naturally starts from the root of the disease, and the root of the patient's disease is anger. If this problem is not solved, it is only a temporary solution and not a cure for the disease."

Chen Yang laughed as he said this: "I didn't intend to help them solve the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law. I can only give them some advice. I hope the patient can listen as much as possible, try their best, and do more."

"As expected of Professor Wu's apprentice."

Ren Yaxin smiled and said, "I was deeply touched by what Dr. Chen said just now."

"Is Dr. Ren married?" Chen Yang asked with a smile.

"Well, I'm married, but I don't have any children yet."

Ren Yaxin said: "In our profession, it's not easy to take leave. I'm worried about having children."

It’s not that doctors don’t have maternity leave, but the profession of doctor is one of those where if you don’t make progress, you’re going to regress. If you delay for too long, you may miss a lot of opportunities.

Especially at Ren Yaxin's age, it is the age of progress, but it is also the age of having children.

"Doctor Chen is married, right?" Wu Mengmeng asked.

"My daughter is three years old." Chen Yang said with a smile.

Hanhan just celebrated her third birthday yesterday.

"I didn't expect that Dr. Chen, your daughter is already three years old?"

Wu Mengmeng half-jokingly said, "Many female doctors and nurses in the department have been talking about you, Dr. Chen, these past two days. Professor Wu's apprentice must be the key training target of our department. Many people are thinking about you. Now many people's dreams are going to be shattered."